I was 14, I wasn’t in denile. I ruined a pair of awesome underwear. I was only embarrassed to go to the store woth my dad to pick up some hygiene products. My mom was busy cooking her famous meal that day for me because I became ‘a woman’ . How old is she? Not having the age included in this is hard on how to go about it. Rare cases, girls can get it at 10. Maybe she still wants to be a little girl.
Let the kids now make fun of her it’s apart of life and growing just know the difference between a few pickings and bullying
One of my granddaughters started at 12…she had a boyfriend at school & he found out she was menstruating so he started pressuring her for sex because she’s old enough (his excuse for pushing her). She’s in therapy over how he reacted when she said no…she has taken a vow of celebacy saving herself for marriage…so has her older sister. They have seen what their older cousins have been through in their teen years over sex & their beliefs are strong.
be aware of what she is learning in school, there are some schools that make being a girl as uncomfortable as possible. they encourage girls to think that they are born in the wrong body and that they are meant to be a boy. there are teachers and counselors who will let girls to consider being transgender and they won’t tell the parents. Suddenly, the girls want to dress like a boy, change her name and wants you to refer to her as a boy. And if you protest, they accuse you of being hostile or violent to your child.
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Let her wash her laundry. I’d also maybe invest in the period panties with the built in liners
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My concern is deeper than a lot of others here, and maybe it’s because I was abused myself, but is there any concern that she has been touched or molested in anyway, or anyone she is feeling threatened by? Knowing she is on that verge of womanhood, if there is a threat looming or already ongoing harassment or abuse might make her very resistant to these changes.
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My husband is a blessing.
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I saw where they made new underwear that has a liner built in so you dont need pads. Sorry I dont remember the name of them
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Get the period app on your phone so you know when to start talking with her each month. Have supplies handy.
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First how old is she?
How old is she please?
Just positive reinforcement and teach her over and over … it takes a while for them to learn
My advice. Let it happen. Thats something that she’ll have to deal with personally. Let her know that everything is still accessible and how to use which product. Maybe the menstrual cup would be an option? By the way hydrogen peroxide gets blood out of clothes for next time.
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That is a very strange behavior for a child old enough to have her menses. Assuming that she is not on the spectrum or anything of the sort I’d be less concerned about what she is doing and more concerned with why. Did something cause her to feel ashamed of her body and it’s functions? I would speak to her pediatrician and seek counseling.
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That girl was me:disappointed_relieved:
Please please be discreet. And when discussing it always use yourself as the example…fully understanding her modesty.
Such as nonchalantly saying “I want to remember to buy these new pads at the store for my period they look so soft”
Or go panty shopping for yourself together and make a comment “Ohhhh I need some new pantys my period ruined my favorite one”… expecting no reply or conversation.
Keep it simple.Make it seem so “ordinary”. Like buying coffee.
Put a pretty trash can in the bathroom with a closing lid. It will help with discretely disposing if pads…
Tiny windows of communication…
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I understand the name doesn’t always suit the discussion but it clearly says “get real mommy answers”. Maybe if you don’t like it you can ignore it or just go to a different group. I find it realy nice to have woman support woman regardless of the question as some woman don’t always have other people to help or ask these questions too.
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I remember having this book. The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised Edition (American Girl® Wellbeing): Schaefer, Valorie, Masse, Josee: 8601404233258: Amazon.com: Books
They now also make special underwear that are supposed to absorb everything here are the reviews
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Maybe it’s a sensory thing or if shes the first of her friends to get it and is scared to leak.
If possible and affordable why not but her the period panties that she can freebleed onto.
Definitely don’t punish, lecture or be negative about it.
She is new to this and needs to be taught how to respond appropriately
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Honestly just tell her this is normal that al girls get it at some stage she has to live with it she can’t keep binning clothes she needs to wear a pad change it every 2-3 hr there is no way round this it’s not nice if they are young getting it so to stop embarrassing moments were blood will seep through clothes for all to see she needs to wear a pad
Does she pick out her own supplies? Tampons may be preferable with a mini pad back up, pads are akin to a diaper for most.
Make her wash what she chooses, to dirty, accidents aside & pay to replace what becomes damaged, remove privilege’s, phone etc…
Hate to see her have some kind of a physc “label”
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I found it helpful to have a female she trusts that isn’t her mom talk to her about it. Another friend of hers is good too if you know one who has already had hers.
The whole bathroom situation is a problem when it comes to young girls starting there period ! They hope it goes away! And if they cant speak to there parents about it well there lies the problem!
