SKETCH. Pediatrician immediately
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Take the med and your daughter to the closest E.R
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yes weird asf we would be heading straight to the pediatrician but also would have some communication w the father as to wha really happened and if said doctor did do that i would report her ass
Take her to ER or pediatrician asap to be checked. I thought my daughter had a bad UTI. Rushed to ER. She was grabbing her diaper and crying with cramps and diarrhea. Ended upā¦she was extremely constipated. You dont know until you have her diagnosed. They checked for UTI by getting blood from her finger and she showed no signs of an infection through blood. Did x ray and she was stuffed up bad. Told me to give her Miralaxā¦week later still stuffed so went and got a gentle lax and crushed up into her sippy and it all came out 2 hours later. Size of an XL bouncy ball clog. No telling what she swallowed to cause thatā¦
Alsoā¦possibility she was messed with orā¦could be as simple as they didnt change her diaper enough or give her enough to drink while there. Dont know until get her checked out.
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My daughter was born with kidney reflux and had utiās regularly as a baby and toddler until they did the deflux procedure surgery . Any little thing as to what soap and not wiping properly would cause one. As far as the medicine situation I donāt agree with what so ever . Please take her to the dr to be evaluated. Giving the wrong medication could cause major side effects . On top of that being illegal that a dermatologist wrote the prescription.
Iād take her to the doctors. Do not give her that medicine until you know for sure if she has one, or the real reason.
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Donāt mess around with a childās urinary tract! She needs to be tested to see if that antibiotic is even correct
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A uti in children so young can be (im not saying always) caused by sexual abuse. A uti in a child so young is a red flag in itself. The behavior of the father on top of it is another red flag. Take her to your ped. Pay attention to any change in her behavior.
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What a dumbass. How would he know if a 2 year old has an UTI. Hell no I would be raising hell. I would take her to her doctor and tell him what the father done.
Itās not uncommon for 2 year olds to have Uti s especially during potty training
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Now that sheās on meds she will test negative for it
Iād definitely take her to her ped or ER asap. Explain situation.
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Take her in yourself
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I personally wouldnāt be happy for it to be assumed my child had a uti and given antibiotics. Also when you are diagnosed with a UTI after having your urine dipped, they start you off on antibiotics and send your sample off to grow the bacteria. Sometimes you end up being given different antibiotics than what you original started on. So IF she does have one she should have it sent off and made sure she has the correct meds. Also she may not have a UTI and have something different.
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The dermatologist CAN prescribe the UTI meds, they all went to medical school !!! however what I do see an issue with is the fact that she is a 2 year old, to be sure that they have UTI doctors run a urine test before they prescribe antibiotics ā¦ā¦ the only way they MAY skip that test is if you tell them it burns when you pee or if you have blood coming out with your urine ā¦ā¦ā¦ I doubt your child can tell anyone what her symptoms are ā¦ā¦ thatās why we have pediatricians because they asses our little kids different ways that they would an adultā¦ā¦. If the girlfriends mom dared to give them the antibiotics my guess is they told her your little girl had blood on her diaper ā¦ā¦. Take her to a pediatrician so they can make a urine test and that way they can see if she truly has a UTI or if itās something else ā¦ā¦ā¦ just take her in as soon as you can !!! Because their behavior seems fishy to me ā¦ā¦ why call in the meds rather than go to her regular doctor.
Given his behavior changed (i.e. not telling you of need for Dr etc) and the fact that he went to a family friend for treatment vs a UTC or calling her pediatrician I would be VERY suspicious and taking her to have a check up with her pediatrician.
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Please take your daughter to the closest er and get her examined. I pray she hasnāt been sexually assaulted
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Two years old? Hell no without a doctor visit!
Take her to a doctor you know. Antibiotics need to be prescribed for kids and even adults when only absolutely necessary. She could not possibly know itās a you without a urine sample. Iād go have her looked at.
Call her pediatrician, make them aware of the WHOLE situation
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Toddlers get utiās often due to wiping incorrectly, potty training, bubble baths and etc.
