My family doesn't want me to circumcise my son: Advice?

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Reasons why NOT to cut:

  1. the foreskin has tons of nerve endings that he will find pleasure later on in his adult like that cut men do not get to experience.

  2. intact means that the penis will not be randomly rubbed against pants, or anything else, causing embarrassing and random hard ons, the foreskin protects against this.

  3. the foreskin creates a natural lube that he will enjoy for masturbating and his future sexual partners. This does not leave the penis looking dry and wrinkled.

  4. it’s easy to clean, you wipe it just like you would wipe the tip of your finger. As long as you do not force it to retract, it’ll remain infection free.

  5. if you can teach your son to brush his hair or teeth (aka basic care) then you can teach him how to wash his penis. Of course, if this is not done and the child avoids it, then infection can take place, but this is also a problem with a cut penis too.

  6. the penis will naturally clean its self with foreskin. When he urinates, it’ll balloon the penis up as a self cleaner while the urine leaves the body.

  7. whole body autonomy and acknowledging cognitive dissonance within society’s box is very important when raising our children to allow them to be in charge of theirselves; which helps with gaining independence and allows them to have a voice.

8 ) Foreskin reduces the risk of UTIs as well as, some STI, but it’s always best to wear a condom no matter what. Also, girls are more prone to UTIs than little boys, but you do not see their parts being removed.

  1. less than 1% of Cirs are necessary as it is a cosmetic procedure, even insurances are coming away from paying it. It’s becoming more common for little boys to remain intact so there will not be the issues of YOUR PENIS LOOKS DIFFERENT THAN MINE in the locker room kinda deal.

Just how we explain to our little boys how they look different from mommy gentila, if dad is cut it’s the same converstion that daddy had his unwillingly removed.

  1. The foreskin has many sexual, protective and sensory functions.

  2. The foreskin is natural and serves many purposes so it should be left alone unless the owner decides to change that aspect. You wouldn’t cut an ear off someone just because it makes them look more attractive would you? No, the ear has a purpose and is natural. We are one of the only country that cir for no reason.

  3. During a circ, when the penis is being cleaned before the foreskin is removed, it causes an unwanted erection on a few day old baby. Don’t let their first sexual experience be shared with nurses and doctors.

  4. You never ever pull the foreskin back at all no matter what. It will naturally pull back around toddlerhood, but sometimes in later adult life. Pulling back on the foreskin causes it to tear which is what causes infection. The foreskin is actually attached/fused to the head of the penis just like your fingernail is attached to your nail bed.

  5. Cutting also makes the penis smaller as the foreskin does add length.

15)Due to the fact that the foreskin and vagina work together during sexual relations, this means the owner of the intact penis does not have to thrust as hard or as deep. Intact individuals are more sensitive and it able to make love more gently. The intact penis is more soft and make natural lube thus one does not have to use lube due to dryness. When it comes to sexual realizations, it’s not typically the woman’s faults for it being dry down there. So, if a man has ever blamed you for this, think again as it’s the fault of his cir penis.

Little girl genital circumcision is a banned practice in the USA, but little boys are still being cut!?

It’s important to teach our children that they were born perfect from day 1!

Their body, their choice :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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Ashley Nicole Swick I feel like you have a lot of info to help support her decision to NOT circumcise her son.

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Doctors and nurses try to tell parents, it’s not painful, it’s only a small amount of skin, he didn’t even cry slept right thru it. Those are lies. Imagine shoving a metal probe under your fingernail and ripping it off, sounds painful right? That’s how the doctor unattaches the fused foreskin from the head of the penis. Then clamps the foreskin to cut it off. There are different tools they claim are less painful, LIES, all lies. Yes they claim they numb it, but they also claim it’s a 20 minute procedure, that anesthesia takes 30 minutes to take effect. So there is no way the pain relief had a full chance to take effect for it to not hurt. WAKE UP PP

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Reasons parents choose to circumcise their sons and why they’re incorrect:

  1. “Its cleaner.” - Actually no, its not. The foreskin is fused to the glans until puberty leaving nothing to clean whatsoever until 10-12 years old. When it does detach around that time, you wash it like the rest of your body.