I’ve encountered this issue in a child I know as well. She has had about 4 periods, has been spoken to by several adult women who care about her and 2 cousins she is close to. It’s quite gross to be honest. But concern for her mental wellbeing is the top issue for her parents of course. Free bleeding gets on more than just her clothes and even when you catch it and tell her to wear a pad you then have to tell her to change her pad throughout the day. Period panties would be nice but they are expensive and to have her wear them always still doesn’t address the issue of WHY is she in such denial and hiding it.
She seems to have no understanding of how unsanitary it is to have the blood not just on her clothes but her blankets and the places she hides the soiled clothes and wads of toilet tissue. Even though she has been told.
There is a bigger issue. But what??
I definitely sympathize and will follow this thread in hopes of reading helpful suggestions for the parents of the girl I know.
Express your concerns with the family physician then have them discuss the issue with your daughter. This maybe an issue of needing psychological help.
You could try period panties. A lot of young girls really like them.
Get her period underwear and replace all her underwear with them
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If it’s a sensory thing, there are bc options to cease them. I started one at 13 and didn’t have a period until I was almost 18 (it wasn’t due to sensory problems, but medical).
Explaining to her what is happening, different options such as pads, tampons, panty liners, menstrual cups, or freebleeding in appropriate garmets might help.
Sometimes, a preteen, they say they understand but cover it anyway (;
Try having an understanding, educational type, but blunt conversation with her about what is and what is not acceptable. Buy her the type she wants, try pads, try tampons, or even diva cups, you never know which products work for different ladies. They also make period panties if all of those fail. The trash can works too, but maybe extra baggies so can empty it herself and “no one has to know.” I also made my girls a make up bag to go when they started with an extra pair of panties, a baggie to bring a dirty home in and a few pads to keep in their school bag just in case. I told them if they felt weird taking the make up bag to the bathroom, go between classes and I’ll worry about the tardiness with the teachers later that way they would have the whole backpack in the bathroom with them an no one had to know.
Washable period pants! Tell her if she’d like to, she can wash them herself and show her how to use the machine x
Period underwear cant necessarily handle free bleeding especially if not changed often id take her to dr have them explain what can occur without proper hygiene and how she can get infection.
I saw some people said put her on the shot. If they are talking about depo, don’t do that. It affects everyone differently. I bled for 10 months everyday and after my last shot, I stopped bleeding after 6 months. Have you tried tampons? I never wore pads, because I couldn’t stand the feel of them. Maybe she doesn’t like how they feel? I understand punishing her for hiding the panties and what not, but try to be a little lenient during the beginning of it all.
Okay so i havent seen this on here yet. I cannot wear pads. They give me yeast infection like symptoms. As a full grown woman i use a period cup. Which obviously will not work for her, but before i used the cups, i used cloth pads. You can buy custom ones from online sellers that are AWESOME. they are so much more comfortable. Maybe she has an issue like i do and thats why shes choosing free bleeding. Check out Cloth Pads B/S/T or Cloth By Connor if you want to check them out. It could be a little expensive to start her up on cloth, but may be worth her not ruining her clothes
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Buy period underwear. I think they are called thinx? They soak up 2 tampns worth i think. You could always replace all of her underwear with those so that she only has the choice to wear those so no worries when she starts her period
Got my girls a book called “all you wanted to know about periods but we’re too afraid to ask “ it was brilliant and helped loads 
There is underwear specifically designed for periods. No leaks, no pads, no worries.
Teach her, how a tampon works. I’m 14 years older than my sister. I taught her over the phone. My stepdaughter started using them first thing. Also. All boxes come with instructions. If your to embarrassed to show her. Have her at least read the instructions. Remind her, it might not fit just right the first time. Just keep trying. Be prepared to waste some.
good luck!
Sit down. With her explain that this is happening because she is becoming a woman and this is natural and it happens every month .however we have to take extra care of our hygiene at this time of the month . show her the pads and how to apply them and how to properly dispose of them . wrap the used ones in tissue .explain that this a part of being a woman you are so proud of her because you know she will do a good job
Stock pads in her bathroom. Or a basket with lid if shared
Bathroom. Tell her it’s there. Tell her how to properly dispose of items. Tampons too once ready. Slender teen sizes now. Pass thin style now too.
Seems she’s just a private teen like many. Check basket for when she runs low. Also pack her pads in small zippered pouch for her backpack
How old is your daughter
They sell period underwear, where you don’t have to wear pads. Never had them but maybe you should try finding them.
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Knix is the name of those period underwater. Patience and support is what is needed now. Just let her know that once she accepts this, there are many ways to hide it if you deal with it properly. Keep an eye on her, if she is struggling with a normal bodily function then you should seek outside help.
I remember when I started my period I didn’t want to go to school but my mother said “You can’t stay home from school 5 days every month” your daughter is probably just scared bc it’s something new to her, she’ll get used to it eventually.