I’ve known since I was young that I wasn’t “normal” in the way everyone in my small Christian town was… I’m non-binary, I use they)them pronouns and wish I had the support that your daughter obviously has.
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As someone who went through this recently; don’t treat her any differently. She is the same today as she was yesterday, last week, month, etc. Just support her, always be open to any questions, and follow her lead.
You are obviously doing a great job as a parent, if she already feels confident enough in your acceptance of who she is, that she has told you at her age.
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Honestly…I think all girls are bisexual…I started out in school liking girls…then started noticing boys when got into middle school. Still noticed girls,but I was more attracted to boys. Just tell her to keep her options open,bc can end up preferring one more than the other. Now that I am older…I am almost completely straight…as am way more interested in guys now. Just let her know it is normal and to just keep notice on preference as she grows. Don’t decide one way or another yet. Still young.
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Just go with it really lol
If she brings home a friend and says she likes them be like ok cool and thats it really lol
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11? By all means be a good mom and support her tell her that there is nothing wrong with exploring her options. Right now it seems to be the “in” thing to do.
A friend of mine has a grand daughter on a soccer team with 12 other little girls between 11 & 13 and apparently they all say they are lesbians. Considering the fact that gay/bi people only make up 1.8% of the world population it would be a stretch to say it’s possible that all 13 girls ended up at the same school and on the same soccer team in the same town and are all gay.
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Tell her your proud and who she loves changes nothing. Maybe buy a pride flag for the home 
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Just ask her: How can i support you? Let her know that this is all new to you, and let her tell you what you can do. Other than that, just act normal 
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Hey so first off I should jump for joy cause she for one you don’t have to worry bout your daughter having a baby during high school and she will be able to focus and not be boy crazy now the second one is very important she’s gonna be way more emotional cause she’s scared of the world coming after her for being who she is so saying that understand that this is gonna bring you and your daughter way closer cause ur gonna be her life coach just love her and accept her for who she is and who she will end up loving understand that a surrogate may come up in the future but ur not there yet 
my advice she’s human so act like nothing changed only thing is instead of her saying mom me n him she’ll be saying me and her things will get better trust is everything 
My daughter told me she was bi when she was 9, now she’s 14 and we have figured out she is a homoromantic asexual, “ace lesbian” for short. When she was 9 she thought she was bi because she had crushes on girls and thought she had crushes on boys too, but since then she has come to realize she has crushes on girls and just likes hanging out with the boys more cause they have more in common. Now, the asexual part comes in because she has no interest in anything other than hand holding, cuddling and maybe quick kisses. Yes we know that part could change in the future, but as of right now, she has no interest in the other stuff period. Also, to answer your question, yes it’s possible to know at 11. When they’re that young though, it’s based off who they get crushes on. Hope that helps. One last thing, as far as support, I would just let her take the lead and support her. Let her know that you’re available to talk if she needs to and that there’s nothing she could tell you that would make you love her less or judge her.
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I was eight years old when I knew I was gay. It is not a stage or a phase. Kids know at a young age who they are. Keep supporting her and respect where she is at.
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Yes. My son came out at 13. He knew when he was 5 that he liked boys.
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What i don’t understand is,how could she know ,don’t you have to have sex with a male and a female to find that out.Just wonder.If that’s the case my that’s way too young to be active in sex.
That’s the age I was starting to learn who I was and came out to everyone. Everyone discovers at their own pace. Just be open if she wants to discuss it, but try not to force any conversations she might not be ready to have. I’d let her lead the way with this and just show you’re supportive and not judgemental.
She is too young to know…
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I knew I was bisexual since I was 6yrs. old. Had crushes on girls more than boys.
Love love love 
her, answer all questions Honestly, she is sadly lucky to have such a wonderful mother, encourage her you alone have made her understood xx 
My 12yo and I discuss what’s going on in the dating scene at her school.
There’s straight and gay couples, both boys and girls.
My daughter asked if we could talk about her having a boyfriend.
I told her I would be completely open to it, when she can remember to brush her teeth every morning without being told.
I’ll support anything she wants, as long as she’s really ready for the decisions she she’s making.
