I have a 6 year old daughter. She asks to spend the night with my parents just about EVERY night. They normally let her if she asks, or they ask if she wants to. She will go through phases where she doesn’t want to go over anyone’s house and just wants to stay home. But, it hurts my feelings when she’s constantly asking to spend the night with my parents
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Awe don’t be sad they will come around one day! My oldest hates for me to walk next to him in school or attend anything 
your fortunate to have parents who adore your baby and your daughter to love your parents and takes her in anytime!
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Don’t take It personally,It’s a phase,let Her enjoy the riches of being with your folks.You’re her rock!
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To them, it’s like a vacation! Somewhere new, exciting. Let them! Enjoy some time off 
My oldest 2 were always at different grands homes. Let her enjoy it. However I’d maybe plan yall some special time together
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Take it as a blessing to have some time to yourself, sometimes we all just like to be in a different environment. My kids would live at my mums if I’d let them (and if she would haha) and usually they really enjoy having all of the attention over there so it makes sense they’d enjoy it so much. I wouldn’t take it personally at all xx
You’re her mom and she will always love you. Let that baby get that precious grandparent time. I would do anything for my kids to be able to have a sleep over with my mom again. That bond is so good for both the kids and the Grandparents
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I love letting my 8 year old spend time at grandparents. Gives me a small break and she gets to have an invaluable bond with them
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Enjoy the bond she has w your parents. I use to love going to my grandmas house when I was younger. When I got older & was being a bratty teenager my grandma was my safe place to go to get away. It didn’t mean I loved my parents any less. When I grew up & had kids of my own I wanted them to have that bond w my parents, it was harder cuz my parents lived out of state but they still were able to have it. It’s a great thing
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Enjoy the break , it won’t last forever . It doesn’t mean she likes them better , it’s probably fun and they are forming a bond that she will remember for the rest of her life .
At her age how fun to spend time with grand parents!! Soon school snd sports will fill up her spare time! It is wonderful for them and they are giving you a moment too!!
I always wanted to stay with my grandparents also it is a kid thing
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You’re so blessed to have your child have this… 
Let them soak up as much time as possible while they have it.
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my in-laws live about 20 steps from me, in the same yard, my kids are over there all the time and the little stays the night about once a month, I don’t even care😂 they come and go and i love it
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I used to do this every night and I love my mama, it’s just something about them grandparents. Mine are my bestfriends to this day, so is my mom.
I always loved going to my grandparents on the weekends. I would even spend the whole summer there while on summer vacation. There were more kids in their neighborhood, a pool, playground and tire swings. My grandpa made his property heaven for his grandkids. And it was just a safe place for me whenever I needed it.
I’m sure my mom felt the same way you do, but she never stopped letting me go. I live across the country from my family now, and I wish my daughter could spend even one night with her Grammy and pappy. Having a village is amazing!
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One day they won’t be there and all she’ll have are these memories. Don’t take it personally. You’ll get your time with her.
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I’m a nana to a six year old.
She is with me and my husband almost always….
But when she wants her mommy or daddy or other grandma I let them know and they take her. 
I enjoy my time with her but love my breaks now and then.
It can get overwhelming
It’s normal. They have more freedom at their grandparents. Its just how it is. Lol
Let your parents enjoy her, trust me when she gets older she’s gonna want to be home or with her friends. I have a 15 yr old and a almost 13 yr old they aways wanted to be with me not no more they are teenagers now. but I still have I still have my 7 yr old and 9 yr old that’s not gonna last very long so let grampa and grama enjoy they’re time with her
My grandsons always wanted to stay at my house, and they did most friday nights and saturday days… they had a nice home and very good parents, but o how much fun it was at grandma and grandpas.
Really? Encourage that relationship!! Grandparents teach so much and offer so much. Your daughter absolutely loves you!! Grandparents likely won’t be here as long as you will Mama so allow the time now so those stories and memories can be shared.
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My 9 year old counts down until he can go to my parents… it hurts, I get it
That’s normal at that age. My grandson is 6 and is preferring to spend more time with his friends 
that’s ok I just miss him .
You are allowed to feel like your feelings are hurt. I’ve been there. Just remember that your kid’s grandparents won’t be there forever and they need to create a bond and memories now.
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I say let her have that bond with grandma it’s not that she doesn’t love you. If I. Was you I would be using this time to do what mom wants to do without any kids so it really works out for the both of you.
