I am at a loss here; my cousin is with a guy that I don’t approve of. It is not without good reason tho; I had been talking to her on the fone when he woke up from a drunken sleep. He then proceeded to yell at her; I could hear slapping and him saying awful things to her. I could only hear her crying out for help, and I wish I could’ve called the cops, but they were both inebriated. I didn’t want my niece to be taken away…it’s an awful thing both ways I look at it. I just wanna know if I should tell her dad, who could make talk to her or should I continue to let her make her own choice to stay with his abusive ass…
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Wtf. Call the cops…
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You can make an anonymous report to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224. They can get her help.
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Well if u wait to long the child could be i danger if both parents are in a drunken rage get the child to safety
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You could always reach out to other family members for help, for her. However, that may only make it worse for her where the boyfriend is concerned. Basically, anyone who steps in the way of him & his motive, is a threat. If you personally see/hear things like that going on, call for a well check. The police officers will do it anonymously to protect you.
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Wait… do you think your cousin’s child is your niece??
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Do what’s best for the kid not her, clearly she’s not making good decisions and the baby dad deserves to know his child is in a dangerous situation
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Ummm I would have called the cops but hey whatever
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I she wants to stay that’s her problem…, but the child shouldn’t have too!!! I would have called the police and let them handle it, if the child was taken it’s better the having to bury all of them. And if they take her then she would be placed with family, or maybe NO One wants the responsibility!!!
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really??? You hear someone getting beating & because they both were drunk, that was a reason not to call for help??? I really would hate to be your friend & need help . That is one poor ass excuse. Sorry…it is !!! I have no other words. Next time… freaking call. Because she just might not have too many next times !!!
Your niece (think you meant second cousin though) is probably better placed with family than in a home with an abuser watching her mom get beaten and could possibly end up in danger herself. If they were both drunk and the child was there you definitely should have called the police.
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If you get involved there is a chance that she will listen but then she will be with him again.if your cousin is grown talk to her and if she doesn’t want to listen at least get the child out of that situation before it gets worse.
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The child is probably better off without them for now. Let her father know, hopefully he is kore stable. But your concern should be the child not your cousin and her drunk abusive boyfriend
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She has to make that decision for herself. Just be there and be supportive. She needs you not more then ever.
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Definitely get someone involved he shouldn’t be putting hands on her drunk or not, i know if she was my kids my husband and I would give the boyfriend the same treatment he’s giving the girl
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Maybe get Grandpa to take the baby until things calm down
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Does he have to kill her to get help? Yes tell her dad,!!
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First: talk to her more and make sure you have the facts straight so that you’re not making assumptions based on what you heard.
Second: if he really is abusive, speak up. She could be mad at you but you’re doing the right thing and she will thank you eventually.
Third: it’s spelled Phone
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Get some family members to help her she does not need to be treated that way .
Call cops and CPS. Not a healthy environment for the child to be in.
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So there is a girl in my town that was being abused by her husband and a lot of people knew about it, including his ex wife. No one did anything and her three daughters had to bury her a couple days before Christmas. If you know something you say something. You keep something like this quiet, you wont be able to live with yourself if he does something to her or your niece.
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You’d wanna be told if it was your daughter. GET INVOLVED!!!
Call the cops… Call cps… That is not healthy for that baby and she dont need to be in a situation like that…
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You could be obligated to that child to report an unsafe living situation…maybe if child services threatened to take her kid shed leave an abusive situation
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She may have the choice to leave or stay but that child doesn’t. Who knows if he abuses the child as well as her. If you can’t help her, at least help the child.
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Why didn’t you drive over and get your niece…
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Tell her Dad! He will help her and his Grandchild get out of that situation and hopefully have him arrested.
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Alcohol is no excuse for domestic violence. Tell her dad and make it clear the cops will be called next time.
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Coming from a woman that survived abuse please offer to keep your second cousin or something. My daughter has PTSD because of witnessing the abuse I went through she was much better off with someone else at that time
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She wont leave unless she wants to. Leave it be
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Think of the child and call the father look at it like this if he can hit her think what he can do to the child of he gets on a drunken rage
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You should do something about it. Dont be the person who turns a blind eye on domestic violence. A chick and her kids got burnt alive the other day because of some fuckwit “snapped” and couldn’t control himself. It can happen and it does happen so u should report it. Get her and the kid out of there.
You just need to talk to her. Tell her your feelings and how worried you are for herself and the child. By going and telling her family and they go and confront him it could make the situation worse for her. Unfortunately she wont get out untjl she feels like she can. Offer her ways out, ways to help her get back on her feet. Dont yell or scream or demand because she wont hear any of that. Also tell her how getting a restraining order will help her. Id also inform her that if her child grows up in these conditions that there is great chance of the child becoming an abuser and to think its a normal part if life. I am a domestic abuse survivor.
