At age 12 they are able to choose but you do have to go to Court and then the judge will have the final say.
Talk to the father and explain it. Maybe he can speak to the new family and set aside one on one time for her and him
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This happened to me as a child, she is most likely feeling left out because her dad is spending more time with his new family and not her. You need to tell her father how she is feeling and maybe do some family counseling with them both. Encourage her to voice her feelings so everyone knows but also let her know that you’ll always be there for her.
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Shouldn’t it be her choice it she wants to go or not? Shes old enough to decide…
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If it’s safe, she might need to learn how to share, can’t always be about her!
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Let the courts know!!! That she feels this way!!! They can change it for her, that’s not cool for her to be miserable, look into what’s going on!!! In this, just to be safe!!! Kids dont say there miserable for nothing!!!
You need to tell him how she is feeling. He needs to know. I am sure he wouldn’t want her feeling so bad. He needs to know.
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I would talk to her and dad.
Might find out why she does not want to go. Could be a reason.
My daughter had the same problem with my granddaughter. She is legally bound by the law. You need to all sit down and open up the round table for big discussion.
I had the same problem growing up. It got to the point where I told my mom I wasnt going and she never made me. But when I did want to go she would let me. But you do need to sit down and have a talk with the father and the stepmom. I wished my mom would have because it was my half sister and my stepmom I didnt get along with. And if they didnt like something I was doing they wouldnt stop nagging at my dad until he would get onto me.
When I was younger it was 12, my parents were divorced and i got to choose at 12 where i wanted to go and what not.
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She needs to tell him how she fills and y’all need to talk and explain things to her and work it out
There’s a legitimate REASON she doesn’t want to go. You need to have a heart to heart talk with her & find out the reason, then sit dad down & the three of you talk about it. If it’s a legitimate problem, he’ll do the right thing & let her choose to visit when the others aren’t there. Maybe counseling is needed. I came from a broken home & my dad let my stepmom keep him away from us. Now, I’m a stepmom who raised my stepdaughter, she chose to live with us @ 12. We did counseling for her bc she didn’t want to go to her mom’s bc of mental abuse. Good luck & God bless you!
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Counseling helps. Coping skills are learned.
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I think its like 12 or 13 for most states. I would try talking to her dad and explainging how she is feeling she either isnt getting enough attention or doesnt like having to share it. Which is understandable on her part.
I think she is old enough to say she doesn’t want to go bec she feels unwanted there.is he reasonable that u could talk to him and tell him how she feels?
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It sounds like she’s not happy cause she doesnt have daddy to herself anymore… No kid likes the new kids! She’ll get over it once she realizes they aren’t going anywhere!
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When my daughter said she didn’t want to go, I did not make her go. Why? Because there is a reason. Kids aren’t stupid, sometimes have better judgement than adults do. Listen to your child. Let him take you back to court if he has a problem. Divorce is never easy, good luck.
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Was 15 when my sister moved out of Pa to VA . Big that was around 40 yrs ago .
Record her saying she dosent want to go don’t force her we don’t want to kid hating you in the long run and it could more to why she dosent want to go over there