My daughter would live with my mom if she could, and I know it’s nothing personal on her end. It’s obvious your parents are some of her favorite people… Let her foster that. 
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Your need to understand something. So many families don’t have the treasure of having grandparents around. It’s just the parents and the children. Well, first of all, share your rules with your parents (tv time, phones, reading, etc., and tell them how it would mean so much to you that they partner with you and follow them… at least the more important ones that help shape values and morals. I grew up with hundreds of extended family and 2 sets of grandparents in my life. Having them filled my life with a treasure of memories that I shall treasure forever. Your parents are the link to your family’s history and traditions and life’s past. They fill your child’s soul with stories and experiences that are valuable yet not present in so many households. Not only that…your child, spending time with them, contributes to their good health and tendency to live longer… they give each other love and joy. They need each other. You are worried and jealous of a precious gift that you should embrace because others…most others, yearn for it.
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That’s because grandparents spoil them. Ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner! My kid is the same way.
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Let her go it’s memories your daughter will cherish for the rest of her life !!! what I would give to have one more day with my grandma:heart:
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While mom is great, nanny and poppy are cooler 
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All jokes aside - my son has a very strong bond with his nanny and poppy, just as strong as with me. They feel the same for him.
It’s a huge positive. I am thankfully daily fore that bond.
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Samantha Hodges i hope Alayna is like this , wanting to stay at Gigis !
Does her grandparents take a lot of time to play with he and to do things she likes to do.? I love going to my grandparents a lot becuase they always were so happy to see me. Let her spend as much time with them as she likes and you should to becuase there will be a day where you want to see them but they won’t be around
Let her spend the time with grandma. I absolutely adored my nanny. I’m almost 30 & I still crave her voice her touch her smell I lost her 5 years ago she was my most favourite person in the world I was just drawn to her. Don’t feel upset about it she’s just a child they’re driven by there feelings, from the sounds you sound like a brilliant mother so don’t let it get you down she is just very lucky to have such awesome grandparents! Xxxxx
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I don’t think she hates you at all, my son has a strong bond with his grandma too. Remember you are probably similar to your mom in some ways so if she loves your mom she definitely loves you!! I think grandparents are able to give our kids more undivided attention, as parents we are so busy and overloaded with stress with work and such so she probably just enjoys getting all that attention and spoiling and I’m positive she loves spending time with you too!
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My son spends weekends with his grandma. She has always been his person 
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Reframe the situation! You want them to be close. Not every night close but maybe ask your folks how often works for them and then put those visits on a big calendar on the fridge. You can also sit down with her yourself and put some fun dates on there. Playdates with friends and you/other parents at the park; look and see if there are kid events happening locally like a street fair or summer day camp or a special mommy and me date to a movie and lunch. We loved those when we were little. Go on a picnic to the lake or river. Go for a nature walk. 
And please don’t take it personally. It’s not. Enjoy your child free breaks. Schedule a catch up w a friend. A spa day, meal out etc. It’s good for your child to have a mommy that has a life, within reason of course
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My 10 yr old is going to my moms for a week she loves getting that time and its summer
My children were like that with my parents. They loved the country, my parents’ home. My parents were such a big help to me. 
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My daughter was the same way with my Mom. Unless we had something special planned, I would let her go-every single time. My daughter is an adult now and is still very close to my parents. 
The bond between grandparents and grandchildren is something special. Be glad she’s got that bind. Some kids and grandparents are forbidden that bond. Let her enjoy it cuz one day it will be gone
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My be she misses them… let her go as much as she wants… but let them know about it…I bet it’s a good laugh for them…
What I wouldn’t give to see and spend the night with my grandparents again. Let her enjoy them while they’re still with us.
Let her go!!! She’s busy making memories Mama. Someday her G&G won’t be around… let her soak in allll the time with them she wants to have.🩷
My daughter 7 loves sleeping over by her grandparents house and will ask all the time. A lot of it has to do with them spoiling her. Then she’ll get the phone or tablet for hours there. Here she only gets 1 hour of play time. Then she gets to eat what she wants. Here that’s not how it goes.
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She doesn’t hate you💗 I was the same way growing up! I was fortunate enough to live across the street from mine and was there every single day. I moved in with them when I went to college, worked with my grandma and had the best relationship with them! When I lost my grandparents I lost my world (my parents had already been deceased) I’d give anything to spend a night at their house again.
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It’s amazing that she wants to spend time with gram , because it gives them a bond & it’ll help her with memories what they did together.