My son came out to us when he was 14. All you can do is let her know that you love and support her 100%.
Just be the same mom you have been. No judgement.
As parents yes we love our children… But just cause you love them don’t mean you okay sin or …encourage them to be Gay no child … Knows anything at that age… It’s the Devil confusing the child’s mind they need to get into church and. Be taught about God sin is sin…period. Not judging either. We have to teach our kids about God growing up… So they know what’s right and what’s wrong. You shouldn’t condone it. Btw… You’re not born gay either. Were all born straight. The devil confuses you’re mind and makes you think that trash.
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Well first ur amazing for being an understanding supportive parent. I think you can just let her know how much she is loved noatter who she loves and make sure she knows she can always come to u to talk about whatever…she will lead the way. She has to go through the motions alone with a strong Mama behind her❤️
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I remember being 11. I did not want to be a girl. I wanted to be a boy because I liked doing boy things. My mother told me oh, you don’t have a choice. You are a girl. But you can do whatever you like, you are not limited by being a girl. I grew up to be a woman who enjoys being a woman.
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One of my husbands grand children is 13 yrs old, I’m my opinion I think that is too young for them to understand and to make a choice. But having said that I was still always supportive of what she wanted. I never made a big deal about it nor did I sweep it under the rug. When she wanted to talk to me about it m, which was often I listened and treated exactly the same regardless of what sexual orientation she decided to have. Just be there for her listen to her and honestly it really isn’t a big deal at all!! I wish you the best
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I feel 11 might be young so just tell her that she is young and you will support her decision and if she changes her mind thats okay. Ask her does she want to talk to someone privately about her feelings (therapy). She might be very anxious since you said she was reluctant to tell. Just love her like you normally would.
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You are doing a good thing by supporting and loving your daughter. It is very freeing for them to know they can live their true self. Yes she is old enough to know. We never question when they have crush on the opposite sex at any age. There are tons of groups that you can be apart of to further your support of her as well.
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My second oldest son is bi. That being said i knew since he was really little. My daughter is 12 and said she is bi. It has never been an issue. Since they was little i told them they can be whatever they wanted, ie… Career or otherwise. They know mom and dad love them unconditionally.
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My kid told me straight up. I told her I 100% support her decision, but I also asked questions to why she felt that way. She knows she can talk to me and there is no judgement. No I do not encourage it at all. But I am 100% be hind her on this. She is young and things could change. But then again if they are true feelings then no one can change how she feels.
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The best thing you can do is tell her you support her decisions, no matter what. That she may feel one way now and one way later. She may just feel this way always. Okay. That’s your child. You support them. You cheer them on. You protect them. Teach them. LOVE them.
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Easy love your child no matter who they are, converse in a way that is normal communication with them. Ask age appropriate questions, if you want clarifications. But most of all be sure to hug them tight and tell them you love them as who they are.
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You are amazing. Your kid was very brave. That took a lot of courage. Trust yourself and just enjoy your kid. They grow up too fast
I think she is really too young to really know her sexual preferences.give her some time and support whatever she decides.you seem to be very caring and want your daughters best interest.it is hard for a child to make those decisions .keep the door open .
Love her unconditionally and things you don’t understand, any questions you may have, ask her. Imo yes they know at that age. I would just act as you did before she told you. She isn’t a different person because of her sexuality. I wish you luck and good for her for feeling she could come to you and tell you. I have a gay son and a daughter that’s bisexual if you ever need an opinion from someone who has raised gay/bisexual children just let me know
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I know a person who had a grand daughter who did this at the same age. At 11-years of age, they are NOT serious about anything. Just give it time…right now, it’s just a fad…she will eventually grow out of it.
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My daughter came out b4 she graduated high school. I kinda knew cuz she didn’t feel comfortable dressing like a girl and she was a tomboy played bball and all. You just need to be there for her. Listen if she has a question or to just talk. She may not understand the feelings right now but she will have questions. If you don’t know it’s ok. Just be honest with her. Don’t let her think you hate her or dislike the way she feels.
