Block him and if he wants nothing to do with you and the baby then cut him off. Family or not, toxic is toxic. And his emotional and verbal abuse is uncalled for. Especially while you’re pregnant. It’s your child, your choice.
His attitude was definitely wrong…but who is Grant to him?
I lost two sons and I would be honored if one of my children named my grandchild after one of them. It would hurt but I could handle it.
Maybe he is hurt, he said that they are not ready for another grant, he is probably not over the death of grant and hearing grantly reminds him to much of the passed loved one but then again the way he is going about this is childish and immature and way disrespectful
Just have nothing to do with the father in law. Name your child what ever you want. Ignore the father in law. Dont reply to any messages. The both of you, your s/o and you, need to stop feeding into this bs. FIL be mad or whatver it is he is being. Leave him alone. Dont bother with contact. Ignore any amd all messages
Pretty simple…block the drama
Just cut ties. … If the man is disrupting the peace in ur life then u have every right to cut him off. Let him go pout by himself
YOUR BABY YOUR CHOICE!! I first of all block his Dads number on ya phone 2nd I wouldn’t have anything to do with that Family period if they act like that nor would I have my children around that 3rd I wouldn’t back down to NOBODY that’s your decision on what you want to name your baby not anybody else’s. If you give in then they know they can have any control over you
Just name him whatever you want. That’s your kid, not his. I’ve been in a similar situation before, where someone didn’t like the name and were threatening us. He’s not my fiance’s dad. He’s his mom’s boyfriend. We had to ban him from seeing our little one because he’s abusive.
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I suggest you completely block his father so that he can’t message you any more … inform your nurse that he is not allowed in your hospital room …you can stay in contact with the rest of the family if you wish .but not him .
Its YOUR baby. He named his son, You name yours. Tell him to get over it.
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Anti harrasment order of he’s gonna act like a child
I wouldn’t change my childs name because someone didn’t like it. Block the dad until he simmers down. Block him from social media and your phone until he’s less stressful to you.
Not a fan of the name but u could do Brantley to ease the old timers mind or Do what the hell u want and name him what you want it’s your kid after all!
I would try to have a serious conversation asking who grant was and why such hatred and anger. Maybe this grant was so special and the loss was extremely painful, I would at least try to see why so much pain.
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Just ignore him , we had people on both side of our family constantly badgering is about our sons name , at the end of the day. You chose a name that both of you love , you are his parents & nobody else’s comments really matter.
Sounds like adults acting like children. Name your kid what you want and screw everyone else. If they have a problem with it, and choose not to be in the babies life over a name… then maybe it’s a good idea that they wont be in it. 
I wouldnt want my child around childish behavior. Send his dad a bottle and pacifier if you have any extra. Seems like he may need it.
What a muppet…hes made a mistake and is to proud to admit…dont change for no one…
The very fact of him calling you or your fiancè
“stupid” or “dumb” is reason enough to keep him away from you.
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GRANTLEY is a wonderful name, and hes your child name him as you want. I’d tell grandpa to fuck off and get over it. You didnt ask for his approval.
Wow this is ridiculous. Over a name? Who cares what the reason is, name YOUR child what you want. My mothers name is lucy, she’s battling stage 4 bone cancer right now. It’s extremely sad to watch and I know when she does pass, it will be devastating, but that doesn’t mean I would throw a fit if my daughter wanted to name her child lucy. Or my siblings to name their child lucy. I lost my uncle Bruce when I was 14. I was very close with him and he died suddenly of a heart attack. I wouldn’t have a bird over someone in the family naming their son Bruce because I miss my uncle. I also had a very abusive ex. Hearing his name still makes me sick, but if someone in my family or my child wanted to name her son or daughter it, I wouldn’t act this way. It’s a name and a completely different person. This old man needs to know his place and stfu. Should he also have say in every other decision in the childs life as well?
Block his dad and go on with the original name. That is ridiculous. It’s your baby.
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Cut him out, if he cannot be respectful of your decisions before baby he wont be after either.
