First dont mention ANYTHING eating disorders develop young secondly YOU have to make a change in your diet as well kids learn from you and number 3 YOU also have to get up and moving
Say NOTHING!! You can do far more damage… creating body image issues that can lead to anorexia.
She could be thickening around the middle of she’s entering an early puberty.
Back off Mama. (Watch The Karen Carpenter Story)
Put the whole house on a cleaner diet. Get rid of sugar and only a hour of tv. Get everybody moving, bikes and walking or playing
Just find a fun activity that she really likes to do like dance or a sport. Soccer, volleyball, ballet, hip hop dancing, roller skating, Ice skating, swimming and aerial dance were what my girls did growing up. Get her some one on one lessons if you need to to help build confidence in what she’s doing. Just be careful when choosing instructors. Pick someone with a positive teaching method. Change the snacking to stuff that is lower calories or fat free or sugar free. It will take care of itself if she doesn’t have an underlying health issue like a thyroid problem.
I would start with blood test as many reasons why she can be over weight! Thyroid, sugar etc
Don’t buy the unhealthy snacks when you shop for groceries.
My daughter is 9 and 102lbs. She is overweight. With covid it out a huge damper on sports for her. She had just got involved in soccer and bam the season was cancelled. But what I have been trying to do it is being more active outside with her, and by no means bringing up her weight so she doesn’t develop an insecurity. I think once covid is over they will be more active as kids. I don’t control her eating tho. Sometimes I just say you have had too much junk food as in popsicles candy etc. And just limit her on that. And tell her if she is hungry then I can make her a Sandwich. Or something a little healthier
It’s not a choice here. We’re a family of 5 so everybody eats what’s for dinner.
Have a more healthy lifestyle like the Dr told my friend you make choices on what your kid eats …If your only feeding them junk then your the cause of your unhealthy child unless some health issues
I was an overweight child and I worry that my kids will be overweight so I understand some your concern but a 4’ tall girl should weigh between 53-113 so that’s a perfectly normal weight! She’s probably getting chubby looking because of puberty, most little girls get a little chubby around this time because of hormones and their bodies changing shape (growing breasts, hips, ect). All normal! My sister is thin, always has been thin to average, except for when she was around 11-12 she got a little chubby but once she developed more (around age 14-15) she went right back to being thin. Many of my friends did the same thing and most went back to being thin/average around ages 14-16 once puberty was mostly finished changing their bodies. You definitely don’t have anything to be concerned about, DEFINITELY don’t talk about this to your daughter or ANYWHERE where she may hear you! You may also want to look into therapy, this seems like more your issue than her’s, maybe you have your own body image problems or low self esteem and you don’t want to project that onto your children. As parents we have to build our children up because the world will tear them down. Even if she turns out to be chubby (which I highly doubt at her very average weight) would that be the worst thing? There’s so many children out there with cancers, horrible health problems, in wheelchairs, mentally challenged, as long as she’s healthy, that’s ALL that matters. There’s so many beautiful chubbier woman, look at Cami Crawford or Ashley Graham! The world is becoming more accepting of chubbier people, maybe you should too.
I was 100 pounds at age 9-10. I was never through to be fat or anything and I wasn’t very tall either. But if it means that much to you then replace all the junk in the house with healthy stuff then she won’t have to option to snack on unhealthy stuff. I personally wouldn’t make a big deal about it. But I don’t know the whole situation. Did her doctor tell you she’s is or going to develop health problems from it? Is she okay? Does she appear to be over weight? If it’s really nothing then I wouldn’t push it. Also remember someone can be considered “overwheat” and literally not eat junk food at all. Over weight doesn’t necessarily mean unhealthy and healthy doesn’t necessarily mean skinny. So just make sure she’s eating healthy if it means that much to you.
Just have her go play 0utaide like a normal child but that doesn’t sound overweight at allmmm
Lol plssss don’t put your 8 year old on a diet. Get out and don’t be lazy make activities for both of y’all…
She’s average. My son is 7, weights 70 pounds and is 46 inches tall.
Also take into account she will grow into her weight once she’s at puberty age
Talk to her doctor. No one else. This isn’t a matter to discuss with anyone but her doctor. You can cause serious harm to your daughter.
Any after school programs in the area? A YMCA with programs she might like? Dancing class? Something that doesn’t cost much?
