I would not be allowing my child to stop me hugging my partner your the parent x and yeah it is hard with young kids to get alone time but unfortunately thats having kids lol
It’s not the kids fault that one of y’all cheated.
Your problem isn’t the kids, it’s the infidelity. The babies are YOUNG, they’re going to need constant supervision. Stop blaming the kids for yalls problems when it’s clearly the adults fucking up.
Counseling? Is there anyway u guys can get a babysitter once a week for like 2 hours, u guys could do a date night which could help so much. My husband n i are going thru something right now too, its so hard with iur 6, 11, and 13 year old always around, i cant imagine toddlers while dealing with it all. U both need some intimate alone time, it helps. Reconnecting can do wonders. Where there’s a will, theres a way. If u guys love each other and really want to work it out, ull find a way to do it. Not saying itll be easy, it might take a while, but you can do it. Theres times i get in my feelings and feel like ill never be able to get thru this, but i can’t imagine life without my husband, so we are gonna keep working together to get thru it. I’m sorry u guys are going thru this all, and i wish i had a fool proof way to help u
Kids need to know that parents hug and kiss.and if the cry tug at you put them in time out or give them something to do toddlers love food like cherrios or snacks sit the littlest one in a high chair and the older one with an.activity . As long as there isnt screaming among the adults talk in front of them hug kiss all ubwant this shows love fighting is what harms them be an adult quit letting kids rule you wait if you dont stop it at 5 and 7 you wont have control at all and wait till the teen years lol your in trouble if you dont start now
Because of your kids? Lmao it’s not your children’s fault and if you think it is neither of you should have your kids.
Hey how about worrying about your kids instead of an adultery. He would be the last one I would give a shit about. Sorry not Sorry Kids didn’t do this to you.
I think you guys need to spend time wiki g through this in therapy. The kids are picking up on the difference from peek fidelity and post infidelity. And which ever one strayed needs to be working on their self in their own therapy. Talk to the children outside of the moment of big feelings. Check in on their emotional well-being bc again even if no one has said a word to them they know that something is or has happened. And that’s scary when your little. They may need reassurance. Also if the kiddos have been told details (
) then that relationship also has to be rebuilt with time and work. This is way more intensive than just a kid trying to be the boss.
You and your husband are the adults
Don’t let a 4 and 2 year old play boss
And have y’all never hugged before in front of the kids for her to act that way?
Just hug
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Sounds like your kids need to be in therapy and you guys need to hire a sitter to get out. Tho honestly, lmao there would be ZERO way I would work out anything with a cheater. They’ll most likely do it again and you just told them you’ll be cool with it. I would put him out and have 50/50. Think about it, this could be the week break you need every other week. 
Hug your husband around your kids. A two year old should not decide if you can hug your partner or not. Show them and explain to them that this behaviour is unacceptable. They need to see this kind of normal affection between their parents. Also, schedule a weekly date night if you can.
How do kids learn to work through hard shyt if we don’t do it in front of them? I know they are only 2 and 4 so you think there’s a need for “age appropriate” but there’s a difference between age appropriate and letting a couple of toddlers run your life.
I am a little confused; why are you letting your kids make the rules? It’s your job to teach them how to be loving and affectionate and understanding. You can’t teach them this if you “sit in your feelings” until after they go bed. It’s time to take charge of your household. Be their parent first and their friend second. You aren’t doing them or yourselves any favors by not confronting the problems of your marriage head on.
Probably because you and your husband have been screaming, shouting and crying, don’t kid yourself that the affair only hurt you
I have a 16, 11, and a 7 year old. My youngest gets still gets little jealous when we are affectionate with each other. She will try to sit in the middle of us and say no kissing. When she was around the same age 2&4 we would both give her a hug and tell her Mommy and Daddy Loved her and then put her down and gave each other a hug and kiss. She did kind of acknowledge that it was Mommy and Daddys turn to hug so she didn’t feel left out. My older two are just like gross 
We have alway been very affectionate with each other in front of our children. I am very affectionate with my Kids and always have been since they were babies. Having kids and working on your marriage is hard. We just made time when the opportunity was available. Flirt more as you cross paths in the hall ways. Look at your routine, if they are still taking naps take advantage on the weekends during those nap times. Dinner time My kids would be distracted with the TV and toys so it Gave us 15 minutes to connect. You both will get through this as long as you both are being patient, loving and understanding that it just doesn’t happen over night. Good things take time. 
Wtaf did I just read? 
Those poor kids… 