I wouldn’t trust him with children.
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1st of all. I’d be leary of leaving my kids with a man that is just a friend. And 2nd, he needs to get right or get gone, now.
Get up earlier to get the stuff done. Make it work. What if he wasn’t there at all.
No way in hell I would want to ever leave my kids with someone like that. Absolutely not! Kick his ass out n find someone else. Reliable and trustworthy
He would have to find him another place to stay because he already isn’t helping out financially. The least he could do is help with your kids. Stop going out of your way to buy him things with the money you make.
Time to go ! Not helping so 
Stop buying him things he wants and tell him he has a week to find different living arrangements since things aren’t working out as agreed. Why do people make this kind of situation stressful and worrisome? He isn’t yours to raise, there are shelters or churches who will help people with no place to stay.
Why do you need advice when you know what you should do? He has to go he is not one of the kids.
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Well if he’s not helping then tell him to find somewhere else to live . He doesn’t deserve your kindness if he isn’t going to help out .
Give him the boot take the money u spent on him and hire help it’s really a no brainer
Put him out.Problem solved.
Not everyone wants to be a babysitter. Put him out and find childcare
Tell him to leave your house because he’s not doing his part to help as promised.
Kick his azz out the house. Give him a firm choice you can continue helping with the duties and with the kids or you need to be out in 30 days. I think I would filed something with the court and served him after we talk and he hasn’t change. That way you did it legally with him. But me I would just kick his azz out and change the locks the same day
Oh no you4 husband has to be a dad call the cops
I’m wondering why the hell you’re letting him stay?
Easy solved
If you need your job,kick him out and hire a babysitter with the money you are supporting him with .
Why would you ask the question?
People really can’t be this damn stupid.
He doesn’t sound reliable nor trustworthy.
I wouldn’t trust my kids with him. He must go!!!. Finding reliable help would be cheaper in the long run.
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Pack his crap and put it outside period .
Pitch his ass out the door
Or maybe he just feels like the house bitch… Doing all that is a lot. Is there really a good enough reason to lay all of that responsibility on him? It’s an automatic kick him out… But in reality I think you need to think about what you have laid out for him to do for your children. Day in and day out. Especially for someone who isn’t their parent.
I wouldn’t trust someone who doesn’t want to help with your kids
Stop wasting your money on him kick him out and find a nanny that does not live in the house with you of course you will have to pay her but you’re paying for this guys expenses anyways
Lol your kids aren’t his responsibility. Stop trying to pin your kids on other people and learn to be a parent. Why don’t you get off your *** and cook foe them yourself
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Why are you leaving your small children with a strange man?
Lol your kids aren’t his responsibility. Stop trying to pin your kids on other people and learn to be a parent. Why don’t you get off your *** and cook foe them yourself. Yall sound lazy as hell get up earlier and take care of yalls kids
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It’s time for him to go. If he isn’t contributing either financially or holding up his end of the agreement, he needs to go. You and your husband need to sit down with him and discuss the situation. If he doesn’t want to honor the agreement, he needs to move out. You may want to check to see if you will have to evict him before you have the discussion with him.
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Is he depressed? I think it’s important to figure out if this is a mental health issue, or a lazy issue, before making any big decisions.
If he is a friend, set aside a time for yourself and your husband to sit down with him, and ask him if everything is okay. Start there. Tell him you are concerned about him because he isn’t doing his normal daily activities anymore. Let him know nicely that it is affecting your lives as well. Reassure him that if he’s having a difficult time, you’re there for him, and will help him get the help that he needs. You can do this while simultaneously letting him know that the two of you cannot sacrifice your own well being, or your children’s well being, but that you’ll do what you can. Offer to help him find a therapist is this is mental health related.
Someone I know killed himself this morning. He had children, and a very tight knit family. Everyone keeps saying, “You just never know.” It’s true, you don’t know… so ask. We’re all guilty of jumping to conclusions, especially when we’re tired and struggling ourselves. Slow down, ask questions, show compassion, and then take the next necessary steps.
Move them out and pray for them
Stop buying him things til he helps? All that stuff you buy him is his pay for helping. He don’t help then he has time to get a job to pay for those things
He needs to take advantage of someone else.
Serve an official 30days. If it’s happening now, even if he agrees to help again; it will happen again.
He got to go! Bye Felicia!
Honestly if he’s there rent free and your doing him a favor , he definitely should be pulling something, and if that means he promised to help with your kids for a roof and food then he should keep his word.
If he won’t then kick him out .
No one gets a free ride .
He helps out or gets out. That’s it.
You could be using the money you give to him for reliable child care. I agree with having a discussion to see what happened but if he’s mad, that’s passive aggressive.
Only knowing one side is not a good time to give any opinion.
Kick him out, this will get worse, trust me!
If he don’t contribute and help out especially if he is not working time for them to find somewhere else to stay and find somebody else to smooch off of
If you don’t already know…
Not his responsibility to look after your kids, you can’t expect that
Get an actual babysitter. Stop asking a friend to do yalls duties. Youre the parents.