I feel like being petty on my husband birthday every year he ask what I want i tell him and send pictures and he can pick whatever out of the pictures I do not care but every year I do not get anything yesterday was my bd no cake no ice cream no card no nothing but yet every year it is he get a meal cook he pick cake ice cream card and a present hell it even that way for Xmas anniversary
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Ask himā¦ talk to him not strangers lol
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Iām with Megan Dixon . Talk to him 
My ex husband would always āforgetā my birthday, kids birthday ā¦ anything. I was petty one year and āforgotā. He pitched a fit. Last year we were together, thank God
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You are being petty. Youāre not a child. My husband and I donāt buy each other birthday gifts. I do get him a card sometimes. I will make him a cake and whatever meal he wants. We just buy what we want/ through out the year. If it hurts you that much then donāt do anything for him. Go and buy what you have on the list and tell him itās from him.
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Say to him, why do u ask me what I want and then get me nothing at allā¦?
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Iām lucky if I get a happy birthday before the end of the day or next day .but I turn around do the same knowing itās his birthday
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We are more ābuy it as we need it kind of peopleāā¦ā¦Iām happy if my husbands take me and/or my kids to dinner on my bday. Anything else is extra! It is nice to be spoiled, so I get it, but lower your expectations and only do things for him on his birthday from your heart, not expecting the same treatment. Bottom line, typically, men just donāt think the way we do. We are more thoughtful etc(usually). Let it go and just enjoy time spent 
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I am sorry for youš«¶š» I know the feeling 
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Stop doing it . He is no more important than you.
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Itās not about the gifts or the fanfare, itās the fact that you put in the time and effort for him and everyone else, but no one does for you. I know what you meanā¦ itās not bc we donāt get a gift, itās that we donāt feel important on the ONE day a year that itās completely all about you, or it should be rather.
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Stop celebrating his. If I wanted even a cake I would have to get it. But on his I made him his favorite meal presents and cake. I stopped doing it several yrs ago. I donāt care if itās his birthday he doesnāt care if itās mine.
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Stop doing it for him then.
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My.husband and I got over the gift giving after a few years. (We are not children). I always got him a gift card for his favorite hardware store. He gave me cash so I could get what I wanted. We went to eat wherever we chose. That was birthday. Anniversary I got flowers and dinner. We usually did gifts at Christmas. Except his last Christmas. He was in the hospital. Like I said his last Christmas. Be grateful heās still here. You are being a baby
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If youāre upset by it then I say have a conversation with him about it & how it makes you feel. For me, the day my husband and myself were born are big deals it at least warrants a card and dinner or whatever the person wants to feel special on that day. Have a chat with him and if he cares about your feelings, heāll do better next year.
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I had to learn the hard way. I didnāt celebrate my exās one year after being tired of not receiving any acknowledgement at all for years. He tried flipping the script on me and act hurt. I had hoped that giving him a taste of his own medicine would work. In the long run it didnāt and we ended after 10 years. That classic saying, if he wanted to he would stands here. I now have a man who treats me like a queen on special occasions and I do the same for him. For everyone saying you donāt do gifts within your relationship or itās childish, then thatās your relationship that you cleary are okay with. She is clearly unhappy with it. My only advice is open communication. If you talk to him and explain to him your feelings and what you would like from him and he still doesnāt do anythingā¦then you have some choices to make. Deal with it or donāt. Best of luck!
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My ex used to do this for me. Would love how much I did for him but he never did anything for me. I learned after almost 4 years he never actually cared for me. He pretended because he loved what I did for him and it built his ego and confidence. This is a prime example of treating a man like your child. I made that mistake for far too long. Find a MAN who wants to take care of YOU. Your bf doesnāt sound like he cares for you because if he did he wouldāve done something for you. Not just asked you what you wanted and refused to do anything. Because even if youāre broke AF you can afford to take your spare change down to the dollar store and get something even if itās for a dollar!!!
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Treat people accordingly, your husband included. The more you do the more you are expected to do.
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Everyone keeps telling this woman to lower her expectations and that they donāt get gifts from their spouse, then launch into a story about how they usually get taken out to dinner, get a card and get a "happy birthday " from their husbandās on their birthday 
Seriously how much lower can your expectations get than a $1 card and a āhappy birthdayā?
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I would make a reservation at a nice restaurant that you like, order Birthday cake and ice cream and let the restaurant sing Happy Birthday. Then Iād say on, letās go shopping for my present, let him pay for both. We just donāt do Birthdayās here anymore, but you should not be left out!! Happy Belated Birthday to you!!
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Give him the same energy. If he canāt make you feel special on your birthday donāt waste your time and energy on his. I warn you from personal experience you will get a tantrum out of it but your point will be made.
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Have you tried actually telling him this though lol
So do him the same way donāt get him anything for his birthday or anniversary or Christmas
Iām sorry but if my husband did that itād be the last time heād get anything from me.
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Nope if he canāt do for me Iām nit doing for him.
Reciprocate the energy 
Some men just donāt like shopping. You just lucky to have him,many wives donāt have their husbands anymore
For oneā¦Have you expressed these feelings to him? Maybe he asks with the best of intentions but what you are asking for is out of the price range or he is unable to find it, ect. He needs to give you a price range with certain stores to chose from if thatās the case. For two- Does he treat you good throughout the year and get you the occasional āI thought of you,ā gifts throughout the year aka flowers, your favorite candy bar, favorite drink, ectā¦ My husband and I donāt always gift exchange and I certainly donāt expect it. However heās good throughout the year and 1-2 times a month he gets me something random or does something special. I think i would probably pass out though if I ever got a dozen roses at any given time or a diamond necklace (not that you asked for that), but itās that heās thinking of me that counts. My point here is if he treats you good throughout the year, maybe he just didnāt realize it means so much to you if you havenāt talked to him. However if he doesnāt and you have tried, maybe you need more than he can give. Iād suggest couples counseling and go from there.
