I’m so hurt. My husband didn’t acknowledge my birthday at all. No card. Nothing. No cake. No gift…NOTHING. I make a big deal for him always. I decorate the house with balloons, streamers, always get at least 2 cards (one from me and one from my daughter) gifts, a cake and say happy birthday several times. We even said we would postpone my birthday a week bc my daughter was with her dad on my birthday… it was completely dismissed.View insights
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Did you talk to him about this? Go and calmly explain that it hurt your feelings. His response to that means a lot. Does he appreciate it when you make a big deal about his birthday? Ask him if it’s something he enjoys or if he would rather celebrate his birthday a different way. It’s important that you guys have a conversation about how you would like to be celebrated on your birthdays and then that both of you acknowledge and do what the other needs. It doesn’t matter how HE feels about your birthday or how you FEEL about his. It just needs to change period. If something that simple sets you guys off into an argument you have a much bigger problem on your hands.
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It took my ex husband 6 years to even remember when mine was!!
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I feel ya ! He never remembers my birthday, i have to remind him
On my birthday I buy myself a gift, and I take my hubby out for an excellent meal. On his birthday I do the same, take him out for an excellent meal, and fix myself a loot bag (buy myself something for in it.) Problem solved
Nope! Absolutely No! Don’t be invisible
I take money out of the checking account and buy myself a gift. Same thing lol then at least I get what I want.
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Do the same for him… if he asks why no hoopla tell he’s a grown man doesn’t need it, besides I got you the same thing you got me!
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I always plan my own birthday every year I either plan a birthday dinner with friends or I plan a party I make all the arrangements I order everything I want celebrate yourself 
I always make sure to tell my husband it’s my birthday and point out things that I might like that way it makes it easier on him and he doesn’t feel like he’s set up for failure lol 
but honestly I always have a blast every year on my birthday. Life is too short to wait on others to celebrate you
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Ok, remember that next year. A card will be ok from your daughter for Father’s day coming up. Next year plan it with a day to yourself or me time for whatever you want or want to do or out with the girls as him as the babysitter
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When his comes around “forget it”. If he asks or pouts about it, just sy you thought you guys weren’t celebrating each others birthdays for now on after not doing anything for yours. Next time make plans with a friend doing something you would enjoy .
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Well then… See how he likes it when you magically forget his. Just say I got you the same thing you got me for my birthday. Lmao
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I was married for 35 years he never gave me a gift for Birthday Day ,Christmas .Mother Day
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Make plans for yourself (a movie or something that you like) and when he ask tell him that since he forgot you birthday, you forgot to invite him
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What goes around comes around forget his day
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I’m sure this isn’t the first time. Plus you do all that for yourself not for him. Give what you get end of story. And you shouldn’t do things just so someone does something for you. That’s not how things work.
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You guys keep telling her to do stuff for herself on her freaking birthday like that’s normal. If my bf or husband didn’t do anything I’d say some stuff that’s ridiculous I’m sorry
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Many years I was told I don;t get paid this week , we will do you BD next weekend, lol it has gotten better I must say.
Why didn’t you just say, Hey it’s my birthday ya dummy 
I’m not sure why some females pout in private. Speak up. Some people are so caught up with life & busy they don’t even know what day it is, don’t take it so personal lol.
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I would have a big part next year invite a lot of friends explain to them what happends every year. Don:t tell him and when he walks into the room shout ‘surprise’ he will be wondering whose birthday and then your friends can remind him that its you birthday mayne he will be embarrest for not remembering
Dates aren’t important to men. If you don’t remind them something is coming up, probably within only a day or two of the date, they won’t remember it. They also don’t see their own birthdays as a big deal (no matter how big of a deal you make it) so they don’t feel the need to make yours a big deal either.
Don’t depend on someone for your happiness. I don’t depend on anyone to plan an event for me. I say it’s my bday and this what we are doing!
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If you can’t say something nice 
don’t say anything at all. Didn’t your mama teach you anything???
I always feel so bad seeing these posts because it never fails. The comments are usually made up of other woman invaliding your feelings because their own husbands haven’t done ABC and so, “you should just get use to it or plan it yourself.” If birthdays are important to you & your partner knows that you have every right to feel hurt. My husband isn’t big on birthdays or holidays, but his phone calendar is more organized than mine, it helps him remember, & he a knowledges those moments for others because it matters to them. It’s not that hard. Not only that, but he’s setting the example for your daughter. Absolutely tell him how you feel. It doesn’t have to be an argument. I’m sorry you felt unappreciated on your day. Happy belated birthday.
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He probably forgot. You should say something rather than just keep letting this bother you. Maybe for next year ask one of your friends to remind him a couple of days before.
Yea time to stop, that is what I did. So now nothing is celebrated ever or talked about.
You sound very needy is all i can say.
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Just remember next yr. N honestly mine hardly does either n never gets me anything really. After 10 yrs I’ll buy what I want for myself.
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Treat him the same way. Maybe after hes ignored he will get the message
Just remember to give him the same next year… nothing. It is damn right ridiculous