Iām an RN and we see it all the time. We treat for utiās often with parents telling us symptoms and fever etc without seeing them. Most the time if they have strong smelling pee, it burns when they pee, their genitalia is reddened from the very strong pee, we treat them. Heās her father and Iām sure is trying to just be a caring and proactive daddy. If I can help youāre welcome to message me. For everyone saying itās best practice to get a urine sample first thatās also what is ideal but a lot of kids that age canāt do a clean catch urine and you donāt want her straight Cathed for it. This is why we prescribe and then if symptoms persist or worsen then we resort to that
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Take her to the doctor before giving her the meds.
Go to er and get her checked. Sounds like heās trying to hide something
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Idk when I was a kid I got utisā¦Im still prone to them. My dad would always just call his family doctor and get the script for itā¦if it makes u feel better take her in but also at least he is trying to get her better unlike some parents who will just let her be sick and do nothing about it.
But thatās just my stance like I said always better to take her in just to make sureš
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Since covid hit, telehealth is a large practice. I have suffered from UTIs. I have a telehealth appt, 5 minutes and I have my script called in. In a week, if I am not 100% better then they tell you to go into the office. If you do not think that abuse is an issue, then this doctor calling in an antibiotic, I would just have a conversation with your ex and tell himā¦next time I would prefer if we take her in before putting her on meds because xyzā¦give thought out answers such as bacteria resistance due to the overuse of antibiotics etc. I would not want to try and ruin this ladies position by doing something trying to help your baby.
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I would report the Dr that prescribed without seeing the child.
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It def is odd but I wouldnāt be going to worse case scenario. Call her dad and ask him what the signs and symptoms were, ask of the Dr. Saw her ectā¦
I donāt see a need to go into panic mode right away. Utiās can and do happen all the time and it had NOTHING to do with sexual abuseā¦
Iām all for being cautious but seriously talk to the childās father and get more info.
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Children having UTIās is a red flag for sexual abuse.
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Thatās definitely illegal.
And his actions are suspicious.
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Iād be taking her to the dr and getting her checked out. And yes a family dr can prescribe medications but can not be her dr. At least where I live.
Itās Not Uncommon at all for toddlers to get UTI especially from bubble baths even potty training etc. I would absolutely take her to her pediatrician to get checked for uti n get correct meds though. Donāt tell him bc he clearly didnāt respect u enough to tell you
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Coming from a medical professional - that is beyond illegal.
Do not give her the abx, take her to the doctor, have her checked out AND report the girlfriends mother!
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They try hard to keep patients home so virtual visits are quite common these daysā¦
IF she didnāt even see your daughter at all, no itās not legal.
I certainly wouldnāt report her and cause a big fuss thatās not going to go anywhere anywaysā¦
But I would be asking what symptoms she had and what led to the diagnosis. As antibiotics weaken your immune system substantially and I wouldnāt want my child taking them unless 100% necessary.
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I am a pediatric nurse and have never heard of this they need a urine sample and culture and sensitivity to determine which antibiotic it is sensitive to! She needs to be seen
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Iād take her to her own pediatricianā¦ and then Iād have some very choice words for all 3 of them! 
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These comments are insaneā¦
For one- not illegal, at all. Have yāall ever heard of Telehealth visits ?
For two- just because the physician is a dermatologist, 100% does NOT mean she is ignorant in every other field of practice. She is still a DOCTOR. And also- you have NO idea the doctors backgrounds.
Third- toddlers 100% can get UTIs. Babies can even- clearly yāall have no idea what causes them.
And for GOODNESS SAKE why does everyone jump to fricken āabuseā???
This is NOT an emergency- do not flood emergency rooms with this. We have NO idea the back ground so to assume the worst in everyone and a simple post on Facebook is crazy.
Yāall need to relax.
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Take her and have her checkedā¦get blood work, what the Dr did is illegal!!!
Make an appt? And take the medication with you so they have all the info. Absolutely not okay, even if technically legal.
I would take her to a pediatrician just to be safe. Iām sure that he was just trying to do the best possible thing for his daughter, but nowadays you can never be sure. I would also have a conversation with the childās father.
