My son just turned two months old. I keep hearing we are really lucky because he doesn’t cry much and he is a happy baby. Lately, he’s been a lot fussier. I know that he’s going through his growth stages, but my husband seems to think he shouldn’t be crying, especially at night, after we put him to bed. I know he just wants to be held and comforted. We keep fighting over him, crying and who is right on what to do when he cries. I really don’t know what to do anymore. Help, please
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You got to bed train him let him cry not being mean
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Your baby is only 2 months old. He needs lots of love and comfort. You’re very fortunate that he slept as good as he did as long as he did because a lot of babies wake up every two hours. You need to love on your baby. Your husband needs to understand that and quit being selfish.
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He is a baby! Sorry but babies cry. If I were you I would just walk completely away from my husband and do what I needed to help and soothe my baby. Try adding an extra ounce to his feedings, swaddle, Rock, walk back and forth holding him, try light noise like a fan running, try getting an extra burp out, check his booty even if you just changed him 5 minutes ago, try a different outfit, check his temp… give him a bath. This isn’t about you guys anymore. It’s about your son… he will eventually outgrow it. If you guys are arguing around your son he can notice that and pick up on it… could be a huge reason why he’s crying.
Buy your husband a pacifer and diaper…clearly he’s the baby in the house.
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He’s only two months old of course a baby is going to cry they need you alot right now welcome to Parenthood sounds like he needs to realize that and grow up
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Sounds like your husband is jealous over the baby.
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Maybe suggest the two of you go to parenting classes. This way he can hear it from someone else that he’s being irrational.
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2 month old babies should not be left to cry!! Do not let anyone tell you any different. You cannot spoil a baby. Give him love and comfort away from your husband. My son is 4 months and I still get up with him at night and comfort him when he cries.
2 months old you comfort ypur baby period
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Get a new husband, this one is broken. Your son - and YOU - are the priority for the next year! Your husband is being selfish!
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The baby is only two months old, and crying for them is a form of energy release. They aren’t able to crawl, walk, run. Also, depends on the type of cry, there’s the I’m hungry and wet, feed me change me cry, the I’m hurting somewhere cry, the I’m wanting attention cry, or the I’m sleepy cry, and I’ll cry til I fall asleep. You’re both new to this but you’ll soon figure out the types, also try playing more with your baby and keeping him up longer in the evenings before bed time.
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Didn’t anyone warn him that babies cry?
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Hes a baby they cry…
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Crying is a baby’s way of communicating with you. It is normal for a bub that young to be fussy.
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Kick hubby to the curb. That’s what kids do.
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Thoughts???
Stupid. The end.
Your husband is wrong. It’s the only way the baby can communicate, he’s 2 months old for goodness sake of course he’s going to cry at night! Maybe you should try parenting classes or speak to your health visitor/midwife
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Keep diapers, wipes, blankets ans bink(if you use one) by the bed, I kept a warm bottle of water between my tits with formula on my window because I didnt want to get up. I got a touch lamp with a very dim light and when my kids got up I would change the butt make a bottle swaddled turn off light and after bottle burped and put them back to sleep.
Single mom with all three kids, but I never expected someone to assist.
It may help
Also fuck your husband, I would let him wash his hands of it and do it my damn self… but that is also why I was single. Not dealing with grown man fits over my baby.
Sounds like your husband is not kid savy/ oriented… babies/kids cry end of story smhhhh
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Your two month old is acting like a two month old…your husband, is also. Comfort your baby… albeit talk with your husband.
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Wow.
Please don’t have any other kids with him. You will get stuck
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It’s the life of having a newborn. It will pass, but I do believe in getting him on a schedule If he’s not. Letting him cry a little won’t hurt either. I also thought maybe since he has not cried so much in the past maybe he’s teething early. Just because you don’t see them yet does not mean they aren’t pushing up in his gums. Maybe try something your doctor recommends for that? 
I wish you the best. The first year can definitely be hard on the parents, just try to be patient with the baby and each other.
Don’t fight in front of that baby. I’m a new mom and I know it gets rough, sleepless nights, frustration, etc. The baby might be colicky and it gets hard with the constant crying… but baby’s only form of communication is to cry. Try to zone your husband out, it’s all about the baby right now and they need good vibes and love at this tender age
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I used to have the same issue with my husband thinking babies or toddler should act according to how he expected them to. At the end of the day they are my children and if i want to comfort them i will. Babies cry don’t have any more if you can’t handle it.
