Don’t pull this child out of what she’s loves when she has done nothing wrong to deserve it. Ur just asking for her to fall into depression. Imo
You definitely know how hard all of you, especially your daughter fought to get there.
As long as your children are okay with the fact that she’s the one that needs a lot of time, because she needs to travel to Cheerleading don’t even bother.
If I would have been such a good cheerleader at eleven years of age it would probably have ruined my life if I had to stop for basically no reason.
If the other children want to do competitive sports there’s always a solution. But not making her sacrifice her cheer career
What the hell? That’s so awful that he would even think that. I say let her continue to do what she loves. Fuck anything he says. If the other kids want to do stuff like that then go for it. It’s so unfair and cruel for him to ask that of you.
just because one child gets to do something doesn’t mean all the siblings do. your child worked her butt off for 3+ years. she deserves to be able to do cheer. especially since none of the other kids have even showed interest. why the hell would you not allow the only child who wants to do sports, to do sports? that’s dumb. she shouldn’t have to miss out just because her siblings dont want to play sports. this is ridiculous and he’s just being silly.
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Do NOT make your daughter stop . Tell him as a FAMILY you can all go and cheer her on . While you’re at it also tell him home life isn’t a competition, it changed when y’all got serious and moved in together. The kids are equals and all have the opportunity to do sports if they chose to . Your daughter puts in the time and work for cheer , it is not her problem if the other kids are not as dedicated to something else . Don’t take that babies cheer from her . Your boyfriend needs to understand and realize his family dynamic has now changed and he needs to take down that wall .
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No…no…no… don’t make her stop… she will resent you both… hugs 
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He and his ex were lazy parents and want to make it your business. Don’t give in. Allow your daughter to continue cheering and keep it moving. Thank God he is a fiance not your husband. Leave him in the dust.
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Sounds like he’s a little jealous that you’ve raised your child to be hardworking and dedicated to something she loves, and his kids aren’t like that? She should definitely carry on. Like you said it’s not like his kids can’t do travel sports, it’s because they don’t want to x
I’m sorry, not trying to sound rude, but why in the living heck would you put a mans feelings over YOUR childs?! It’s her passion. It’s her life. It’s what has kept her grounded as you said. Now, why would a man, technically a temporary man, change that, knowing she loves it? Since you said fiancee so he must’ve been in her life for a while, why would he try to change it now? Why did you move her from all she knew and her passion?
I’m sorry, going through this myself. My fiance and I want to leave our town and state, but are taking our kids into great consideration. They come before our own wants and needs…
She comes first…not to be rude but is this only an issue for him now since yall moved in or?? If not you shouldve already had this talk b4 you up an moved your kids from a life they knew…I see red flags in him…
Let her continue and let him know to get with the program or kick him to the curb! your daughter will feel his negativity. Always give your kids 
of your support.
WoW! What an ass sorry, but like you already moved your kids around and got them to change schools for this guy. And his kids didn’t have to move or go anywhere. Tell him to bad, you don’t stop a kid from doing what they love, specially if its keeping her out of trouble. It sounds like your fiancé is jealous and is trying to control what y’all do. Put your foot down, and tell him if his kids want to join something let them. And if they don’t, well that’s on them. Your kids sacrificed enough for you to be with this man. Don’t make it harder by pulling her out of what she loves. You don’t want your kids to resent you because of a man. Tell your fiancé to stop being selfish. If he doesn’t want to travel to go watch her then tell him to stay the f*ck home and clean up the house lol.
Why would he want to hinder her in life? Because of his guilt? He needs to repair his relationships with his own kids instead of dragging the one down you have with your daughter.
Kids first. He may not last ( just facts) but your kids are here to stay. Don’t do something that makes her resent you and him just to pacify him.
Some kids like art some kids like music some kids like sports. She shouldn’t have to quit because none of the other children are interested in sports its just not their thing but it makes her happy. If he cares about her at all what she wants and makes her happy should matter to him.