My 7 year old is 4’8 n 145 pounds n healthy
82 lbs at 8? My boyfriends niece is almost 150 lbs and is 8. Let her be a kid! Don’t start have having her have body issues now!
that seems like a normal weight. my daughter is 9.5yo and 99lbs. she is not fat by any means.
If she exercises or gets up so should u and if she eaylts healty so should you.
Cut out soda and pop…. Drink water
Drop it, do not ever say anything or she will forever have body weight issues!!
8? What does her doc say?
Provide healthier snacks and encourage more activity
She’s an average weight for her weight. She’s not self conscious but you’re going to make her self conscious by fücking with her weight.
Just ask her if she wants to go on walks in the evening with you.
Exercise more. She needs to eat lots to help her grow
Um your gonna make her self conscious I’m sorry. She’s 8. Let her grow. Period.
I’m going to be switching my kids to a keto diet this week
Smoothies! Best way to sneak veggies in
Get ACTIVE!!!
Make it a part of your lifestyle. You are her time model.
Make eating good foods fun.
Are you perfect? Do you eat a healthy diet? Exercise?
Maybe start there…
Join a sport and exercise. Let her eat and don’t make a deal of her weight to her.
Get her out and ride her bike and go walking and play at the park
90-95 is average weight for her height and age
The issue here is you have the issue not her. She’s a kid. Leave her alone.
Wow. Wouldn’t want you to be my mom. She’s 8.
Consult a registered dietician who can direct you in the healthiest, most appropriate and educated approach for your daughter.
I feel like this happened to my sisters husband’s daughter right around the same age and the next year she hit a growth spurt and lost quite a bit of the chunk I would ride it out another year and just try to keep the junk food to a minimum
I would start simple Momma; she’s still young. Start by substituting out juice for stuff like Flavored Propel Water (tastes just like juice and is sugar free) and back away from a lot of pasta meals and replace them with more protein based items she will eat. She will hit a growth spurt soon and slim out so I wouldn’t worry TOO much until 13-15, but I love that you want to get ahead of it just incase.
Just get her more active and make the focus on being healthy and NOT on how much she weighs or how much/little she eats. Also, keep healthier snacks on hand or let her help pick out some healthy-ish things that she will eat. It never put the spotlight on her weight or her appearance.
Okay so whatever you do don’t let her hear u say she’s getting to heavy or big or whatever word you choose dont feel like re reading. Just stop buying the sweet sugary snacks and treats and switch to less sugary options more fruits and veggies if she sees you eating them and enjoying them she’d be more keen to trying them bc mom’s doing it to. Just say we’re trying something out to see If it makes us feel better as a family. Don’t single her out do it as a team so she feels comfortable. Just bc you think she may be getting to big she may be comfortable in her own skin and to come at her with something like this could cause her all kinds of issues in the future. It’s great to know you care and want her to be healthy but don’t make her feel like an outsider
As a permanently fat female, I applaud you for being proactive. However I also agree with others…”dieting” is not an answer. Educate your kids on food as fuel and what their bodies need and jointly make healthy choices. It is a lifetime of learning self-care, not deprivation to make yourself somehow s better version of yourself. HUGE difference in approach. Good luck to you, mama!
My 9 year old is this way and I just refuse to buy snacks in my house now. I put her I. Basketball. Now we only eat the meals I provide and if she doesn’t like it (luckily she’s not picky) she doesn’t eat. And I only make enough for all of us to have appropriate portions. No seconds. She didn’t have much thinning out to do but it’s been a couple weeks and she’s well on her way there. She didn’t need drastic changes, just realistic and healthy ones
She’s 8! Let that baby be.
It’s what you bring in the house.
Include her in meal planning, prepping and cooking. Anytime I want my kids to try something I don’t think they will like I let them help me and they 9/10 times actually like it without any complaints.
My doctor told me to slow down on the snacking replace them with fruits and watch their proportions…they don’t wanna see them lose weight or on a diet just that they stay consistent
Don’t restrict food, snacking throughout the day is normal. If you’re concerned about her weight try getting her out of the house and do activities WITH her.
