My fiance constantly lies to me about the past: Advice?

My fiancé is lying to me about his past. He refuses to tell me the truth about anything pertaining to it. I’ve caught him in several lies already. I know his past is none of my business, but why lie about it? Especially when you can be lying about anything else in the present. He has even lied about a whole relationship, and I’m starting to see the treats me exactly how he treated her. Is it time to call it quits, correct? Or am I reading too much into things?

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major red flag and yes

Run. Don’t walk away from this. Run. Lying about the past like that is a huge red flag

If lying bothers u leave now. If u marry him u approve.

If u ignore red flags u break ur own heart. If u allow it, it will continue

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Mine just didn’t tell the whole story. Later lied about affairs while we were married
R.U.N. now!!

Major red flags here. I would leave.

Yes, get out. if you can’t trust a word that comes out of a person’s mouth you have no relationship. That instinctive “lie to get out of trouble” thing will never stop, even when it’s something that doesn’t need to be lied about. You’ll trap yourself with a grown child if you don’t get out of it. This kind of thing destroyed my family and ended a 9 yr marriage. Save yourself the heartache.

RUN. get out now. It’s only going to get worse as you go forward. He’s untrustworthy.

You are not over reacting or overthinking in any way. Leave right away. Break off the engagement.

What happens when he lies about finances and you lose your house? He lies about his job and he’s been unemployed for six months? He lies and you are liable for all sorts of things? Get out now. You can dodge this bullet. I’m sorry.

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Why waste your time with a lier, no trust, always questioning red flags.

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Kick him HARD to the curb

Run now. Would be ex fiance. What else is and will he lie about when will enough be enough? He must not think much of you to lie to you in general let alone all the time.

You are going to marry him, his past is your business. I have done and had some very dark things in my past and didn’t hide any of it to my now husband. He shouldn’t be lying to you at all.

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A liar is just that, a liar. If he can so comfortably lie about his past, he’s likely lying about other stuff in his present. Dangerous person to be in a relationship with, don’t waste anymore time!

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RUN (don’t walk), RUN very fast!!!

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If he’s hiding things about his past it’s something worth lying about. Run! It can be very bad, dangerous.

Little lies big lies, time to go, how will you know if he ever can tell the truth

If he lies about his past he’s going to lie in the future.

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No one here is going to give you an excuse to stay with him. If him lying about his life doesn’t bother you then just let it go. Otherwise just move onto someone who is better at least in the honesty department

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Break this relationship now!!

Ugh liars are the worst

I should’ve listened to my instincts. And I definitely think you should. X

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I would. A liar is a liar.

I would leave him. That’s too many red flags. He may have domestic violence charges against or drug charges which is prolly y he lying to u.