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If they were both drunk why would she be taken away? Always call the police in that situation
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She must like it or would not be there-if she old enough to live with somebody-she is old enough to pack up and leave-if it was a minor would be different
Think of the child and call her dad she may choose to stay with him but children come 1st
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There is a child involved. Get off facebook and ring the right people
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If you allow the small child to stay in an unsafe place where she could be physically abused (not t mention the mental and emotional abuse that is already happening) then you are no better than the Mom and bf. Be an advocate for that child.
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You’d be wishing you had called the cops if your cousin ends up severely hurt or dead and that baby ends up without it’s mama! If you can provide her with a safe place,offer to take her and the baby in and file a restraining order
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I agree with people to let her make her own decisions bc she’s a grown woman but you need to involve someone to get the child out of the situation bc the child is innocent and defenseless, what if something bad bad happens to child bc no one but you new what was going on and choose not to help!?! Speak up
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You need to do what’s right & I’m pretty sure we ALL know what that is. Tell her father & call CPS. Offer to take her and the child in! Or atleast the child. You can’t make a grown woman do anything but you sure as hell can save that poor child from any abuse or neglect!!
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There is a child involved that needs protecting and sometimes that’s the only way to get the mom to get it if a dangerous situation so yes tell her dad and if you find out it’s still going on then get the authorities involved.
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Your cousins kid isn’t your niece. She’s also your cousin. And if you care about the child, you will call the police.
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You will never forgive yourself if he killed her and you said nothing. Talk to her parents and see what they can do to help her
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Seriously, I’d called anyway. Tell her dad and brothers if there real men they’ll do something about it.
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This is hard not interfering could cost her her life but so could interfering
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I would let the father know that his child is in a dangerous living situation. He has the right to know. So he can take the proper steps to protect his child.
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Unfortunately nothing you say is gonna make her leave him. If you think or know her child is in danger you need to report it. Maybe losing her kid will make her smarten up
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The mother Mary be able to make a choice to stay in that type of environment. A child cannot, if anything get the child out. The child doesn’t deserve to be in that type of environment. Even if he is not abusive to the cold it’s unhealthy for the child to watch her mother be treated that way. You should tell her your concerns and if she is still willing to stay get temporary custody. The mom will either chose her child or a man. In the long run if she has any sense she will thank you rather than hate you.
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Domestic violence turns into child abuse many times. If she gets in the way she can be hurt too not to mention the psychological effects of seeing and hearing your mom being hurt and not being able to do anything. Help the child. Your cousin will forgive you if she ever gets to a healthy state of mind
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Call police at least she will be safe not dead.
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Seriously there is a child involved amongst the drunks and domestic violence! Yes call the cops. The child comes 1st
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She will make her own choice no matter who talks to her but if there is a cold in that home especially you need to call someone the police cps or father something needs to change for the sake of the child and hopefully she fallows and doesn’t stay with him… Have you said anything to her about him and why you don’t like him
What if everyone feels the way you do about not wanting to get the child taken away. That leaves NO ONE to defend that child. Can you live like that every day knowing you could be the ONE person that says something to possibly save it’s life?
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Children are nit taken unless they are in danger. If she needs to be taken, so shes safe, thats whats best. Your cousin is an adult so honestly that baby should be your only concern
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Should have called the cops.
Give your cousin the name of a woman’s shelter & their web site so she knows how to leave safely when she’s ready. In addition to talking to your cousin & her father, contact the counselor at the child’s school so they can be on the alert for possible abuse. If possible, offer to pay for counseling for both of them.
It’s her choice because if you tell her she will stay with him longer just have a talk to her and tell her that that’s not okay and that is not love and that if she needs out don’t be afraid to call u any time so she knows that u are there for her if you tell her dad she probably won’t trust you any more and she needs you right now
It’s not interfering when you hear him abusing her…she was yelling for help? And nothing was done. Call her father…her brothers…call the cops on that POS. If u truly love her, you wont ignore it. That’s how bad things happen. Help now before it’s too late.
It may cost you her friendship, but you may be saving hers and that babies lives. Do it ! Tell her Dad ! No one deserves to be treated like that, NO ONE !!!
If he kills her or her daughter, how are you gonna justify that you did nothing?
You must tell the police it just might bring her to her senses if you don’t it maybe the child next then you will torture yourself wishing you had
Am I the only one that says call the cops on your PHONE???
I hate to be that person BUT…
Come on guys it’s 2020 your phone even doesn’t it for you now. There’s no reason to spell incorrectly. This wasn’t just a typo this took straight up ignorance on spelling to write “fone” 
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Even if she was under age drinking sometimes calling the cops is the best thing for her to help her
I’m kind of concerned that you say she was screaming for help and you didn’t help. You did nothing. Are you even sure she’s still alive right now? She was screaming for help. You should have called 911
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If she is your cousin’s daughter she’s not your niece and yeah it would be horrible for her to be removed from a dangerous abusive situation.
