She seems two young for already two years in preschool.
Maybe sheās just not ready. Why not keep her home for this year and try again next year!!
Drop and leave. Donāt drag it out. She just started give her a chance to adjust. She will.
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The first time I put my daughter on the school bus she looked at me like I was abandoning her to wolves. Now sheās an independent 9 year old who went to overnight camp for the first time last summer. Sheāll grow out of it!
My youngest started crying and getting hysterical to the point of vomiting this year , that massive break during quarantine gave her anxiety about going back. I had to get help from the counselor, she even locked me out of the car when we got to the school. It took about two weeks and I got a stress ball for her to use and the most helpful was the distraction techniques the counselor taught me. Basically I completely ignore the fit and the fact weāre going to school all together, change the subject constantly and I never stop talking except to hear her replies. We only talk about things that make her happy roblox , my sisterās pug , her friends and just get her mind away from the stress sheās feeling. Encourage her to get her mind off of the bad feelings. I donāt know how you can incorporate this to when sheās actually at school. We have the counselor who routinely checks on her and if sheās tearing up takes her out of class to a relaxation room in her office for a break. Im blessed to have a school with these resources because I was overwhelmed and didnāt know what to do.
Itās ok she will get threw it If not have her do private
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Maybe sheās just not readyā¦ does she go everyday? Maybe switch to a part time schedule if itās available?
Maybe you could give her an object that she can hold or wear and make it smell like you
I would talk to her her and find out whatās wrong why is. She so upset and what would make it better ?
Are you allowed to volunteer in the classroom? Maybe stay the entire class 2-3 times, then 1/2 of the class 2-3 times then maybe 20 minutes, until you arenāt going in with her anymoreā¦
The question shouldnāt be flipped on you. Find out what the teacherās are doing to try and help her
Your child needs some serious help pull her out of school and get her into therapy
I used the Kissing Hand book for my boys and it worked
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Give her a small picture of you she can carry with her
Keep reassuring her that you will see her later. I like the picture idea. Talk about what you will do after school.
2 hours only for a four year old? Here its half day or full. But its normal
Give it two weeks. Guarantee sheāll calm down.
What does the teacher do to help
Pull her. Wrong school fit for her. Poor little one.
If you give in now, youāll give in forever.
Separation anxiety? Occupational therapy might help.
I never had a kid do this. Wow thatās sad. Poor kid
I donāt agree with the nonchalance of some answers. Children cry for a reason and the continuous day after day all class long crying is not normal. Is school the only place that you are leaving her for extended periods of time, Does she act like this any where else? She is extremely young but I would be concerned that there are self-esteem issues or bullying issues or even a thought of anxiety. Paying attention to the warning signs at this age may prevent preteen issues. Is that an extreme thought, yes it probably but I would rather be safe than sorry.
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I brought in bigger animal hand puppets and puppets I controlled with fishing line. Kids loved them.
My daughter cried at daycare drop off for 2 years straight, but never wanted to leave when I picked her up. Then she went to elementary and cried everyday for TK and a month in Kinder and then one day she just didnāt cry and hasnāt since at drop off, sheās 3rd grade now.
Hi there! Pre-K teacher here 
Itās a good idea to develop a routine. One of my parents would give and say 1 hug, 1 kiss and ālove you and see you laterā This can happen any time so she gets used to it in different settings and that you always come back. Ask if she can have a lovey or a family picture at school. My families also traced their hands and we put them in our students cubbies so they could go touch their momma/ daddyās hands when they missed them. Hang in there momma!
4 year old preschool teacher here. This is normal behavior. Especially when she has only been two days. We see 4 year olds who are fully potty trained and see such big kids but they are truly still little. When this happens in my class we recommend reading books at home like Llama misses Momma and parents talking positive about school constantly. Letting them pick out their clothes in the morning to show to their friends (most kids this age love character tees). I would assume her teachers are giving her lots of love and extra snuggles. She will get over this and come to love school. I truly believe every child should attend at least a small program to prepare for Kindergarten. Simple things like standing in line and letter recognition is what is expected going into K. Good luck and remember this to shall pass!
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Occupational therapy 
Call her pediatrician. They might help. Call the principal. They might help
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Is the school willing for you to shadow for a day so it does seem like such a scary place because I went through it with my mom, or if the have a school volunteer that can stay with her consistently until she is more comfortable.
Maybe a different preschool? Sometimes you need to find the right fit.
Maam shes to young to go .i did not send mine until they wrer 5.i taught them colors abc and how to write thier names
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Sounds like separation anxiety
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Can you not go into the class with her for an hour or so till she gets used to it
My son was like that in kindergarten. He cried for the first week or so. Then an amazing little boy named Madon befriended him. He helped my son overcome his fear. By the second semester my son was all smiles and no longer crying. It will pass I promise. Itās overwhelming I know.
My youngest cried at preschool, I talked to the teacher and made arrangements to pick her up early for a couple weeks. The 1st week I only left her for an 1hr and 15min, the next week I left her for an 1hr and 30min, the 3rd week I left her for close to 2 hours and by the 4th week she was excited to go to school, had stopped crying and stayed the whole 2hrs and 30min. This really helped a lot and she didnāt cry that much at all when she went to PreK and then kindergarten. Sheās in 1st grade this year, is younger, wonāt be 6 for a week and I was worried after being home for the last 6 months and starting school this year but sheās done great, no tears and loves school.
Perhaps prepared every morning, so she has some control. Let her choose her clothes, breakfast, pack her bagā¦sometimes getting her to be part of the preparation process helps her realise she is in charge of something during the day
I use an oil called steady for my daughterā¦ we have a morning routineā¦ it involves getting up getting dressed teeth hair pack the book bag shoes coat and out the doorā¦ we take the long way so she has a bit of time, she does her chapstick and then puts her steady oil on we pull in parking lot get out i walk her to the door and the same person is waiting for her everyday this year its so much better, she has had no tearsā¦
My daughter had a similar problem. I ended up buy a necklace. I wear it whenever she is home with me and then I put it on her in the morning before school. I told her that when I wear it it soaks up my love so when she is wearing it she is carrying my love with her. She has never had another crying day at school.
I used the sticker game as I called it . I would give my kids a sticker for getting dressed and eating breakfast , for walking in to school , I would ask the teachers to reward them for anything and everything with a sticker and they would come home with a jumper full of stickers . If they had a good number at the end of the week they had a small reward . It didnāt totally stop the anxiety and tears , but it helped .
Our nervous energy does get picked by the childā¦ maybe ā¦ a neutral helper can interject ā¦ my sister ā¦ n ā¦ others helped with the transition. ā¦ I asked my daughter and son to draw me a picture ā¦ of a happy moment in school after school ā¦ practiced days of the week to help them with first few days ā¦ weather ā¦ numbers ā¦ so they can take an interestā¦
My son cried for months
Sheās not ready I wouldnāt leave my 4 year old crying at school for 2 hours, of course sheās not going to eat, sheās literally sick to her stomach