Have your daughter checked again by the regular doctor you go to. Go with the medicine and take it from there
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Ohhhhh NO!!! Completely illegal!
Thatās illegal and not appropriate. Please take your daughter to her regular pediatrician or an urgent care if no appointment is available today.
my ex did this once when my daughter was young! they were called in by a dr his wife worked for and never seen my daughter. i didnāt give her the meds and made a dr appt to have her seen and she did not need medicine.
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Hereās a thought, call the prescribing doctor. Be straightforward and find out what went down for her to prescribe the med. You as the parent have every legal right to do a follow up with the doctor in question. Donāt bather going through dad or the gf, they will only give you a run around.
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Iād be getting her evaluated to check for abuse.
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Take her to your own dr for an exam. Somethingās fishy.
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That is weirdā¦ I would definitely take her to her family doctor! I would be going crazy! Is he trying to cover something g up? Qnd a dermatologist Iām pretty sure isnāt suppose to be prescribing meds for utiās!
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Personally, I would take her into the urgent care, explain to them that dad sought treatment for an UTI and that you would just like a second opinion, as nothing was previously brought to your attention about the subject.
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I would go to her regular doctor and get her checked ASAP!!! that is scary. Now a days you just never know what can happen whether itās mom, dad, grandma , grandpa ā¦ go.
Take her to the Dr to be sure she has a uti.
Take your daughter to her doctor and see if she has a uti! If she has make sure the meds you were given is ok for her to take!
Illegal and why would she have a UTI thatās sounds like abuse or neglect ā¦ check into that first . Her safety is a priority
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As a nurse I wouldnāt take a dermatologist recommendation for a antibiotic for a uti without proper testing, many different antibiotics treat different infections, not using the right one will not only not work but will start her body to resist antibiotics, which if continues to happen throughout her life, one day if sheās really sick sheāll be stuck taking a very very strong antibiotic due to the fact that to many people want a antibiotic for everything which is why you should go to her doctor, get properly diagnosed n properly prescribed. Every doctor goes threw a school of medicine, then they specializeā¦ pediatrician, oncologist, dermatologist ectā¦ each specialty has its own field of studyā¦ with all that being saidā¦take her to her own DR!
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That sounds shady. My kids bio dad was sexually abusing them. Please donāt take this lightly.
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Also, a dermatologist is still a MD. The only difference is that a dermatologist SPECIALIZES in a certain area. It doesnāt mean they havenāt went through the same schooling as a family physician, ED doc, etcā¦ actually, theyāve carried their schooling further to specialize in a certain field. However, if they participate in the continuing education, is the real question.
Take her to her doctor and explain the situation , get her examined asap.
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I donāt know about illegal or legal but its inappropriate for family of the girlfriend to be prescribing medication for her. Dad should have contacted childs dr and seen if they wanted to see her in the office or do a televisit. Her own pediatrician should be prescribing her medication not the person who did. Why dad didnāt go the appropriate route is questionable in my opinion. Iād call her own dr. Tell them what is going on and go from there. You have every right to contact the dr who prescribed these meds and ask why she prescribed them. You are the parent you have this right
First of allā¦ how does a 2 year old end up with a UTI?(1st red flag) furthermore, if he didnāt have her checked how did he even come to this conclusion?? Itās very suspect to me I would seek medical attention for her immediately before I gave her this medication and you gotta be honest with the dr so he can make the appropriate decision on what treatment your child needs for sure! Good luck please get help
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Iād take her to the doctor and report that heās giving her meds that arenāt prescription
Absolutely NOT legal at all! IF he thought she had a UTI then he should have taken her to her pediatrician or urgent care or the ER! I would definitely be calling my lawyer.
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I would take her to her doctor and tell them everything. This screams red flags
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I wouldnāt give the baby the meds until going to her pediatrician to confirm a uti
Take her to her normal doctor! And then find out who to report that other doctor to!
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Girls are more apt to get a UTI than boys. Some girls unfortunately are just prone to UTIs. This whole thing is suspicious though. Idk your ex but as an outsider it makes me suspect abuse of some kind. Get her to her pediatrician ASAP and explain the whole thing.