I LOVED being with my grandparents and I am still fortunate to have my 98 year old grandmother. Let her stay.
Grandparents are just fun
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I would give Anything for my daughter to spend time with my mom. Unfortunately, she left us b4 my child was born.
They won’t be here forever, let her enjoy them while she can.
Bahaha my 7 year old wants to stay at gramma and papas every single day and night lol. He also tells me he loves them more then me. Lol but the truth is he is a spoiled little brat and runs their house lol that’s why he wants to be with them all the time lol
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My 4 year old son did this for awhile and it bothered me at first until I saw how spoiled he was with them. He got a little burnt out after awhile and he’s been choosing to stay home this week. I’m just glad I have that support because I didn’t have that with my oldest. I had to do it all alone with him.
I’m 36 years old and I would give anything to have a sleepover at my Grandma’s house again. I let my 12 year old go over to my parents house whenever she wants to. Grandparents, unfortunately, only have a very limited time with their grandbabies. My maternal grandmother passed away one month before I turned 4 years old. I don’t really have any memories of her. I want my daughter to have amazing memories with my mom. They have so much fun together. My mom will come over to our house during the day while I’m working (I work from home) and she takes my daughter shopping and out to lunch and does all sorts of fun stuff with her. My parents are even taking my daughter out west in about two months to see Mount Rushmore and Yellowstone National Park and all that fun stuff out west.
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Be thankful she has people who look for her ! And want to spend time with her!
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It’s not that she dislikes you it’s that she loves to spend time with her grandparents. They probably spoil her while she’s there. My MIL lives right next door and my son (5) always wants to spend the night there. He also always asks to spend the night at my mom’s one town over which he usually gets to do once a month. Now I used to think my son didn’t love us because when he was around 3 he would CRY every-time he came home from my mom’s just because he didn’t want to come home…fortunately, he’s passed that stage but still constantly asks to spend the night there. Just be glad she has that bond with them.
Let her. One day they won’t be around for her to have the option. I wish my boys did but unfortunately both of my parents passed away. Let her grandparents enjoy her as well they only have so much time to do so
My son does the same thing. I think it’s where Grandparents get to be more fun and we as parents have to be more strict.
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I loved staying at my grandparents house when I was younger. It was more fun than my house
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You are an adult. 100% capable of dealing with emotions. (Of course mental illnesses are normal but as an adult you can deal with emotions by choosing to seak help. If you even have any emotional or mental illnesses) Kids are not capable, or dealing with emotional issues. Not saying she has one. But make sure anything you go through with your kid… is about your kid and not you. There are a lot of “I’s” in this post. Make it about your kid. Find out why she feels more comfy with grand parents. Could be something as simple as they baby her and you as her mom as teaching her to be a 6 year old. A lot of grandparents have a hard time making their grandkids responsible. They baby them. Maybe she gets away with a lot of just simply doesn’t have to be responsible. Unless there is obvious issues in your home. I am certain it’s not about YOU and more about HER and how she feels. Kids that age are very egocentric. They are made that way. It’s developmentally appropriate. They are made to consider only themselves for the first 7,8,9 years of their lives. Ensure that you are not making it about you and how you feel. If you are a good normal mother, it’s not about you, or her feelings towards you. My kids (I have 4!) world probably want to spend the night away everyday if they could too. At home they have rules and and responsibilities, and chores and structure and routine, and BOUNDARIES. That’s how you create a good, successful, child, into adult. If they got to Gmas, or uncles or aunties, which they do often, they don’t have those same rules. So of course they would want to go everyday if they could. But all of us have boundaries. School nights are a solid no. And just because they ask doesn’t mean it’s a yes. Just say no
Sometimes. And set boundaries with your parents. Ask ME FIRST. It’s not up to the child if she wants to spend the night. It’s up
To me as her mother. Bottom line. I am SURE it’s not about you! If you care enough to post in a mom group… I feel you are caring enough to be raising your kid right. I am sure it’s not you.
My kids the same way and they are 4 and 2! My parents said I was the Dave way as a kid. I never wanted to come home and it was always about my grandparents. Don’t get offended mama, all kids do it! enjoy your alone time!!
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I wish my daughters grandparents asked for sleepovers. They never babysat or had sleepovers. She’s 17 and they took her for lunch two weeks ago.
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Wow I drove 800 miles round trip to get 4 of my grandbabies for the summer. Be glad that they have that bond.