No more sugar and anything that has corn starch, or fructose corn syrup. Stop all process food. Join the gym with her, team work. You can also put her into sports. Fun activity. Its a wonderful thing your taking care of her weight now by introducing her how to live a healthy lifestyle. Weight loss should not be the goal. Eating healthy, exercising, playing sports, loving yourself, living healthy is the ultimate goal. I cant say as the other parents, “just let her be a child”. My son was in the same situation. Every child is different and so is their health. Mine unfortunately develope fatty liver until we stop all process food and only eat vegetables and healthy home cook food. Now he has learned to cook his own healthy foods, read labels, aware of harmful stuff he shouldn’t eat. He is 13.
Where in this post did she say she gonna put her 8 year old on a diet? These sites are being a judgemental fukin joke. My sister is 15 struggled with her wait and she blames her mum for not eating the right foods. Think about that. Think about how hard it is to shift weight when your older. If that sort of thing can be prevented then why not try? I’m a size 12 I am not the skinniest and my daughter is 8 and shes a chunky bum and as much as I love it u have to think about how they gonna feel when they grow up
Wow, I’m surprised at a lot of y’all “mom shaming” this poor woman… there is nothing wrong with wanting your child to live a healthy lifestyle. She’s not doing it for her own insecurities, she’s doing it because she wants her kid to be healthy and avoid ridicule at school (you can preach all you want about teaching your kids to accept and not bully but the fact of the matter it WILL happen). No eight year old should be overweight… if I was you, Mama, I would take away processed snack foods and replace them with healthier options. Grapes, carrot sticks, etc. there are a lot of healthy lesser calorie options to choose from. Make a game out exercise, make it fun. Don’t tell your child she’s fat or on a diet (that should go without saying) but say things like, “oh those processed foods are yucky! Try these instead!” Her metabolism should bounce back with just a little bit of effort
Let her know everyday that’s she looks beautiful !!! And incorporate fun activities the fam can do together , like hiking and swimming! Kids looove the swimming. You dont have to say anything about a diet or "healthier eating habits, just start putting healthier choice snacks in the selection , you could also make homemade fruit- flavored water, like lemon , watermelon, strawberry water; tell her those are princess drinks !! And make her feel like a princess
Please don’t do anything at this point, unless you’re going to make it a family things to live an overall “healthier lifestyle”
To isolate her will cause major issues as she gets older
I think she’s quite tall really but she is heavier than my girl, same age by about 2 stone.
Just remember that all kids have different builds and it is still absolutely important for kids to adopt healthier eating habits and lifestyle habits regardless to weight and size etc so people saying she’s fine blah blah don’t know her frame or structure as we don’t have a picture to see…
What this mum is doing is great, as she’s trying to implement better eating habits a better lifestyle for her daughter BEFORE it becomes an issue later and is harder to sort and daughter is self conscious etc
What happened to supporting each other instead of tearing fellow mums down? Come on ladies!
Take away the snacks. Keep nothing but healthy food in the house. Making changes goes for everyone in the house. If you choose to snack for yourself, make sure she doesn’t see you or any wrappers. What’s good for one is good for all. I have picky eaters too. If your daughter is hungry, she will eat. She will give you a hard time for awhile but if she’s hungry, she will eat (whatever you have that’s healthy). She is 8? She will more than likely outgrow her “baby weight”. Just keep her active and give her healthier options (healthier snacks). She won’t like it for awhile but she will come around.
Weight issues are a serious issue here in U.S. I wonder why everyone is so concentrated on masks and vaccines when this issue causes more health issues and deaths then anything else.
DO NOT PUT THAT CHILD ON A DIET!!! Get active with her and DONT talk about her body in any bad way dont allows others to either.
Snacks? Trade chips for some grapes or other fruits. You can take veggies and blend them up and put them in sauce for spaghetti night or anything to do with tomatoe sauce!
While that is a little high for weight at that age kids go through changes constantly. You talk about her diet, yet you’re in charge of what foods are brought into the home. Take away any soda unless it is for a special occasion, we grew up on only rootbeer and 7up, as my kids and nine of us are big soda drinkers, soda is a big sugar(fat). At dinner we at least had to try 1 carrot, spoonful of spinach, etc. Limit how much bread (carbs), fruit, just like the veggies is at least try. And more than just once, after 3/4 times trying we didn’t have to ( but don’t tell her that), more healthy snacks, peanut butter is a good lean protein, or a boiled egg…even a small bowl of cottage cheese, and nothing beats good old fashioned movement, ride a bike, hike the trails, toss a ball, or chores. She will probably be wanting to eat more as she moves more, but she will be burning calories and just make sure she isn’t taking in more than what she needs. And plenty of water, it flushes the system, 4/6 8 oz. glasses a day. Include her with the cooking of meals, she is old enough. DO NOT MAKE HER ASHAMED OF HER BODY.
