We chose to have our son circumcised for hygienic reasons as well as sexual reasons. It’s easier to clean and keep clean without the foreskin. My husband is not circumcised so he was really up for having our son circumcised.
Keep him as he was born. Babies aren’t made with parts they don’t need. If he didn’t need it, he wouldn’t have been born with it. Foreskin has 16 functions.
All three of my boys are not circumcised. Neither is their father. None of them have had problems. My eldest is old enough to properly care for his own when bathing. He potty trained just fine and hasn’t had any problems. My middle potty trained just fine, his extra skin doesn’t get in the way. The youngest is just 7 months, but still no problem with him either. No man or boy in either side of the family has been circumcised. The extra skin hasn’t been an issue on either side. It was a question asked when we had our first son. The doctor who delivered my first said it wasn’t a medical necessity, it was more of a cosmetic or religious surgery. There is definitely a lot to consider, but it is all up to us as the parents. It definitely is nice asking male members of the family what they think. We didn’t have a circumcised male to ask, so we had a heavily one sided opinion. But it is definitely up to you in the end.
I did not circumcise my oldest. When he had to have a hernia repair at 14 he begged me to let him have it done. He felt different than his peers after locker room showers. I consented and it was a much more painful procedure than if I had it done at birth. It also takes much longer to heal. My second son was done at birth and I have no regrets. That being said, its your son and you and the father should be the only ones to make that decision.
As a mother of 4 boys my first one who was adopted wasn’t because his mother didn’t want to pay the extra money that free healthcare didn’t pay for. At 3 years old his issues started and we had to have it done. It became a necessity and if done when he was born would have been so much easier on him.
Please
Circumcise. It’s actually healthier
I am a nurse and I say yes to circumcise. It helps to keep them clean with less infection. I had a man in his 80 s get circumcised because he was tired of the infection and pain he endured his entire life.
THEY CIRCUMCISE GIRLS IN SOME COUNTRIES AND THAT’S CONSIDERED A HUMAN RIGHTS VIOLATION. Boys are no different IMO.
It’s a personal choice, but I myself would absolutely have my son circumcised if I ever had the chance to have another baby. It’s more hygienic. As they get older, there can be a lot of issues that happen with their foreskin such as infections, etc. but again as I said, it is YOUR choice to make as his mother. Either choice is right.
We circumcised our son, but my husband is not… lol sorry if tmi… both are healthy and fine with no issues or problems. Moral of the story its completely up to u guys a a couple. If u do thats fine and If I don’t u just need to make sure u properly educated him on proper hygiene as infections could be more common if not.
As a muslim it’s obligatory for us to circumcised our boys…it has both effect us religiously and medically too…those who are saying it’s not medically necessary do search it properly or otherwise contact me I’ll tell you how important it is for boys…if parents circumcised their boy…that boy will definitely appreciate his parents decision otherwise they’ll regret their whole life…I do circumcised my boy when he is just 1 month old…
My husband’s friend just went threw this with his son he wasn’t circumcised when he was born and all his 6 years of life has been a living hell with infections and a few weeks ago he had to get it done because of all of the infections
I have 2 (grown now) boys, neither were circumcised and we never had any issues!! It’s never seemed to bother them as adults and it has become more common to choose not to circumcise. It’s a personal choice though, don’t let others influence YOUR decision as his MOM!
Later in life it could become a problem. My dad had to be done late in life. Poor baby. But I think he should be done.
Circumcision this day in age of better hygiene is not as imperative as it once was. Pull the foreskin back and wash well and he’ll be fine
They’re likely trying to justify what they put their boys through, or justify what was done to them, by being aggressive about it to you
It is NOT necessary, and it IS barbaric, and traumatic
80% of the world is intact (not cut), so your son will definitely not be in the minority
It’s a personal choice. I choose to circumcise my son but only for hygiene reasons.
Plus I used to work for an out patient surgery group and would see 60-70 year olds having a circumcision performed due to recurrent infections. I thought it would be better sooner than later
When our son was born in 1987 our doctor said to not circumcise him because my husband wasn’t. After we got home and I would clean him during his diaper change I noticed 4 small white “pearls” on the tip and when I questioned our pediatrician he said “oh, it’s nothing”. Fast forward to a year later and I had to take him to the doctor but ours wasn’t available so I saw his partner and I casually mentioned it to him and when he looked at it his eyes got big and he left the room to return a few minutes later with paperwork to head straight to the hospital for surgery as they were tumors!!! He’s 33 now with no problems but it scared me half to death. Listen to your gut feeling…
My son’s almost 2, not circumcised. You don’t circumcise females, why do it to males. Just to be the same?
