Hi I would like this anonymous please if you could post my question to the page. So I have a 5 year old daughter who I rarely get to see due to the relationship with her dad. I personally don’t have any bad feelings towards, whenever I make plans with her and I make sure her dad knows this too he always makes an excuse to why I can’t see her. He gets upset when im not around enough but also gets equally if not more upset when I am. I don’t know how to go about seeing my daughter if every time I try he stops me from seeing her. Its getting really hard because I love my daughter so much and I really would love to spend time with her.
Get legal help, with a custody agreement
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You have to take him to court
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Court. The only way unfortunitely
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Thats a shitty excuse. Go to court and get custody set.
Court is your best bet!
Well clearly there’s a back story to this that we don’t know on why he has custody so nobody can really say who’s in the wrong in this 
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Contact your state bar association (if in the US) and get legal counsel. You have rights
Totally agree you need to go to court to get visiting rights
Go to court get your visitation rights
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As above theres more to the story. It sounds like he has custody so I’m sure you love her but there must be a reason. Perhaps go to court for visitation
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Get a lawyer.take him 2court.get it in paper!
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If you have a court order,use it.if not,get one.
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IF u go FILE WITH CS AND U TAKE HIM 2 COURT THEY APPOINT U HELP…CALIF RULES
You don’t need a lawyer to file for visitation just go to the juvenile courts intake office and ask for a hearing it might be a small fee of around 20 dollars.
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Just like dads have to do
Go to court for a visitation schedule
Not fun when your on the other side n one parent holds all the power
Like moms say maybe hes afraid you won’t bring her back?
Whats the reason he has custody?
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Go to the court house and file for visitation. You don’t need a lawyer. You can file all of the paperwork yourself.
first of all why dont you have custody or a joint custod???
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Get a lawyer and go to court
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I can’t believe those of you asking WHY she doesn’t have custody. That’s not even important 
you can give a perfectly good answer without knowing why she does not have custody. Sounds like she’s making the effort to see the child and dad isn’t letting that happen.
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You need to take him to court. If you can’t afford a lawyer the court will appoint one to you, and they will help you fight for visits and enforce and ensure that you are getting them. If you’re serious about wanting to see your daughter this is what you will have to do.
Make a schedule with him and stay on it on your part.
Get the court to set visitation.
Court, that’s your best bet!
Your only real option is to take him to court.
Get a good lawyer, quit posting and basing your life on social media
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If for nothing bad an child comes to your house an u have no current court agreement you can depending state keep your child until court
Get court ordered visitation and stick to a schedule.
Retain the best attorney you can find and do good research on them and take his ass to court… Shame on any parent that keeps their child away from them if they’re not being put in danger that is
Time to go to court and get a parenting plan put in place. Then he can’t stop you from seeing her during your court ordered time with her.
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Go to court- get assigned times
You need to petition the court for visitation or periods of placement. Like a day a weekend overnight.
Dont give up and take it back to court! You have the right to spend time with her! Dont let him call the shots. If possible, hire an attorney. Good luck!
Go to court. Get a set visitation in plan… If he does not comply to order. He can go to jail.
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Go to family court and have a custody/visitation agreement made, if he doesn’t follow the custody agreement/visitation, he will get in trouble for it.
It’s a power and control thing!!
Take him to court! Only way to get visitation that he can’t stop
He is hurting her too,that should be the biggest concern.take him back to court if you can.
Fight for custody. Parental alienation is very serious
You need a visitation schedule threw the courts then he can’t deny you visits
She’s 5…why is there not already some sort of custody/visitation already worked out? There is a good bit of info missing here…
Off to court you go!!
Sounds like he has a personal vendetta against you. Why don’t you have custody of her?
There must be a genuine reason he has custody
Work on that first!
Get a visitation order through the courts
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call children’s services.
Get court ordered visitation
Go through the courts ASAP
Get a formal parenting plan on file with your local county court. Then neither parent gets to dictate anything as far as parenting time is concerned.
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Go to court and get visitation and then when it is all on paper then he can’t refuse it
Have to go to court. Calling childrens services will do absolutely nothing at all. Half the time court only grant’s visitation anyways (not enforce it where I am) therefore it doesnt do to much. But that’s only NY other states are better , if you’re scared of child support and trying to avoid court you need to think of which is more important to you.
first of all why dont you have custody or a joint custod???
