During the exchange for my 2 year old tonight, her dad informed me there were antibiotics in her bag for me to give her as he believed she might have a uti.
I found it strange he never told me anything about this because we are usually open regarding dr visits, etc.
Anyways, I get home and look at the bottle of medicine and realize it was called in by his girlfriends mother, who is a Dr. in San Diego(he lives in Orange County, over an hour away)
She is a Dr. however, she is a dermatologist, not a family dr, or a pediatrician. And I’m sure she didn’t see my daughter but rather just called in the meds for them. Is this even legal? To have a family member just call in medication for our daughter? He made such a big deal about me wanting to change her pediatrician and said no, we had to agree on one, yet he’s over here having a dermatologist who we have never agreed on seeing our daughter, prescribe her antibiotics for a “supposed uti”
I hate to say it, but the fact that he “suspected” a UTI but wouldn’t take her to a pediatrician and the fact that he is trying to prevent you from taking her to a pediatrician are all red flags for abuse. Please take her to a pediatrician immediately to be evaluated, and be prepared that CPS may get involved.
enormous red flags, I’d take her to the ER and ask for her to be examined, see if she actually has a uti, who was around her, this makes me think an older child for something horrible to her. explain that you fear something might have happened to her. nothing will happen to you and it looks every bit of wrong on him. document and take pictures of everything, record phone conversations, screenshot pictures, record in person conversations.
Over- and mis-use of antibiotics causes resistant bacteria and year infections. Did she have any symptoms? Can you afford to take her to the doctor to confirm ?
Nope. A dermatologist has no business prescribing meds for anyone that’s not their patient. This seems very shady and I think she can lose her license or get into big trouble for this. Did he even take the baby to the doctor?? You can’t just assume she has a UTI and out her on antibiotics!!!
No dude. Take your daughter to the ER and have her evaluated. Tell them everything that happened and that you know. While its not uncommon to get a UTI, a 2 year old with one?! That’s suspicious
This is extreme. You need to report this to police the doctor didn’t have a in person visit . This is highly mal practice and if your daughter doesn’t have a infection could hurt her bad. Call police report it and report the doctor this isn’t ok and don’t even argue with the dad just report report report! All of it needs documented go to police cus he is not to give daughter medicine that’s prescribed from his girlfriends mom that’s so wrong
Report & take her to the doc asap!!! What if she was abused & he’s trying to hide it, cus he has something. I hate to even think that,but these days you just never know! Please don’t hesitate take her asap to get checked out & tell the doc why!!!
That is totally illegal, for one.
Two, if your daughter “might have a UTI” she needs to see a pediatrician.
Also, try to figure out how much of those meds her dad gave her before you got her so you can tell the pediatrician.
If u have to I suggest take her to the er tell them the situation show them the antibiotic bottle and ask them to run a test on her urine to determine if she actually has an uti
definitely not okay. also, anytime a UTI is suspected a culture and sensitivity should be done as well to ensure the right antibiotics were prescribed.…. i’d follow up with a local pediatrician.
I’d be concerned about the fact that he thinks she has a UTI and instead of taking her to a doctor he called someone he knew to get a prescription. I am not trying to make accusations but could there be something going on? The whole story just seems so secretive. Why not call you and say he noticed symptoms or take her to the pediatrician you both agreed upon. Honestly I would take my daughter in for a check and have her checked everywhere everywhere everything just to be safe. The whole situation seems really weird
Many doctors and nurse practitioners do this where I live. She likely didn’t see her. She did this as a favor to your ex. Trying to help your baby out. Skin is her specialty, but she still went through her doctorate program and should’ve done weeks in each area of expertise before choosing derm.
Put the blame on your ex. She thought she was doing a good deed. I bet your ex mentioned the UTI and the girlfriend called her mom in for a favor. Take the babe to the doctor and have them run a urine.
I’m guessing you trust your ex and that if he isn’t a good dad, he wouldn’t be so involved in her care. Look up the abx and see what it’s covered area is.