No continue her into cheer!! Do not take that away from her
Also ask the other kids if they want to join a sport this time around. And if they say no it’s on them
No do not make her stop. If he feels its unfair then he should allow his kids the option to do the same if he’s choosing not to that’s on him
Hell no. Let your girl do her passion. Kids grow up so fast and to be where she is would be a dream lost. Dont pass up opportunities x
Absolutely not. You continue to support your daughter 200% if need be ! It’s not about her vs the other kids… it’s about you vs. him at this point.
If you guys get daily family time, all kids do their chores n homework, do it. As long as you guys have your priorities straight she shall continue doing itm
Make sure his oldest can’t get his license until your daughter is old enough to drive
Fair is fair.
Guy sounds like a dick. Let the girl have fun. Very controlling and comes off a bit jealous. Maybe he should focus on encouraging his children rather than trying to belittle yours
Don’t make her quit!!! That’s ridiculous. I was in cheer for a while and know just how hard it is to get to the top!
Have a family meeting and bring up some activities the other kids might be interested in & get them going too lol!
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Do Not take that away from your daughter!
I got married 4 years ago. I was a single mom beforehand. Both my daughters do travel sports and no one could ever stop me from continuing on. It’s so beneficial for so many reasons self esteem, to busy to get into trouble as they get older, disciplined, team work etc.
His children never being in travel sports or anything is a HIM problem, not a you problem. All you can do is offer to put his children in a extracurricular but you can’t help what he did or didn’t do with his kids before you met him.
Is he jealous or have issues with the financial aspect of cheer?
Definitely not. Your daughter loves this, tell him she’s sticking to it and if he doesn’t like it you’ll move out.
Your spouse should be supportive. Especially if that’s what SHE wants to continue and you can accommodate the travel expenses.
Absolutely not. That’s her place. Let her be and stand your ground.
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Totally a red flag for controlling and jealous behavior. Not his business.
Is it something that can be afforded of the other 3 join a sport as well? Is it something that you can tend to 4 kids doing different travel sports? You have a lot to consider there. I totally believe in going forth with something you are passionate about no doubt about that. I say if you can afford and tend to all 4 kids In traveling sports or what not then allow her to stay. If not then ha e her go where she isn’t traveling but don’t make her stop completely.
She is your daughter it’s not up to him what happens if she loves the sport she should stick at it. If the other kids don’t do sport that’s there problem if they want to travel get into sport or something
Don’t hold back on your kid because his kids weren’t interested. Try to get his kids interested in some stuff!
He should offer his children a special activity himself if he’s so concerned about what she’s doing. Not rob her of her comfort, hard work and joy. I think it would be horrific to take that from her.
I’d be having second thoughts on my relationship if I was you. Your Kids come first!!!
Nope the only time she stops is if she says she absolutely wants to. She loves it let her do her thing mom.
Absolutely not!!! Sounds like jealousy from some one either him or one of the other children.
No you are definitely not wrong! It’s their choice to do sports or not. Possibly the oldest feels they are too old to start getting into sports. Maybe talk with them individually and see what they want. Taking away your daughter’s cheer would be the worst thing. If she has worked that hard for something don’t take it away because the other kids don’t get to do it. Have an open conversation and see if the other 3 have any sort of interest in sports, or any other extracurricular activities. If the 14 year old feels they’re too old to start a sport, see if you can find a rec game where all skill levels and ages are welcome. Talk with your fiance about it as well. But no, you letting your daughter do her cheer is the best thing. It could really mess up other aspects of her life if you take her out. Also could cause tension between other members of the family. I know if I was in her position, and found out that my step father thinks it’s not fair because of the other kids, I’d be pissed with him and probably put some anger towards the other kids. If she has worked this hard to be where she is and you take it away, she might think “why try hard at anything if itd just taken from me anyway.” Or “it doesn’t matter”. That’s my opinion.
No. Maybe he should take her to her practices see all the blood sweat and tears that goes into everything
Are you kidding? Your baby has passion for this. Don’t make her throw it away. It’s on him that his kids don’t travel. You can always take u and yours when she competes.
She’s your daughter, you do whatever you want. She’s been doing it for years already. Why make her quit just because he’s being a immature baby? That’s a major red flag hun! If he doesn’t like it… he can leave. Stand your ground girl! Your daughter loves cheering & he should support her decision.
