My daughter started her period today and I tried to make it a big deal but I also want to do something. What has others done in this situation for their daughter (s)? Thank you.
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Mine didnāt do anything because I would have been mortified if they did. 
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I did a special ābecoming a women dateā. We went out to dinner and then went shopping for what she would need
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Uhhhā¦I am not sure I would of liked that, and I didnāt do anything for my girlā¦other than hug her and tell her about it a bit more.
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Mine didnāt do anything 
what are you suppose to do or am I missing something
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Staying home from school and just relaxing!
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Chocolates, icecream, bubble bath? Scented candles and her fave snacks and maybe if she has cramps or back aches something for that too:) anything to relax her. I donāt have a daughter but this is the shit I would have wanted for my first time or just really ANY TIME.
Periods are miserable I donāt understand why anyone would want to celebrate that sentence
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If you want to do somethingā¦ keep it private between you and your daughter. Itās SUPER AWKWARD telling EVERYONE that your daughter is now a āWomenā. Lol
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Make a period basket.
Everything she will need sanitary wise and throw in some comfort items. Chocolate, candies, tissues, a diary, heating pad, maybe a warm fuzzy blanket and some advil.
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ERM, people only do that in the movies
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My mom took me out for a nice dinner and dessert she even took me to the store to buy bath stuff and pads of course she explained why I would need them and all that once we got home but for that day I did feel special until later on when I learned how bad they hurtā:joy:
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buy her a cozy blanket, heating pad, midol, and tea
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I would have died from embarrassment if anyone made a big deal of it. Tread carefully
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Flowers! I was confused but my mom and the women in our lives congratulated me and brought me flowers
How about doing nothingā¦dont mortify your daughter
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My mom let me stay home from school that day, which at ten yrs old was good enough for me. 
(granted this was twenty years ago when getting the ink pen with 5 different colors was enough to please the shit out of kids.)
I had talks with my daughter and prepared her for it and when she did start for the first time we had a low key girls day shopping, lunch and pedicures 
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I did a little gift bag! Bag of 3 different size pads wipes and new pack of panties!
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I did everything before the big day,dinner shopping talking.Glad I did when the day came she was not in the mood.
Sit her down and talk to her, maybe over her favorite food!!
People think im crazy but I recently heard about period parties and I think itās awesome! It happens to every woman, it shouldnāt be āembarrassingā and Iām trying to teach my daughter about taking our power back because of other situations weāve been dealt. Ours was a false alarm, but I bought a bunch of red party favors, candies, dress up stuff and weāre going to get a red velvet cake! She can invite any friends from school or the neighborhood and my nieces and other family friends.
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Never did anything for it except went home in pants that were not mine
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We didnt do anythingā¦is this a thing?? Lol it was a Saturday and she just announced it and that was that lol
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When I started mine I was nine and convinced I was dying. So, when my daughter started hers I didnāt make it a big deal. itās all about growing up.
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I was horrified. If my mom had me a party I would have died. Just let the poor girl have her PMS in peace. 
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My mom rented a movie and made some homemade popcorn and we had a movie nightā¦ That was right up my alley though. Youād need to personalize it for herā¦
Just talk to her and let her no that she is charge in to a little lady and teach her how to be clear with it good luck
Ummm i donāt really know if Iād have liked a gift or anything if my mom did that for me but I honestly think that since sheās ābecoming of ageā itās time to sit down and have āthat talkāā¦ you know, to teach her more about her body and the literal point of getting a period and all that Jazzā¦ 
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I made her a special box.
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I literally would have died if someone made a big deal about it. Then again, Iām a very modest and private person.
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Maybe donāt make a big deal about it? My girls didnāt want to talk about it, they just asked for the pads and that was it.
I got mine at SCHOOL. I didnāt tell anyone and got home and told my mom. She went out and bought every kind of pad under the sun. She was like āi donāt use these so I donāt know what youāll need. Itāll take some practice, and youāll have to try a few of them, but just let me know what works best and we can return the restā she handed me the bag and inside there were 3 candy bars and a bag of pretzel m&Mās. It wasnāt extreme but I appreciated it
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I mean my mom just gave me some candy, pads, a heating pad and a new blanket and a little movie marathon
My mom just talked to me, explained everything and assured me i wasnt going to die. I just knew i was going to bleed out
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I get my daughter a period box! Kinda like the boxy charm, but for tweens! There are 2 ruby love and myfirstperiod.
