My ex does not want our kids seeing a therapist anymore...advice?

Fishy… Why wouldn’t he want them to go???.

If the children have been going to therapist for years, are they actually helping?

Is to stop all therapy or just with the therapist they have been seeing. If it’s just their present one, maybe he feels this one is not doing any good.

Alot of people are saying red flag on his behalf? Why? Why is that the automatic assumption? I think the red flag here is that children have been going to therapy for years. That’s not right at all. If I that were my children, I would want them to stop going to after all this time. Clearly it’s not working and seems they have been going the best part of their lives. I wouldn’t want them to grow up thinking therapy is a normal part of life. The poster have given absolutely no context into to what it’s about. And not any point did she say he was a danger to the kids or that he put the children in therapy in the first place. Most people writing in with things like these, write those sorts of things to back up whatever they are saying. Maybe the mother is the red flag here. Maybe their father is concerned she pushing things they don’t need/ that’s isn’t working. Maybe he’s paying for therapy but isn’t allowed to go or seeing progress.

Keep kids away from therapists at all costs

If your children are willing participants in their own treatment and wish to continue receiving therapy, I’d very assertively inform my ex that depriving them of such services is willful child neglect and that I would not be participating in such acts of neglect. If they push the issue, bring it up to the children’s doctor, away from the children though, just to make sure you’re on the same page as the doctor. They’ll be more than happy to assist you on behalf of your children, should the need ever arise.

Ok you’re not giving the full details for starters

Have dad take you back to court to stop therapy. In my experience, the only time someone wants a child to stop going to a therapist is if that person is doing something wrong to the child in question. In the meantime, only schedule therapy sessions during your time with kids. What you do with your kids on your time isn’t of dads concern.

This is why do many go without mental health treatment. Because a parent is embarrassed by or think it hurts them in some way for their child to seek treatment. What a beautiful world this would be if everyone that needed it could get it without judgement and having to worry about money to pay. No one takes mental health seriously. I’ve watched many go through this needing that therapist and couldn’t afford it. If the children need it keep taking them and fight dad to the core. Take it to every court you need too. If they gave been going on this time and now he’s wanting it stopped all of a sudden something is not right. Momma you be those children’s advocate and scream that voice loud for them. You are all they have fighting for them. Finally after 10 years someone is listening to my nephew and us that he needs help. Fight momma fight for this babies

Well that’s scary. Let them keep going.

You are their parent too , he can’t stop them to go , keep talking them if he has a problem have him to take you to court

Sound like he’s worried the therapist ain’t gonna like what she hears about him. Keep raising your kids, let him take it to court.

You should deff talk to your children and see how they feel, but ultimately if you feel they need it then they should continue. A pediatric doctor may also suggest you keep them going and it’s worth the discussion. Then if their father doesn’t agree he can take it up with the court/judge. In many cases judges like to see children in therapy and such especially when divorce or other major events have occurred. It would be interesting to know why the father feels this way……

Im gonna need his side of the story before i crucify him or give any opinion

You should be the therapist.

Is there something that he may not want the children to speak that he may want them to hide maybe ask the children