I am almost 45 my husband is 46, and we are having trouble in the bedroom, at first we blamed it on medication bc of my husband having a heart attack couple years ago but he hasn’t been taking any meds bc he thought that is why he can’t keep an erection and we still in the same spot after he been quit taking them for a while…now I’m thinking it’s just me he says no and feels really bad thinking he is letting me down, but I just don’t understand it? I can give him oral or four-play, and it will stay hard, but as soon as we start having sex a couple of minutes into it, he loses his erection…has anyone through this? I cry thinking it’s just my stuff that is causing it and he gets upset bc I cry thinking that…we are going crazy…and b4 anyone says he’s straying, I don’t think he is if he isn’t working I’m on the phone with him he calls home every 2 hours on breaks and all way from work to home then he’s home that’s pretty much 7 days a week… I know his age might affect some? But it’s been a couple months now with several failed attempts…Thank you for any advice! I am almost 45 my husband is 46, and we are having trouble in the bedroom, at first we blamed it on medication bc of my husband having a heart attack couple years ago but he isn’t taking any meds bc he thought that is why he can’t keep an erection and we still in the same spot after he been quit taking them for a while…now I’m thinking it’s just me he says no and feels really bad thinking he is letting me down, but I just don’t understand it? I can give him oral or four-play, and it will stay hard, but as soon as we start having sex a couple of minutes into it, he loses his erection…has anyone through this? I cry thinking it’s just my stuff that is causing it and he gets upset bc I cry thinking that…we are going crazy…and b4 anyone says he’s straying, I don’t think he is if he isnt working I’m on the phone with him he calls home every 2 hours on breaks and all way from work to home then hes home that’s pretty much 7 days a week… I know his age might effect some? But it’s been couple months now with several failed attempts…Thank you for any advice!
So he stops taking meds for a heart attack to have sex which can rise his heart beat and cause a heart attack? Hmmmm smart
He should see a urologist. I doubt it’s you girl.
Have him talk to his doctor. If he has high blood pressure (diagnosed or not), it could affect erections, also BPH (I forget what’s it’s called)
Please see a doctor it could be something simple
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I would consult a doctor. It could be anything. Hormones, depression, side effects after being on and stopping meds, age, physical ability, or really anything. Hang in there and make sure he knows that you arent going anywhere. Good luck.
Maybe because of the age factor you might not producing enough lubrication that might be he can stay hard for a bj but not sex my mom went through the same thing and that was the problem
Low testosterone, happens to a lot of men. Have his levels checked.
Damn that’s young age for a heart attack…I’d just keep giving him
Whatever gets him hard, don’t beat yourself up over something that might end up giving him another heart attack 
Could be low testosterone, but he definitely shouldn’t have stopped taking his heart meds
Please have him go to a doctor immediately. He shouldnt have stopped any medicine without talking to his doctor to start with
Honestly I’d talk to his doctor, maybe it’s a medical issue. My husband is diabetic and if his sugar is off sex is off the table. An please never stop taking medication without talking to a Dr. first it’s so dangerous. Especially for his heart.
Is the heart pills the only medication hes taking?.. should always ask about side effects …
Could be many reasons SO I would suggest a Dr but in actuality I do agree he should not have stopped his medications especially if he already had a heart attack. I would find other ways to play. My man never needed just his D… to get me off 
he used tongue fingers toys etc lol just saying hun. Venture out before you cause the guy another heart attack 
he shouldn’t be going off any meds without talking to his doctor, especially if his medications are because of his heart condition…
again I’m going to put this in all caps so you really understand : TALK TO HIS DOCTOR TO FIGURE IT OUT!!! AND KEEP TAKING ALL MEDICATIONS UNLESS A DOCTOR SAYS OTHERWISE!!
He shouldnt have stopped his heart meds, see a dr about the bedroom issue or a councillor and see if theres any underlying issues…
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Both see a dr and have hormone panels, thyroid panels done
First off, start with getting him back on the heart meds. Then go see a doctor, who can help with the erection.
Talk to your doc he may have low testosterone.
You’re overthinking everything… stop!
