Unfortunately for u, u can’t control what he does with his child during his time. It sucks because I know you only want what’s best for your child and I think we can all agree that having people come in and out of a child’s life can be damaging (especially if the child bonds with any of them). Try to focus on the quality of life you give your child while she’s with you. 
good luck
lol u can’t do a damn thing about it. stop controlling him. you don’t decide who’s around when had the kid.
Not a damn thing you can do. It’s his child as much as yours and he can decide who is around. You need to just let it go and be an adult about it. Unless someone mistreats your child there’s no reason for you to be involved in who he allows over when he has his kid.
Unless it’s by court order then you can’t actually control if he has a partner around kiddo. This is the messy part of coparenting when things aren’t controllable by you and you have to let it go and you don’t want to.
Oh lord let this go. Who cares. They come and go. You’re always gonna be his mom. The pettiness is stemming from jealously and a blow to self confidence. Just get over it for your kids sake
That’s not good. Kids get attached easily, plus you know nothing about this new woman. Be good to get to know her, but if your ex is one of those guys that dates one chick after the other, then that’s a big problem
It shouldn’t matter !!! If the kid is happy and healthy and not being mistreated who cares
So your son can’t be around friends of the opposite sex?
What he does in and with his personal life has nothing to do with you as long as the child isn’t being put into danger. It’s OK to move on. Saying your upset he has another woman around your child sounds bitter/jealous. He’s allowed to love another woman and still be a good father to his kids.
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If she’s a good person I wouldn’t be mad.
Now if she has kids that she doesn’t have custody of or is putting your kids in danger, fighting in front of your kids with their dad then you can get mad.
As someone who has a crappy BD and his GF isn’t the best count your blessings. They’re both drug users. 
He has a child endangerment charge from my oldest daughter he put in danger.
I WISH I had a good BD and he’d get a good partner. Just try to get to know her and see how she is with your ex and with children. Play it safe until she gives you a reason to not trust her around your children.
Yes I know I was DUMB for being with him and having kids but they’re here now so can’t go back and change that.
how many new girlfriends murder the kids? lots of
Doesn’t matter if y’all agreed on anything when it’s dads time with the child you can’t dictate who can and can not be around unless it’s causing serious danger or harm.
This is just bitter baby mama shit and so petty to be getting upset over.
The kid will be fine, as someone who took child development this isn’t going to cause the child to be come mentally unstable what’s going to cause issues is your child watching you be jealous and bitter towards his father for his dad just trying to live his life.
You get to control your son not your ex.
Tracy Mills except that she said they both agreed that this is something they wouldn’t do until the relationships were more serious… then he did it anyway without even a heads up. If they hadn’t had the agreement it would be totally different… but they did.
Honestly it IS her business who is around their child because children get attached and love people around them very easily and when that person leaves or they break up the child feels the loss heavily and if this event happens too much they start to think it’s their fault or lose trust in being able to depend on those they love to be around
It’s truly about protecting young feelings and hearts in the end not jealousy or immaturity
I’ve never understood the whole, “don’t have other people around my kids” thing. Just seems like a way to control each other. I say let it go and mind your business, unless you have a reason to believe your son is in danger or being abused/neglected.
You can’t control who the other parent has around the child.
Is this a verbal agreement or is in your final decree? If a judge didn’t sign off on it not much you can do.
When I was younger and in this circumstance, I hated it, but everyone needs to be happy and move on, if she or he is a nice person and want the best for your child ,then go with it, that child will flourish, I so wish I could go back and do it over!
Unless you have a written agreement it’s none of your business. There’s nothing you can do you don’t have the right to tell him who we can have around his son unless he’s in danger.
Just send her your sons Christmas list and go about your day😂
Do you control whether or not his male friends come over when he has her? If not, then yes you are. He should be able to have his friends around regardless of gender.
So see alot of people saying let it go. But if you guys had an agreement and you’re upholding your end then you have every right to be upset. And because he isn’t telling you (he probably knows you’ll be upset) that sounds like he’s hiding it. Letting it go would keep the peace temporarily but as a parent you have a right to know if someone is around your child. I would definitely have a conversation with him about it.
Lmao. Its his child too. What he does on his time is his business not yours. Its not about a stranger been around your child your just jealous of him been with another female. Why else would you “snap” and try and control him with what he chooses to do?
I don’t agree with the whole “as long as their safe” if a child sees women come in and out like revolving doors as a mother you’re allowed to be concerned. It’s damaging to the kids in the long run. My sons uncle did that had every girl he dated around his kids and their kids too so now that they’re adults his kids can’t keep a stable relationship and they have a bunch of broken relationships with “almost siblings” the repeated hurt from growing attachments to being forced to have a new attachment with a new person without grieving the last because all the dad cared about was having a new gf, to see it played out in the long run is why I disagree with moms and dads having anyone around just cause they’re dating
You cannot control what happens in “dads house” it’s his time and none of your business. Just the same if you got a new partner. It’s hard but you will get used to it. Try to keep the communication lines open and an amicable relationship with the Dad. You will find that any woman that chooses to be in a relationship with a man that has children understands she is dating a package. (If not she won’t last long) a step mum 
Unless you have a legally binding court ordered visitation and custody agreement that states for stipulates he is not allowed to have the child around this person etc there’s nothing you can do except express your dislike for the situation but if he is not putting his son your child in any danger then really there’s nothing you can do he is allowed to spend his time with his child how he sees fit now if you believe that there is a danger to your child then you have a right to take things back to court and try to prove that and have the agreement adjusted. Me personally id let it go if it’s not causing any harm or putting my child in danger.
You say you found out on Facebook, but found out what? And he had the girl around your son but in what capacity? You didn’t provide any details if you even have any. Why are you still watching what he does? Does your son even talk about the last girlfriend or say he misses her? If he never met her bc you didn’t let it happen, then this new girl would be the first person he’s met, right? And how old is your son. That definitely also matters. He probably won’t even remember these chicks.
Message her. Tell her you would like to get to know each other. I think safety reasons would be the only reason to become involved w this. Unfortunately, she will prob be the first of many. Be secure as a mom and just Make sure your son is safe. Other than that…
You can’t control what he does smh these kill me he is the father let him be and let him handle his relationship with his child all you should be doing is encouraging the relationship between them and do you and let him do him your son is fine im sure people have many relationships before finding the one I mean look you was with him
Ok again this is petty and childish…is ur son 8n harms way or danger ? If not then so what…sounds like yr a little Jealous