My friend always seems upset with me...advice?

I hate how relationships change after a baby. I had a friend we hung out all the time. We’d talk about our lives, just vent. She knew I was being induced I never heard from her. Eventually we talked and I always ask about her and she never asks about me or my newborn. She always has to go after she tells me everything about her and I want to tell her stuff. I feel like I’m being sensitive but I also feel like I know I’m not. I don’t know if my baby is a trigger or something. I don’t feel like we can really talk, she always seems upset at me for something. I lent her some things and asked for them and she was angry I needed them back. I don’t need this stress. I do want my friend. I can’t fix what’s wrong alone and she’s conflict avoidance so she doesn’t like to sort through stuff. I guess I have to walk away but it’s hard because I don’t want too. Please leave your thoughts.

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I’ve had to walk away from a lot of people after having babies. It’s usually for the best

If she’s a true friend you should be able to address this straight to her not to the internet :confounded::sob:sounds like a one sided friendship that needs a lot more nurturing either she puts in effort or call it a loss but give her a chance and tell her that first

You find out who your real friends are when life changes

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Honestly she sounds completely selfish. Friendship should go both ways. A good friend wants to hear about you and your life too. It may be time to find another friend.

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Move on…join a group with nice ppl

I had a friend like this. We were best friends for over 15 yrs and went through a lot together and while I knew she was selfish, materialistic and at times slightly narcissistic, we were open enough for me to pull her up when needed and I loved her as a friend as I was well aware of what she was like. She changed on the birth of my first dd and didn’t visit for weeks, made excuses when I was in hospital fir 5 weeks ahead of dd being born and refused to be her godmother. She never explained herself until we finally fell out once and for all a few years later over something totally unrelated and it came out it was because she found it hard as I’d had a girl and she lost her dd who was a 28wk premie with health issues, we first met as I ran the pub who held the wake. As it stood, it turned out that she had no more need for our friendship and the reason behind the fall out was also her get out. Speak to her. Ask her what’s going on, tell her you feel these changes happening and that you know you’re not over reacting or imagining it and want to clear the air. Could she have been in early pregnancy and lost it but not told anyone?

Has she lost a baby? If so maybe it’s hard for her to be around, maybe ask her what is going on with her something is bothering her.

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She’s not your friend. She’s only around when you can serve her and you can’t now so she’s not available. Drop her.

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As a mental health counselor I tell my patients that any relationship is difficult to give up but when this happens realize when the universe does this it is just making room for a better one in your life. Mourn the loss of this one sided friendship remembering all of the times it was all about them leaving no room for you and your needs. Be open to new and better. Ask the universe for the friendship you need and it will provide it.

Friends change when our lives do sometimes. I’m sorry, but it sounds like it’s time for a new bff.

I had a friend like that…HAD. Sounds like my old friend, selfish. Ah…I’d ask her if something is up and if she doesn’t want to talk. Brush it off.

She was only your friend because you would always listen to her. Now that you’re busy with a newborn you can’t devote all your time to her.

Get your stuff back and cut your losses