Anyone’s ex pay child support and pays for stuff for their kid whenever they have them? Asking for myself. My daughter’s dad said he shouldn’t have to pay me child support because he supports her the random days and time she is there.
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He doesn’t make thr rules. Go to court.
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I think it really depends on the situation. I have my ten yr old daughter Monday thru Friday. My health insurance, my school district. Her dad gets her Friday night Saturday and Sunday and we split all holidays and vacations. If I ask for her on a weekend he is typically okay with it unless they have something planned and I have allowed to her to spend the night on school nights also. We do nothing through the court system and he pays no child support but if I call and say she needs new shoes, or her band payment is due or anything like that he has no issues paying or doing for her.
Yes he still is responsible for her things.
I see in my family that if dad has the kids weekends and buys needed things while they are with him, he also helps with school supplies and clothes / shoes when needed, and no child support paid, they each take care of thier own business
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if he doesn’t have the child 50% of the month then it’s child support it goes he doesn’t get to dictate how much money he spends or how much he gives he needs to go on child support you needed extra help he doesn’t have her 50% of the time then he needs to go on child support you’re the one that supports the child you’re the one that’s there with the child 24/7 365
Depends on the state and custody. In alabama we have joint legal but I have full physical custody, not that he ever comes around, so he pays child support through the state and yes he also thinks he shouldn’t have to pay.
My ex once said he doesn’t pay his CS, because I support them on my time. He supports them on his… He had them 2 days a week IF that…
Me and my ex share 50/50 and agree to no child support because he has him half the time. He is the best dad and is always there for his kid. He goes above and beyond, this is what works for us.
I’d ignore him. No point in arguing. He will be mad about it regardless
I hear the same thing and he only had him four days a month
If the child is with you majority of the time, yes you should get child support. It is to help pay for bills occurred to help raise the child - since he/she is with you for the majority.
If its 50 50 then no. If he only gets her a couple times a month then yes.
I have full custody of my oldest his bio dad only sees him on weekends and it’s usually every other weekend he gets him around 930pm on Friday and I pick him up any time on Sunday sometimes its noon court order says he gets visitation as we agree upon and his child support is 175 a month he’s also back on child support but he buys stuff for his house I buy stuff for mine but I do send him with two changes for clothes just to be on safe side. When he was little I didn’t do that he he had to buy his own clothes toys diapers wipes and car seat for him. I’m thing is I’m not supplying for my house as well as his house he don’t wanna pay child support let him take you to court for it
Just take him to court there’s standards for support if mom is the primary parent. I’m primary for my daughter and her dad is still responsible for taking care of her necessities when she’s with him as well as ordered child support payments.
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If you guys split it 5050 the time then no.
If it’s court ordered he a has no choice
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Child support is to make the households equal, not dissolve the other parent of any and all responsibilities
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It would depend on how much he had her a year, if in a whole year it equals to 50/50 then no. Not sure if all places have the same rules. That is just where I live, even the child taxes gets spilt between household if it’s 50/50.
It depends on where you live but even at 50/50 whomever makes more has to pay the other parent support to ensure the parent whom makes less can support the child as well as the other parent
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Thats why its best to have it go through child support recovery so he cant not pay without getting behind.
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If you have them split 50/50 I would never have them pay child support. If he is literally getting her 1 day here 1 day there for sure pay child support help the mom with all expenses to keep the child healthy and happy.
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they take combined wages and split in half. sometimes a parent can pay a lot even though it’s 50/50
Why make it such a big deal. Let the court figure that out.
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Our son’s friend has his child every other week for a whole week and every other holiday and still has to pay child support which I think is BS. They have the child equal amount of time so neither one should have to pay.
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Yes that’s correct if he is providing for her on the set days he has your child then no he shouldn’t have to pay.
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Seriously he is not an attorney. Why would you even listen to him.
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I know 2 guys that have 50/50 and still have to pay over $1000/mo
Well that depends if you have 50/50 custody and your kid is with their dad half the time and with you half the time then I don’t see why he would pay child support he should take care of the kids when he has them and make sure they have everything they need at his house and you should do the same. Now if you have them 90% of the time and he only sees them once or twice a month for a day or two then that’s different. It really depends what your custody agreement is 
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Every parent put on child support thinks they shouldn’t have to pay it. 
Unless there is 50/50 custody in place, he should be paying support.
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That’s not how that works. He absolutely has to pay for days he has her unless he has her 50/50. Bro is just petty. If you haven’t legally filed for child support and got it signed off by a judge, do it. You don’t need a lawyer if you go through child support enforcement, but it would be faster with a lawyer. If/when you have a child support order and he tries not to pay you for “days he has her”, you can get him for non support
Go to court. Let a judge decide.
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Find out what the courts say - endddddd of story
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My daughters dad doesn’t pay child support but we also had the agreement be a dad and take care of your responsibilities and we are good. He provides for her when he has her which is about 3-4 days a week depending on work but also if she is with me and needs anything he gets it no problem. One Christmas money was tight for him and he wasn’t able to really do much so I ordered stuff I knew she would like and had it delivered to his house. When you coparent appropriately you do for the child regardless rather with you or him. Her dad has also done things like brought me medicine for my boys that aren’t his. He helps anyway he can rather it’s money, time or doing something that needs done. All I have to do is ask and I know he’s got my back.
