Okay so this is gonna be a long one.... My fiance's sons mom is horrible. Let's just start off from the beginning.. I'm gonna leave out details to spare this being extra long but from day one she's kept my fiance from his son. There is no court order (I'll get to that later) and she's always coming up with some excuse to why she does, in the last 5 almost 6 years he's gotten to take his son by himself a handful of times, in emergency cases. She's stalked me, and him. Shes a compulsive liar. She will start to uncover a lie and forget it and cover it up with another lie. She has accused him of trying to kidnap their son, when he has video proof of what happened that day, she's brainwashing their son, and when he threanted to take her to court she told him "you try to fight me for custody and I'll make sure you don't get shit" which is why there is no custody order. She's bribed him to pay her to talk to his own son, he pays child support weekly on time every week. Has no violence on his records or towards her or their son. Her and her family are bringing their child into adult problems, and telling their son they hate his father. She has a bunch of people in her family that have worked in law so she knows the ins and outs of this situation. If we go to court she knows exactly what to say to make sure my fiance doesn't get anything but what she wants him to have. She's married now, but every boyfriend before her husband now she's tried to make "daddy" to their son. My fiance has tried nothing but to be civil and be active in their sons life but she makes it difficult to even see him. He sees his son when she decides it's okay, which is normally once a month if that (right now we are going on 5 months) because Everytime they plan something, she cancels last minute or says "we will discuss it later" and it never happens, he tries and she ignores him. He's on the birth certificate and we live in Tennessee. Any advice? There's so much more to this story but I can only say so much. He misses his son and his son misses him, she only allows them to talk once a week for half a hour(when she gets child support) I know all of this is her choosing because she has custody, but it's wrong. He wants to be in his son's life, but he's scared to fight because he doesn't want to end up with less then what he's possibly getting now which isn't much I know.
He’s going to have to take it to court. No matter how many people she knows that “know law”, they don’t make the rules or decisions regarding custody. The judge overseeing the case will be responsible for that. Until then, document, document, document. Everything. Anything. Correspondences of any kind. Dates. Try to communicate via text/email as that’s printed proof of what’s said. Anything you can physically take into a lawyer’s office will help. And be honest with the lawyer. If he’s ever said something nasty out of anger or sent a heated text, tell them about it. The more the lawyer knows, the better prepared the case will be. Do it all soon. Now. The situation won’t get better without legal intervention and, by the sounds of it, couldn’t get any worse. Good luck!
He can’t kidnap his own son, especially if there’s no court orders. Neither of them have legal custody, therefore he can keep his son and go file for custody if he wanted to. Obviously they weren’t married or they would have a custody agreement with the divorce. Why do men just put up with this crap and not fight for their kids? And he pays child support!?!