You count your blessings!!!
Let him my sons bio dad didn’t sign his birth certificate at the end of my pregnancy I met a wonderful man who ended up going into court with me and told a judge he wanted to be his father and even though we broke up he still has chosen to stay in my sons life.and my son has his last name.so your child’s father is just making room for someone else to love him
Just don’t put him on birth certificate
You’ll be happier without the drama
Don’t put him on the birth certificate when you give birth!
Don’t let him sign the birth certificate
Leave him off the birth certificate.
Let him. Just make sure you don’t put him on the birth certificate. He’s a POS.
Don’t put him on the birth certificate or anything like that.
Let him, it doesn’t stop him from being obligated to pay child support
He can not sign away his rights unless you remarry and your new husband adopts your child.
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Don’t put him on the birth certificate
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I think you tell him “Tough! You don’t get to have that benefit. You played, now you pay. You may be an absent father, but that doesn’t change the fact that you are a father. Be a man, step up and be responsible.” Then do not give him a choice. If he wants DNA testing prior to paying child support, the state will handle that, but he needs to learn that there are some things that you don’t get to walk away from and a child is one of them.
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Tell him to get steppin’… he will hurt that baby more in a lifetime than can be repaired. Every man is not a father…love your baby & make him/her your #1… best of luck to you & your bundle❣️
The day will come when that child will want to know who their biological dad is. The child has a right to someday be able to confront that parent if they choose to do so. All the child needs to be told at their young age is that he was just not ready to be a dad yet Because who knows the real reason behind what he’s doing. Maybe he never wanted a child, maybe he’s afraid to be a dad or maybe he’s just a jerk but the child has a right to know. And believe me when I tell you that child is going to ask a lot of questions some day and I would never be hurtful in the answers given to him or her. Let that child find out the answer for their self when they are ready. I know this for a fact after my sister,my brother and myself were a banded by my biological mother when we were all under five years of age me being the eldest. It especially had a traumatic affect on my brother.
So 2 people made a baby. He’s decided he would not want to be a part of the baby’s life, you’re the one who has to grow, carry, and birth this child. You can’t force him to be a parent, but personally I wouldn’t make it easy either. This isn’t a material issue, it’s a whole entire life. You let him do the work to revoke his rights, because once it’s done it can’t be undone. File him as the father then let him take it from there. Also- think about child support. You may want to pursue that, you may not. But pregnancy hormones are all over the place. You just want to make sure you make a decision you can live with, for the rest of the child’s life.
Its definitely NOT good to have a parent walk in child’s life even briefly then leave/abandon child! Itll be more hurtful if the child knows him then ge up n leaves then never knowing him at all! Very SELFISH in fathers part just bcuz he DOESNT want financial obligations or anything else but this alone should both show & tell you FORGET IT! Let him NoT be part if childs life bcuz if you try & force it its gonna get ugly & who wants/needs all that bs when you have your child to focus on! Esp bcuz its your 1st baby! Your NOT gonna wanna be bothered w/ court or any of that mess! Your gonna WANT all your time w/ baby! Baby will have YOU & thats what matters since fathers that selfish imagine howd he treat the baby if you try n force him to be part of childs life??! Miserable for both you & child! Ta it sucks but youll both grow to see your both better iff w/o his drama & bs etc
He doesn’t have to sign his rights away. Just don’t have him sign the birth certificate. My sons father never signed my sons. Never even showed up to the hospital and it’s honestly made things so much easier. You got this momma! If you decide to go for child support you’d have to establish paternity but I don’t think that involves the birth certificate
Depending on where you live it’s different, in Ontario I know a man can not give up his rights unless there is another man willing to adopt the child, and be financially responsible for the child. My friends daughters dad tried and was denied in court, was put in child support and he hasn’t seen the child since she was a baby, and that child is a teenager now. If anything just go to court right away and let them deal with it.
Not sure if anyone has asked if you’re open to adoption. We’re missing a lot of information. Do you want to become a mother now? Do you have enough resources to swing it? Or would it make your and your child’s life hell?
Again, I don’t know your age or circumstances at all, so no judgment. Just throwing out something in case it’s relevant to you.
If he doesn’t sign the birth certificate or a paternity test is not done, he is not acknowledging he’s the father and he has no rights. There is nothing to sign over.
Highly possible he will change his mind. If he’s otherwise a dscent human being, be patient. Don’t rush into anything
Honestly I would take it. Some people are saying to write his name on the birth certificate or whatever but if he doesn’t want to be involved save you and your baby the trauma and let it go bcz he will try to make your life miserable and it’ll ruin the child honestly.
That’s what my son’s “father” did and it was honestly way easier to just not put him on the birth certificate. No court costs, no money spent or wasted, no fighting. Just way easier
You cant make him be a parent. Let him sign his rights over but make him pay child support
A lot of states won’t even allow a parent to sign over rights unless both parties agree. Check with a family law attorney. 100%
Let him sign his rights away and build a life you and your baby deserve.
Cant force a relationship with someone who wants to part.
Let him and live in peace.
Make him help pay for costs
Good riddance. Thank god you found out now, before the child had a chance to build a relationship with him.
Just make sure you get the child support. If you don’t put his name on the BC then you’ll have a hard time getting it. Unless you’re completely 100% capable of doing it financially on your own then don’t put him on the BC and leave him completely out. Usually when guys say that they want to give up their rights it’s bc they don’t want to be financially obligated to care for the child. Don’t think that him being on the BC makes it so he has rights to see the baby either. If he’s not 100% committed to the baby by being in his life consistently it just leaves for a confused child later. If he wants to see the baby he can leave that up to the courts.
Rather if he wants to ever have anything to do with the baby or not don’t let him sign them away like my lawyer once told me that’s just a easy way not to pay child support he helped have the fun to get you pregnant now let him have the fun of support and I mean fight him ever step of the way #everytime he gets behind take him back to court
Can’t stop him from doing it it’s his choice
Make sure it is done ASAP 100% legally as it will make your life so much easier, not just leaving his name off the birth certificate… Have him legally give up his rights so that you can make all decisions without having to ever get his permission… It’s sad and hopefully one day if your child wants to know him he is decent about it but if this is his stance make it all offical.
Don’t do it. Make that scum pay child support. As soon as baby is born file for child support. He can have nothing to do with baby if he wants but don’t let him get out of being responsible to help monetarily. What a coward he is.
hes useless kick him to the curb, you can do better
Seriously?? you are asking this question on Facebook? I can see why he wants nothing to do with you.