Contact the healthcare facility where she works and request to speak with the Compliance officer. This is a big no no… a huge risk/liability to the organization if you were to file suit let alone the risk of harm to your daughter
Unfortunately it is legal. If they spoke of her symptoms over phone that makes it a legal binding medical visit. I work for a Dr and they have done this also but we document it in a televist form. But if you feel something isnt right take her to her pediatrician and be rechecked for her safety and to ease your mind also
Do not give her those pills. I suggest you take her to a doctor. Antibiotics tend to have side effects, you don’t want to give your toddler pills you have no knowledge of or as to what is or if there’s anything wrong with her.
If it’s not illegal it’s definitely unethical. A dermatologist has nothing to do with UTIs. Especially being an hour away she didn’t test her urine or examine her. I would be taking her to your ped ASAP. Get it documented that she doesn’t need this medication. Save the bottle & any communication about this as well as any other strange behaviors. Then take him to court to modify his visitation. I would find a way to report the girlfriends mom.
I would totally get her checked for the same reasons everyone else is saying. It’s illegal. If he thought she had symptoms he could have started with cranberry juice not meds and he should have said “hey have you noticed this or that?” I’m seeing this and I wanted to check with you first. The fact he had his girlfriend call the mom and go through all these hoops without saying a word to you is a big red flag!
Get her seen right away. She needs right medicine for infection. And if she has a infection not a cover up. Or she cld b having some other issue. And make sure the med she on even safe for her or right one.
This is horrifying take her in to pediatrician and call the dermatologists clinic to let them know what she did. Whole story sounds sketchy to me and many others on here. Trust your momma intuition.
Take her to the doctor. They will check her out and run a urine sample. If she has one you will find out. I would not give my child antibiotics unnecessarily. If the girlfriends mom didn’t run tests, I wouldn’t trust a random guess over thd phone of whats wrong with her.
I’m worried that she’s too and has a UTI? And yeah I would not give her the medicine from the doctor that you don’t know that just sounds weird to me I would suggest taking her to your family doctor or urgent care or something if she needed antibiotics that badly he should have called you I mean even parents who don’t have good co-parenting talk with one another before taking the child to doctors
No drs are gonna call in meds without seeing unless maybe a few if u are chronic issue and they know this is plan but still most have see you before prescribing any med.
My daughter’s doctor diagnosed her with UTI a half dozen times and prescribed antibiotics. Finally a different doctor realized the levels weren’t right for that and figured out it was constipation presenting as UTI. Could be anything. I’d take her to her doctor with your concerns.
So was it the weekend? During a pandemic? Maybe had a fever and wasn’t feeling well? And instead of dragging her out in the middle of a pandemic… they telconferenced the girlfriends mother…who btw…is a dr…who specializes in dermatology. Dont be salty. Make a follow up appt with her regular dr. and be grateful the girlfriend and her mom take good care of your daughter.
another question that comes to mind is would you suspect abuse of any type? has this parent had any other odd behaviors recently? any past history at all?
Oh I would think this is illegal! I would follow up with her pedtrition and explain to them what has happened theu may be able to give legal advice… I would think that the mother would have to have her license revoked…
It takes a urine specimen to determine UTI. Why don’t you take your daughter to HER pediatrician and explain the situation and what he/she thinks. Why second guess or ask on fb? What if there was no fb? Do you have a mom or aunt to talk to?
I’d go to a doctor now. If this happened in the UK it would be major! Don’t leave it. Our bodies get used to antibiotics so easily and she will need them in future! If she is taking a medication that isn’t needed this us actually so disgusting.
Dermatologist go through medical school just because they deal with the skin doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t know what a UTI was. I don’t think it’s illegal. I went to see my surgeon and I had a UTI and they gave me an antibiotic. I worked for him but I had an issue too and I haven’t seen her for that. I don’t know if it’s even unethical honestly
You know a dermatologist has been the school longer than the normal doctor has. So a family doctor goes to school for a certain amount of time but then specialists go for further. So I don’t know.
