Hello everyone… I’m asking for opinions, help, anything. I have a 3.5 year old. I can count on one hand how many times she has slept through the night on her own. I’m at my wits end. Unless she is sleeping in bed with me, she will get up 3-6+ times a night and scream for me until I come put her back in bed. We’ve talked about playing in her room or singing songs while looking at her nightlight until she falls asleep instead of screaming for me but she won’t do any of it. We have tried no naps, short naps, naps as long as her body wants. We’ve done tart cherry juice, anything filling close to bed and nothing works. Melatonin makes it way worse. My husband is 27 and still has trouble sleeping and I’m worried she never will sleep just like her dad. I can’t focus on any of my work throughout the day because I’m so exhausted… I have yet to ask her doctor because it quite literally slips my mind every time we’re there. What do I do?!
Use a shirt you wore over the child pillow… a used shirt with your scent not a clean one… it’s how I solve that issue.
my kids were always in a crib from day 1 never in my bed… never had a problem
Child lock on the inside of the door and shut the door. Baby proof room and use a video baby monitor.
Likely she does it cuz she knows you’ll come get her. Try a reward system for when she stays in her bed all night 
This has gone on too long
You should have nipped it in the bud right away. As long as you keep giving in and letting her sleep with you she will never quit. Just keep putting her back in her bed no matter how many times it takes. Right now she knows that you will let her so why quit. You need to start parenting her. Be firm!!!
Ask her why?? Ask her what will make her feel better besides you coming. Go from there if she’s scared try a monster spray a little soft light and some back round noise (not a tv). If she thinks ur not coming back reassure her every night that u are there sleeping just like her baby video monitors work both ways put it in ur room and giver her the monitor just make sure to turn it off during grown up time your not trying to make the situation worse 
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You can try getting a calender and stickers and some toys and special snacks . Tell her every day she sleeps in her bed she gets to put a sticker on the calender then let her choose a prize from the bag of toys. Let her choose something everyday that she sleeps in her bed.
At this point she knows you’re going to come in there. It’s gonna be a rough week but let her cry it out. Eventually she’ll fall asleep. Once she knows that you aren’t going to come in she’ll be fine. It’s soooo hard to do but I had to do it at the same age. Good luck!
You will have to stop going to her. What we did with my 3 year old is picked a day (about a week away) and started talking to her about how she was going to sleep in her bed all night and mommy isn’t going to come in until the morning and that she’s a big girl and can do this. We talked about it multiple times a day all the way up until that bed time. She woke up once and called out for me, cried/whined for about 10 minutes and went back to sleep. You have to hold the boundary. Be nice but firm. If you have a two way monitor you can try talking to her on that when she wakes up. Say “mommy is here but I am not coming to your room. You are okay”. Sometimes talking helps other times it just makes them more upset. If you go in even once then the next night will be worse and she will cry for even longer. Hang in there. It gets better
try the stay in bed technique that super nanny does … maybe take a bit and you will have to get up thought out the night sometimes to put her back to her own bed … but eventually it will work
We cut the door in half and locked it
Got a new door years later
Let her cry. Put her in her room. After a couple nights she won’t even cry anymore. Also take charge.
It won’t be like this for long — you’ll miss these days.
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Next time she has an appointment, set an alarm in your phone right at appointment time so you can remember to ask!
If she will sleep through the night if she is with you, then I wouldn’t be concerned about her ability to sleep. It sounds like she needs that comfort of having you. However if that is a hard line for you and you don’t want to start that habit here are a few suggestions- 1. Weighted blanket- since she’s so young, make sure to get like a 3 or 5lb one. 2. Get a video baby monitor- most of them have a speaker function that you can talk to her through the camera OR consider setting up the monitor in her room and the camera in yours so she can see you if she wakes up in the night. She can see that you are right across the hall in your bed and she is safe. 3. Consider an oversized stuffed animal for her to sleep with to give her to illusion that she is in bed with you. 4. If her room is relatively big, consider getting a bed tent or canopy (not to trap her in, but to make it more confined/cozy feeling). 5. If you found that melatonin or other sleep aids did not work, then do NOT use them. For some people, they have the exact opposite effect as their bodies do not metabolize them correctly. 6. If you don’t want her in your bed, but could tolerate her in your room, consider letting her sleep on a cot or folded up blankets on the floor beside your bed- that way you don’t get kicked throughout the night but she is still with you.
Whatever you try, try it for at least 5 nights before giving up on it. Everything will take time for her to adjust. Good luck!
I disagree with all these comments stating don’t go in and let her cry. I could never do that to my baby. It may take a week or two, but just don’t bring her in your bed. Go in there every time she cries and reassure her she’s ok. Have you and dad take turns. Consistency is key. Don’t give up and bring her back to your bed cause you’re too tired. Like I said, you’re gonna be absolutely exhausted and it may take a while, but just keep at it and don’t give up!
Consistency on putting her back in her bed. You will continue to be exhausted through the process until she learns you won’t come get her. Maybe try her own bed next to yours then transfer to her own room
My is 15 years old, I can count how many times he’s slept through the night 
… now my daughter needs like 12 hours of sleep 
… all kids are different just like us adults
There are many great tips here.
However, my daughter went through this. How does she sleep when she is asleep? Does she snore? We discovered part of our daughter’s issues were her enlarged tonsils. We did a sleep study and sure enough she was struggling to sleep at night because they were so enlarged. (Had no idea til meeting with an ENT). Especially bc as a baby she slept great! Wasn’t til around 2.5/3 her sleeping drastically declined. After getting those and adenoids removed (at 4 yrs old) she slept through the night! Ever since her sleeping has improved 90%! We did have a bad habit at 3 I had to sit in her room til she fell asleep. This unfortunately lasted til she was 5. Then she magically didn’t need me anymore. In the scheme of life that was very inconvenient but meant the world to her.
Good luck mama! It’s hard now but only temporary 
Put a mattress on her floor and sleep. You won’t be exhausted. Noise machine. Eventually she’ll think your always in there and u can slip away. I have a 3 year old daughter. And im soaking it all in. She’s my last baby and I get the cuddles in and I sleep better with her next to me. She’ll grow out of it soon like my other two did.