He should talk to his doctor. Also I hope the doctor gave him the ok to stop his other medications. Especially if they were heart medications.
See a doctor. This isn’t his or your fault.
I would talk to the dr. I think they can help you a lot also try using lubricant it might help you stay wet if that is even close to a problem. If the doctor was okay with him being off his med then no reason to harp on this poor women
By the way he might still be a little nervous about having another heart attack if he lets himself… go so to speak. Talk with him
Have him get his checked testosterone levels if they are low he will have trouble. And go to the sex shop just get little things you guys like
I thought they made erection pills for stuff like this?! Lol women get old and go through menopause and men get old and I don’t know if there’s a word for it but their sperm count goes down and with that their testosterone drops. I wouldn’t think it has anything to do with you.
He should be taking his heart meds. His cardiologist okay’d his stopping???
It comes with age and it’s neither of y’all’s fault, he needs to talk to his Dr and there are treatments for this
Toys for you …toys for him … toys in the bed for both for you to play and discover
Try lube if you don’t already
Have u tried the lil blue pill ? I’d talk to the Dr first. Especially since he does have trouble with his heart already. Or u can try a sex therapist . good luck
I have the exact same problem. We just do it doggie style. He tried taking meds and it gave him headaches. I told him to stop, sex ain’t worth losing your life over.
Well this may sound crazy but this seemed to be an issue with us. Was monster energy drinks. If he had 2 or 3 a day. Then sex was pretty much a waste of time. But after he stopped drinking monster. Bam! no more issues. And our sex life is great. Just a suggestion
iknow her feeling just couple yrs older .and me and my guy go through the same thing and with same thing as her. last longer one way done in other ways.he always says better go see the doctor to .
It’s called erectile dysfunction. He needs to see a doctor for it. Its life hunny. As men get older, life comes in the door and says hey what’s up not today bud. It’s normal. My husband has the same issue. Very hard to maintain the erection and sometimes hard to nut.
Talk to his dr it’s not thier of your falt
Personally I don’t think this is a topic that should be discussed on social media. My goodness; is nothing kept in private anymore!!!
He needs to get his testosterone and estrogen checked. Once men hit around 45, their hormone levels go down.
Does he smoke or drink? These can cause erectile dysfunction. Also get his testosterone checked.
Go and talk to his heart doctor, stopping his medication can have a big impact on his heath. The heart doctor can prescribe meds to help you out but don’t just go and get viagra without going to the heart doc or it may be the last time you have sex.
Get his testosterone level tested
Bring in a younger women for a threesome. Spice things up!!
I was in the same boat with my ex husband. With him it was mental. Give him viagra and not a thing wrong! Without it…erectile disfunction. I thought it was me, however 4 urologists, a sex therapist, and regular therapist…it was him. He had many mental issues. Hence the ex. Get his hormones tested as well.
Prostate massage 2 or 3 times a week. If he will let you. Some drs do it. But would probably prefer you do it
very common, talk to the dr, its not you, and I’m sure he’s mortified that its causing this emotional pain for you. and that over time will cause him .anxiety which will make it harder to over come… try different positions and def talk to a dr…
Have him talk to his doctor about low testosterone. It happens at a certain age and stress etc factors can contribute to it
Low T is common after 40 and you’re not the only couple that has gone through it. Viagra has helped many people, talk to a doctor and have his levels checked. 
Low T! Very very very common, nobody’s fault, viagra or a similar medication should help 
Some people’s sex preference change throughout life. I only do/want oral sex as well and I’m in my 20s, it’s not anything to do with the person your with. Try a prostate massage(couple times a week with your hand or a massager) and exam along with a T test, it may just be age. Also, if you want, go online to spectrumboutique.com (i think that’s what it is, I follow them more on Instagram than anything) for toys etc. to try and answers to any questions you have about anything sexual! They even answer emails with tips and tricks along with the education you need about a certain problem! 
Have him checked for low t
Have his testosterone checked. Total game changer.
Talk to a doctor and see if he and you can take viagra, YOULL HAVE A GOOD NIGHT!