I spent the majority of my early years with my grandparents. I never wanted to be home. I love my parents but I think I loved my grandparents more. My mom was very authoritative and ran a super tight ship at home that made it unpleasant for me.
My daughter NEVER wanted/wants to be home. Grandmas, aunties, friends houses. She’s been dubbed the feral child. She’s really just a people person. She’s 14 now and hasn’t grown out of it.
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Grandparent is home away from home, grama got the goodies, the stories to tell, their less strict than the parents, it’s nothing against you but grandparents are limited here on earth as well be blessed they get to have such a relationship (:
My kiddos lost their pop-pop March of this year!
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I remember growing up I would LIVE at my grandparents house over the summer not kidding I’d probably be home maybe twice a week?
Honestly my grandma taught me how to stitch work. And me and my garendparents would watch who wants to be a millionaire in the evenings.
I didn’t hate my parents by any means.
It’s just something about being at your grandparents house that feels good.
I’ll forever miss it.
But waking up in the mornings to make pancakes with my grandma and my grandpa recording on his video camera is something I’ll never forget. they did good.
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Please don’t take offense… you raised her with enough love that she isn’t afraid to leave you. Great job!!
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Its simple, parents are everyday with rules, structure, and the stress of raising a family, grandparents are upstream of much of that, everythings paid off and the pace of life is slower so they generally have a more laid back environment full of love and attention, its very comforting to children
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Children spending time with their grandparents also teaches them humility and to respect and care for the elderly, sick and disabled. What a gift for a child.
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Im lucky if i get a complete week with my daughter. She likes to take turns between her grandparents and her aunt. She just likes to go on adventures thats the way i see it:rofl:
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I wish my son had this option. Let her spend time with her grandparents… (My mother isn’t deceased… She just doesn’t care)
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It’s a good thing, good for grandma and grandpa, mom and Dad and for the little ones. My grandchildren helps me thru a difficult time in my life after I lost my husband. She loves you too.
Seriously? They want time and she enjoys time with them clearly
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I’d send her quick fast and in a hurry…
My 5 year old son wants to have a sleep over with my parents every night too he just loves his grandma and grandma (and their puppy) lol
I don’t think it’s about you. I think it’s her love for them. I personally laugh and love his love for them. Even when he’s crying cause I’m making him go home with me 
cause yes, he’ll totally have some tantrums about it lol
Don’t take it personal mama. Try to cherish the thankfulness in that she has them
Grandparents are more fun and they spoil the grandchildren.
My son was like that. Let her. My son and his Grammy was the best of friends. She passed away when he was 10 he’s almost 23 now.
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My kids love being at their grandparents… If they wanted to if let them stay for the summer… Plus they live on a ranch…
I was like that when I was young but that’s because my brother and sister use to pick on me. But now I have kids and they would go with my sister every chance they get my youngest is 12 now and still goes and stays for weeks at a time.
I spent a lot of time with my Baba. There is a bond between grandparents and grandchildren. I miss my Baba so much but I still hold her dear in my heart. I loved my mom too. She will get older and develop more interests. Her time will be more limited. Let them have this.
I’m a Grandma of 4. ( My oldest is 24, my youngest is 8) #1- I wish I could have a night off of my own kids so enjoy it! #2 - My oldest Granddaughter is 5 and she constantly wants to be with me. My thoughts are that it definitely isn’t home. It’s a different environment from the normal. And at Gigi’s house that little girl can do no wrong. 
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& my gram always said “ what happens at grams house stays at grams house “
That doesn’t mean that she hates you at all , you should be enjoying that little time to focus on you and rest
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Grandparents are more fun than parents that’s why. She doesnt hate you.
Seems like you answered your own question toward the end… You said she goes through phases where she just wants to stay home, I don’t think it has to do with you at all
my 6 year old son is the exact same way. is actually over there right now & has been for the last couple nights. they have a lot less rules, he doesn’t get reprimanded, doesn’t have to bicker with his little sister, no chores over there & my son has my mom or dads phone in his hand whenever he wants for as long as he wants watching his youtube videos so it makes sense why he’d wanna be over there. he’s jokingly even asked if my parents could adopt him which hurt my feelings for sure but i just remind myself how much i loved spending tons of time with my grandparents and how much i treasure those memories now that i’m an adult especially since i recently lost two of them.
she doesn’t hate you, just loves her grandparents! i know it’s hard, but don’t let it hurt your feelings, she will cherish those memories when she’s older. 