Just love her and support her and tell you you are always there to listen to her…hang in there…stay strong…gentle hugs!!
I have heard a lot of people say they knew they “were different” or “thought differently” at a very young age. My 13 year old told me at 11 that she liked girls. She has since changed her mind, and may very well change it again. Sexuality is so much more fluid now and more widely seen on TV, YouTube, ect that I think they say it sometimes because its more mainstream. My daughters feelings on it ended up stemming from a deep caring feeling for her best friend. She assumed that it was what love must feel like. She later explained that she loves her friend but doesn’t LOVE her friend. I think at that age they’re too young to know what love is, no matter the gender, but they see it everywhere. Parents, friends parents, older siblings, ect… i think its normal to think you’re in love with someone at that age. Only later in life do you realize love and crushes are totally different
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The best thing you can do is accept or she didn’t change he still the same person just love her all you
Just because you dont approve of her choice
Don’t mean you dont love her
Always let her know you are there for her and you don’t have to approve. Be fair with her but she also has to be fair with your way of thinking and feeling
My daughter had been saying that for years but has not sexually been with a Male or female I sat down with her and had a talk with her. She finds that she is attracted to woman because they are pretty but she has crushes on boys she is now 15 and she has changed her mind about the girls. I just told her that even i find that some females are beautiful and stuff but i have no desire to be with another female in that way. I told her I support her either way and she came to the conclusion that she is in fact not lesbian or bisexual. I guess what I am saying is just sit down and have a talk with her. Yes it is weird but communication is key.
I was around the same age when I knew I wasn’t straight but I didn’t come out for a long time due to unsupportive parents who claim it was a phase because I married a man. Just let her know that you support her and that you’re there for her. Also self educate so you can gain a personal understanding and if she has questions you might be able to answer them. It will help make it less awkward and show that you really are supportive. Please for your daughters sake do not tell her it is a phase or try to enforce a different mindset, counseling, or any religious things that will tell her what she is saying is a lie or you don’t believe her. Even if it turns out later that it was more experimental it will weigh on her and ruin your relationship with her. And if it does not change she will grow to hate herself and you will be inflicting a lot of mental trauma for her to deal with for many years not to mention it will kill any good relationship you have with eachother because she will no longer trust
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You are amazing! I give you so much credit for reaching out and asking!!! I think with all your love and support she is going to be just as amazing as her mom
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Ler her lead the way. She is still young and exploring. She has these feelings now that may or may not change. Presuring her will only push her against you. As long as you love her and listen when she needs you she will make the desicion that is right for her, straight, bi or gay.
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You should let her know that you will always love her, and also let her know that God made her who she is and he never makes a mistake. She is too young to make a decision like that anyway
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You’re the best mummy ever. Xxxxx xxxxxx. You’re doing the right thing just here asking when you don’t understand and being so beautiful and open. Xxxxxxx
One of my grandsons wanted to wear a red ball gown in Kindergarten when the kids were playing dress up. Kids were laughing. and his Teacher. God Bless her, said wear what you want to wear!! He’s almost 19 now and GAY! We love him, and are blessed to have him in our family!!
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People that I have talked to did tell me that they knew very young. Other people I figured but it was hard for them to admit it to themselves.
…the best way (in my opinion) is to acknowledge it, then move on to life…
I think it’s important to let your children know that you are there to support them no matter what.
Tell her no matter what you will support her and love her. Also tell her that you will pray for her to do Gods will
She is too young to even know, and these days there is such a push to be gay. Praying she figures life out soon.
At 11 years old she shouldn’t be worried about if she’s bisexual or not she should be playing with Barbies and riding her bike kids nowadays grow up too fast and at 11 years old she shouldn’t even be worried about sex
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I’m sorry but reading some of these comments are horrifying!! “Let an 11 yr old lead the way.” Are you for real?? My heart goes out to you! Praying for your family!!
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My step son is gay. He’s known since he was little that he likes boys. He wears make up(I buy it for him). I have had the talk with him. I’m 100% supportive. If he has questions I do my best to answer them.