I had dad’s parents REALLY into me about it. I didn’t follow though. Didn’t even think about switching teams.
He wants it done, he can have it done at 18.
Do what YOU want to do mumma. He’s your baby not theirs. If there is no medical need for it then what’s their issue?
You are making a mistake and your child will eventually have to get it later on down the line but it will be more traumatizing for your child. However this is still your child and regardless of what you decide it’s not ones concern but yours.
I am an RN and my son and grandson have been circumcised for many reasons. …the biggest one being hygiene. As a nurse, I took care of a man in his 30s, who had to be circumcised because of a health issue and it was horrible. It was trip to the OR, 3 days in the hospital and lots of pain and embarrassment for him. It was sad because he would not have had to go through that if he had just been circumcised as a baby.
Neither one of my sons are circumcised, 18 & 10 years old. Thankfully, we’ve never had a problem with infections or anything. Both learned, in time, the importance of keeping it clean
Would they be asking and pressuring you on what to do with your daughters vagina? No, that’s creepy. It’s not their business and you’re absolutely doing the right thing by allowing your child their bodily autonomy. Cosmetic genital surgery on infants should not be a thing.
We didn’t circumcise our oldest and he ended up getting infections that were terrible. We had to have it done after he turned 3. I wish we had had done it at birth.
I live in Denmark and only jewish and muslims boys get circumcised when they are babies.
It’s a personal choice. As another parent stated, just make sure to teach proper hygiene. There is no medical reason and there are plenty of other cultures that don’t do it. Don’t allow your family/friends to bully you to make a decision you’re not ready to. If you choose not to circumcise your child, then do be it!! Best of luck and Congratulations on your new bundle of joy. Enjoy your baby boy
I am totally against circumcision… there is no medical reason for it to be done… and if it didn’t serve a purpose it wouldn’t be there…and this “ we want him to look like his dad” is not a good enough reason… but he your child and the decision is yours…
My son is not circumcised I was highly judged for it actually and as it is unfortunate he is my son and if I choose to not have him circumcised that’s my business my choice and my child to parent period thus far there has been absolutely no issues I really didn’t need it Necessary to inflict pain on my baby n I know “they don’t feel pain they don’t remember it” I believe otherwise n I think your making an amazing choice my following what you believe to be best for ur baby boy
Its your choice. But if you dont do it now. Let’s hope nothing happens… nothing worse then having it done at an older age .surgeon told me that a 10yr old had to go in and get it done for medical reasons … my first 2 arent but my baby is
It’s your personal choice, but it will impact your child.
I have 3 boys. My oldest was circumcised. It was tough for me emotionally. And they didn’t take off enough skin when they did it, so months later it didn’t heal right and they had to peel the additional skin off when he was 1… it caused him so much pain.
My 2nd boy, due to circumstances of when he was born, we couldn’t get an appointment in time and once was was 3 months they wanted to charge too much. He ended up with UTI’s frequently and issues with his skin. (He was in day care) He’s 4 now, and potty trained, so not as many issues… still not circumcised.
Our other son, adopted last year, he’s 11. Not circumcised and never taught how to properly care for it, so it was interesting.
He now knows how to care for it and no issues.
So… with proper care, we’ve found there isn’t a big medical issue.
I have 1 son. Circumcised. But let me tell you two stories. 1. All of my uncle’s were not circumcised. One uncle at age 10 got his caught in the zipper of his pants after using the restroom. Had to have ER doc assist. Not fun. 2. Another uncle got an infection between the folds when he was in his 50s. It was so bad doctor had to circumcise him. The pain was horrendous until the circumcision healed. Doctor told him when a baby is circumcised they don’t have the nerves that grown men do. Hence the horrific pain recovering from a circumcision as an adult. Something’s to think about.
