He completely disrespected you and it is not okay. You are his partner and the mother of his children. Even if he meant what he said as a ājokeā, the minute you expressed that it hurt you he should have changed his coarse. The point of Motherās Day is to appreciate everything you do for the entire household. Taking care of kids (and working an outside job on top of that) is extremely exhausting. He needs to be kinder to you. And you to yourself. Ask for an open and honest conversation with him. Where you sit down and talk about why you feel the way you do. Remind him that youāre doing the best you can. And suggest him taking some of the load. If he refuses, then you both know itās because what you do is hard! And he needs to be more empathetic of what youāre going through. Good luck!
My second husband used to enjoy making me feel the same way. After 18 years, I walked
Either counselling or leave
Fuck him
Heās rude as hell
He sounds like a ass and imagine how the neighbor felt when he said it about you to him in front of you sounds like he owes you an apology and needs to be reminded you are not the maid and if he wants his landury folded he should do it like he said he would heās very childish qnd acts like it too but if I where you Iād have a very serious conversation with him about respecting you in private and in public and itās not ok to say the things he did or laugh about it and his treatment of you too
11 years of being under appreciated I donāt know your husband personally but seems he has narrasist traits sounds like he gaslights you in situations and heās all about himself narrasist world evolve around them and around them only I was with one for 11 years Nd going through therapy because of it x
Umm counseling or leaving sounds about right. His outburst infront of the neighbor would have set me off !he was extremely rude. The fact he also bitched about spending money on you is ridiculous especially to celebrate you as a mother. His excuse āthe laundryā is absolutely asinine. I donāt blame you for turning down sex his behavior is toxic and demanding. I think you should really start focusing on you and your children. Let him fend for himself especially if you decide to seek couples counseling.
Someday you will have had enoughā¦Cause I doubt heās gonna change
Mine to then I had to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance just got out of hospital today and he started in on me again had to get gullbladder out
He doesnāt appreciate you. Me personally I would plan a night away and leave him with the kids. Say you made a stink over $75.00 now you have a hotel bill and dinner. See you tomorrow!
Why is it so hard for some of you women to just give back what you get? Stand your ground? The sarcasm, the disrespect, the rudeness, all of it. If that donāt work seek counseling. If he refuses, then move on if you feel the need too. Stop being doormats and use those hurt feelings to make a point. He either get it or he wonāt. When he said āa brainā, Iād have said, yep you do.
You said if you were single you would leave, so obviously you are unhappy. Having children is not a reason to stay in a relationship. They will see that tension as they grow up. You definitely need to have a conversation, which canāt happen if heās in the basement. Tell him how you feel. Suggest counseling. Do not be afraid to leave if you have to. You deserve better.
Men just do this. It is so familiar. Who knows why? You can talk til you are blue in the face and they just donāt get it.
You answered your own question.
If you were single, you wouldāve left.
You can still leave.
Is this the kind of relationship you want your kids to see or aspire to have?
Since the answer is No, your know what to do.
Marriage is all about compromise and picking and choosing your battles. Maybe you guys can help each with the laundry and fold them together. Having two children on top of working and house work is a lot for just one person so it has to be teamwork. Sometimes the house might not be in order and sometimes things can be left for the next day. I would say just communicate and tell him how you feel. Let it set in and let him think about. Good luck. Donāt give up so easily. If it continues I would seek counseling
He wont last with me.The son of a bitch is gone
Youāre his wife not his maid. And the mother to his children. He could have made one day all about you. Sorry but he is a dick. I bet he will want his undies folded and a nice meal for fathers day though right?! Sounds like my ex husband. Not one mothers day was celebrated for me, no birthdays and no Christmas, yet he would complain about getting basic presents or not enough time to himself etc. Seriously he isnāt worth the tears.
Sounds like itās more about movies and popcorn. Talk about the real issues
You need to get out. Do you really think your children wonāt pick up emotional damage from this? Why are you taking this verbal abuse? Will he also dump this on the kids as well? Are you trying to change him, because thatās not going to happen. Best of luck to you.
Only you can know when you are done. Remember you are modeling marriage for your children. You know you donāt deserve to be treated like that. Prayers
I barely read this and got narcissist. Get out sis. Like now.
I would flat out tell him he needs to respect you or he needs to get out. Stop making excuses for his behavior and stick up for yourself, he basically called you a moron multiple times with the motherās day plans and in front of someone else. Thatās not okay, you deserve more than a belittling jerk.
Sounds like your both being petty. Maybe counseling would help. Sounds like maybe another set of ears and someone to explain things in a different way would help.
Your husband needs to keep his at work personality at work and treat you like a lady and you need just a flat let him know that Jimbo