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Go to court. You have rights
Need court ordered visitation.
Sorry but I won’t let a man stop me seeing my child he would go out that door before I would loose my child
Don’t you have court ordered visitation? If not, get one. If you do, take his butt to court.
Do you have a legal custody arrangement? If not it would be a very good thing to do.
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My advice don’t stop seeing your daughter it shows her no matter what your not giving up and protect yourself record your time with her pics ect it shows your trying to be involved anything and everything he says to prohibit you from time spent with her, keep a journal of all of it it helps in court especially because you have it all in detail. Another thing check to see if your state allows you to have a recording app on your phone and use it as more proof. If it does Id bring all that up to him (the Ex) and get it taped. Sounds like alienating behaviour and if you can prove that in front of a judge then the balls in your court
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Maybe take him to court, and get a court order so you have time with her.
You have unsolved issues with your ex partner… No matter how much advice you get it will never be enough… Because only you and your ex know… Sometimes time and space is needed and the occasional I’m checking in and letting you know I’m still here for you and my child… Parents forget they loved each other at one point in time and know of your insecurities… 
hope this helps that spark you was looking for 
So go to court and get visitation in writing.
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I suggest taking him to court. That’s really all you can do
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Take him to court. That’s the only way you are going to get a set visitation schedule.
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Go to court and get court ordered visitation so he has to go along if not you can report him
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And this is why you need a custody order.
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It’s seldom the father gets custody of the child so that being said if you have your Ps and Qs in order go to court for visitation rights
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Court is the only way to do custody
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The fact that he’s got custody speaks volumes about you. So there’s that.
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Sounds like you need to take him.to court. For visitations. If you don’t then your just missing out on days weeks months an years with your daughter.
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100% time to lawyer up. You need a legal document that grants you access to your child.
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If you weren’t married he legally can’t keep her from you. You would have signed an affidavit of parentage when she was born. That paper says you are the mom and he is the dad but it also gives the mother full physical and legal custody until there is a court order in place. He could actually get in legal trouble for not letting you see her.
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If the courts set visitation when he was given custody, then you can have an officer accompany you to pick her up. If nothing has been set, in court, you need to take him to court.
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I would suggest taking visitation to court. However document everything. Every text, email etc that he sends you with the excuses. We don’t know your story so if he has custody for a reason show the judge your situation has improved and show the judge along with that the ex used your ex is giving on when you want to be with your daughter he doesn’t allow it. You will need this proof because guaranteed he will say in court that you don’t try to visit. So document every little thing. Good luck momma! Hope you get this changed
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At this point I think you need to get something court ordered. So you can both get equal time with her and this wont happen in the future without repercussions.
Take him to court for visitation don’t know what’s going on with y’all but take him to court so you can see your child.
Take him to mediation as you have to do this before court
Why are people assuming that a woman wrote this? It is possible that a man wrote this as same sex adoptions have been legal for some time.
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What’s the current custody agreement?
Ask him why he’s punishing his daughter?
Go get legal aide n joint custody then no breaking that for him !!!
Document each occurrence and go back to court
Along with the court bit, but why are you making plans with your child instead of going directly to the father is my question. A child at the age of 5 is not always going to know if there is something going on or a previous plan in place. The fact that you aren’t going directly to him and communicating like an adult, in my opinion, just seems petty and doesn’t make sense at all. That tells me that you’re the one that had some growing up to do if you can’t do something as simple as talking to the father.
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Sounds exactly like what my husband’s baby momma is doing to us so we just served her papers for a court custody hearing because the stupid shit she makes us jump through to see our son is ridiculous.
If you loved your daughter so much why does someone else have custody just speaking the truth
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First of all, why does he have primary custody???
People should be honest and give full details, or at least some details when asking for advice. Obviously left stuff out, court must’ve already happened if Dad has primary custody. Either way, if you care to spend more time with daughter, legal route is how you have to go.
Go to court, if there’s nothing in your custody agreement (which I assume you already have) that states a certain amount of days/time you get to have her, then he has every right to keep her from seeing you (even though that’s a shitty thing to do). You’ll have to go back to court and get visitation agreed upon or 50/50 custody, or something. Otherwise, not much you can do unfortunately!
Get legal help, fight for her or else she will grow up thinking you didn’t care.
If you dont have your kid, wtf did you do to lose her. Its incredibly hard for a father to be granted custody.
That is extremely judgemental !