No way; she shouldn’t have to give up her passion because her siblings don’t want to do things like she does
Hell no. In New Zealand we call this “Tall Poppy syndrome”… cutting down the people that stand out to make the average Joes feel better. If your kid has a natural talent then don’t let him or the other kids cut her down… let her shine
I wouldn’t even consider it unless it was a financial issue and even then I prob wouldn’t id figure a way to do it…
#sportsmom
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It’s not your fault or your daughters that his kids don’t want to. Maybe he should ask his kids if they want to do a sport. Do not pull your daughter out of cheer. Also I’m guessing this is your child and not his? If that’s the case it is not his decision and he has no right to even have an opinion. She’s your daughter and you can decide what your daughter does. Either way you don’t hold one child back because the others don’t want to do things and he just has to deal with it.
This is just the beginning of ridiculous things/ideas he will present to you. Sounds like a jealous, controlling man. RUN don’t walk.
If you value hard work and dedication as much as you claim to, why are you even asking this question? Even considering it?
Honestly he sounds like a lazy asshole. You should definitely support your daughter.
Definitely don’t stop. It’s ridiculous that this is even an issue!
Dont involve your daughter in that the toxicity thats going on. Keep her out of it
Keep her doing it. Tell him that after all the stress of that argument will pay off. Because she can do it as an adult and I. High school. And could even get scholarships from competing. Let him know his kids can do that as well if they wanted to. Maybe get them involved in 4-H. Which you don’t have to do animals to do 4-H. Her doing cheer will be beneficial to y’all especially when college time comes around.
No she shouldn’t be punished cuz the other kids don’t want to dedicate them selfs to a team the way she had
No he’s the one in the wrong maybe if he would have put more effort towards his kids they’d be in the stuff like that
Certainly NOT! Red flag for sure! Do not even entertain the idea and let him know that is one thing that is NOT up for discussion!
Feels like you’ve answered your own question to me….
I never comment on posts…. I have to with this one! Do not make that baby quit!!! You will make her resent you and him.
No you should not also maybe some try outs or coaching for the other kids
Do not stop that child. That man is in the wrong.
I would move back out with my kid.
You need a new man! Never put any man’s opinion over what’s best for your kid. I’d take my kids and be gone!
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Hell no! Don’t make her stop! And tbh if he tried to make you stop your daughter, I’d be ditching his ass! In love or not, my child comes first
What’s the issue though? The money for the travel? Or he’s js being nasty?
Absolutely do not make her stop. Nope.
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Hell no. It’s great she’s so focused & enjoys it. He needs to understand & accept it.
H E double hockey sticks NO! Your “man” should be supporting her as well as you are a package deal.
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Tell him to get up and take his kids out and into sports, your daughter needs to continue cheering
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Definitely not!
Just because HIS kids didn’t get the opportunity doesn’t mean you should penalize yours because she seized it🤔
So in that train of thought, his children shd be a selfish moron because he is…?? That they all do exactly the same thing or no~one does it…? If his own child shows an interest in astro physics is he going to squash that interest because the others aren’t interested…? I think he’s controlling her, tbh. Or bone Idle ~ as long as he dsnt have to shift himself to take the kids anywhere, all’s good. Don’t listen to him ~ and if he makes an issue of this, leave. You all deserve better.
Nope. It’s awesome that she wants to and continues to excel.
My child would continue to cheer and do what she loves.
I would tell him to kick rocks✌
Oh hell no, 
let that baby cheer! Your daughter comes before your man! Period point blank!
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My parents only supported my brother participating in sports growing up. It was assholish and sexist of them . Your fiancé sounds like one of these parents . Doesn’t take her seriously because the boys don’t do it. He’s a fiancée , you are legally single still. Fuck the patriarchy . Bye 
No dont make her stop inform him ir daughter will be doing it and point out the pros to it like collage and education. Then set the other three down and inform them if they was to do a travel sport to tell yall which one and get them started on it and if not tell the child that is there choice and u run and support them whole heartily
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Dont make her stop. That would be incredibly unfair to her.