  2. “It reduces the risk of uti’s.” - The risk reduction is LESS than 1%. Not significant enough to amputate healthy functioning tissue. Not to mention, that reduction only applies to infancy. Not adulthood. As adults, intact and circumcised males have the same risk of developing urinary tract infections.

*Allowing a circumcised bleeding penis to heal in a diaper full of urine and feces increases risk of infection.

  1. “It reduces the risk of penile cancer.” -Aside from the fact that the American Cancer Society has already spoken out about that not being true, let’s pretend for a minute that it is. Penile cancer is already so rare, that your son has a better chance of developing breast cancer than he does of ever developing penile cancer. Penile cancer includes the shaft and glans. The foreskin makes absolutely no difference.

  2. “It reduces the risk of STDs and HIV” - The only thing that prevents STDs are CONDOMS. Not circumcision. In actuality, the foreskin has been shown to have cells that act as part of the immune system in protecting against STDs.

  3. “His penis should match his dad’s.” - Ew. No it shouldn’t. Your son will never notice a difference in his and his dad’s penis unless your family is keen on whipping it out at thanksgiving and comparing.

  4. “Circumcised penises just look better.” - All penises look the same when erect, intact or not. Aside from the fact that the glans on a circumcised male is keratinized and “dried out” therefore looking smaller than it really should. Not to mention pushing your sexual preferences on your son’s body is pedophilia.

Now let’s look at the facts:

A baby boy dies every 2 days as a direct result of a non medically necessary circumcision.

Thousands of men will suffer long term complications including meatitis, erectile dysfunction, painful erections, diminished sexual pleasure, rough jack-hammering sex on their partners to achieve orgasm and more.

Over 250,000 men in the US are currently restoring their foreskin and wish they had been left intact from birth.

Countless men as adults have sued their parents and practitioners for performing their circumcision without their consent as babies.

The lack of foreskin will affect every circumcised male and their partner’s intimate life. The glans is supposed to be moist and covered, not dried out and keratinized.

Still think it’s a good idea? If anyone has any questions and would like more information, feel free to message me.

This post is not meant to shame circumcised males or parents that made the decision to do so. It is meant to raise awareness & inform others of the risks. You can regret making the decision and share what you have learned so the cycle stops.

Most women and men are screaming women’s right but yet cutting off their little boys body parts, where are their rights? Who will stand up for them?
As a mother of boys, and for all little boys, I will be their voice!

PROPS TO David Candela for this amazing graphic he created!

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Ñoxý Noĺź Yes. Every circumcised penis is a permanently sexually disabled penis. The foreskin is a highly functioning sex organ and when it’s amputated, it permanently destroys the protective and sexual functions the foreskin is designed to provide.

The only person who has the right to decide if they want less penis is the person attached to the penis.

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Ash Lynn “I made an educated decision to circumcise my son.”

Did you? Really? That can be easily verified.

Okay, pop quiz.

1-a) What style of circumcision did you choose for your son?

a) Low and Loose.
b) Low and Tight.
c) High and Loose.
d) High and Tight.
e) Radically High.
f) Radically Tight.
g) Dorsal Slit.
h) Button Hole.

1-b) What are the benefits and negatives of each style?

2-a) What method of circumcision did you request for your child?

a) Plastibell.
b) Mogen Clamp.
c) Gomco Clamp.
d) Freehand.
e) Traditional Mohel.
f) Traditional Tribal.
g) Electro-cauterization.

2-b) What are the risks and possible complications associated with each method?