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Most of them think that lol. Let a judge make that decision.
My child’s father gets him 50/50 but he pays me 400$ a month. He agreed to more because I’m the one that buys whatever he needs for our places and his extra activities.
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Is he not familiar with child support laws?
Have him schedule a hearing with the court and tell them that rubbish.
The % depends on your custody agreement. And your incomes and costs of living .
Get it in a legal manner and tell him stop this nonsense
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It really depends on how often he has her. For example in Oklahoma since my daughter is at her dads house every weekend I would only get like $23 a week in child support if I went through the state guidelines. If the child is there less often you get more child support. We just decided not to do child support since he provides for her on weekends and I do it throughout the week.
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And in Indiana a dad can have them over half the time but it only counts as a day if the children spend the night!!! So mom can drop off every day and pick up before bed and receive the appointment support.
If he doesn’t have the child 50% of the Month then Child support IT IS!
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If yall have 50/50 then no I don’t think he should 
you pay for yours and he pay for his and medical school etc split. Less room for fighting too.
If he’s unstable and thinks this…he can eat a pickle
Thee only way a man shouldn’t have to pay child support is if time is split literally 50/50 then CS is kinda like blah it’s pointless and not really fair to either side. I know sometimes the courts still give one parent $$ when weeks are in rotation but to me that’s STUPID as neither one is being inconvenienced more than the other. BUT every other weekend dad’s come on now… They should be paying 50% of expenses as their lives are not really being effected they have the child 4/6 days out the month at the most they DO NOT experience the restraints mom does. $$$ is owed. But this is ALL hypothetical cause ALOT of women get $-0- and the man doesn’t even see the child… So in a perfect 
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Why is what he thinks relevant? Take them to court, always.
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Me and my ex both have a kid one lives with me one lives with him my $50 never stopped lol if that helps
Does he have her 50% of the time? Is it court ordered? Or is he just being an a$$…
He wants to be the candyman! Use the child support money to hand out fun stuff and leave you with the household expenses. Noooooo!!
If he has his children close to half and interacts with them and all the stuff dads should do, then no. You don’t deserve shit.
I have mine full time & get $20per week
You can’t argue with an idiot
In Texas we had 50/50 amd they still had a CS order on my husband. My son’s dad owes me 25k and he’s never got into one shred of trouble. I guess it all depends. But i wouldn’t unless you can trust him to provide his half of expenses. If men are taking they’re most likely lying so I wouldn’t trust it lmaooooo
We were in a custody battle for 4 years, in and out of court. The judge kept ordering status hearings, due to the other party making false accusations about the child’s health and needs. it was extremely costly. We went to mediation, nothing was accomplished as the other party refused to compromise on anything, I’m talking about no holiday time, no summer visitation, very little access and time with the child, the most ridiculous offers you could imagine. It took 4 years of that before a settlement was reached between attorneys emailing proposals back and forth, which was still costly. A friend recommended a group of highly secret servers for me, they deal with all legal papers works child custody/abuse/divorce support. and property management and can get into their cell phones to get you all deleted/non-deleted messages, call logs, videos, and social media messages from all drives without them noticing. you can contact them on their instagram@“gray_hackman” Email:sinhack@gmail.com
We were in a custody battle for 4 years, in and out of court. The judge kept ordering status hearings, due to the other party making false accusations about the child’s health and needs. it was extremely costly. We went to mediation, nothing was accomplished as the other party refused to compromise on anything, I’m talking about no holiday time, no summer visitation, very little access and time with the child, the most ridiculous offers you could imagine. It took 4 years of that before a settlement was reached between attorneys emailing proposals back and forth, which was still costly. A friend recommended a group of highly secret servers for me, they deal with all legal papers works child custody/abuse/divorce support. and property management and can get into their cell phones to get you all deleted/non-deleted messages, call logs, videos, and social media messages from all drives without them noticing. you can contact them on their instagram@“gray_hackman” Email:sinhack@gmail.com
Then you should also be paying him support for the times he has the child as well. It goes both ways as long as you’re equally involved.
I don’t get child support from my ex. I can but don’t because he takes her extra and he helps when needed. School supplies, clothing, ect… if you’re the primary parent, you should receive child support legally tho.
Unless its 50/50 custody, whoever has the kid the least is technically obligated to pay child support. Take him to court.
He can modify the order. He shouldn’t pay for support during the times he has the child but its also his responsibility to make the court aware of those times.
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Job and family service in your county should be handling it. You don’t need an attorney for that. Contact them.
This is why courts decide these matters
Take him to court. Let the courts do their job
He can complain to the court
Unless he has her 50/50 same amount of time as yoy and is buying uniform etc then yes he has to pay
I have to pay my ex a bunch of money, including child support travel expenses, he gets tax’s every year and he hasn’t worked in almost 9 years.