Low T is common after 40 and you’re not the only couple that has gone through it. Viagra has helped many people, talk to a doctor and have his levels checked. 
When did he see his cardiologist last? Sometimes the aftermath of heart issues can really mess with guys’ minds … and you know what they think with!! If there proves to be no medical cause and he’s healthy enough, go shopping! Pretend hussy for an evening? Bubble bath for two? Make it about fun again, and tell him no pokey-pokey allowed. When he isn’t afraid of failure any more, things might go better. Maybe!
Definitely talk to a doctor about it. It doesn’t sound like that’s an emotional issue, nor a commitment issue. If he is having any temptations to go elsewhere, even porn, it could interfere with an erection, but honestly it really does sound like it’s coming down to age and general health.
Don’t lose hope, Mama. You sound like a wonderful wife, willing to do so much to please your husband. I’m sure he’s equally as torn apart about not being able to return the affection in the same manner. You guys will get through this. Just keep exploring different methods of doing what you gotta do the do the do 
Could be a health issue, low testosterone.
Because he is capable of an erection, it could also be porn addiction. Ask about porn.
People age differently. It’s just his health problems. Most likely his time for sex is up. Also the heart condition is a bigger concern and not taking his meds. He needs to see a doctor also I would avoid sex if he has a heart condition. Anyone suggesting viagra is a dumb idea if he has a heart problem.
Sounds like low testosterone or erectile dysfunction has he talked to his dr they can give cialis or levitra neither of those make the heart pound as bad as viagra before my fiancee passed he tried all 3 he didn’t like viagra he was on seizure meds and other meds that the dr said caused it
Maybe its because you keep him on a short leash. You repeat everything you say more than once. Damn! You just killed my sex drive! Now I’m crying about it!
Define get checked for low T. My husband is 34 and although he wasnt having erectile issues he was suffering from several low T symptoms. His T level (350) was the normal for a 70 year old man. He ended up getting the Biote pellets and its helped him so much, he enjoys life again hes not as depressed and even though bedroom stuff was going well we just didnt do it as often became he was so tired, now hes up for it whenever I am. So far butt soreness where the pellets go into the muscle has been the only negative from them and he said it’s worth it.
Erectile dysfunction can be a major symptom of heart issues. (Did you know viagra was originally developed as a heart medication?) Go back to the cardiologist and be sure there isn’t something going on with his heart before you address the bedroom issue.
Talk to your doctor.
Has he seen a doctor? Maybe he needs viagra. Why does he call you so much? Is that new? Or always been like that? I personally would feel smothered if my significant other felt the need to call me so much when we live in the same house. Maybe you guys need a little distance, like only talk once halfway through the day. Have you tried role playing? I also feel like there is a lubricant that desensitizes the penis, so maybe that would help him keep his erection longer.
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ED can be a symptom of heart problems, and that’s the only reason you had him stop taking prescription meds for his heart?? Wtf?
Also it could be a mental thing. Depression, especially after a health scare. Midlife crisis can cause underlying depression too.
It’s rarely a lack of attraction in a marriage that causes these problems. Especially over 40. Can’t blame yourself. That will make it much worse. He’s likely blaming himself too. You gotta snap out of it for his sake. Redirect. Get a toy and see if taking care fo yourself in front of him gets him going again.
But first SEE A DOCTOR! And take whatever meds are prescribed! Christ!
Low T is normal …he needs to see a doctor and get some blood work done…something not right…
Did his doctor give him the ok to stop taking his heart medication? Low T can definitely be a cause, but if he already has underlying heart issues that may be the brunt of it.
He definitely should be taking he’s heart Meds, that can be dangerous, He was young for a heart attack and men don’t show there emotions like we do so it could have to do with that.