I think if it was me I would probably be mad if my mother was doing a big deal , just get her ice cream , making a thing itās just gonna make her feel awkward
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you really want to make an āeventā out of it?!?
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Why does it need to be a big deal. Give her a pad, some chocolates if need be and explain it and let her beā¦ sheās probably embarrassed or if not yet, she definitely will be after thisā¦
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What? How incredibly ignorant.
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All I did was asked mine what she wanted to munch on and got her some snacks. No need to make a huge deal out of it.
This is a thing now? I would have been mortified!! The whole experience was embarrassing enough for me, I was 9, at school, and clueless, I literally just wanted to disappear off the face of the earthā¦ if she understands whatās going on just leave her be, if not, explain it to her then leave her be
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Ummm just leave it alone lmfao ā¦unless she wants it to be a big deal just let the girl have peace. Do u want someone making ur period a big deal? Probably not so dont make hers.
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I was so excited when I started my period. I think the ācoming a woman dateā is a great idea!
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No party ha. Thats funny. But nice to maybe go shopping together and a fav. place to eat. Get her a bag to hide pads and maybe a panty in ,wipes to hide in her locker or book bag remind her to keep it updated each time she uses it. Maybe a little personal calander to keep in bedside drawer to keep up with her first year. (My grand couldnāt get regulated too many sports)so this was helpful .
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a tub of ice-cream a box of chocolates and the notebook with a wheatbag best combo
Get her the essentials ā products, snacks, comfort item and teach her how to rotate Tylenol and ibuprofen for pain relief if needed.
Teach her to be hydrated the week before her period so her cramps (May) be not so bad.
Teach her to avoid caffeine the week of her period and encourage her to track it along with other bodily changes that happen month to month.
I use Clue ā itās an app you can customize. It has options for skin, bowel movements, mood and energy level.
I wouldnāt make it an āother peopleā big deal but take the time to teach her all the things you had to figure out on your own
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I didnāt make a big thing out of itā¦ didnāt want to make her feel any more awkward. However I did make a little emergency period bag for her to have in her backpack. Used a little makeup bag and put extra underwear, pads, midol and chocolate in it lol
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girl im gonna throw a damn party and burn my last underwear that i stain whenever i get to meno and it goes away!! u talkn about thrown a party cz it came giiiirl!!!
Leave her alone. Make sure she has everything she needs and she understands whatās going on
Otherwise donāt fuss.
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Invite all her friends and family over. Make a cake. Do nothing
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Why is this trend of throwing parties and hyping periods up a thing now? Just give her a talk explaining whatās going on, give her some midol/heating pad/chocolate whatever usual remedies that might benefit her, and be done with it. Itās not some big event to be celebratingā¦
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My mom just said āthat sucksā and showed me what i needed to do. Dont make a big deal. It will only be more embarrassing.
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Motrin and pads ā¦why make a big deal??
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Buy her some nice new underwear maybe black so not to show any little marks and remind her that she has become a young woman and a treat of a coffee or hot chocolate out just mum and daughter.
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Give her a cute little basket. Heating pad, midol, pads, calendar to track etc. Maybe even some snacks. Maybe even some new cute underwear.
And include a little bag she can take to school or overnights (like the ipsy bags size, plus theyāre really cute!)
One that fits all her new little women ātoolsā. Celebrate. And I dont mean like throwing a party or anything. Just a quiet little special time between you two.
I would even try to find an age appropriate book about your body, changes, what to expect etc. Also tell her to take it easy on herself both before and during her period. Teach her whatās to be expected Make it a nice thing. I thoroughly explained everything beforehand and made a fun thing out of it. Make it something to be proud of and not embarrassed.
Best of luck!
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My dad got me a necklace
Umm. Some chocolate or popcorn would be fine with just Mom and me
Do like Tiffanys mom did on Orange is the New Black, mountain dew and chocolate chip chocolate ice cream!