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At the end of the day name you baby the name you want you want, I changed my babies name and it still annoys me
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This is coming from a place of pain but it is not your pain. It is not up to you and he’s leaving it in your hands. He needs to figure out a way to get passed this and this is what he may need. It’s staring him in the face and he’s not wanting to see it. They say things happen for a reason. Don’t let someones fear and pain take control of yours. When we put meaning on what is on the outside of us, we will never be happy. He’s redirecting his pain so he doesn’t have to deal with it. He’s hiding. He needs to find peace within otherwise he will find the next thing that bothers him and make it someone else’s fault. It will be a never ending cycle that he is personally doing to himself. He will become very lonely if he doesn’t face what he needs to see. He’ll end up pushing everyone away. You do what you want for your child.
Your husband should grow some balls and tell his dad to fuck off or get over himself. How pathetic.
I would shut his stupidity down so fast. I would have ZERO contact with him and your fiance needs to step up and tell his dad that if he cant talk to and treat you with respect he will have no contact. Honestly what is wrong with him?!?!
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Do what you want and ignore anyone who doesn’t like it and if they choose not to be in your lives then it’s their loss because you are the parents to this child and it’s none of anyone else’s business. He will prob change his mind once the baby gets here but if not then like I said it’s his loss. Good luck!!
Do what you need to do. Do not let somebody disrespect you, ESPECIALLY over a name. Give him the ultimatum of knocking it off or he just won’t be apart of Grantley’s life. I mean, give him what he says he basically wants (not to be apart of his life).
Obviously theres something there that you either dont know or arent saying. If your soon to be fil feels that way, maybe you should think about another name… imo…
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Don’t change it. Next he’ll be telling you to change your next baby’s name because it reminds them of someone who died long ago? Nah, grandpa will snap out of it
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Sorry you’re marrying into this. I think the father in law is extremely immature and he’s the one who is dumb to let this get in the way of being apart of the child’s life.
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to pick the first and middle name now?! Pffft. What a jerk. Don’t let it stress you out. Block the father in law on your phone. For real. And move on with preparing for your little blessing.
Talk to the mother and find out why this bothers him so much… then make the choice…
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It’s not his decision he can go fly a kite
1 word … ridiculous … DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU WHAT TO NAME YOUR CHILD… Id honestly just ignore him if he wanna act like a 3 year old … childish af… And as hard as it is to cut family off, seems like your fiance need to step up n tell him to 
or 
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I wouldn’t even tell gramps when it was time to go to the hospital. It’s nobody’s business but yours and your fiance’s. I’d change my number or block him or do whatever I could do to get peace. Your fiance needs to man up and put daddy in his place.
Ur baby ur choice. Forget abt him. He shouldn’t disrespect you
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Block him and just don’t talk to him at all until he offers a sincere apology
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I’d keep th name and if they want to keep up the BS block and bye bye. If hes going to act like that over a name how tf is he going to react if one of your kids breaks something or spills something? He sounds unstable and grandpa or not I’d remove myself and my kids from the situation, it’s a name, nothing more,nothing less. Someone who gets that worked up over something so small is unpredictable and not someone that should be allowed to play a role in your family if he cant get over himself and treat you w respect… the threatening to disown the baby over a name would have been my final straw and where I personally would have cut ties… good luck and dont give in just to make someone else happy.
Block the dad. Keep thr name. Dont let him at the hospital, you really dont need to be stressed.
Stop stressing over this. Stop giving it energy. It’s a stupid argument.
Part of me wants to know why the name is such a trigger for that man but also… (no one has time for that)
Breathe and stick to healthy boundaries. Let it be known and then keep your distance.
It’s your life, your family and your kids.
Tell him if he can’t manage his feelings he should stay away from you.
Don’t get into further discussion.
Sometimes people cut them selves out because they can’t behave. Physically and verbally.
The energy matters.
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Unless your baby comes flying out of his 10cm stretched Japseye he really hasn’t got a say in the matter … he sounds a right dickhead
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Please don’t change the name you choose he’s been immature . He can not see the baby if the name make him act like a douce . If y’all baby name him what you two like. It shouldn’t be any problems when he leave because it not a problem to begin with . Nip it in the butt . Let him no end do Story and not to be brought up or talk about again and if anyone has a problem they can stay w grandpa and not see the baby as wel. Once they see how serious you are they drop it don’t bend over for them next they be telling you your raising your kid wrong because it not the way they did it… good luck
So the same middle name is perfectly 100% fine when it matches his? He sounds ignorant AF and I’d be fine with him having NOTHING to do with my son because he’d have nothing to do with myself or ANY of my children at all. This is why you don’t tell anyone, it’s none of their business.