I would have called the police. She’s creating an unsafe environment for herself and her child. She is an adult and can choose to stay in it, but her child can’t make that choice for herself.
If you want her and the child alive and well, do something.
Let her know you’re aware of the abuse & can want to help. Society blames, belittles & minimizes abuse victims. Because of that many don’t come forward. Let her know you will help her & not shame her.
I would’ve called the cops. You heard your sister being hit & begging for help & did nothing. You knew your niece was in the home & did nothing to protect her. Her daughter being taken away should be the least of your worries. Next time she calls you, if she trusts you enough to call you now call the cops. Drive over & be ready to take the child. Or call her father so he can take his kid.
No something tell someone i think it would be right to tell her dad
Save the child!!! Save your cousin! Yes call whomever can help!
Tell. If something happens to her you will wish you had said something.
The cops won’t do anything unless she presses charges or even makes a plea for help. You could call the cops or her father but that’s about as much as you can do. She’s an adult and makes her own decisions, no one can force her to do anything unfortunately.
He could be abusing your niece as well. I would sure talk to her and if you hear it again call the police. What if hes slapping or hitting her and hits the child. Or throws something etc and hits the child
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You should have at the very least called the cops, you heard her screaming for help snd crying and did absolutely nothing? Wow.
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Anytime there is a child involved you need to speak up. If you think he was beating her you should have called the law and got her help, whether or not you thought she would get mad at you or not, cause there was a child that had to witness that and what if he had killed her or both of them? You hear about murder suicides everyday.
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Since there’s a child involved, the law should be notified. Obviously, the child is not safe and her mother is battered.
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My loved one was crying for help being hit and I posted to Facebook. Wtf? Are you fucking brain dead. Help the baby and this poor woman
You’re more afraid of your niece being taken away than her safety? I’m confused.
Call CPS. Tell the dad what’s going on. Why are they both wasted with a small child in the house?
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Report it and omit the part of her being drunk too. They’ll take him away.
If she is putting herself AND her child (your second cousin) at risk than you SHOULD report it
So what if the child is removed?
Their safety should be EVERYONE’S priority
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You say you don’t want her to go away. What happens when he kills her
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The CHILD’S (your second cousin’s) safety is the PRIORITY
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He will eventually kill her
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Tel her dad before he kills her
Report what you heard to the police. They will do a welfare check on the child and the mother.
Perhaps, YOU should pull her aside and tell her to get some help with drinking. Get away from this guy. Situations just like you described is why we have DHS. That child deserves a sober attentive parent. Safe home.
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Call child services. Tell them about the abuse. They’ll give her an opportunity to do the right thing by her child and will offer her services to help. If she doesn’t do the right thing, they’ll remove the child from the danger. She needs her priorities straightened out and sometimes it takes an outside force to get the ball rolling
What? Tell her father! Not only is she in an abusive relationship but there’s a child in the mix !
What would you want someone to do for you if you were in her pisition
I believe if you hear some kind of domestic type abuse going on and a child is involved, you are supposed to contact the police or CPS. but she is also your family, it wouldn’t even be a thought to debate whether to not help her, maybe she is too scared to get away from the abusive man but you can step up and help her. I’m sure you don’t want to get a call saying she and your neice are in hospital or even worse dead. Do the right thing and call the authorities. Saying prayers for you and your fam.
Worry about you…not your cousin …
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Your cousin is screaming for help while you’re listening to her boyfriend bashing her and you do nothing… but jump on fb to get opinions… how is your conscience going to be if he kills her? Or rapes your niece or kills her… its 2020 don’t turn a blind eye to domestic violence.
It’s an abusive relationship and you’re worried about your niece being taken away?!
You should be more worried about keeping her safe. If your cousin isn’t keeping her in a safe environment then wtf are you doing? Children first. 
USE YOUR BRAIN… TELL HER DAD.
Also, they’re both ‘inebriated’ with a child around, use your common sense.
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Yes, please say something.
Toxic environment for your neice… She’s reliant on the adults to protect her… You are not protecting her by your silence
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Tell someone! Your niece will be fine your cousin hasn’t done anything wrong so won’t have her daughter taken off her. Even if by somehow it came to that I’m sure you or another family member would take her in until your cousin was stable
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Tell her father, but she won’t leave the guy til she is ready too, but the baby needs out of that situation asap. Cause if he hits the momma what is going to stop him from hurting the baby.
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You’re kinda awful for not calling the police! What happens when he starts on the child?! Idiots 🤦 you and her
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She’ll leave when she’s ready
He’ll no it needs to be
Bought out even after she gets help she’s going
To carry the hurt all her life