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Oh wow I would take my child to the doctor and let them know your concerns and the situation at hand something isnāt right for dad to not take her to her regular doc why wouldnāt he just do that I mean like really and her having a uti why wasnāt you contacted about that that should be a situation for a mother to handle not the dad unless you was no where to be found and that isnāt what you are saying so what could he be hiding that he didnāt go to her doc or contact you thatās 2 red flags right there and the 3rd one is gfās mom prescribing your child medication and she isnāt even a pediatrician she is a dermatologist thereās all your signs something is off here and you need to get to the bottom of it ASAP
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Get that baby seen by her doctor!!! Something seems weird about that.
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If you are that worried call the prescribing Dr and ask why she gave antibiotics for a uti without a UA. However she is a Dr regardless of what her specialty is it is NOT illegal for her to call in a script. Everyone jumping on the abuse train these days it is not always abuse. The dad probably didnt know what else to do for his daughters uti. So he probably talked to his girlfriend about it who then probably called her mom to see what she suggested. Yes the Dad should have talked it over with you as opposed to his girlfriend especially since you said you had good communication about things with your daughter. I would call the Dr to put your mind at ease or contact her pediatrician on Tuesday and make an appt. I wouldnāt just assume something bad has happened right off the bat.
Take her to her actual pediatrician and see what they sayā¦that whole situation sounds super shady!
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Since itās the weekend, Iād take her to urgent care ASAP. There is so much wrong with this.
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Go to Walgreens and get the uti test strips that are otc and about 10 bucks, if she does indeed have one and it comes up positive, then use the medsā¦ If itās negative, inform dad and ask for him to notify you before giving her meds next timeā¦that way she is doing the urine screening in the comfort of her home and you can avoid taking her into a place filled with sick littles and germs everywhere if not needed. My Dr has done this for my daughter before and I was so appreciative.
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Thatās fishy. If she doesnāt have a UTI but takes these meds, sheāll end up needing to take them later bc sheāll end up sick. Take her to the Dr. Besides, what if it isnāt truly antibiotics in the bottle despite what the label may say? And yes, that is illegal. She could have her medical license pulled for shit like that. I know you have a child w him, but, no telling what heās up to. Never be too cautious
This is a red flag - I would have a deep issue with this
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Nope!!! Take her in to her regular doctor. Take the meds with and explain the situation.
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Take her to your pediatrician and find out if there is a problem
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Iām HOPING that maybe dad was concerned about taking her to a doctors office during a pandemic so girlfriends mom did like a telephone visit to get symptoms? Have you asked him his reasoning? Iād still get a second open for sure and take the medication with you to show the doctor.
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I would take her to her regular doctor and report it. Prescribing medication without an exam is not ok, unless itās something like a refill on allergy medication.
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This whole post is very worrying! And I am worried about that child
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Nahā¦something is up w that. Go to your doctor w ur daughter and tell them what happened and show them the meds w his momās name on it. You canāt just give meds without a doctor first checking her. I hate to say it but have her checked for signs of sexual abuse, it may be why he didnāt take her in n had his mommy call in the meds. I think she can legally but Iām not sure but I donāt like that itās a vaginal thing like uti and he didnāt have her checked. Sounds like he may be hiding something n maybe y he donāt want to switch peds. Take her to a different ped. If ur ped says UTI get a second opinion. Is his mom n the ped friends? If so u shld definitely go to a different ped
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Take her to a normal doctor.
It happens. But definitely illegal. You have to keep records and see the person. But it does happen. Itās convenient. However you shouldnāt just give a child antibiotics especially age 2?! The more antibiotics you take over a lifetime the less they become effective. Also a child at 2 having a uti should be seen. Sexual Abuse or possible neglect not cleaning or sitting in a soiled diaper not wiping correctly, to many baths. Especially if he called a family friend for meds? What indicated she had a uti? Definitely follow your instincts. Get a second opinion.
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Be smart, take her to a family ped.