That’s just immature! As a 28 year old adult I’d NEVER talk shit about a name lol it’s such a dumb thing to be upset over. Grant and grantly are not the same names . I’d tell him tough and move on.
Just realized he just lost someone with part of the name just give it all time he shows up let him in maybe he just hurting right now hospitals handle things like this all the time he start in have a nurse take him out .you have every right to name your child what you want.
Don’t stress about this life is to short try to show your the grown up be carding love goes along ways he can call the baby what he wants we have nicknames for all of my grand kids at some time or another myself and the mother call him bubba not realizing we both did it until school some times we still do
Why I can’t I read the whole post?! 
I honestly think you should try to see this from his side, his dead son is named Grant. Every time he hears “Grantley” he is going to think of his dead son. I think his anger is probably sadness that he doesn’t know how to express. If you had a dead child would you want your sister naming her kid the same name? And what do you mean by threatening you? You say that a lot and I am not sure what you mean. He is threatening to kick your ass? Why not try to listen to why he doesn’t want you to use that name? You sound like a kid with your hands over your ears saying " nah nah I can’t hear you".Everybody here is so quick to say “oh block him” “ignore him” without thinking that this is a family and you have to take other people’s feelings into consideration.
Wheres the threat? I always loved the name Michael but my aunt and uncle lost their first grandchild with that name. I respected them enough to NOT name my son that. Why would you insist on causing them grief?
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I would just ignore all of it. I wear a bluetooth in my ear so when family members are jumping my case, ai go to youtube and listen to peaceful and calming music as they have a bunch listed. I listen to the music as they’re being buttheads. I daydream a little dream and they’re sitting and wondering why I am not answering. Especially during my pregnancy! The baby is yours and your fiance’s. You both name the baby what you want, it is no one else’s decision!!! Good luck 
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If grandfather decided to cut him out of his life based on his name that’s on him
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Yea don’t let the kid see him if he acts like that. In fact, you don’t need to see him either. That’s just ridiculous. You can name your child whatever you want.
He sounds incredibly controlling. You’ve already accommodated his hereditary middle name. Unless it was a deceased child of his, he’s being ridiculous kicking off over the name. Stick with the name. He will like it or lump it x
keep the name his dad will get over it. you and him are happy with the name its youre child name him what you wish
Seems that the dad hasn’t gotten over the death of Grant. It’s not anger, it’s grief.
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It seems that your soon to be father in law may be dealing with some deep seeded issues involvine Grant that need to be resolved. I would politely insist that he stay away from the 4 of you until he can deal with those issues in a healthy way. Perhaps politely recommend seeing a counselor to get to the root of the issue. If he continues I would request a no contact order until (because he will be the grandfather, and Im sure you want your son’s grandfather to be in his life) he can show the judge that he has received counseling.
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Apparently this Grant was important and a great loss for him. Just name the kid something else. Grantley is kinda weird anyway.
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I had someone flip out over a name I chose for my daughter and act similarly. At the end of the day I chose to change the name. Not because she asked me to in every abusive way possible, but because every time I thought of the name I now thought of her being a downright b*tch over it. You need to decide if this name is worth a life time of hassle over it. It will become a thing. And stress between you and in laws may very well become stress between you and your partner.
I would not only name the baby that, but I would be removing Ray. Even old people need to.learn they can’t get what they want by being a dick.
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I would tell him to piss off before you get creative on names you will give him. Cut ties with that side of the family keep your child away. If you carried that baby in your belly and raising it YOU name the baby.
I allowed my mother to bully me into changing my daughter’s name. I have regretted it her entire life…
That’s your child.
Stop accommodating this idiotic behavior. Take control as the mother.
Tell grandpa he can accept your decision RESPECTFULLY
or he can STAY AWAY.
If you allow this now the MANIPULATION will NEVER END.
nip it in the butt right now or regret will be what you are left with.
Dont allow this man anywhere near u or your children until he learns to be respectful. Hes being an ass…I would block him. Not allow him near ANY of the kids…and he 150% would NOT be in the hospital room and I would tell the nurses and doctors to not allow him near your room. Period. Hes a grown ass man acting like a fool. You do you girl. Your baby, your name.