Your husband if he is bothered about a 2 month old crying, how is he going to react about a 2 year old having a tantrum? Babies cry, that’s how they let you know they need something. Your husband needs a reality check and some parenting classes.
Um so which one is the real baby lol? Your husband needs to realize babies cry. Obviously he missed that part on having kids…
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You’re husband sounds very selfish. Baby comes first.
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Tell him to stop being a selfish git the baby is 2 months old that’s what they do you have a fair few months of this yet to come
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Who’s the baby? Could be any number if reasons baby cries at night. Collick, separation. Best to chk with dr probably nothing but better safe than sorry. Maybe hubby woukd be more understanding if there were legitimate reason. He is being a bit of an ass tho
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The problem:
You married an idiot
The solution:
There is none. If a grown adult doesnt know or understand babies cry there is no hope. Throw the whole man away and start again.
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Your husband sounds too immature to be a parent or partner
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Damn what an ass babies cry even at night for number of reasons hungry, wet,some even starts to teeth early sounds to me you best watch him around your child especially if the crying bothers him so much
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Lol you’re husbands only gonna get worse
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Tell him to grow up or get out
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Husband needs some parenting classes because that’s idiotic to think a two month old baby shouldn’t cry. I foresee alot of problems in the future.
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Can these questions get anymore bazaar? I swear, where are these people coming from!
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You have to plan ahead, if he is like this now what’s he going to be like when your baby becomes a toddler and cries over anything and everything and has tantrums? All babies cry, at the teething stage they cry non stop at night. Try and get your health visitor to explain its normal, try talking him into parenting classes. If he still refuses to listen then you may have to consider leaving for the sake of the little one. Having a parent that thinks emotion can be shut off so fast or it’s not normal to cry as they grow up will be emotionally damaging.
Take your baby to the doctor then kick your husband out.
Tell your husband to go to a childcare course or a ppp what a loser leave this ignorant pig
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He needs to grow up. Wow what an absolute man child
This scares me a little bit with the husband. That’s what babies do. I’m hoping he doesn’t get mad etc about it. This is a red flag imo.
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Lol try 2 of em. We tone it out and just play with them. It’s all they want.
Get this picture printed out with the words “Really? You didn’t know the babies cry? What the hell is wrong witchu” If he really is a selfish, self centered, Chit head, ass wipe and a bunch more curse words I don’t want people to know I know then he should invest in a set of ear plugs. Otherwise he needs to man up and help out. If he seems to frustrated or violent he should probably leave
Do not ever leave him with the baby alone!!! I would have to get a divorce!!!
Babies cry . He needs to realize that.
Jeeze
At 2 months that’s totally normal! that’s why I had the bassist right next to my bed or co slept bc my youngest always wanted to nurse alllll night long! Lol I was single with him. My first 2 kids I had a SO similar to the sounds of yours n I’ll tell us what I’d rather do it alone then with a jerk who does nothing but bitch!
Baby first, hubby second. Follow your instincts and tell hubby to shut his face🤷♀️
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Get a new one… Husband I mean. I go thru the same thing with my husband. But it’s with all the kids, at every age. Love my husband but he is a terrible caregiver.
You need a new husband.
I’m thinking that maybe you should go about it a different way. Many people, including myself, struggle with anxiety. I know a crying baby sets off my anxiety immediately and fiercely. BEFORE I understood my anxiety, I thought I just didn’t like babies…I was that bitch that would make comments in restaurants and grocery stores…etc, when a baby was crying. I myself had one child, and never, ever, wanted another, and I believe it has to do with the massive anxiety I felt every time she would cry. I dealt with it, and did what needed to be done, and was a very attentive mother…but I hated it. After years of counseling and life experience, I understand my anxiety so much more, and understand that in most cases it’s irrational, and have learned ways to recognize my triggers, and calm my self down…but for so many that have not yet discovered they are dealing with anxiety issues, the blame goes squarely on what is causing the anxiety, and not themselves. The only thing in their mind is to stop whatever is causing their uncomfortable feelings…
Your husband is a moron! Take your baby to the dr for a check up and tell your husband to get with the program or get out
Listen to your gut, mommy. Mommy know best. Trust me… everybody tell me what to do and do different but I did my way. They don’t know your children like you do.