I was terrified when I got mine. I tried to hide it from my mom. I was only 9. Now, my daughter is past that age and I am waiting for her. I told her not to be scared to tell me. Lol. But, Iām nervous for her. She is already cramping. 
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Give her chocolates and salted chips. Tell her to make sandwiches out of them and what to expect with moods and emotions
My mom gave me a box of pads and some new underwearā¦then divorced my dad and I never seen her after that lmao
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Iād be mad if my mom made a huge deal over something that is normalā¦ are you going to continue it every month for the rest of her life? Itās not like itās her birthday 
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Talk to her watch movies get her ice cream and let her know itās ok if she is feeling emotional but I wouldnāt make an event out of it and make it awkward
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I had already examined the process of her period before hand so she wouldnāt freak out when it happened. When it did come, I picked her up from school and took her out for a girls day. We bought grow up pretty girl panties. Had ice cream. And she pick out a few trial pack of napkins to try out to get her perfect fit. She loved it. And plans to do the same for her daughter
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My family threw a bbq in my name ā¦ Embarrassingā¦ I say buy her a cute purse with personal lil hygeine stuff but cute things with it. A brush. Nail polish. Mirrorā¦ Cute things and throw pads in there to let her know shes a young lil lady.
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I made my daughters a mad vag boxā¦it had different pads and tamponsā¦assorted sizes and such along with their favorite chocolates and motrin and pamprin. This way they could find out what worked best for them.
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Put pads under the skin in the bathroom with some midol and call it a day please. Leave a note to drink fluids and to eat. Iām sure if she has questions she will ask
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Some comfy sweats or pjs, scented candle some candy. No need to embarrass her
My mom never talked to me about women cycles and was horrified to tell her that I was bleeding down there ( I didnāt know about periods) thereās a post going viral about a father giving his daughter a gift for period surprise box kind of thingā¦ I would give her those stuffing animals that you warm up to help with the cramps and tyenol goodies etc
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Depends on your kidās personality. Ask her if she wants to celebrate with dinner and a cupcake maybe, or not. Tell her about cramp relief, and give her a heating pad if needed. Idk. Do give her supplies and and emeegency bag for school. My mom told my dad, and I was mortified.
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you know what should be celebrated? Menopause parties!
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take her
& her friends to movie give her chocolates get their nails done
I saw a thing online about period parties and I jokingly told my oldest daughter Iād throw her one and she actually wants me to so weāll be celebrating her period with a party lol.
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I bought her new underwear her own pads and some chocolate and tried not to make a big deal. She didnāt want her dad to know but of course as soon as he got home I told him privately. He took it the worstš¤Ŗ was like oh no now we can be grandparents!
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I wouldnāt make too big of a fuss. It might make her feel more akward. Maybe take her out and get her pads/tampons, midol, a bag to keep her pads/tampons in, feminine wipes etc. Then take her out to lunch. Just explain to her what to expect and how she can alleviate the pain.
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My mom took me out shopping and bought me a bunch of new clothes from the mall.
I made a comfort basket!! I have 5 girls 
I put pads, cozy socks, midol, chocolate, candies, a new pack of undies, and a book. They loved them! 3 girls to go lol
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Chips chocolate and some cheap flowers. My girls loved it
Maybe a nice dinner with just the two of you! Only you two will need to know why youāre out celebrating. Sheāll probably have tons of questions and there you can talk in privateā¦ and yes! Itās definitely a big deal!
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Take her for ice cream, guarantee sheāll probably crave it at some point.
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Itās just me, but I was embarrassed when my mom made it a big deal (threw a party) so I wouldnāt put my daughter threw it. I would just make her a period box and have a talk with her about what is a period, why we get it and pregnancy/sex etc
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Mine got hers the first day of school in 8th grade I didnt make a big deal I said welcome to womanhood you will have this once a month for the next 60 years give or take she said omg mom this is gonna be hell yup babygirl we all feel the same way
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I may be wrongā¦and I have two grown daughters so I hope Iām notā¦
But Iām not getting this at all. There should be a celebration? For what? Years of pain & misery? 