The safest solution would be to see he’s doctor and discuss it with the doc, I would not go out and Viagra until he talks to a doctor he’s health should be the top priority. Good luck
Always get checked out…but since he already had a heart attack it could be fear…
First I’d see a doctor not announce your personal information on face book for the whole world to see how embarrassing for him advertising personal issue especially in the bedroom
Its got nothing to do with the medication its because he has a heart condition. See his bloodflow isn’t right and that’s what needed for a erection. You need to speak with his heart dr and see if he can take the little blue pill that can help him with this issue
There is medication to help either him , you or both . Talk to your obgyn . Have him go with you
Also not good he stopped his medication . It’s very important he takes that medication so it doesn’t happen again
My thought would be , I rather him take that med so I don’t lose my husband . Sex is overrated . You can always do others to please each other . Health is #1
I would definitely have him go to the doctor. Those two go hand in hand. ED and heart issues. The doctor can give him something to help. At this point he honestly might just be overthinking it and thinking he’s going to disappoint. Have him relax and let him know you understand it’s not his fault and try not to get too upset and def go to the doctor. In the meantime there are always other ways to please eachother
Lord first off tell that man to get back on his heart meds. Have him talk to the doctor. Is he diabetic or have him tested sometimes that’s a problem.
Looks like you two care and love each other 
Look, he can’t stop taking his meds for sex, sorry but this is the part of marriage where you love each other unconditionally. Some people weren’t made to have sex till they die and he sounds like a wonderful man. Sex is important but not enough to risk his health.
For starters, he needs his heart meds and needs more testing done. He may also have low testosterone. If he does, he will need meds or another alternative to keep an erection.
I say talk to your doctor, maybe his medication has something to do with it. Or maybe check him for diabetes, diabetes affects alot your personal life
If he is getting an erection, have you tried a penis ring? It will help keep the him erect… you can also get one that helps you at the same time! And you may have to try a few to find what’s ‘right’ for him… this could also help him a little better cause he isn’t having to take the little blue pill (if this works)
Try a ‘surprise’ outfit…lots of teasingly four play…or…maybe even a scavenger hunt.“Come find the prize!”…or maybe just a mini-vacation.
I would suggest that he get his testosterone levels checked. Also maybe spice it up a bit and with toys, flavored lube. And maybe he should exercise a little bit, he might feel better about himself. Don’t get frustrated with him, it’s only going to make things worse. Good luck in the bedroom.
It could be part of his diet or even the aging process. He definitely needs to go to his doctor and have some testing done for his heart and his prostate. Don’t be ashamed to ask for a script of viagra or cialis. Best of luck.
For starters don’t EVER stop the medication. You both need to talk to his cardiologist
Does he have diabetes? Alot of older men with that do have erectile dysfunction. Nother wrong with letting the doc know about the issue & maybe you both can get some answers. Good luck
Just a suggestion. I would try a plant based diet. I believe his heart issues are circulation related and cholesterol is the main culprit of conditions like this. Cholesterol is only found in animal protein. But don’t take my word for it. Please do your own research. One of many great sources is Dr. Michael Greger. Ive read stories of people reversing heart conditions and getting off of meds completely. All the best.
First off, if he tell u it isnt u, then u need to listen to him, u are creating another issue, he should see his dr.
He needs to get back on his meds ASAP !!! And that ain’t no joke lord have mercy I think you two should talk to your doctor about this problem I am sure the doc can help with your problem
Then do the four play and oral and buy some toys for him to use on you.
Hmm i would have him go back to the doctor he may still be having a heart issue. E.D. is a sign of heart health issues. My husband is 45 with no issues so I don’t believe its an age thing it sounds like a medical issue to me. No matter what may be causing it I would see a doctor they may be able to help him.
Having sex is not all is to it if you love eachother //
My husband had the same issue, low testosterone. He’s a heart patient and now they found the issue I give him a shot of testosterone once every two weeks and boom problem solved! He’s 48 and that’s what happens to a lot of men his age.
I would suggest that you speak with a doctor. I would also strongly advise your husband to start taking his medication again. There could be numerous reasons why your husband can not keep an erection after penetrating you. Does he watch porn? How is his prostate? How’s his overall health? Are you sure that he’s being faithful? Counseling or Therapy is always a start in the right direction.
He may be scared he is going to have a heart attack during sex and doesn’t want to tell you that.
My husband 48 and drink a lot and sometimes he won’t stay up hell I really don’t be caring because if he can not drink and get it everyday he would try and I don’t wanna have sex everyday