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Uhm, so let me get this straight. Your husband thinks that once you lay the baby down at night, the baby shouldn’t cry??? So I guess when something’s wrong with the baby, the baby is supposed to grab the remote and watch infomercials? Or possibly use his cell phone and call one of you and say, “Mom/Dad, I’m bored…come pick me up and let’s chill together until im sleepy.”???
Sounds to me like your husband really needs parenting education classes so that he can understand what to expect from children…ESPECIALLY INFANTS! WTH??? 
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Hubby needs parenting classes stat.
For the love of God and your baby pls just go to him. Love him comfort him enjoy his sent and spoil him with kisses hold him rock him. He’s so young so fresh and tiny. Pls dont just let him cry it out. You will regret it later once he’s grown out of your arms. Trust me. Let your husband yap away. If he’s not happy put earplugs on. Baby sometimes feel tension or maybe it could be that he’s gassy. Or maybe just comfort we all want comfort especially our babies. This makes me so sad for you. I hope you find a way and work it out.
Youre baby need tons of love comfort right now. Not bickering especially loud in front of him
He needs some education about children. Its not normal for babies to sleep the whole night and hes still pretty new. They want to be held a lot. He needs to think about how a baby feels. Soubds are new, they cant talk or control their bodies.
There could be other things that are making the baby cry. Talk to the baby’s doctor the next time you have him there. Is the baby gassy? Is he teething? There’s so many things that could be the issue here. My advice is contact the doctor and see what he thinks!
This is odd. Not the baby, your husband. Babies cry. He needs parenting classes and to learn. The fact that you fight over it makes me think you need to run.
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Try and find a video or books and show your husband that the crying and sleeping everything baby does or will do is all normal sometimes hubbies get jealous with all the attention you give baby so try and include him and maybe in the evening try and have special moments with him while baby sleeps
Your baby is Only 2 MONTHS OLD! BABIES CRY! Might need to throw the whole husband away, red flag!
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Babies cry for a reason. Comfort, wet diapers, hunger… YOU CANNOT SPOIL AN INFANT. You do what you feel is best. There’s a reason its called Mother’s Instinct and not Father’s opinion.
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Did your husband not know that babies cry and wake up in the middle of the night? Sounds like he missed human development in school. Next time he complains tell him he cries more than the baby and make sure you educate him, however you have to, because asshats like him are the ones that get frustrated with babies and hurt them.
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Um how old is your husband?? Babies cry that’s part of life! Tell him to grow the f up and go sleep in the living room. I wouldn’t leave your baby with him either. Sounds like he has anger issues and mental issues.
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Your husband is used to have just you to himself now there is 3 show him your love has not changed for him there is enough for him and baby
Start looking for a step dad
Have your husband go to a parenting class he clearly doesn’t understand newborns
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Get parenting training. Call doctor to see when offered. Love the little guy.
Follow your mothering instincts and comfort your baby. Your husband can bitch until he is blue in the face, but the fact of the matter is that your baby’s needs trump ALL! This isn’t a 4 year old throwing a temper tantrum about sleeping in their own bed. This is a 2 month old. Their only communication is crying. If they’re crying, they need something.
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plain & simple: pick your battles… that doesn’t mean to not tend to your baby. you, as a mother, can sense what your baby needs. if you feel like you KNOW what he needs, even if your husband disagrees, do it anyway. simply tell him “I got it.” & walk away from the confrontation.
Tell your husband to quit crying. He sounds like the baby, not your 2 month old. You do you and your baby. That baby needs you more then the argument with your childish HUSBAND
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Tell him ur son is coming first he may be teething, colic, unwell etc so if he dont like it get out or sleep on the sofa
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Babies cry…period. Your husband is not in touch with reality.
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Crying is the only way the baby can communicate at 2 months. Tell your impatient ass husband to go to parenting classes. Any good parent with good sense knows this…
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Babies cry thats their literal only form of communication. Getting mad about it isn’t gonna make it better they feel the negative energy of they’re satisfied they usually dont cry if hes crying consistently he may be gassy or colicy ia he breast fed or formula? If breast it may be something youre eating. How late do you consume caffeine? Any number of things if formula he may be on the wrong kind if gassy use gas drops or put him on his tummy on your legs and rock him while patting his back gently maybe stop more frequently thru feedings to burp or switch bottle.