Let her cheer. It’s her passion. If he can’t understand you have to let him go now before you marry him.
Simple…tell him to get over it or kick rocks. I would also strongly reconsider marrying this man
Nope. He either helps supports her or I would leave.
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You would be wrong if you took her out
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No. He needs to be supportive period. That’s a true step parent.
Do not make her stop she is doing great she is proud and you are proud of her , she will be mad at him and you. Talk to him with her to get him to understand
Let her stay. I would not put up with him.
U cant be serious that would be really messed up of u to do that yet alone allow it to happen smh no u let her cheer n u be her cheer mom n grounded for what wanting to cheer i hope not cause if so u need a reality check
Absolutely not. Let her do what she loves and is good at.
Absolutely do NOT make your daughter stop. Wtf. She loves it, don’t take it away from her.
Absolutely not, encourage her skill.
Put your foot down and stand up for your daughter fuck him and his feelings there is absolutely no reason for her to stop if she doesn’t want to and if you make her she won’t forgive you or him for it do not rip something away from her that she has busted her ass for just because a man is telling you too. If it’s because the others don’t get to do travel sports that’s on them and she should not have to pay the price. My mother always listened to a man and whatever he said went and put him above us and I no longer speak to her. If you let him get his way on this when does it stop? She is more important and I personally would tell him to his face he can go screw himself and she will continue until SHE no longer wants to do it if that day ever comes
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ABSOLUTELY NOT! Keep letting her do what she loves!!!
Continue to support your daughter!
Hell NO. That’s an incredible accomplishment
No? She literally worked her butt off to get where she is at. When you throw yourself into a sport like that and you love it, it becomes everything to you. I had to stop doing sports especially on a competitive level at her age due to a back issue (sports was making it at lot worse for me) and it absolutely crushed me… I use to play soccer and skate board competitively and I prided myself for being as good as I was. Losing that was like losing a piece of myself. I had no choice, she does. So don’t force her to give it up. My son is only 1 but the second he tells me he wants to do a sport I’m all in for him because I know the dedication it takes to not only stick with it but to become one of the best in your area. I did cheer from 7-14 (that was easier for my back but even that was eventually to much) it was one of the best things I did.
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No. She should continue and you should take this entire post and talk to him using these points.
No you should not make her stop. Kids need their own things. Sounds like he is using the other kids as more of an excuse to make up for him not being that soccer mom. Tell him thats okay. Not everyone has to be. I’m not. I’m.more like roseanne as a mom. 
No, don’t make her stop. It’s not her fault or yours his kids don’t want to do anything. They choose that life, you said yourself they don’t have any interest in anything. Plus he’s not her father he shouldn’t have a say. I’m not even sure why this is really even something you are considering. She’s your child, your kids should come before any man. I’d tell him to kiss my ass, my kids will do what they love because they were doing it before he came along, if not bye! Maybe this should of been discussed before moving in and uprooting your kiddos.
Your fiancé sounds like his jealous his kids aren’t doing stuff ur daughter is screw him. What a weird thing to be annoyed about, I’d ignore him and just be straight up and say ‘no she’s going she enjoys it not going to stop doing something she loves, move along’
She should cheer !! He shouldn’t hold her back an I bet if the shoe was on the other foot an if it was his daughter he’d be saying let her cheer ! She’s worked hard !!
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Um NO no no no. Sorry but it’s not his call. Don’t take away what she loves.
I couldnt even imagine the hole in your daughters heart…
Kids first. Always.
Oh my God whatever you do don’t make her stop! She seems to have busted her butt to get where she’s at. The lesson you don’t want to teach her it’s a hard work doesn’t pay off
Put your foot down and tell him that you will NOT punish her because the others didn’t want to be active. That you will support her goals and dreams and if the other kids feel jealous, they can find a hobby that will also be equally supported.
Until then, he can f*ck right off
Definitely not. She earned this and if she wants to follow through let her. It’s not her fault the others don’t do travel sports but they probably have things like art or video games or other talents and interest.
Healthy good habits should be encouraged.
Screw him. His kids are lazy oh well. Let that kid cheer.