Your a grown woman, wife and mother. Just leave and go to a shelter! Get yourself some counseling too…
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Stuff is replaceable. Put your kid in your car and leave. Go to a womens shelter and get some counseling.
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You might have to get the police or a third party involved when you decide to leave so you can grab your stuff and go.
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Have a police person come while you are getting your things out and get a restraining order.
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First of all. How old are you?
I’ve met 20 year olds very immature saying “I’m an adult”
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Your best shot is to not warn them. Just take y’all’s stuff, move out, and then you can sit down and talk about it (or not). And always remember that you and him have parental rights; nobody else has parental rights over your children. Sometimes grandparents think that sponsoring/housing you during times of need gives them rights; this is legally not true, but they may get petty and withhold stuff just to exert power & control. If it’s a pattern of exerting power & control over y’all or your kids, that is called domestic violence.
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When you got a place to go - Pack all your stuff and kids stuff - put it in your room. Lock it - call sheriff in form them you need an deputy to insure your children and you are safe moving out of house. The reason you put everything in your room is in most states - possession is 9/10th of the law.
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Your stuff or your happiness???
Call the police to have an escort as you’re moving.
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Mine were like this at the beginning. My dad would call me trash because I wanted to go live with my husband/father of my children. They kept telling me that he was cheating on me blah blah blah. Now they consider him more of a son than my own brother.
If y’all were better on your own then why are you not still on your own 🤷🤷🤷 js
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You’re an adult. You don’t need their permission. Make the decision based on what’s best for you and leave.
Have the cops assist you in grabbing your things when you go to grab them
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I don’t know many parents that actually WANT to take care of their GROWN CHILD, DAUGHTER OR SON & GRANDCHILDREN. What they WANT is you to be ABLE to take care of yourself. They are open to Help and point you in the Right direction . I’m not going to say that some parents usually one or the other hardly both that could possibly be controlling but Most of the Time it is just a Parent wanting the BEST for their child and grandchildren. I am thinking that might see something that you do not… Maybe your husband is abusive or controlling or has a alcohol or drug problem maybe not, maybe you or him or both are immature and/or make horrible decisions . Most Parents just love their children and can see what is truly going on in a situation. But, if yall are None of those things then just stand up be an Adult be a Great Mother and pack your things and go… either All at once or little by little and take it to your new place. If your truly in Danger call the law to escort you and be there when you get your things. If not and its the fussing you’re trying to avoid then pack stuff, throw it out the window at night and pack in your vehicle or your husband’s. Where there is a will there is a way… Best of Luck !
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Call the cops and let them escort you out honestly
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Call the cops ask for a escort n file a pfa cut them from your life
Your an adult…they can’t force you to stay there. They do not have custody of your child either. Nothing they can do but be mad. Take your daughter to a friend’s for a play day, go get your things and go home to your husband if that’s where you really are safe and want to be.
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Been there, done that… slowly put ALL your belongings in your room… if she gets suspicious, stop. Make sure you have a lock. Then, find somewhere for the kid(s) to go for a while… Rent a U-Haul, call the sheriffs and ask if they wouldn’t mind Just being outside in their car and in case things escalate, and that you’re a little scared for your safety… Then go over there and knock on the door with them and say we’re moving out and get your stuff put it in the U-Haul and go! You may have to sacrifice some stuff but if it’s for you and your kids is happiness, so be it. The kids will be somewhere safe where you don’t have to worry about her harassing them and the sheriff should keep her in line and just let you move your stuff into a U-Haul… Tried and true
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Just leave and if you have to get the police involved
You are an adult and the choices you make are your own.
You have to speak respectfully and straight up with your parents then take your child and go. You do not have to sneak around you are grown. You have a child to raise so you must stay strong <3 Praying for you
Throw your shit out the window. And have husband loading it.
I really am not trying to be mean at all I think there’s more to the story and it goes both ways u life under there roof and u don’t like pull ur big girl panties up and move on ur own with the family u created and kinda ur fault if u never set boundaries with ur family
I feel like some details are left out but I will tell you that my parents and husband do not get a long. It’s been 12 years. I was hoping over time things would work themselves out but my parents continue to belittle, expect the worst from my husband, lack respect and disregard him as a provider for our family. Recently I realized my parents animosity is a huge strain on my marriage. Granted we don’t live with my parents and in fact they live across the country, but still I am trying to figure out balance and boundaries because ultimately I pick my my husband and my parents need to just respect that I am happy and my life is rich just not in the way they wanted my life to be.
Leave. Go to the store and don’t come back…then get a police escort to get your belongings once your settled in at your new place…
I am in the same boat. Except my parent moved in the house with us. My husband is never home now because of the tension it creates between him and the parent. And when he is home, it is nonstop drama between the two. It is affecting our kids. But, it has also shown me a side of him that worries me a lot. To the point where I am leaving once I have a chance.