The same reason we told ppl the first letter of the name… when he or she was born then we would tell the full name. That way no-one could pressure us to change it or they didn’t like it. They’ll get used to it. I love the name Grantly
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All over a name. Id tell them to stay away. Toxicity is contagious
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It’s an ugly name. I’m sorry, but that’s my opinion. I think alot of kids names are bad because everyone tries too hard to be creative.
BUT, not my kid. Not my choice. I respect your choice to name your baby whatever you want. Cant get mad at them for not liking the name, but they should respect your choice.
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It’s not his kid. He doesn’t get a say.
Sounds like your fiance’s father is still grieving the loss of Grant. Maybe try talking to him about why it bothers him, instead of arguing with him. He honestly seems deeply hurt and this is how it’s coming out.
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Bloody hell what a post name the kid what you want and move on and Jesus your words …I told my husband a million times ffs… the poor bugga
Fil sounds like a bully. A controlling, manipulative jerk. Don’t give in. If he wants to act like that then he doesn’t need to be around your child. Period.
Stop entertaining other peoples opinions about your child. It’s not your concern about what your fil thinks of the name and if he wants to be disrespectful… Some distance won’t hurt. Thats his choice. Don’t tell anyone what you will name him and next time someone gives you an opinion you didnt ask for… Say thank you and change the subject.
I’d say it’s Grantly Ray… Not Grant. If y’all have your reasons for the name and want the name that’s your business no one else’s. For him to say he will have nothing to do with the child over a name is insane. It’s obvious he doesn’t care. Their Grant passed away long ago and they need to realize that people are going to use that name regardless of how they feel. Geez he’s acting like you want to name the baby Jesus. Or God. Don’t message him. Block him. His family is fine with it he’s just trying to be controlling over it. Do what your fiancé asked don’t message his father. Block him from your phone and let him sulk! He’s in the wrong. And he will get over it. Let your fiancé handle it. It’s his dad.
Side note Get married so you can be included with the military. Once your fiancé graduates he will be assigned to a duty station and y’all will move away anyways. Enjoy the time you have and be at peace.
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There’s a whole lot of immature going on here. Refuse to engage in verbal warfare. Your baby. You name it. Done. Isolate and ignore this manchild, he’s a waste of breath, and a good nights sleep.
It’s your child.
Don’t even entertain those arguments. Just say “okay, thank you for your input”
I truly don’t understand how people let others bully them, and sometimes change their minds (how some people are saying they let their family change their child’s name bc it wasn’t liked)
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No one liked my son’s name that I picked. Eko… But y’know what? Wasn’t their child. Some family would “give suggestions” and I’m all “well. The names are set… But thanks”
If I were you, I’d block the father on all communications…
Don’t need any toxicity.
At the end of the day that is your child and you & SO decide what to name your baby. No one else should interfere. Thats just my opinion. You do what’s best for yourselves. Hang in there. Hopefully everything works out.
Do you guys all live together or something?
To the people saying to “just change it” or “it’s not a big deal” or my favorite “change it to this or how about (insert name here)” you’re all something else. It’s easy for you to say that when your children have the names you loved and picked for them. They already agreed to name the baby’s middle name ray, because that’s what the grandfather wanted. Now he wants control over the 1st name as well. Did he help make the baby? Is he giving birth to it? I didn’t think so. Calling both his son and soon to be daughter in law “stupid” and "dumb. Calling her a bad mother. Threatening not to be involved in their or the babys life. Sounds like he doesn’t deserve to be in their life. She’s pregnant and doesn’t need this completely ridiculous and unnecessary stress. Her fiance is leaving for boot camp after the baby is born and she needs support, not this bullshit.
First “how many Ray’s have lived already?” Second fuck HIM!!!
It’s your child, you name that baby whatever and if anyone has a problem, they can kick rocks and not be in your lives.
3rd I’d get a protective order if you’re worried, he’d do something once his son leaves for boot camp. SMH
Why do others think they can control what someone names their child?!!! Rise above and pretend they don’t exist
You’re carrying this child and it it your fiance’s. Name it what you want.
Fuck the family right off, you got your own family now. I’m cold like that but i wish more of you would stick up for yourselves when it comes to family getting in the way of your own family.