From what I hear, boys should look like their dads… I know a couple that decided later in life to do it
you own personal decision, but I have 5 boys and they are all circumcised. The reason I did it was because my daddy was not and he told me, with all of my boys to do it because if i didnt the worse out come from the number of infections they could get would be worse. I took my advise from aomeone that raised me and had first hand information. Little boys and big boys get hurt and into enogh things in their lives, it was one less thing i had to worry about. And trust that I know what im talking about my boys range fom 22yr old down to 9mo old. But it is up to you. The longer you wait, the more pain he will infact feel. If you wait till after he is 3mo old most Dr will not do it at that point until they are 1yr old. And at that point they will have to be put to sleep, and again i have older boys and at the age of 1 they start to put their hand down their pants, so again you are talking infection… if you want to make a decision you must do it soon.
Have him circumcised now. Infections can be very serious and it’s much more painful if they get it done at an older age. My paternal grandfather had to get his done as an adult and said it was excruciating
I am due any day with our 1st child, a baby boy. My husband and I have decided to circumcise. As his parents, it is our decision, just like it is yours for your child. No need to listen to what outsiders have to say on this personal matter.
Only in America do you think boys are born with defective body parts. Surly if you as a woman believe “my body, my choice” you would allow your son the same basic right, otherwise you are just a hypocrite.
Im from the UK and its a rare practice here and men are not suffering infection because of it. Also, the most sexually sensitive parts are in the foreskin, so you are removing sexual pleasure. So from my perspective, its a sexist, vile and barbaric practice.
I had my son circumcised. He is now 28. We are Catholic. A few years later I was pregnant with our second child, we chose not to find out the sex. We were invited to a friend’s child’s Bris. For those who are unfamiliar, this is a Jewish tradition on the 9th day of life, the baby boy gets circumcised by a Rabii of sorts. Anyway, the baby is not anesthetized in that area, they give him a little wine to suck on. He was screaming. All the Jewish men who were witnesses were laughing in celebration. I realize that this is steeped in tradition. However, I found this to be barbaric and I was so upset. I told my husband that I didn’t know if I would be able to have the baby I was carrying circumcised if it was a boy. I thank God every day for my Gorgeous Daughter.
Religion and cultural norms are no longer an excuse for genital mutilation, many Jewish people are now practicing Brit Shalom instead of Brit Milah. An individual’s right to religious freedom is certainly violated when they are marked permanently because of a requirement of their family’s faith.
If it is so acceptable for people to circumcise their sons based on faith/culture, than it should follow that certain levels of female circumcision should also be acceptable. Why does the world recoil so adamantly against FGM, but happily hand over their sons to be violated?
Some would like to argue that male circumcision is a decision made by parents based on certain health benefits for the child, but UTIs in male infants are rare and foreskin issues generally occur due to incorrect intact care. If circumcision offers protection against HIV shouldn’t America have lower rates of the virus due to the high rates of circumcisions carried out there??
The concept of people speaking out against the topic of male circumcision is confronting to some, but do those who speak out against FGM receive the same label of “troll” or “keyboard warrior”? All it takes is a little attitude shift, and the consideration that just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean it’s right.
We live in an age of information and there are so many resources available now to show us foreskin doesn’t kill. Your sons are capable of keeping their bodies clean. Let’s protect our children and offer that protection to everyone. Sparing a baby the trauma of a painful experience should not depend on the shape of their genitals.
#CondomsNotCutting #BritShalomNotBritMilah
#HisBodyHisChoice
#IntactGenitalsAreAHumanRight
I have a friend who was nvr circumcised, I asked him if he had a son would he get him circumcised. He said yes. I asked y and he said because he wasn’t circumcised it caused him alot of body insecurities.
Your kid your business. My daughters dad wasnt and he had no issues! If you teach you son how to clean himself he will be fine.
My boys are not circumcised because I didn’t have the money at the time to do it. I would have done it if I could have. Honestly, it is mostly personal preference of the parents and really its no ones business except yours and your husband’s and the child’s doctor.
Might I also add that it doesn’t bother me either way whether a parent chooses to cut or not cut their son. I just stated my personality opinion on the matter.
They’re born with foreskin for a reason- would you circumcise yourself? I bet not. Same thing. Watch a video on what they do, and do real research. It literally alters a baby’s brain causing irreversible damage. Not to mention removing 1000’s of nerves.
It’s barbaric, from barbaric times. We’re above this as a society, so why do we do it? Our jobs are to protect our babies.