  1. What are the most common possible immediate complications of the circumcision surgery?

  2. What is the most common possible LATE term complications of circumcision? (from circumcision to 12 years.)

  3. What is the greatest risk factor for ADULT men circumcised in infancy?

  4. What is the most common cause of foreskin infection in boys that have NOT been circumcised?

  5. How do you clean and care for a circumcised boy’s penis immediately after circumcision (from circumcision to healing)? List all necessary steps.

:sunglasses: How do you clean and care for a circumcised boy’s penis after healing? List all necessary steps.

  1. How do you clean and care for a boy’s penis who has not been circumcised? List all necessary steps.

  2. How does an Adult care for his own penis that has;

a) been circumcised?
b) never been circumcised?

Bonus Question

  • What are the 16 functions of the foreskin lost to circumcision?

If you cannot answer the above questions, you did NOT research or make an educated decision to circumcise your child.

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If they are taught proper hygiene there is no reason at birth to have it done. That being said…lets turn the click ahead 30 or 40 years. They gentleman develops type 3 Diabetes. The sugar in the urine lying on the surface of the head of penis will cause awful irritation and soreness and will lead to needing to be circumcised at that age. NOW it is PAINFUL and recovery is a lot longer and an experience he will never forget! A baby doesn’t remember a thing of it. ! Now you decide!

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Simple tell them to mind their damn business :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Well fuck em! Not their penis not their problem. That’s what I’d say.

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When my son was born and I said he was perfect, I actually meant it. Boys are not born defective, and they deserve equal rights and protection from forced genital cutting, same as girls.

People who justify this abuse either perform/assist with them, did it to their own kids, or have only been exposed to cut penises. In all cases, they don’t know the serious and life long consequences of circumcision, let alone understand or even know the functions of the foreskin or proper intact care.

I don’t know how anyone can look at their perfect baby and actually think “I need to cut his penis up immediately”.

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There are a ton of health advantages to circumcising your boys.

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Here are some of the reasons why the CDC, AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics), and the WHO (World Health Organization), and UNAIDS recommends or supports circumcision:

Performing circumcision later in life after the newborn phase, increases the risk of complications and adverse outcomes by 20 times!

-virtually eliminate his risk of penile cancer (99.9% decrease)

-15% reduction in prostate cancer(the most common male cancer that effects 1/6 men)

-reduces the risk of utis and other infections by 90%

-reduces the risk of transmission female to male stds by 50%

-reduces the risk of transmission female to male HIV by 60%

-uncircumcised men are twice as likely as circumcised men to develop herpes genitalis or gonorrhoea, and five times as likely to develop candidiasis or syphilis."

-99% reduction in the risk of bacterial infections (which are common in uncircumcised boys)

-99% reduction in balantis (yeast infection of the head of the penis)

-100% elimination of phimosis (tight unretractable foreskin (occurs in 5% of uncircumcised males)

-100% of paraphimosis - very dangerous condition where the foreskin is trapped behind the head of the penis (without immediate treatment can lead to gangrene)

-much reduced bacteria load

-reduced rates of kidney disease

-reduced overall hospital admissions in childhood

-reduced or eliminated chronic skin diseases such as lichen sclerosus, lichen planus, genital psoriasis, etc

Women with circumcised partners (vs. uncircumcised) also benefit from having a circumcised partner:

-1/3 lower rate of cervical cancer

-lower risk of yeast, bacterial vaginosis, and urinary tract infections.

-30% less likely to have HIV

-15% less likely to have genital herpes

Other benefits may include:

-easier hygiene

-improved hygiene

-Approximately 10% of males not circumcised at birth will need to be circumcised at some point in their life.

-improved appearance

-improved smell

-easier condom use

-enhanced sexual sensation and function for male and female

-lower rates of sexual dysfunction

-lower rates of premature ejaculation

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Circumsise the baby. Hygiene is easier

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That’s your personal preference. It’s doesn’t matter either way just as long as you properly care for an uncircumcised penis and teach him to properly care for it as he gets older.

