Okay I need some suggestions, my 6 year old has me lay in her bed with her until she goes to sleep but I literally can’t get out without her freaking out and waking up right away and if I do get out she comes to my bed every night at some point and I can’t handle much more, I don’t mind laying with her but now it’s getting harder and harder to get out when she literally wakes up no matter what. This has been going on for years but it’s gotten worse here lately.
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You just need to put her in her bed and walk away. No matter how many times you have to do it just keep doing it so she knows that you mean business. Don’t give into her. You have let this go on for far too long and now look where you are. You’re the parent!!!
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Your daughter has u trained well….she runs the show and she knows it specially at 6!! If u don’t like it stop letting her….u don’t have to mean about it but explain yourself explain what’s gonna happen know and why positive reinforcement
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It’ll change one of these days.
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Put her in bed give her a hug and leave. If she gets up tuck her back in the first time and leave every time after that just place her back in bed and leave. Same goes in the middle of the night it’ll suck for like a week then be the new normal
They eventually grow out of it. Get her one of those projector things that shows the northern lights or starry night/galaxy on the ceiling. Amazon has them. Maybe some soothing sounds or music could help her sleep. My daughter likes listening to rain sounds. When you lay with her, make sure she’s good and asleep before you get up. When you go to get up, lay a pillow against her to give the feeling of you still being there.
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It only lasts a few years! My son did the same and ended up sleeping with us for several years! Looking back, I enjoyed those years!
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My daughter slept with me when her dad and I divorced . I LOVED it . She was 8 . Her Therapist made us stop 
. She turned out just fine and is a therapist now ! 
P.S . We Always laid down with her to go to sleep
Too !
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The first few nights will be hard. I would set expectations and have her pick a day to start sleeping alone (within a week) and if she comes out walk her back to her room. Remind her that she’s okay. Do NOT lay in bed with her or the next night it will go longer. Just did this with my almost 3 year old 
Is she afraid of dark maybe? Does she have a night light and maybe favorite stuffed animal that could sleep with her, maybe if she’s afraid to be alone put a monitor in her bedroom show her how it works that if she needs you all she has to do is speak into monitor would Def stop sleeping with her tho, good luck
When mine as about 2 1/2 she wouldn’t sleep her bed after I tried everything. I went to bed. Locked my bedroom door. About an hour later I found on the floor sound asleep. Never had an issue again. And no I didn’t usually lock my bedroom door. And my room was beside hers. I could hear everything. The point is keep putting her in her room and don’t let her in your room. It will work. You need to be the parent
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My daughter slept with me until she was 12 but I’m not married so it was okay
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It sounds like she feels safe and secure with you there. I would figure out different ways/things that you could try to help her sleep in her bed by herself at night. When I was younger, I had to have my TV on all night. I needed that background noise because any noise that I heard, I would get scared. Not saying letting her have TV on all night is the best option but it’s one example. Have you tried a sound machine, a lavender scented Warmie, warm bath with lavender body wash before bed, night light, little projector from Amazon that has stars, etc.
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Have boundaries with your child! And start teaching them young. I coslept with my 6 year old for 2 years! She is a wreck to put to bed. All of our other 3 kids were in the crib at 6 months and have no issue going to bed at night.
People saying you let this go on for so long, she is 6! She’s still at an age we’re bed-wetting can occur so she can’t regulate or handle emotions like adults. She would have started school too. So much goes on. Don’t beat yourself up too much. One day she will stop coming it’s not the end of the world for those that think its bad habits. In south Asian continents they sleep with their child for many years its not a bad thing
If you are not happy with her sleeping with you just keep doing the same thing. Stay with her then when she is fast asleep try to leave. Use white noise to block out the sound so she won’t notice you leaving
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Is there room for her to have a bed in your bedroom?
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I let my daughter sleep with me til she was ready to not…she felt safe & she slept well.
I’m sure people will hate this…but I did.
She was ten & started sleeping alone unless we have bad storms then she sleeps near me
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My daughter did the same. We transitioned gradually from laying on her bed next to her, to sitting next to her, to sitting on the floor next to her bed. We also encouraged favorite toys and then we got a cat.
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Try a routine a warm bath drink of milk a story then you leave a cd on with a story and say you will come back and check on her x
Who is the Mother in this family? Step up and get this situation solved.
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I was having this problem for couple of months ! But now she managed to sleep in her bedroom I added a lamp and led lights and so far she’s been in there !
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I’m not getting how some people are saying the 6yr old is being in charge/the boss here? Just because she wants to sleep with her mother🙄 Shes six. Maybe she just feels safer that her mother is next to her. I don’t see an issue with a 6yr old wanting to sleep with her mother. But whoever you are mama keep up the good work. I’m a mother of 3 I dealt with this with my 10yr old when she was five. She slept with me and her father until she was 5. I ended up putting her bed next to ours and holding her hand until she fell asleep and then one day she grew out of it. And I’m now CO sleeping with my 3yr old son. I’m soaking it up because it won’t last forever and we will miss it one day. But keep up the work. Figure out what works best for you. Good luck you got this.
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Wow some of these comments are unbelievable! Glad you’ve received some supportive ones, I’ve got a 5 & nearly 3 year old that have struggled with sleeping for as long as I can remember & still do. We’ve been where you are, having to lie down with them & impossibly try & sneak away. We’ve got a white noise machine, little projector, we’ve tried allllllllllll the advice, tried weighted blankets, calming oils, ‘special’ stickers. Luckily we managed to go from laying with them to sitting beside their bed, some nights are harder & longer than others but personally it’s what works for us. & they still (mainly the 5 year old) wakes in the night & we just go sit with her again. But personally I’d rather have content children going to sleep rather than battling & having them so upset. You are her comfort, trustttttt me when I say I know how frustrating it can be! There is a chair method I’ve been told to use that people swear by, you have the chair by their bed & each night you move it further & further away until you’re out the door & by then they should be content without you there but I haven’t followed it through so maybe I’m no good dishing out advice 
. But I couldn’t scroll by with all these negative morons being so unkind. Sounds to me you’re doing amazing trying to comfort your daughter & doing whatever you can, I hope you find something that works for you both 
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