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Mine did @18…she 31 now
.still not use to it …but I love my daughter…u don’t have to like it …just accept it …
Love and support her no matter what
11 is a little young
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Just be her listening ear. Support her. Allow her to talk.
Way to young to make that decision
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Sometimes you can tell during their younger years. I watched a young man grow up into a wonderful gay man. His mother had no clue till he told her, she didn’t understand why,but she finally accepted it. So just accept them for who they are and love them. You are doing everything right.
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Has never bothered me my kids are mine no matter what
11 yr olds do not think of this.
geeee
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I knew when I was that age that I was gay. Support her and love her because she’ll guide you. Be flattered she shared this because it shows she trust you.
For some reason this day and age its “cool” for them to be gay or bisexual…my daughter who is 11 came out to me…which I didn’t care her uncle my brother is gay i have lots of freinds who are gay but I’m almost positive it’s just a phase… she is about to be 12 and shes no longer gay… just love her and be there for her no matter what…they dont honestly know at this age what they like and dont…
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Supporting homosexuality in any form is going against God. He should come before your child. You should love your child and support her , but not accept her being bisexual. The world/the flesh has her believing she’s is bisexual.
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First concern for me to address would be why is an 11 year old concerned about “sexually orienting” with anyone, male or female? She’s eleven years old. Eleven.
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Damn people don’t you realize that girls are going thru puberty earlier and earlier now days! And age 11 is pretty common to be asking questions and needing support from there family! Hell they teach sex ed in the 4th,5th and 6th grade! And tbh it’s more common nowadays then when i was younger! So don’t be so judgemental about the girl’s age! All the mom wanted was some advice!
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11??? Tell her to not worry about sex and get her education done
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I don’t have any bi or gay children but if I did, I would love them no matter what. I told them all this at a young age, around 10. Sexual issues were just starting to be discussed. They thought I was crazy. I think you are doing what you need to. She knows you love her no matter what. As long as she feels comfortable talking to you and she has your support, I think she will be fine. I know it means a lot knowing that you will always be there for her. Blessings to you both❤
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This is what I call bi-curiouse. It’s a phase. That dosnt mean she isnt bi or gay. It just means shes open to be that way and she is in the mind set of wanting to explore what it would be like to have a girlfriend. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it dosnt. Shes not bi. Shes curiouse. And when she gets a little older when she’s gone through some more experiences she will be able to make the decision if she is bi gay or strait. Honestly. In this age. You like what you like through experiences. She’ll be able to tell you more as she experiences things. Just listen and hype her up.
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Its a phase she is going thru, to young to even know how to feel about being a lesbian.
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Yes, kids know. I knew I was bi when I was 9. My aunt knew she was gay when she was even younger than I was. Kids know themselves better than anyone else.
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Hoe does a 11 year old fcking know about that
Watching to much tiktok those kids
Just support her and be there.
Seek.professional.counsel
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My bonus daughter came out to her dad and I about 4 months ago. My only “advice” would be listen. Kids are funny in the way they find ways to talk about things that are important. They do t always come right out and say they need to talk. Some of the most important conversations we’ve had have started with silly conversations. This is all new for her too. Knowing she can talk to you at any time about anything is huge for LGTBQ youth.
Just stress that you love her, and support her, no matter who she chooses. Let her pick her own path in life. That may not be the path you want/wanted her to follow, but SHE has to pick her own path in life. Let her know that you love her very much, and no matter what, she will always be your daughter. LOVE HER FIRST. Good luck and God bless.
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I agree with Jessie Hughes. My kids are older and I’m an 80’s kid so alot of people didn’t really just come out but being around kids from your daughters age up into kids in they’re 20’s alot are just not sure what they want. I’ve seen some go back and forth and then in they’re 20’s be like I’m definitely bisexual, or I’m gay or I’m hetrosexual. Just be supportive, listen and in my experience don’t push the issue. When she’s ready to talk more about it or answer your questions she’ll do it and it will be more comfortable for her on her terms this way.
11 is a little young I feel. I would go along with her, don’t even try explaining what you might feel about her age. Perhaps she’s correct. I would just let her know that you support her decision and always will. Assure her that she can come to you with any queries or problems she may have and then read as much as you can about the subject. Unless you are already very well-informed. Good luck.