1.) it’s not illegal at all
2.) take her to her pediatrician. UTI’s in little girls need to be checked out… for reasons that moms don’t want to think about.
3.) something is weird if he’s always been open about things like this and didn’t even consult you.
Totally legal and dermatologists are medical doctors but are more specialized than your average family medicine practitioner. Their specialty just happens to be skin and skin pathologies. I work in the medical field and have had general surgeons to pediatricians write my children cripts for things as simple as treating an ear infection. You tell them the symptoms and they diagnose. You don’t always have to have “hands on” care to diagnose.
You just have to be connected to the medical field to get what’s going on in this situation. Judging by the comments I would assume 90% of you don’t have doctor friends…
As a retired nurse I would not give her one single one of those that’s exactly how children become resistant anabiotic and why would he think she had a UTI that’s kind of a red flag to me
I’m not going to jump to conclusions but I’m high key worried that they’re hiding something they did to your child if the dad couldn’t even be responsible enough to get her seen by an actual doctor or to call and inform you of what was going on. No offense but that’s some sketchy ass shit and I would keep her far away from them. Take her to the doctor if you haven’t already. And look up the name of the medication to see if it’s actually antibiotics. Even if it’s not something else, giving someone antibiotics when they don’t need them will cause their body to build resistance and that’s extremely dangerous if they were ever to actually need them.
So easy diagnose a uti all uv to do is check a urine sample id deff have a sample brought to her dr at because at 2 antibiotics could be more harmfull exps if their is no infection all sounds very weird to me tbh
THIS IS DISTURBING TO SAY THE LEAST! I WOULD BE BEYOND LIVID!! they have to test her urine, can’t just go off of what said child is telling you! My granddaughter"7" thought she had one, little burning while urinating , tested her urine and NOPE! IRRIATION from swimming in pool/ ocean! Wow!!!
Maybe it was over a weekend and she had symptoms of a UTI. Maybe the girlfriend’s mom was at their house. Maybe they had access to a urinary dipstick that showed bacteria/nitrites. It’s a simple thing to diagnose and treat. I’m sure the girlfriend’s mom learned about simple UTI’s in medical school. If you are uncomfortable follow up with her regular pediatrician.
First off it is ILLEGAL if she did not see the child & being a dermatologist does not mean you can prescribe things for a UTI. Take her to the er or dr & see if she does in fact have one & also report her to the medical board. They need to know she is misusing her medical license.
Question? How do you get a child checked for abuse at the pediatrician office??? Do you just tell them “I think my kid has been abused”
I’m only asking because wouldn’t cps be contacted if so? I still would take her in. You don’t just THINK a child has a UTI. They either do or don’t and you know once you take them in. That’s sketchy. But if someone could answer the question for me I think that would be helpful. Often times we suggest this to others but no one knows the proper terms or how to say it or knows what comes behind it. Just curious.
Take her to her pediateician now! Have her looked at, that is totally illegal and she could have her licenses revoked for perscribing meds to a minor without it being her patient!
I would ask if there was a test done for her uti and if there was ask for proof. There are over the counter UTI tests now too… its possible they used one of those and then had the meds called in based on that.
Take your kid to her doctor or the Hospital, show them the prescription and tell them what happened and see what you should do. This doesn’t sound right to me. If it was just an uti then he wouldn’t have any problems telling you about it before the drop off exchange. Something is definitely up. I would find out what’s going on.
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Nothing illegal about it. She is treating the symptoms. Little girls can get utis just from bubble baths. I would take her in after the antibiotics and make sure the infection is gone.
assuming the worst is hard I’m sure, but also not assuming could end badly.
take her in to pediatrician and call the dermatologists clinic to let them know what she did. Whole story sounds sketchy to me and many others on here. Trust your momma intuition.