How attached is too attached? I’m a stay at home mom and with my three-month-old all day. We go for walks, play, but she struggles with napping. As soon as someone gets home (usually my dad), they take her so I can shower and eat. She screams unless I’m the one holding her. She’ll cry and cry. When her dad gets home, she’s a little bit better but still will cry until he rocks her to sleep. Is she too attached to me?
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My son was the same way. Eventually he grew out of it.
Mine was like that. I work from home. She is 10 months old now and does much better!
My almost 5 month old son does this! 
and I have no clue how to stop it before it’s worse than this.
Shes a baby… Shes been in ur belly hearing ur voice ur heartbeat feeling ur movements the whole time shes been cooking ur her security theres nothing wrong with that
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She is use to you more than anyone especially if you are with her all day. No child that young can be too attached to their parents. She is adjusting just like she should. You are her comfort every day all day. They might help some but you are the one she truly has a bond with right now. She will grow out of this stage and you will miss it. Enjoy while you can
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You’re her whole world right now momma. Cherish it while you can, these days don’t last long.
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look up the 4th trimester
it’ll help you understand just how normal this is 
Its completely normal! Shes still so little. Your her comfort and she needs you.
No. She’s 3 months old! This is NORMAL!
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Get something you’ve worn and have her snuggle that while someone is holding her that might help.
Mine was that way. Try having whomever hold her with one of your t-shirts that still have your scent on them. It worked for my daughter that was super attached to me.
I had 7 kids that did this I couldn’t even fo to the bathroom Grew out of it at about 2 to 3 years old
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No such thing as too attached, it will change with time.
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Try having someone else hold her wrapped in one of your shirts or then even wearing your shirt…sometimes just smelling you will help calm the baby down.
Will they be willing to sing to her a few moments? That always works for me. Don’t have to be good, babies don’t care.
I’m currently babysitting a 3 month old who likes to be held until he falls asleep.
she’s three months old… you’re kinda all she knows mama
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My youngest was like that… My husband always had one of my shirts that smelled like me when ever he was upset and only wanted me… Worked every time… Even helped with sleeping…
According to every adult that knew me as a child this was me. I’m 46 with two adult kids. It all balances out. She’s onky 3 months old. Just go with it Mama
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My 5 month old does the same thing and has been for about 2 months now! He won’t let anyone hold him unless it’s me, his dad or my mom (my mom watches him 3 days a week when I work) I’ve heard it’s normal, and they will grow out of it. I’m not too concerned he’s only 5 months old, he is just learning about the world around him. I try to look at it as he is just comfortable with me and my husband and his grandmother.
P.s. I try to ease him into new people. I never just hand him over to someone. I make them sweet talk him for a few minutes before they hold him.
She needs alone time and so do you.
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She just spends most her time with you. You need to make sure you get a break:) and so does she:)
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I’m experiencing something similar with my 3 month old. From what I have read it’s because they have spent so long inside your belly they see you as one person. So whenever you put her down or leave she fears you will never come back. It’s a phase that will pass… Look up 4th trimester to get some advice.
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I was not able to put my middle daughter down literally from the moment I delivered her until she was a little over 2 years old. Never. I had to shower, pee, everything while holding her. She screamed if her dad had her, she screamed at everyone. It was absolutely horrible. She is now about to be 9 years old in 2 weeks, very independent, highly intelligent, and a very sweet little girl. I barely remember how difficult those first two years were. BTW, around 2.5 years I put her in preschool and she kind of chilled out a bit. She is still pretty attached me as she’s reading over my shoulder right now laying beside me lol.
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Now, I’m not saying “enjoy it while it lasts”, because we all know how rough it can be.
But I miss this sometimes. My youngest is 2 and she’s so independent now, I rarely get snuggles from her.
Have you tried putting her down for independent play while it’s just you and her home?
Or sometimes having her lay beside you while someone else is on the other side can help too!
It does get easier, she’ll eventually “grow out of it”, and then she’ll be going to people on her own!
Encourage independent play, and for people to play beside her, which may help her comfortability levels with other people.
My youngest would cry anytime I wasn’t in his sight, so I bought some light up toys that played music and laid him on a blanket with them and it helped a lot!
Let daddy use one of your shirts so she can have your smell to calm her down while you shower
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This is normal for a three month old. All my boys was the same way. Which now is 4, 2 and 1. The one year old is still kinda that way. But I I let him have one of my shirts or I use a blanket n he snuggles with that. Anything with your scent on it will help with you being away from her.