The infections are brutal they didn’t circumcise my last son , I threw a fit I already had 3 boys and five nephews , all circumcised , it was horrible trying to pull back and keep clean he got an excellent infection at two weeks swollen three times his size , I was supposed to take him in for surgery to do his circumcision but they infection prevented me from doing it until he was six weeks old , that surgery is brutal when they grow up , anyway it’s your child do what u want it’s your choice , make sure u change diaper every time he pees that is what causes the infection u can’t wait for the diaper to get full, cloth diapers would be best
I did for my oldest. My youngest isnt circumcised. No issues with him. Once in a while i need to pull it out and clean it… But other than that nothing… Either way… But once he gets older and decided to get it down… Itll be very painful recovery the old he gets
Have you ever had sex or been with uncircumcised man? I have. When he worked and sweated it smelled sooooo bad. He got made funbof in school during football n they called him anteatter. He HATED IT. I also know a few men who werent circumcised as babies so they did it as an adult. Don’t do that to your son and circumcise him
I say do your research for the pros and cons on circumcision. I’ve known several men who had to get circumcised as an adult because they were having problems…mostly keeping it clean and causing infections. Because let’s face it…some boys/men are not very hygienic lol
I had my son circumcised as a baby and it was healed within a week if taken care of carefully every day.
Neither of my boys are. I felt that was their choice to make, not mine. Only if medically necessary
I circumcised my son! No problems, but it’s your child, your choice
I have 3 sons. None of them are circumcised. It is literally only normal in the US. Without getting into religion. There is NO medical need for it. Once upon a time they didn’t have medication for infections so guys cut that part off so it was less likely to get said infections. Now we have medications that will fix that… btw my oldest is the only one who got an infection ONCE because he wasn’t shaking after peeing… doctors tried to tell me he needed to be circumcised. I took him to his British born pediatrician who took a look at him and concluded he was fine. Also educated me that most American doctors are just inexperienced in the world of uncircumcised penises and will push for it because they simply don’t understand it enough. My son got his medication and was right as rain in no time. Now SOMETIMES when some people seem predisposed to infections, they end up getting a circumcision later in life. BUT Circumcision as a baby is like having ur tonsils removed because sometimes people get them removed. Don’t let people bully you. This is your son! Do what YOU feel is best!
My oldest was circumcised but I didn’t not with my youngest as his father isn’t. I will say it is a lot of work teaching him to make sure it’s clean and showing him how to keep it clean. He isn’t had any issues. Basically it comes down to you guys. You are both the parent and you know what’s best for your baby. If you don’t want it done don’t do it. If you feel you should then do it. You guys are going to make the decision in the end no matter what anyone ha to say
My twins are both circumcised I did it for cleanliness uncircumcised are harder to keep clean and more prone to getting infections bc they are hard to clean my nephews aren’t circumcised and they got infections bc they wouldn’t let their mom clean them fully bc you have to pull the skin all the way back and make sure it’s very clean it’s just easier in my opinion to have them circumcised
For the cleanliness best to circumcise. I asked my adult sons, all three, if I made the right choice. They all agree with me and all of my grandsons are too. Maybe you should ask cut and uncut men.
speaking from a woman who is married to an uncircumcised husband sorry l know TMI but it’s gross!!! Both of our son’s were circumcised at birth. Trust me…DO IT. If not for him for his future wife
Working in the medical field and have had plenty of male patients needing circumcision late in life all in their 50’s. Do whatever you feel is best for your baby. Either way, IF need be, he can always have it done later
My son was born 1.5 months early, was not circumcised at birth due to being premature birth. At 1 he had issues and needed surgery to circumcise then. Also had a neighbour who was circumcised as an adult due to medical issues very painful.
I would never cut off part of my child’s healthy genitals. That is weird and barbaric.
Both my boys were circumcised. My choice. Easier to keep clean and since I was a mother without any brothers iwas glad to do it. Yes they cried but was worth it later on
We didnt circumcise our boy. We decided it wasnt worth it. He was very ill when he was born and we decided it was an unnecessary procedure. The only difference is you have to pull the foreskin back and keep it clean. Hes 10.5 months old and we’ve never had a problem. No utis or anything. We believe we made the right decision.