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At 2 months old it is likely that he could be teething which is painful. Regardless, a baby does not cry unless it needs something. Sounds to me like your baby may need extra soothing and your husband may need some patience and/or classes on parenting.
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Girl take care of your baby. That’s why God gave us childbirth/rearing we’re the nurturers. Tell hubby to “suck it up butter cup, we’re parents now!” Lol. I say this with nothing but love…time will fly and you only get one chance to do “your” best. If the hubby don’t get it, ask him to talk with the pediatrician or perhaps another mother figure to help him understand.
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He sounds like a real winner. Good luck keeping that marriage from turning abusive
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Lmao is your husband stupid or just ignorant?
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Parenting classes, so he hears its normal. Hell, look it up on you phones. You already know what your baby needs. He’s just being a dummy.
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Babies cry. At two months, he may be getting hungrier, starting teething discomfort, more aware of a wet diaper, etc. That was one of my major frustrations with my babies…they could not communicate what they needed, or if something was hurting. You will survive this.
You are the babies mother and that baby is your priority. You need to meet that babies needs and your husband is acting like a selfish baby himself. You know what you need todo with your priority. He needs to pull up his big boy pants and be a partner!
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But him a book a parenting book. Make a doctor appt and have him come. Let the doctor tell him
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Your local health dept may have a free HANDS program that offers parenting classes. Sign your husband up for it
Tell your husband to shut up and you go cuddle your son. If my husband tried to argue with me over lifting our child when they cried, it wouldnt be one he would win, I can assure you!
Get him to go to the doctors with you and voice his concerns… neutral party might get him to understand its normal better then the both of u fighting lol
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A two month old cries needs to be held. It has no idea whats going on. Tell your husband to quit crying and grow up.
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Uh, he’s a baby. That’s what they do, is cry. I’d say unless he’s sick or something it’s normal. He probably wants to be held. Your man doesn’t need kids if he can’t handle a baby crying ijs. He sounds like an ass!
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Dude wait a couple years till the kids crying cuz you gave him exactly what he asked for but he doesn’t want it now 
or his food touched on his plate so now he can’t eat it my personal favorite is the meltdown a toddler will have when you throw away their broken toys your husband really gonna think the kids broken then 🤷
The crying doesn’t stop at 2 months old lmao especially if you add more children. It’s normal and you do what is best for your baby.
If he didn’t want the child cry he should have worn a condom at all times.Please purchase him a biology book,sign him up for parenting classes.Oh, remind him that babies cry .They are not silent and just there to eat and grow automatically. Wait is he human?
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Naw is poor hubby not getting enough sleep? Tell him to suck it the F up! And go cuddle and comfort the crap out of that little baby!
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Omg hold your kid. And dad needs to read some stuff about parenting
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This baby could also be getting colic or some other stomach upset … wanting love and contact is not the only reason they cry … I do how ever agree that routine is important and getting a baby into one is a good idea and sleeping patterns help with that
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Your husband needs to grow up and stop being a dick.
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Bring the father to a well check. Help him feel involved by including him, encouraging him to ask the doctor about his crying.
This is average for very young babies, husbands are part of everything even if you are an at home mother.
Sleep deprivation is common for new parents. Reduce your social calendar, learn to catnap, and go to bed early.
You are both adjusting to a new human with their very own needs.
Promise you won’t even remember the sleepless nights, and they will be off to college, before you can imagine.
Be well and never give up!
Make sure you are burping him, sometimes having air in the tummy will make them cry. Also try warm milk before you put him to sleep. Check his gums to see if he’s teething.
Buy your husband some ear plugs. If he is getting mad about the baby interrupting his time with you, that’s a different problem. Some men get jealous of the baby taking up the mother’s time. I wouldn’t have any more babies until the problem is fixed.
You’ve been with your baby for 9 months, and another 2 months after a gruesome labor. Don’t you thinl you would know better about your baby than your husband? We call that mother’s instinct. Tell your husband to shut his trap and go stand in the corner cuz he don’t know shit till he actually spend every second with your baby.
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