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Both of my kids were like this. So to save everyone’s sanity and keep the baby from being so upset, I got a clear shower curtain so they could see me while I showered and I would sing. I would put my daughter in her pack n play when she was that small and have activities for her. My son was even more clingy so I would put him in a soothing chair instead right in front of the shower. It worked with both of mine. I was able to shower calmly for the most part. They go out of it pretty quickly though. Both my kids now could care less when I’m out of the room now lol unless it’s nap time or bed time. So I schedule my showers and me time around those times. It works great.
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As you can see by the above comments this is absolutely normal. 2 of my 3 were just like this. Eventually grew out of it.
My 1st screamed and cried and held on to my pants, shirt or coat every time I tried to go out without her…until she was about 5 yrs old 
That’s what you might call too attached lol
My 3rd grew out of it by around 5 mths 
Good Luck Momma you’re doing great!!
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At 3 months old it’s ok for her to want mainly you but at this age you can put her down more often so she can have her tummy time do she she’s your there with her but just not holding her and have others join you whole playing with her so she calms down with them as well. She doesn’t need to be held constantly, it’s good for her too have play time and you can get more done this way and you can take a break
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There is NO such thing as too attached!!! Hold that baby!! That’s creating a strong bond with you mama! And that will actually foster independence in the future.
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My daughter hardly let anyone besides me hold her until she was 6mths old. I LOVED it. Lol it did get aggravating when there were things I needed to do without her and I also had 5 other kids to split my attention with, but the bond I have with her is amazing. She will grow out of it but she won’t be far behind you if she’s anything like my daughter.
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It’s normal! You can’t spoil a baby that young, contrary to what people say. She will grow out of it. All the ideas above are great.
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She’s a baby she’s use to your body from being in the womb. Give it time. Maybe wear a sweater or something and wrap her in it when she’s being held by a loved one that way she is warm and smells you. The first 6 moths are hard in that way. Be patient she is fine
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My second baby daughter (of 5) was like this to an unbelievable degree. Yet many, many years later I’m in a wheelchair, I’ve had 4 heart attacks and two strokes — and I live with that daughter. Count your blessings.
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Yes normal…a shirt with your smell might help and just a bit of time with others. Just takes time and age. Hell out of 3 kids my youngest is 5 and it’s still hell to leave him. Makes me feel like the worst parent ever to just run to the store alone.
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3 month old? Totally normal. She’ll adjust you just have to keep on the schedule. You’re gonna have to just go with it
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My son was like this. My wrists hurt from carrying him so much but that was the only way he would calm down. My mom couldn’t handle him nor could my sisters. They would just give him back to me just so he could stop crying. I couldn’t figure out why since my nephews and nieces were always happy around the family. The only thing different was that I dont live with my mom while my sisters did at the time. So I tried to make him more sociable by hanging out all day on weekends with my family. It’s worked so far. He doesn’t want to always to carried now and wont cry when others hold him. Before, my family would avoid him bc he was a crybaby and now they argue over who holds him first. You have to make get used to other ppl slowly and constantly
This is not healthy for them. My first born was very much this way he was 14 months old when I had my second one. When I went to the hospital he got out and tried to follow me. So spending time away or involving them with play dates to get you away from them will help. My son had a traumatic experience and that could have been avoided.
Is normal, she is only 3 months and all she knows is you and you’re her conform zone, it will change once she understand more her surroundings
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You should try leaving her with her dad or your dad and go out to see if she’s really attached to you or just loves your attention when you are around. My youngest used to do that but I realised if I weren’t there she was absolutely fine.
My kids were the same. It’s fine. They mostly grow out of it eventually. Enjoy being so loved while it lasts!
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You can try wearing her. Especially when you need to do some things or just want your arms and hands free also for when your arms are tired. Hold onto her, this will pass and time will fly.
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Normal. My child is 4 now and doesn’t want me anymore 
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The science agrees that you can’t hold a baby too much, or that you can’t spoil them with love.
“The amount of physical contact between infants and their caregivers can affect children at the molecular level. The study of DNA methylation patterns showed that children who had been more distressed as infants and had received less physical contact had a molecular profile that was underdeveloped for their age. This is the first study to show in humans that the simple act of touching, early in life, has deeply-rooted and potentially lifelong consequences on genetic expression.”
You are all she knows. Your voice, your smell, your heartbeat. It’s going to take some time before she is comfortable in this whole new world. Baby wearing is a game changer for naps and giving you a free hand.