Love her and support her as you always have…be open and 100% honest with each other. And just make sure she knows no matter what she’s your baby and you got her back and that will never ever change!
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My 16 year old daughter came out to me about a month ago. It was such a shock and took me and her dad by surprise. After thinking long and hard about how hard it must have been for her this whole time keeping it a secret we all sat down and talked. No judgment, no pointing fingers just open minds and hugs. Good luck on a new journey of your daughter and her identity.
You love and support her! My daughter come out last year she’s now 13 I respect her for who she is and for trusting me and loving me enough to tell me
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Yes they can know, I did. I honestly didn’t understand it and was confused and scared shitless because it was such a taboo in my upbringing and it wasn’t until my 20s I felt comfortable enough to acknowledge it. So Id think just letting her know that’s wonderful, you support her (say so) and let her know that whether she brings home a boyfriend or girlfriend all that matters to you is that they are a good person that treats her right and that you’re glad she felt comfortable enough to share her truth with you and then go ahead and educate yourself about safe sex for both sexes so if she has questions she can come to you and then let her know you researched and if she has questions she can ask you- and that if you dont know in the moment you promise to find out for her. I recommend joining your local PFLAG as well 
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My granddaughter did the same thing- now some 5 years later she is in a happy relationship with boy-kids grow, they change. She may keep the same sexual preferences, but at the end of the day- they belong to us and we love them no matter who they love
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Let her be. It’s not a big deal. Both of my girls are bi, and one knew in 1st grade she liked boys and girls and it’s not a big deal. Sometimes she has a girlfriend. Sometimes she has a boyfriend. She’s 13 and it’s all fine.
My 11 yr old came out a few months ago i just let her know no matter what i love her and will always be their for her no matter what and as long as she is doing it because thats what she feels and not because her friends say they are
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I knew early but didn’t come out until I was 16. I was told it didn’t matter who I loved, as long as I was happy and safe, it didn’t matter. Just tell her that. It’ll mean the world to her. If you have any further questions, my inbox is always open.
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My feelings are my 12 year old daughter can be bisexual as long as she is not sexually active. She’s too young for the emotional ramifications.
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I know we’re supposed to be supportive and everything but when they want to use it as a way to get permission to date that’s where I draw the line. I told my daughter I don’t care if its a boy or a girl she is not allowed to date… She said I was homophobic???
I knew I was bi sexual by 12 years old. And by 14 I came out to my mother. Even when your young you know. Just like I’m sure as a little girl you probably had crushes on boys. It’s the same thing.
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Yep just like you knew you liked the sex you liked so does she. Just be there to listen and continue to love her as you always have. Be open and welcoming to who she chooses to date when that comes about it
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Just listen and do your best to guide. Your opinion and judgment aren’t going to help.Shes young and kids these days have a lot of confusing issues.
How does an eleven year old even know what that is? You are the reason, you should be thrased with a whip
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My son knew. But I also knew long before he told me
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my brother came out (gay) at 17, I believe it was. to be honest it’s easier to just go with the flow of it all, it will work itself out. thank you for supporting her either way, that says alot about you and your mothering traits! but yes you can over support them and then they feel like you are being fake about support, so just go with the flow and continue to love them and make everything as normal as it was prior to the confession. hope this helps
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Hey. My daughter is a Stud. Just love her and be there. Watching her speak matter of factly about being gay helped me come out as bi so 🤷
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I came out at 10. My family turned me into the black sheep and never believed anyghing i said after that. So, from a bisexual daughter, thank you for being supportive to your own. All i ever wanted was for it to be acknowledged and told to be with who makes me happy. Maybe some dating advice when the timing is right, help with formulating words for judgemental people, and a very accepting shoulder.
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I love that your daughter feels so comfortable with you to share. That must have been really hard for her to do, so just give her support and love. Let her know you’re there if need her!
Just treat her as you always have and answer any questions she has. If you don’t know the answer say lets research it together.
say congratulations and don’t make her feel like it’s not normal!
If she’s happy that’s all that matters