He does not respect you, your child or your marriage, from the sounds of it. If you stay with him you’ll just be allowing that man to use you.
Ignore him… do not text or call him for the rest of lockdown… see how he likes it!
What are you trying to save? For the sake of the children is the biggest myth going. Your child will be better off with two separate happy parents than being raised in a toxic environment. Leave now and leave permanently.
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You are the only person in that relationship. He is already gone. Cut him lose.
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Lord, this sounds like a high school relationship. SMH…if you want to work on this relationship I’d suggest marriage counseling. But from the sounds of him, he wouldn’t go for it. But you never know until you try.
I think you need to stop chasing this man and use this lockdown as a way to break away. You keep saying my husband my
Husband. He is your husband in title only. You’re being vague about his nonsense which just leads me to believe it’s deal breaker stuff that you’re trying to sweep under the rug. He isn’t asking you to sweep it. It doesn’t seem like he’s interested in forgiveness or you at all. Let him go. Just don’t text. Don’t call. Drop that ball. And if things end you know they were always meant to.
Also take your money out of that joint account. Get your own account.
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When the time comes and it will you will cut ties I know you love him so much. I spent most of my life trying to fix something that wasnt there. You have to choose you and you child over this relationship stop contact and focus on you and the baby. No one can tell you what to do in this situation because love is blind and when you finally see what is going on you will take the other path but that when you are ready to move on which eventually you will just takes time for the heart to let go of something that it wants but isnt good for it.
Take care of yourself and never doubt you gut instinct, as you reaching out is step 1.
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Leave this man! You are worth more and so is child. Take care
You answered your own question. You can’t fix that pattern. He doesn’t care.
I stopped reading when I reached the point where he’s cheated on you on several occasions. Why are you even bothering? Move on.
Hun, seriously, i think you love the idea of having a family but this man is worthless and doesnt deserve a second more of your time and effort…
Be real with yourself, honestly…
Empty the bank account and send him divorce papers. Bet he’ll talk to you then. He really doesn’t care.
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Wtf. That’s not a marriage. Let the child be a child- bye loser.
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"Up to 8 hours " Doesn’t text you good morning or good night? You sound needy. 
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Hard truth, it’s over love, move on.
He cheated on you
It’s done. Move on. Love yourself . Love your child. Have pride. He clearly doesn’t love you. What you have is not love. Leave before it gets too toxic
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He clearly doesn’t want to be in a relationship. You should prepare to move on and get your life together without him.
He’s showing you he doesn’t want to be with you and you aren’t having any of it. He’s gone way past the point of telling you and now the distance between you, I’m sorry but he’s already moved on you should do the same.
Dont call him and he will wonder why you really need to let him go one day he will find someone and call wanting a divorce move on you will find someone to love you
No man is worth ruining your life and self worth-you and your daughter will be better off without him!
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Hard truth, he’s lost interest and probably avoiding you for that reason. Move on, let go. Be happy!
He’s probably lost interest and instead of telling you and breaking up, he’s dragging it along.
Speaking from experience, it doesn’t get better if he was going to treat you right he would. Every time you forgive him it gives him more license to whatever he wants. If you are going to be a single mom be a single mom don’t wait around for someone to realize how great you are, love yourself enough to know how great you are. It’s not you it’s him.
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Move on he won’t ever treat you right been there wish I would have done it sooner took me 20 something years before I moved on all those years wasted
Agree with all above!!
First of all, if you arent living together GET YOUE OWN BANK ACCOUNTS!
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agree having children won’t make things rosy with him move on find someone that actually cares for you not make believe
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Piss him off find someone who will have time for you and treat you with respect.
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Sounds like he’s over you! And the so called marriage don’t be sad! There’s someone at there that does want to talk just be careful! Good luck
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Can you see,he dosen’t love you.Wake up.
You’re in this marriage alone…
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You will feel so much better after a divorce.
My advice is to simply move on. Its the hard decision but you will be much happier in the end
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You’re already separated. Leave it that way! Don’t reach out to him, move on with your life.
I agree with Edna Hicks—“Give God control.” 
Sounds like you might be separated and not know it. I’m sorry.
I’m all for counseling and working through stuff together, but you can’t even be separated together. Sounds to me like he’s just not invested anymore. Maybe he never was. How do you know he’s not cheating? Did he go to ice cream alone? According to you, you haven’t even spoken to him, so how would you know? Be single. Get your life together. Raise your child. Get some counseling to help you heal. And when you’re in a good spot on your own, go find a partner willing to share your life with you.
He clearly has no interest anymore in you or the marriage send him the divorce papers and be done with it. There is no need for you to be hurting yourself over and over when you know deep down it’s done on his end. It’s hard and scary but you gotta do it your baby needs to see love and stability, not this. NEVER stay with someone like that for the sake of your child because it’ll only hurt them watching you get treated badly. Serve him and move on♥️
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He is stealing your money and probably not sleeping alone he sounds abusive. Move your money where he cannot get too him. As soon as. He thinks you are making him accountable it will disappear. If he can go out for ice cream he can home. Sounds like he is using thecquarantine as excuse to mess areound. Get rid of him, BUT move the money into an acct. He cannot touch.
Kick him to the curb, u don’t have a marriage
THE ONLY PERSON I WOULD TALK TO IS A DIVORCE LAWYER. Too many red flags to go through.
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I would focus on u and ur child stop trying to get ahold of him it’s obvious he doesn’t care sorry if that sounds harsh but u have tried numerous times to communicate with him it’s his loss move on with ur daughter don’t waste anymore time on a selfish person husband or not u deserve to b happy u don’t need him good luck
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He will never change. Empty the bank account! U will get his attention and he will talk to u!!!
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Read these comments they are right. File for divorce and child support. Take 1/2 of bank funds and put in an account in your name. Move on, do not call or text, your attorney can do that. He does not want to be married and probably hasn’t for a while. It was hard for me too to give up and move on. I moved out of our home with my son. Told him in June I was was leaving with our son after our son’s 3rd BD so he could at least be there for that, 3 months notice. But honestly it was better We became friends again after with our son. Please take advice from others here they know too. This isn’t for you and your daughter.