First of all, don’t blame her/ shame her for her weight. Stop buying junk food. Everyone in the family could use healthy foods, and maybe for birthdays or something special you have cake and ice cream… Do fun/ active things as a family to create awesome memories. Hiking, frisbee golf, riding bikes, kayaking, playing tag, etc.
I’m not being rude in any way shape or form but, kids that don’t try new food are trying to control. It’s not about palate it’s about control. When my 3 year old refuses to eat then I leave the table and eventually she will get bored of whining and eat the food.
Cut the snacks out an have her get outside an be active
Don’t bring it up. And just go to the park more.
So you’re telling me a child. Is putting on some child fat… and you’re concerned? Let her hit puberty before you’re worried about her weight. Jesus Christ.
What does her doctor say??
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Following…my son is not yet 5 and weighs 90 lbs
My 9 year old boy is 5’1” and 120lbs! I’m putting this big boy in football lol
Let her be a child and worry about your own weight…
Leave that poor girl alone! Jfc…
My son age 8 is 71 lbs and 55 inches tall wearing a 10/ 12
He is lazy
Tall skinny
Super picky been known to sneak food
Alot of it is genetics
His sister is more sturdy but not over weight just not scrawny 32 pounds age 3 38 pounds
Wearing a 3 in clothes.
Neither are bad.
Give healty options don’t call it a diet avoid the word fat obese … if there are a fatty don’t lie to them tho because trust me kids are telling them the truth. My mom is over weight , I still remember her belly and her in tub sounding like whale when she scooted up n down and eating at computer and didn’t really cook for us. Now she has a daughter that counts calories who has issues , an obese daughter with issues and an anorexic daughter with issues .
We’re not blind to fat but if ur covered up skinny or fat I don’t care I don’t wanna see ur tummy ass tits , extra lips…
Just teach her to dress that firs her body and eat healthy with positive words.
Think is it genetic? You can’t help genetic sometimes… some big mom. N dads like fatttttt have skinny kids som the whole family is huge. It happens. There still ppl.
She’s at a normal weight let the kid be. You put her on a diet your gonna give her some body issues thinking she’s fat all the time when she’s not.
My kids all got chunky around that age up to 10/11. Then thinned out as they hit their growth spurt. I’d say stop being so judgmental and make them feel safe and secure in their own skin.
Ummm did a doctor tell you she was overweight or are you being super harsh? That’s sounds average. When my daughter was 8 she was 80+ lbs. Give her a minute and let that child hit puberty before you start ridiculing her
No dessert until veggies are eaten. No other food until veggies or fruits are eaten. That’s how I was raised. My kids I find a place were I put kale and spinach and other veggies in there where they don’t taste it. 8 year old is old enough to understand eat what’s given to her or go to bed.
She is at a normal BMI, I would not mention nor change her eating habits. I was such a picky eater as a kid but I grew out of it, give her the chance first. If you’re worried about her health, start blending veggies into meals so she atleast is getting a serving and maybe go for a family walk a few times a week. Tread carefully though, because if you take major steps you can end up creating an extremely unhealthy relationship with food and exercise for her in the future.
She’s 8. Don’t be that mom who pushes her daughter to be skinny and make her have an eating disorder. My mom did that because I was “chunky” as a kid and I’m almost 23 and have struggled with eating disorders my entire life. Let her be a kid. What the hell is wrong with you. she’s 82 pounds that’s not overweight at all.