You can wait 'till he’s ready. Boys in the Philippines wait 'till the age of 7 and above to be circumcise. Being circumcise doesn’t really make a big difference. But It is advisable for hygienic purposes.
My son was circumcised. My husband is as well. The Dr gave him a lollipop to suck on for a couple of minutes to numb it. He wasn’t in pain. After the Dr was done he came bk the room. He had a drop of blood which is normal. He was a happy baby when he came bk
My daddy and 5 of my 6 grandsons…no circumcision, no infections, no negative reactions. My only grandson who was circumcised has had 2 STD’s. NEXT…
It’s up to the care you provide and if they are taught to clean it well. I worked in the pediatric ER for four years and we had a lot of infections in uncircumcised boys as well as UTIs. Mine is circumcised and I’ve had no issues with it. However, at the end it is your choice.
As a parent, it is you and your husband’s decision and you 2 alone. But, here is my perspective: I was a surgical nurse for years, on a regular basis we had young children come in and have a circumcision done because of recurrent infections and problems. The average ages ran from age 2-4. But we did have boys and men come in at all ages because of issues they encountered with not being circumcised. However, I also know, many go without any problems. Based on my personal experience, if I had any boys, I would have had them circumcised based solely on the fact of how many we did in surgery and knowing the pain they endured post-op at an older age opposed to being a newborn
It’s a personal choice. Nobody else’s business really. People will always have something to say about your parenting choices. Learn to set loving boundaries now. Kindly tell them while you appreciate their advice it is your child. People told me to shave my daughters head and get her ears pierced as an infant. Absolutely not I said. Her body her choice and she can not consent, is my personal view.
My oldest is not circumcised because he had a natural circ, his foreskin was very loose so they refused to circ him. My husband is the same. I wasn’t sure what the best course of action was with my second son but his foreskin was very tight so they strongly advised that he needed to be circumcised.Fast forward a year… a new pediatrician was appalled that one was circumcised and one wasn’t and “ how are you going to explain that!” My reply…”for the same reason one has brown eyes and one has hazel eyes! As long as it works…who cares?”
Its easier for them to clean if u get him cut . I did my son but they didn’t do it right it had to be recut
I have a family friend that had to get circumcised in his late 50s early 60s for serious medical reasons, I didn’t ask details. He said it was painful though.
My son isn’t and weve had zero issues
Had my two boys circumcised. There were no issues. They are 13 and 11 now. But I don’t think it matters either way though
Your child 100% you and the fathers choice! NOBODY ELSES!
My husband is uncircumcised, we had a daughter in 2009 and boy/girl twins in 2016. We, right from the start said we would both like our twin boy to he circumcised…when the twins came we hesitated…for a short moment we worried about hurting him, and thought he was perfect as is why? But ultimately we both realized we were in an emotionally heightened state and went with our initial decision. I do not regret it! At age 4 now my son has been hitting milestones slightly behind the average and I just know it would have been an issue for him at school. I would have hated to put his teachers in the position to have to help him with such things, but like all moms on here, it’s your choice and you have to live with it. Do what you and your spouse think is best.
I will tell you this . Some have trouble keeping it clean . It can and will cause problems . I also know men who have had the surgery later in life . It’s the most painful thing they ever went through they said . It’s easier for it to be done now instead of later . If you teach your son to take care of it . He should have no problems though . The decision is yours and the fathers. No one else . Dont let family bully you into doing something you dint want to. Good luck momma
Knowing the issues of infections and std etc that uncircumcised boys can get . The real issue is if you teach them to clean correctly when bathing when not circumstanced. So they don’t get infections and the rest is common smart to use condoms etc…
I had my son almost 12 years ago, before we left the hospital he was circumcised. What exact reason are you keeping the extra skin for? Decoration? Your child, your choice
Infant circumcision is genital mutilation and should be banned. Parents have no right to force it on a child without their consent either
Your baby, your choice. Do your research. Outside of the us it’s not a common practice and in the past years it’s been less and less also. Basic personal hygiene can prevent any issue.
Facts > Opinions.