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Most men in the world are intact. Infant circumcision is not a thing where I’m from. When I mentioned it to my family at home they were shocked. Every male in my family is intact without issues. Its his penis his choice. Never ever retract to clean and he’ll be fine.

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The medical reasons to get them circumcised does out weigh their loss of pleasure. I personally let his father decide. He had him circumcised. I got so much backlash it was disgusting. We didn’t do it to hurt him. We did what WE thought was best for him. Kind of like how I pierced my daughter’s ears when she was 2. She is now 13 and loves she has the option. She has a needle phobia just like me. Sometimes PARENTS do KNOW BEST! Do what YOU think is right. As long as you have his best interests at heart. Who is anyone to tell you how to raise YOUR child?

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Girl. Dont. Hes your fucking kid.

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I had my son circumcised because we had a family history of infections and I figured it would be less traumatic as an infant. My son was over a week old when we had his done. See when my dad was alive they were contemplating circumcising him because he had lots of infections under his foreskin. I also had a friend have to circumcise her son due to the foreskin not stretching out when her son was growing so it was cutting off circulation to his penis. Not trying to scare you since complications of non-circumcision are rare. There are pros and cons to both decisions. Just remember he can always get it done later if needed but can’t put it back on if he regrets the choice you made for him.

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It’s not medically necessary and became a popular thing to try to stop masturbation. Now it’s the “normal” penis. None of the boys in my family are circumcised including my son. It is not necessary and why would anybody willingly and knowingly cause harm to a baby for no reason other than vanity.

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I learned I was circumcised at the age of 19, despite this I never experienced much pleasure during masturbation the only time I did get pleasure was when I ejaculated, the problem with this is that I’m supposed to experience pleasure throughout the entire thing but yet I don’t, when I learned at the age of 19 that I was circumcised it explained to me everything, circumcision reduces sensitivity and pleasure, although it really depends on whether or not the man wants to last as long as possible, in conclusion what I’m trying to say is LEAVE THE CHOICE TO THE CHILD.

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Mother of 3 boys here.
All of my boys have it and I would never change my mind about it.
I didn’t know the first thing about teaching a little boy how to keep it clean and I didn’t want to go there. A circumcised penis is easier and prettier :woman_shrugging: the norm I suppose and not having to explain later in his life why it looks different from the “Norm”.
Good luck

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2 reasons to circumcise. 1 hygiene try teaching a little boy how to keep it clean was not something I wanted to do and 2 as a man his penis will be more sensitive how unfair to his wife to be. If you get my premature hint here.

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Please dont do it! It’s totally unnecessary, with no benefits and so many risks. America is the ONLY country in the world that routinely mutilates boys for no reason, except that paediatricians get paid for it! Please read the wealth of research that is available, but NOT the American academy of paediatricians as they are the perpetrators of this brutality. Most men around the world are happily intact and NEVER HAVE ANY PROBLEMS. All you need to do is leave it alone clean it in the bath, and do not attempt to retract it! Ever! By puberty it will naturally start to retract, and then teach him to retract it wash it and leave it. Please don’t harm your child. If you do the research, you won’t be able to submit your son to this brutality. This is HIS penis, not yours. You don’t have the right to amputate a part of his body that is perfectly normal, and highly necessary at EVERY stage of life.

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My husband’s not cut and he is 40 and has had no problems also I have a son who i chose to get cut and honestly I wish I haven’t cause after they cut his penis was sore and it wasn’t fun taking care of the after math he’s 10 now and is fine and doesn’t remember it obviously but I do and I wouldn’t do it again if I had to make the decision again

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I love all the people who make the majority of this decision are women. With no penis! Stop trying to be all interesting and edgy. It’s not your penis! I’d rather them cut his penis when he’s a baby andcant remember, instead of him getting it done as an adult and hating me for not doing it when he was a baby

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No one but you, the dad, and the medical staff need to know ANYTHING about your sons penis.