Stop projecting your issues with weight onto your child. That is a sure way to set her into insecurity about weight. Instead help her find physical things she loves like swimming horseback riding dancing and get her into her passions
I was a hefty kid at that age🤷🏼♀️ and now I’m 23, just had a baby’s year ago, and I’m 125 pounds… I personally think it is WAY too early to be worried about that. I’m very thankful my parents didn’t push me to try to be thinner back then because I was already feeling that pressure in school. Home should be your oasis away from all the judgement of society not a place for your parents to push their own insecurities on you. I held onto that ‘baby fat’ until college and once I went to school I dropped sixty pounds, but I also realized a lot of my weight stuck on because I was always surrounded by a peer group that pointed it out. It created a very stressful relationship with food for me and it wasn’t until away from that did I start to make healthier choice on my own. Don’t stress mama, she could be right about to hit a growth spurt and she’ll get tall and slim out or maybe she won’t but it’s your job to teach her to love herself not be the first one to criticize her because you’re afraid someone else will do it first. I mean if you’re worried about her confidence, as a child who struggled with being the chunky kid, I would try telling her how beautiful she looks everyday and remind her constantly about how amazing and worthy she is for other reasons. Remind her always that she has intrinsic value aside from having to be physically appealing to society.
Unless her doctor is concerned about her weight (which sounds normal not overweight) you shouldn’t be worried about it.
Kids can’t eat junk food if we don’t buy it for them.
How much weight do you want her to be ? She’s 80lbs
Jesus Christ!! it’s not a lot for her age. You as a mother need to do better you’re on the verge of making her get a eating disorder. I just had a baby 3 months ago and my mom keeps asking me about my weight. she is so judgmental when it comes to weight but she can suck it cause I made a beautiful human being that took 9 months to make. I seriously ignore when she asks me about my weight
Let your child be a child
I wouldn’t even tell your daughter anything about her weight at all. I’d simply make healthier meals. I’d also tell her…“Momma wants to spend some special time with you” and you can take her up & down the block for walks. Just call it your “girl time”, to catch up about each other’s day.
Healthier food choices, a lil more physical activity, and maybe you can sign her up for soccer, or cheer at the park. Good luck!
Make the snacks healthy, start hiking with her. But I’m sure her weight is perfectly fine. I was 89 pounds in 3rd grade. I’m a tiny person only 5’2 and 115 pounds.
Being someone who was allowed to eat when they were bored don’t allow it, try to start making sure snacks are healthy even if it’s just the foods she likes. I wouldn’t say talking about needing to eat healthy is going to cause any issues considering children get taught about eating habits in school as someone who is picky themselves I understand the struggles of trying to have her eat new things, try offering smoothies it’s a good way to hide fruits and veggies and are healthy.
You support your child to be a decent human being instead of worrying about their weight.
She can only eat what you buy. Limit the snacks to fruits & veggies in the house. Yall go for a walk or play outside with her.
Fruit.
Eat more pasta vs. Meats.
Lemon juice in black coffee is a huge hit but I don’t recommend this for a child its great for an adult struggling to lose weight though.
Eggs
Toast
Have scheduled meal times and try to stay active rather it be dancing, hullahooping, having a cleaning contest for a prize, walking the dog 3 times a day (or if you don’t have dogs, ask to walk your neighbors dogs for a small fee or even free if you want to just help out).
Ride bikes
But over all try to keep it fun because you don’t want her to know there’s a purpose behind it all and don’t stop once shes lost a few pounds either (unless its winter and cold asf then just try to stay active indoors)
Just offer the best food, move, set the example. Kids - girls sometimes hold a little more weight before puberty and growth. Focus on the habits not the weight. Develop proper lifestyle not low self esteem
She’s 8… she’s average height and weight…make the veggies she’ll eat give fruit to snack on and take her out to ride bikes, the park , get her interested in a sport. Limit the video games, iPads and TV. Don’t nag her.
Try to talk to her like this!
No snacking if so offer fruits, veggies or nuts. Kids dont know taste and flavor until we introduce it. Dont teach them the word or meaning of picky. Dont give them the option until they’ve tried it multiple times. My son just turned 7 and he weights about 87lbs so dont sweat it kids will grow and stretch jus worry about healthier options. I dont allow sweets or chips or salty and I make sure hes always active they rest will work its self out
She’s only 10 lbs heavier than my skinny 9 year old girl.
My stepdaughter is 8 and weighs 80. Shed live on ice cream if she could but I just say no. Eat or be hungry. That’s how it was in my house.
Let her be a kid and don’t give her body image issues by mentioning your messed up body image issues.
My 8 year old is 75 pounds lol.
I wish more people were concerned for their children’s weight. It would save them self esteem issues if done correctly
Get her outside playing and running around
Stop being a lazy parent.
Give her healthy options over snacks and get her into sports.
She is only doing what you allow her to do.
I love all these comments jumping down her throat about telling her daughter she’s fat.