FACTS:
Circumcision destroys over 16 essential functions including the Male G spot
Circumcision removes 10,000-13,000 highly sensitive nerves (meissner corpuscles)
Creates an open wound leaving the glans exposed for infections, bacteria, and eventually callouses over like a scab, becoming dried out and rough to the touch
Leads to erectile dysfunction later in life from being exposed (the glans is supposed to be an internal organ, only showing when sexually aroused)
Leads to painful, dry intercourse from lack of foreskin (Foreskin bunches and rolls with each thrust - stimulating the vaginal canal - it creates a seal locking in moisture to prevent dryness for both partners - cut men shovel out vaginal fluid each thrust plus creates painful air pockets)
Brain scans have shown that infants circumcised suffer PTSD and it permanently alters the way their brain perceives pain
Completely cosmetic, zero medical benefits
So why would anyone choose such a stupid, traumatic, surgery?
You’re not making a mistake. Your son is lucky to have you
I have 4 boys and all 4 are circumcised and I have no regrets . It’s a choice only you as a parent can make
I did it for cleanliness, I knew a man who had to get it done in his 50s because he got an infection, I guess from not cleaning it properly, boys are lazy so idk if these young boys will maintain the cleanliness it needs
I circumcised all my boys its honestly a parents decision if it’s not their child tell them to but out. My only advice is just make sure you teach them how to clean it properly as they grow older. I mainly got my kids done to make it easier hygiene wise
Ok story time. I’m a CNA and I worked in a nursing home a while back. I took care of this 87 year old man who had never been circumcised. Now, I only worked at this location every other weekend, so I wasn’t his main care giver. Well he kept getting yeast infections under his foreskin because no one was pulling it back to properly clean him. His infections started becoming so frequent and so bad that the family decided to have him circumcised at 87 years old!!! The recovery process for him was terribly painful. So… You never know.
Both of my boys are circumcised. They had it done either the day they were born or the day after. And they don’t remember it at all.
I have two boys . One is circumcised and the other one is not . I haven’t had any problems with either of them . You just have to teach good hygiene to them . Occasionally we have redness to my boy who is not circumcised but nothing that a good wash , dry and cream can’t fix. If I could go back in time I wouldn’t of circumcised the older one because it really doesn’t make a difference.
There is no medical need for circumcision. It is also no one else’s business. Also, they do not numb or put baby to sleep for the procedure just so you know.
My son is circumcised because he was prone to infections. After that,we never had any problems at all. He was 3,he is now 13.
I grow up thinking i woulf circumcise my son but Then I had to mothers of boys tell me to look up 100 reasons why to circumcise and 100 reasons why not too and watch a video of a baby getting circumcised and watch a video of a grown man being circumcised… so I did and lets just say from doing this I decided NOT to circumcise my son
I have one that is and one that isnt. I should have got him circumcised for a number of reasons. If I could go back I would have did it. All I know is one of, if not both, will be upset with me when they get older.
My boys are not. And u just have to keep clean other then that no difference. My husband family all kept them intact.
My boys are now teens and seriously there is no reason u need to. Just research make sure u teach them how to clean right when the time comes.
There is the risk that if they dont they will become infected and have to take it later in life and that is traumatic. But I taught my boys and no issues.
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Circumcision might contribute to the spread of stds since you can get rubbed raw and can cause a break in the skin on both genitals.
I have a 4 year old that couldnt get circumcised when he was a baby and cleaning isnt like it was back in the day
I think it’s weird for your family and friends to discuss cutting your son in his genitals
My sons are 33 and 27 and are intact. My grandson is 5 and intact. You are not making a mistake mom. Good job.
It’s your choice . There are pros and co s on both choices. Now where I’m from (I’ve had 4 boys ) I told the dr yes I wanted it done. But with the following concessions.
1 . They would use a numbing cream
2. I observed to make sure .
3. They gave me my baby immediately after so I could sooth him .
Why are people so invested in other people’s genitalia?
If it’s really about cleaning then I guess a lot of men dont know how to clean themselves. I knew a handful of older men (still under 50) who got it done because they kept getting infections
Question is. How many women really enjoy an UNcut male.Are u setting ur son up for a crappy sex life???
Our son is 6 and we did not. Haven’t had any problems yet. I am 39 and not and as far as I know I am doing ok with mine intact. Just make sure they keep it clean daily when they bath / shower.
For his future life
As a woman who has experienced sex with both intact and circumcised men, I very strongly preferred the experiences with intact men. The gliding sensation is amazing, it’s not painful, and don’t need lube because the foreskin naturally reduces friction.
It’s your choice. Who cares what others think?