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Did u ever think that maybe they was over there for a visit after all its her mom and only a hour awayā¦ You sound like your more worried about which doc she saw then you are her healthā¦ Sad sad
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Thatās court worthy for me. No no no you donāt let the wrong type of doctor medicate our kid. Wtf!
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Oh hell nah! Take her to a doctor.
Nope i would take her to HER pediatrician and get a second opinion obviously she wasnt seen by a dr and if she has a uti she needs to be seen and then id call him out of his behavior and her actions im sure she could get in trouble
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Nah take her to regular Dr somethingās off here hunny
Take her to a pediatrician ASAP while you have her. Do not delay.
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My granddaughter get UTI ās all the time Iām not sure why but I feel itās partly because she will not use the bathroom you can ask her 100 times and then she will be walking all cross legged or literally pee on herself Because she holds it all day
Naw take her to the doctor and get a diagnosis then if need be get her some. At the very least a conversation should have happened before he made that step
How would he know she has a uti without a Dr seeing her? Drs donāt want to prescribe antibiotics without seeing them. If given too often without needing them they can become immune to them.
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I would take her to the pediatrician along with the medās. Explain how and why she had antibiotics according to the father. Iād rather be safe then sorry.
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As a nurse I can say, yes this is a thing. But generally itās for one provider to another. Like a nurse with a uti asking a doc to call something in. I have never seen someone ask for something for their kids unless it was something like nystantin, cortisone, etc. something topical and providing pics of said rash.
How old is your child? Why do they think a UTI? What are her symptoms? Could grandma have visited? What is the medication?
I mean I wouldnāt report the doc. Sheās a doctor and itās not illegal to call in an antibiotic.
I wouldnāt be screaming abuse either. Not everything is abuse. I canāt imagine a doctor regardless of who she is covering up the abuse of a child. Her name would now be tied to it. Itās not like pharmacy records arenāt there. Also, a UTI isnāt uncommon. If docs automatically suspected abuse every time a child had a uti we would all be in trouble. Itās not like women arenāt abusers too. Idk I just think automatically jumping to abuse by her father is a bit much.
To put your mind at ease call the doc that prescribed it. If you donāt agree donāt give them to her. But either way Iād call her ped and see what they suggest and probably take my daughter to be seen and document everything. Iād also ask him via text message why she got the antibiotic, what her symptoms were, how long they lasted. You could say just in case this doesnāt clear it up.
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Absolutely take her to a pediatrician and tell them whatās happened, have them check her over
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Get a second opinion from her pediatrician. A dermatologist should not be prescribing a child medication like that.
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Go straight to her doctor. Uti or not, taking medications that you do not need are dangerous to the body. Sheās 2!!
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How much do you trust your (former) husband? If you donāt think heād ever do anything to hurt either of you, itās probably okay to trust heās got the situation under control.
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Uhhā¦ Please go have her checked out, I know itās difficult emotionally, but Iām the mother of a child who was abused and this worries me. Kids get UTIs sometimes, but the fact he was adamant about the pediatrician and then had this called in. She shouldnāt just be taking antibiotics without actually knowing, and heās not a dr correct? This is crazy!
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Good lord calm down. Ever hear of telemedicine?? I got a RX by simply talking to a doctor over the phone.
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If this were a regular Dr or pediatrician I would say not 100% necessary to see her in person. With covid we have had lots of video visits with Doctors for sick visits etc. I think itās absurd to diagnose over video but thatās the world we living in. Her MIL is absolutely in the wrong. However. Working in the medical profession I see this happen. They think they are helping. She could face big repercussions for this. I would honestly let the dad know that it risks her dea license and to never rx meds again. That even though itās convenient for him you donāt know she has a UTI. Even if the MIL saw her in person a dermatologist isnāt testing for a UTI. Sheās only two what were her symptoms that concerned dad? I would just handle it between the two of you and let him know not to let it ever happen again
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As a nurse in a Dermatology practice, my doctors will be quick to tell someone no. Especially for someone they havenāt seen. Illegal? Maybe, unethical, definitely.
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