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It’s all about penis envy, eh girls?

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Infant Circumcision is lobotomy of the genitals.

The arguments incorrectly claiming health benefits of routine infant circumcision (RIC) are remarkably similar to arguments in favor of female circumcision, aka FGM. Were such health claims were true, which they are not, they miss or ignore salient facts:

In addition to occasional botched circumcisions including bleeding to death, complications requiring further medical intervention are common; a recent followup study expressed surprise at 11 percent of RICs needing further surgery to correct medical issues from the RIC. Who pays for that, cost, time, discomfort, pain, anguish?
The prepuce is fused to the glans at birth, designed to keep the penis protected, clean, and safe. RIC is the only “elective” surgery that leaves the surgical would to heal in a non sterile environment; rather than a sterile bandage, the fresh would is left to heal in a blood, urine, and feces containing diaper. The prepuce, the foreskin must be ripped away from the glans, akin to removing a fingernail, during RIC, which leads to the next point.

Trauma.

As to the ludicrous date rape argument that “he won’t remember it”; the body remembers. Infants strapped down scream themselves into a coma, they do not fall asleep, they pass out unconscious from the extreme pain. Many reject the breast and stop nursing. Look at the expressions of infants before and after. MRIs, brain scans have shown damage as a result of RIC; and a pain reflex study of 6 month olds showed that the flinch reaction was predominately in circumcised males, it was not present with females, nor intact males, neither of whom had been traumatized at birth. Forced retraction by practitioners who do not understand the basic physiology of the intact penis as they are not taught that in American med schools, is the largest health issue intact babies face.

Loss of function.

The area of skin missing from an adult circumcised male is about the size of the triangle of a bikini. It is way more than “just skin” however. The prepuce, male and female, both contain nerve endings for pleasurable articulation, glands to excrete lubrication and pleasure hormones, and endorphin receptors to receive those pleasure hormones in exchange with the partner. The glans of the circumcised male becomes rough, dry, kearatinized, instead of naturally smooth, with the assist of the gliding action of all that “skin.” Basically, more like a passive sex toy instead of an interactive, alive partner. Ever wonder why Americans consume more “performance enhancement” penis pills than Europeans? Or why personal lubrication sells way more in America than Europe?

Bodily autonomy.

“My body, my choice” except for infant males is the worst kind of hypocrisy. What kind of message does that violation teach, experientially, about healthy boundaries, respect, invitation, permission? If there were health benefits, which there are not, adult males should be allowed to research for themselves, and make an informed decision about their own body. They would at least be able to be offered anesthetic that actually worked, and let the scar recover in a sterile bandage. Currently, about 1 in 10,000 actually need some form of surgical intervention, and those are readily identifiable. No shame there. What does deserve shame is that the other 9,999 keep medical practitioners driving nice cars and living in nice houses as a bonus for perpetuating the inter-generational trauma.

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Jus sayin I would get it done for his future wife and more importantly no unnecessary infections

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Bloodstained Men & Their Friends

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Do it for cleanliness

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It used to be what was pretty much done in the past for hygiene reasons. They have proven over the years it doesn’t matter , as long as you teach them how to clean themselves properly.
This is a decision for you and your significant other to decide no one else!
As a mom of 4 I seen a baby being circumcised when my 30 yr old was in the nursery and I went to go get her. That pour baby cried and cried! I swore then I never would and when my son was born I didn’t !
One of my friends did and every time the baby would pee he would cry for 20 min from the burning …
It’s your decision mom don’t let anyone tell you different !

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Sorry but intact (that is NOT CIRMUCISED) feels so, so much better. For the woman and the man. Nobody will thank you for circumcising unless being brainwashed to believe it has benefits. It does not have any. Please educate yourself and learn the functions of the foreskin. For all the mamas, don’t cut your kid. It is definitely not your body, so you shouldn’t even have the right to cut him… Rest of the world is intact with zero issues.