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Is this how your relationship is? If itās what youāre ok with, stay with it. If youāre not happy in it, it may be time to consider your options.
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Some people think a birthday is just another day. Me and my fiance donāt get anything for each other for our birthdays. Simple if you are upset about it then just donāt buy him anything
Something you have to think about is different people think differently and learn differently. And some were raised differently. Maybe he just doesnāt understand how to do that kind of affection. Maybe the pictures donāt stick in his mind like they would for other people. It sounds like he asks you verbally and you send him pictures. Try being more vocal about exactly what you want. We always do a dinner and a present for each of us and each of the kids for birthdays. I made an Amazon list that he has access to & I add to all the time in case he needs an idea, but I prefer for him to give something thoughtful that shows that he knows me. I donāt want to tell him exactly what gift to get. Be happy with the thought, no matter what it is. Put your birthday in his phone and on the fridge. If he still wonāt do anything for you, maybe heās just not that into you.
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Tell your husband since you know he wonāt do anything for your birthday, you arenāt going to wait around for it. Tell him you are planning a weekend trip with female friends or family. Plan it, pack for it, and go, even if you really only go to a friend or family memberās house or sit alone in a hotel for a day or two. Tell him you canāt cancel it because you already made plans because you knew he wasnāt doing anything for your birthday. Come home with a souvenir or 2 and tell him what a great trip it was. He will make sure he plans something after that!
Quit bitchin and donāt get him anything
I wouldnāt worry about it
Itās just another week day
It was my birthday on the 18th of this month and most of my family forgot
Tell himā¦ and donāt get him for his birthday or do anything for him. If he canāt put effort into your birthday do the same to him. I mean I just want to be acknowledged.
You get what you give.
He now gets nothing for his birthdayā¦
Talk to him. Express how you feel, your needs and wants. Communicate with your Partner
Tell him NOTHING since thatās his favorite thing to give you. As long as he is happy giving you the same every year. Then go out with the girls . But make sure you look fabulous!
Tell him. Tell him how disappointed you are. Tell him how sad he made you feel. Then tell him - if youāre not doing birthdays any moreā¦ to NOT expect anything on HIS birthday !!! Then, let him make it up to you.
Do you share money or is it splitā¦easiest way to fix this is buy yourself your gift and cake,etc from the mutual funds and tell him thatās what your doing due to him dropping the ball. If you donāt have a mutual account then tell him youāre buying what you want and he can pay you backā¦my husband is horrible at buying gifts even if the instructions are clear and he fully admits that so he gives me a price and I buy it then he gives me the money. Itās not romantic or spontaneous but sometimes you have to work with what you have or move on if itās that important. He appreciates that Iām a good gift buyer and acknowledges he is not so thatās just what works for us. We do the same for other peopleā¦he gives me money, I pick it out. If you love your husband, donāt sweat the small stuffā¦what is important to you, may just not be his strong points. Iām sure he probably has qualities that are not your strengths.
Being petty does nothing.
Either itās a deal breaker for you or it isnāt. If it hurts your feelings, and youāve clearly shared your side of the situation and he doesnāt change itā¦ā¦ then he doesnāt care about how you feel.
Itās pretty simple
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I was in a relationship for 10+ yearsā¦I begged I cried I fought. I just wanted to feel special. It could have been just one holiday or anniversary or bday. It never did come. But then I finally let that relationship go. And I found the love of my life who makes an effort every bday and Christmas. For mothers day and valentineās day I usually get at least flowers. We both always somehow forget our anniversary. But itās ok bc this man goes out of his way daily to make me feel special. Six years and counting 
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I get nothing so I stopped putting the effort for him! And I just buy what I want when I want it! Dont get me wrong it would be nice to get something that Iām not paying for but I gave up years ago and I stopped buying for him
You need to talk or it is going to nag at you. You are not children and there is no need for confrontation or argument. Donāt sit down face to face, that can seem confrontational. Just drop into a conversation something like "i always make a big thing about your birthday. I feel hurt that you donāt do the same for me. It makes me feelā¦ Insert how it makes you feelā¦ Why donāt you do the same for me? " go from there. Keep it calm. As others have said, itās not about gifts itās about the thought and love that goes into itā¦
Maybe tell him instead of fb
Have you ever thought about actually talking to your husband about this stuff instead of coming online and being a keyboard warrior and trying to get a bunch of backboneless beetches behind you. Lmao no wonder your marriages donāt last.
Just donāt do anything for him anymore
I would just say in future we send no cards or presents to each other then no one gets hurt 
Some of your comments are ridiculous. Why shouldnāt she get the same energy that she puts forth? Iād stop doing it for him period. He will notice! And maybe he will take the hint
Just stop doing it for him
Donāt sweat the small stuff. And cake & ice cream & a gift given in obligation is small stuff. Most men are not focused on such things. If you have a truly masculine man who is a good PROVIDER & PROTECTOR of you family, express ADMIRATION & GRATITUDE to him every day & strive to be WORTHY of him. Quit sweating the small stuff.
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Ask him why he doesnāt get you anything on your birthday or you list , be straightforward. Maybe heās not the the one if he doesnāt prioritize you , and if heās the one then speak up let him know what you want.