I didnāt make a big deal out of it for my girls. Talked to them about ALL the specifics and got them what they needed. Iām going to ask them lol but Iām fairly certain they didnāt want, nor were expecting, a party.
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Get her a PMS kit. fill a special tote bag with pads tampons liners w.e and comfort food. Donāt forget a heat pad, model, ibuprofen.
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Yāall are no fun. Throw her a period party- Have her invite all her girlfriends over, eat red velvet cake and name the damn thingā¦ lighten up folks
Take her to the storeā¦show her how to pick the correct product for her needsā¦then take her to the restroom and show her the CORRECT way to dispose of those products after use (never flush and why) buy her some pizza, chocolate and midolā¦give her a heating pad, let her nap and dont you dare tell anyone elseā¦ever.
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Buy her some chocolate and call it a day. When I had my first one, I didnāt get anything. As a matter of fact, my parents were at work when it happened. I think I wouldāve been embarrassed if they would have made a big deal out of it. I guess itās a different time though.
My step daughter hasnāt yet but is of that age. I went to the store woth her and bought her bags for each vehicle and her backpack with pads of different sizes leggings wipes anything she might need even chocolate to put a smile on her face I rem knowing about it but being freaked out so I really hope it donāt happen to her also that way.
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why donāt you ask her if thatās what she even wantās. girls can fickle that way. But to be honest, I donāt understand why you would. Its apart of life. Iād just have a talk about what comes with her having her peried. I have one thats already got hers, and from my own experience. the more of a big deal you make it, the more embarrassed and uncofortable your going to make her.
No judgment but this just seems werid to me, Iāve never heard of ādoin somethingā for starting her period. Get her the Essentials she needs an make sure she knows how to use them. I wasnāt very open with my mom about any personal stuff or ever had ātalksā like that an when I started mine I didnt even want to tell her because I didnt want it to be a big deal an her making it a big deal made me feel even more uncomfortable on top of getting my period itself. Maybe its different for mothers who have a close an open relationship with their daughters tho.
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A nice dinner and dessert. A lot of chocolate
I made my daughter an emergency bag. It had pads, clean panties, leggings, bag for soiled clothes, wet wipes, water bottle and chocolate. Then i took her shopping for pads and midol and chocolate and a new stuffed animal
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Watch āBert Kreischer Threw His Daughter A Period Party - CONAN on TBSā on YouTube
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My little girl is only 2 but I plan to give her a basket with all the essentials. Midol, chocolate, ice pack, heating pad, new undies, comfie sweatpants, pads and tampons because she should be able to decide what she is comfortable with. I will also include a medical article (Iām a nurse) and a note from momma with a little love and encouragement that it will get better.
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My daughter always came to the bathroom with me, even if it was that time, from walking age. So, she automatically knew what it was and how to handle the situation. Iām kinda glad it went that way so she didnāt have any panic in her. She had that confidence that she was going to be okay and it was normal. Iām very open with my kids so theyāre open with me. When she starts she keeps record of it and how many days she is on, whether she is cramping or fatigued, if the pains are bad enough for pain meds. She is still not completely regulated so a week before, she makes sure she has whatās needed. I make sure to keep our āspecialā drawer stocked of anything we may need during that time. We use the same thing so itās not a big deal. I keep small pieces of chocolate, pads, special wipes, midol or pamprin, heating pad and I made a small bag for her to carry when she needs to take with her. She even has her small calendar in there to document and record.
I love her and would never embarrass her. She trust me with whatās going on with her and itās not for me to share with the rest of the world. I would never betray that trust!
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Make her a period box
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People that say buy chocolate annoy me Not every woman has that craving. Let her pick her own dang snacks
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Make her a little period box! Put some chocolate in it with pads Tylenol and some black pants! . Because she will have a couple accidents before she knows how many hours she can go before changing the pad .
Omg why would you embarrass her like that. I remember when I started I was sooo embarrassed.
Make her a period kit. She may throw a fit but when itās needed sheāll be grateful.
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Go shopping for a new outfit, have dinner out or go get some ice cream.