My daughter is 8 and now that school is out for the summer, she never wants to be home, she is always asking to stay somewhere, so she is usually staying with her aunt or uncle and I’ll see her eventually. I know she loves us but she’s a kid and she has more fun with them anyways lol
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This is normal and she enjoying bonding time wirh your parents i spent at leat 2/3 week nights with my gran children and I love it wouldn’t have it any other way you’ll find as your child grows older that will be her go to place away from home you should be happy she has a great relationship with her granparents not of alot of kids have them or have gran parents that even bother enjoy it xx
Maybe grandma let’s her do things you won’t. Ask her why she wants to spend so much time there.
my 2 year old loves his Nana if she is around he hes like mom who lol i think this is normal i loved staying with my Meme when i was a kid cyz she spoiled me rotten lol
My grandkids always want to stay with me. We are very close and none of the parents have a problem with this. In fact they know that the more people doting and loving on the kids makes for a well rounded child. They will have only so much time with them. They don’t love you any less it’s just a different relationship with the grandparents. We are older and are calmer with a better understanding of how to influence them. On top of it all they get away with some stuff you should never know about. I’ve seen first hand how devastating it is for them to lose one of the grandparents. I had to learn to allow them to still do the things grandpa let them get away with. Believe me safety was always first but they need guidance to explore without a parent always saying no.
*****stares in Mama who hasn’t had a break in 4 years ******
Think about it. When you’re at grandma’s house, you get fed the best goodies, get to watch whatever you want on tv, & you generally don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. No bedtime, no chores. She’s just living her best life, & grandparents are not the ones to tell her no, & if you’re not telling her no, she’s got her whole world wired. No point in changing. You’re mom. You’re the one who has to make the changes and set the boundaries. Tell grandma, nothing against her, but you have come to feel that it’s best if sleepovers are reduced to two or three nights a week, simply due to you missing your child being at home. Explain how imperative her cooperation is in the situation, & then coordinate which nights sleepovers will be. Sit your daughter down, & explain the changes. She will almost certainly resist at first, but as long as you & grandma both stand your ground on the plan, your daughter will eventually become conditioned to it.
They give her sugar I guarantee it
Kids probably get spoiled with hardly any rules or responsibilities when they are with grandparents. Why wouldn’t they like it better with them than their own parents? I understand kids going with other family once in a while, but going all the time? Be a parent and take care of your kids!! If grandparents are constantly asking if your child wants to go there and don’t ask you first… that’s a big issue. You are the parent of your child(ren) not them. Just wait until they get into the stage of parents vs. grandparents. Guess who will win? It won’t be the parents. Set clear boundaries now about how often is enough and they only go when you’ve approved it BEFORE they ask your kid!! You’ll thank me later.
Lol girl my kiddo(5yrs old) asks me all the time if we can take a plane to go see Nana. She will run across the house,restaurant, parking lot even lol and pass everyone up for her Papa and Gma(my parents are divorced so she’s got 3 grandparents) at any family function. But trust and believe when she’s home she is SOO far up my butt I welcome to break so I can pee alone and is still struggling to sleep in her own rom the whole night. It’s not a bad thing. Kiddo doesn’t hate you.
My 7 year old son does too, I don’t mind though, I like the time alone and I never had grandparents so I’m happy he gets the chance, even if it’s just my mom. I’m also lucky to have someone willing to take him. A lot of people do parenting alone.
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I have 6 grandchildren and 1st grandson came to stay with me every other weekend I lived 2 hrs away I would get him after work on friday and take him home on sundayt… He even took vacations with me for a week at a time my 1st grandaughter comes to my house ALL the time every since she was born I had her on the weekends when I was off and to this day she will stay at my house more than her own… she is now 13 I have 2 grandchildren who live with me for the last 5 yrs. my other grandchildren come whenever they want I love having them here … Do i get tired YOU BET I DO… but they are getting older and soon they may not want to go to grandmas but I cherish the times that they do… So no she doesnt hate you Grandparents are special to her (and Im sure she gets away with alot more there lol) She knows mommy is there if and when she needs her… Let her make the memories…
She just loves her grandma and wants to spend as much time as she possibly can with her . I remember growing up I wanted nobody but my grandma . Grandmas are just special . Even now at 36 years old when I go visit home the only person I even want to see is my grandma lol . Not because I love anyone else less but because like I said grandma are just a different kind of special . I’m very lucky to still have mines .
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Girl like WTF. Go sit tf down with this post.
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