Tell his dad to grow up n fuck off. You can name your baby whatever u want
Tell him to get bent. It’s none of his business what you name YOUR child. And how is he threatening you? I wish my in-laws would have pulled some shit like that. 
They wouldn’t have had to worry about not having anything to do with my kid, I would have taken them out of the equation entirely. 
Your fiance needs to grow a pair and tell his dad to stfu
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Heck, my 1 year old is Grant, my brother (my son’s Uncle) is Grant, and my father (grandfather) is Grant! My father’s grandfather was Hrant (Armenian form of Grant) Grantly is cute. Keep it
Have as much contact as you possibly can with your fiance’s family, EXCEPT for his dad. Send them updates and pictures and ask them to come to the hospital after the birth and sent them baby shower invitations and do everything you normally would do, but make sure you point out LOUD AND CLEAR that all those invitations do NOT extend to his dad and that he’s the one that chose for it to be this way.
My mom hated my daughters name and told me it was stupid. I still named her that and now my mom says her name fits her and she likes it, give him time.
My whole family hated my son’s name !( They are sadly no longer in our lives ), His name is Jasper Alexander and I love it so does his dad !!
You and your man can name your guys baby what ever you guys want
If he can’t be respectful, then maybe it is best to cut communication with him all together. It’s not his decision on what you both name YOUR son. I’ve cut toxic members of my family out of my life (a sibling, cousins, etc) and it’s been a lot better.
To be honest when I heard the name Grantly … I thought right away Grant… then I read on… my kids are all names after relatives it’s your and yours guys choice and son… but also keep in mind… some believe it’s bad luck to name a child or resemble a name of someone who has passed… he has no right treating you this way … but maybe the name hits a hurt feelings there not ready to deal with… I’m sorry but when I saw Grantley I thought of Grant right away.
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Once the baby is born the name will grow on him. If not well that’s too bad. Unless its somehow hurtful to him, ask him why.
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Throw the whole family away
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Lol than don’t let h be involved simple
It’s no bodies business or say what you name your child except for the father of the baby.Don’t talk to your future fil.Cut off contact with him.I don’t care if some one he loved died with a similar name.He has no right to be a asshole.Fuck him,and any one who says change the name.They can name their kids,pets what ever they want to.
Lmaooo the slef entitlement Sophia Poulos
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Don’t give in. You and your partner chose a beautiful name for your child for a special reason. Stand your ground. You are the parents you decide what to name your children. Just because the father knew someone named Grant means nothing. Grant and your baby are two completely different people with two completely different names. If your fiancé’s father doesn’t like it then he can choose whatever actions he wants or you can put your foot down and cut ties if he is going to disrespect you, your partner and your children.
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This whole thing sounds dumb. Who argues over SOMEONE ELSE baby name 
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Why doesn’t his dad chill the fuck out and call your son Ray when he’s born? Problem fucking solved.
When I told my family what I was planning on naming my son they looked at me weird and said why? I said because I’m giving him such a strong middle name he needs a just as equally strong first name (Victor Gilbert) after a while they just got use to it plus hes the only one with a V name in our family as I have a big family.
Sounds like the FIL hasn’t dealt with the death of his brother. Time to encourage your MIL to take your FIL to a therapist.
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Keep the name, it’s not anyone’s choice what you name your child other than yours & your husband’s! Tell them if they want you to change the name they have to pay you some dumbass amount of money! Maybe that will get them to stfu 
My daughter just had a baby in December her choice of name was strange to me at first but it’s grown in me… Ezekiel (biblical) Matthias (?). I call him Eze everyone else calls him lil Zeke. I asked for biblical and that’s what i got so it is what it is.
He’s a grown man and if he can’t see the difference and get past his own issues he can just stay away and keep all his negative, ignorant comments to himself !
I love how so many of you are bashing her and telling her to change the childs name. She shouldnt have to!!! Ok the grandpa knew someone with a similar name so what?! You know how many people name someone after a loved that died and DONT have a heart attack over it?! I mean seriously if he doesnt like it than oh well its NOT his choice he HAD his chance to name HIS children. He has no say in what they name the baby. If he doesnt want to be around than oh well that’s his loss not the babys. The baby doesnt need that kind of negativity around him!!! Weird or not is what her and her FIANCE chose to name him.
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