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Let me help you with that: “…all my friends and family are telling me I’m making a big mistake not raping and mutilating my son’s genitals and boys should be held down and raped by an adult with a knife for a number of different reasons.” There, does that help?

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I noticed that some here, believe that the baby can’t feel PAIN. What they really mean is it’s painful as hell but they’ll forget because they are to young to remember. Don’t put him through it. Let him decide when he’s older.

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I have 2 intact boys. Happy and healthy. We don’t believe in genital mutilation. It also permanently alters the brain from the extreme pain no matter what “numbing” agent they use. When they hit puberty is when you start teaching them to gently retract clean with water and replace. Till them, no retraction at all, as doing so early can cause adhesions scaring etc! Very Simple!

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I read the whole post. I’m from the uk too and I had my son circumcised regardless of my conversion into Islam for my children. I always believe little boys should be circumcised for multiple reasons. All health reason to be fair: it reduces the risk of multiple bacteria infections, yeast thrush and STI&STDs. It’s easier to stay clean too.
Unfortunately my brother was circumcised as he was premature so every doctor turned down my parents for my boy. But until this day he believes he would have been better off circumcised. He has also said to me he’ll circumcised his sons to when he does has children.

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What you do to your son is your decision. My fiancé and I circumcised our son because it was our decision. I didn’t want to have to deal with cleaning the foreskin and I wanted to decrease his chance of getting STD’s when he becomes an adult.

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I see a lot of women responding to this and very few men. I’m a 37 year old male who is not circumcised. If I could go back and tell my parents to do it I would without question say yes. I can’t go a day without washing it, if I forget I get a fishy smell and my head breaks out into a little rash that’s uncomfortable. It’s completely uncomfortable when I have to wash up after sex, women feel insulted because they think I’m washing myself because of them, if I don’t wash after sex I get the fishy smell and it breaks out. I’ve had multiple awkward moments with women who don’t want to have sex with a man who is uncircumcised, I feel very self conscious, I never forget to turn off the lights. Recently a new development occurred, with age you grow hair in places you didn’t before, well now hair is starting to grow on my shaft, so I have to always manscape if I want oral because I don’t want my girl to notice random hairs halfway up my penis, I’ve considered lasering them off, and let me tell you…no one wants a freaking laser on their penis. Lastly, I’ve caught the extra skin at the tip on zippers multiple times, it’s one of those things that I constantly live in fear of. Every woman I have sex with always gets UTI’s, at this point I figured out I’m the common denominator. I’m not a dirty person, I shower twice a day every day without question, if I have sex I shower again. So with all that, yeah…do it please. You have no idea what I live with every day.

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There is no evidence that circumcising you baby is necessary, in fact is dangerous and unnecessary. Circumcision has no relationship to STD’s at all and there is a growing call to outlaw non-therapeutic circumcision. Stick to you guns and don’t do it. Listen to the science not rumour.

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It’s not the mother’s penis, its the boy and future man’s penis. No one has a right to cut part of it off!

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The medical industry is motivated to promote harvesting flesh from newborn boys. They take the living flesh right off his penis and sell it to companies like this for use in research and women’s cosmetics. ttps://www.lifelinecelltech.com/shop/cells/fibroblasts/dermal-fibroblasts/human-dermal-fibroblasts-neonatal-fc-0001/

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False. The penis does not belong to the parents. It belongs to the boy and the future man. You have no right to cut off part of it!

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I experienced the same ill informed pressure from family and friends 30 years ago but decided to NOT mutilate my son. He is perfectly fine with never a hint of infection, as is my own 86 yo father. Should they rip out his appendix and tonsils as well in case they get infected later on. His body, his choice, later on if he so chooses.

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Bless my mother for leaving me intact and teaching me proper hygiene. (FYI-I am a 72 and don’t need an erection to have an orgasim-just saying)