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My youngest was 5 and still having to sit on my knee when I went to the tiolet let alone tried leaving her while I do anything now she is 16 and she and I have the closest bond ever that no one will and could break it was annoying that I couldn’t do some things but the rewards are amazing and I wouldn’t do it differently
Your baby is three months old what do you expect 
her to be self soothing and not needing her mum already 
sorry but hahahahaha you have fun with that going to be hard ASF to break sory I laughed but yea its going to be a prob
Its perfectly fine both my daughters was that way the more people there around and see the easier it becom es … my firsf was almost 1 before someone other than my wife held her …
My little guy wouldnt go to anyone else either at that age. I think it’s totally normal. Your the only thing they know.
It’s normal! She is going through phases all the time and this is one. By being close to her while she goes through something overwelming you let her know that you have her back, which results in her becoming more confident growing up. Abandoning her, forcing her to do what she’s not brave enough for does the opposite. They become shy to everyone except the parent who is closest for a while. It’ll pass.
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If u hold her up alot that would definitely happen. She’s used to being held alot and by you most of th time so she doesn’t wantnto be around anyone else. I know she’s just three months but try spending time with without lifting her if thats what u are doing. Its normal for kids to want their mama but not to the point where u cant bathe or do anything else throughout the day. I learned that the hard way with my first kid. Thought my mom was being a bit harsh but turns out she knew ehat she was talking abt
My first son was like this too and it lasted a while but they do grow out of it. Try to stay back and let daddy take over even though she’s crying. She’ll come around it’s normal
My son is 3 and super attached … I work full time tho so we aren’t always together. This morning he took a framed picture of me and him and was holding it cuz he missed me everyone says they grow out of it but I think he will be a mommas boy forever lol
I would talk to my doctor,
I held my son allot cause he was colic. I did my house work when he napped and showers and begin dinner. Had a play pen I put him in and kept TV on. Never had an issue when I had to go back to work and he was 3 months. Maybe more time in a play pen or something so your baby can see you while you do other things?
It’s the age. She’s just realizing your gone. It should pass, it’s stressful but it should pass. It’s important to let her bond with other people.
There is a soul connection, and of course she’s gonna want to be with the person she spends the majority of her time with. ENJOY IT. In time she will learn that just because Mama isn’t there all the time, Mama has left her permanently and will be back. My 3 year old grandson is like this at times. Until he was 2 he went nutzoid if mommy left the room for just a minute. Now he cries for a little bit when she leaves him with me and papa but, we comfort him by reassuring him that she’ll be back.
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It is a such thing as being attached and sometimes too attached. My two girls was like this and it can be overwhelming but for me I would just tell myself that they are fine and that I don’t have to go get them every time they cry. After a while they was ok but it does take time because mines didn’t stop being attached until around the age 6. My son I sent him to daycare when he turned one and he is independent night and day from the girls for sure.
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Our granddaughter was that way. Now she is 1 and a big love bug to everyone.
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I have 5 children all under the age of seven with my youngest being 1 yr old they all did this enjoy it because as they get older they become more independent and less worried about being with Mom lol my 1 yr old is just starting to pull out of this stage and it’s hard for me but I live to see her growing more independent
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No such thing as to attached enjoy it while you can they grow so quick!
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My oldest who is now almost 5 she didnt like others either she had ALWAYS been a mamas girl very attached to me. I worried a bit but I am happy being her “security blanket” so to speak. She sees the world one way and she is comfortable and trusts me and not others and it may seem daunting now but she will grow out of it a bit as she gets older. My oldest was sooo clingy but sop independent i just had to be nearby but allow her to do things herself and she was happy. Now she is in vpk and is outgoing and brave and social and I NEVER thought id see the day!!! Let her get comfortable with others at her own pace. Gracie didnt even like her own dad until She was almost 2… Took years with most people for her to get comfortable with them… I dont have advice on how to change it cause i didnt want to change it i wanted her to trust in her own time but i did try to demonstrate how to be friendly and to give others a chance and encourage her to play with others (though yours is still too small for all this but still) my second loves everybody. Prefers mommy of course but I dont have the clingy attachment with Ari like i did her sister which is okay too! She still loves her mama I did put gracie in an early learning facility part time once she was a year and a half and ari will follow suit but gracie cried at the door all day every day for years but they have live cameras so i could check in on her and she did have fun when she temporarily forgot and the teachers are so compassionate and helpful and loving it really helped!! I did then and still have little like baskets of toys in every single room so i can bring baby with me and they can play and i can sing and talk to them. Sometimes its enough and sometimes it isnt but it’s better that they know they arent alone and you are trying…
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