Don’t pick this hill to die on. There are and will be more important things that come up in co parent that you should save your energy for.
Do the very least amount you can with her hair (I’m unfamiliar with taking care of her hair type but my youngest has very tight curly hair and it is a mess 90% of the time. So many products! I think I tried them all…lol)
Can you put it in a pony tail? Braids might be more time consuming for him to bother with.
I agree that he’s doing it because he knows it bothers you but, you know what? She’s 3. I can guarantee she doesn’t care about her hair. And if he doesn’t care she’s looking a mess when she’s with him, that’s on him. It’s a reflection if him and his parenting. You can only control what happens when she’s with you. I’m sorry, I know it’s more work for you when she comes home but, seriously do the least amount of work with her hair before you send her.
**oh, and document document document. Take her pic how you send her and how she comes home
I will ask several questions…does your daughter look unhappy when she gets home? Does she complain about her dad is to her? I the answer is no, get over it, She is 3 yrs old, she is a child & as long as she is happy let it go. And what in God’s name is a fresh hairstyle??? Again as long as she had fun at her dad’s…let it go,
As he is walking towards your door snap a pic every time, but don’t say a word. Also take a pic before you send her. After a few weeks of this. Send him the pics and ask him if he wants them posted.
Take before and after pictures of her. If he’s not caring for her personal cleanliness and grooming appropriately, take it up with the court.
They doing this to make u mad. Best I can say is take pics of when she leaves u and pics of when she comes home. If it ever goes to court it’s proof he’s not on top of things.
I don’t know much about black hair, but i do know that it is very important to be kept up with. I know i cant stand it wen my kids go out in public looking like a mess. Ur lil girl being 3 years old obviously cant do her own hair, and wont express that its important to her since at that age it’s not but it is. So i wonder if its something u could put in ur custody arrangement? If he takes her hair down than he needs to at least put it into a pony tail at least … something to think about cuz im sure its so hard to comb thru after she comes back to you if hes not keeping up on it. But like i said, i don’t know how much of this is revelant since i really don’t know much about black hair
If that is your only complaint, be grateful!
Ask the gf to help… men don’t think or care about this stuff
Omg some of you guys are CRAZY. It does not sound like he’s messing with her or baiting her or trying to cause drama. It sounds like he just isn’t that worried about doing the kids hair because she probably gives him a hard time like every 3 year old girl does. Just leave him alone on his time with his daughter. At least he’s seeing her for 3 days a week unlike a lot of these supermarket donors out there. He’s telling her to get help because to him it’s not a big deal. And her making it one is triggering to him. She has no idea if her hair is nice on those other days. I’m sure him being clean kept and his gf as well, they don’t take the little girl out in public looking a mess. Maybe he’s just being lazy on drop off day. Because she’s only going home to mom and not out in public. It’s really
Not any sort of deal to make it. Seriously it’s a non issue at this point. You can let him know if you need him to do her hair next time be like hey I gotta run straight to this or that can you do her hair before I get her. And if he doesn’t do it he’s a jerk. But I bet he will. Stop badgering him about stupid dumb stuff like this. It’s pointless. He don’t care. It’s not like she’s in school yet where this would be a concern. Just let him have his days with his child and know deep down that there is absolutely no you can do about her hair style while she’s with him. Just stop making issues where there doesnr need fo be any. If it bothers you this much you MIGHT BE crazy.