I’ve no idea if this is going to sound crazy but tell me what you think. My husband and I always say, “I love you” at the end of every call… but I notice that if he’s around his family when he’s ending the call, he wouldn’t say it… he never does… mind you; his family doesn’t like or approve of me… Am I paranoid or what?
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That’s nothing to be worried about
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Men dont like pda they are too manly for mushie stuff
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yeah thats weird in my opinion.
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If it’s always been like that I wouldn’t be concerned. However, if my husband did that it’d be a discussion but he always ends the call with I love you so 
I agree. It’s kinda weird. I’ve never been with someone who doesn’t say it especially in front of family.
I think that’s weird.
Maybe his family isn’t big on saying it and that’s why he acts different around them?
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saying I love you or not at the end of every call I’ve learned through my life and my marriage is not always something to be worried about. Do you know I’ve only told my husband I love you maybe once today??!!?! and it’s not because I have not meant to say I love you we have just had a long hard day. There’s times my husband just hang the phone up and doesn’t even say I love you but when he comes home he’s going to say I love you lol I mean you both know you love each other you know what I’m saying I mean that’s like even during Hurricane Michael I couldn’t even sleep in the same bed with my husband for nearly eight months because I have no way to. Didn’t mean I didn’t love them but we had no way to sleep in the same bed like that after the hurricane lol. I used to be one of those girls oh my goodness you’ve got to say I love you every time we get off the phone and every time we have a conversation and every time we’re around your family. You know you love each other that’s all that counts lol!
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Have you asked him why
Honestly if I’m with my family and my mama at work or not with me I rarely say I love him when I hang up. I usually just wait til I feel comfortable or just text him after the phone call. My family likes him but it just feels weird sometimes to say it around them all even though we’ve been together for 3 years
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My kids father does tell me I love 
you wen he’s at he’s family or he’s guys friends
If it bothers you ask him why and once you know maybe you will feel differently or come up with a compromise like a comment above and agree he can text you that instead of saying it. Talk to him .
Who give a s’""t as long as you know he loves you,isin’t that eough.
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He hasn’t forsaken his family for you. He’s straddling the fence on that. Trying to keep them and you happy. It’s not right. It’s only going to create more problems for everyone involved. There needs to be a sit down with the people involved and hopefully a resolve can be reached. Good luck
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Ask why? Do you know that he’s actually with family?
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I think it’s a little weird. And wouldn’t you think that he’d want to say it around them especially if they don’t like you so he can show them that he DOES love you? Because now they can go and say “he doesn’t even say I love you at the end of a call”. I honestly wouldn’t stress about it but if it hurts your feelings (which is would hurt mine) then you need to talk to your husband about it. And explain your feelings without making it sound like you’re judging him because he could just not notice he doesn’t say it.
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Be an adult and have a discussion with your husband about it.
It would bother me if my hubby didn’t say “I love you” in front of his family. We say it at the end of every call, when we get up in the morning, before we go to sleep at night or just sitting in our recliners next to each other. Even though we know our hubby’s love us it’s still good to hear it anytime, anywhere in front of anybody.
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I love you is just a word as long as he shows you he loves you that’s what’s important people are so big on the I love you word so much yes my hubby tells me he loves me all the time but he also shows it so when he says it it means something but the showing is what’s important to me I’d just talk to him maybe he doesn’t say it because they don’t approve of you or like you so he just leaves it alone don’t wanna start nothing or maybe he doesn’t feel right displaying anything around them idk best way to find out is ask him why he’s the only one who can answer that I definitely understand you being upset but there could be a reason
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I’ve never gotten an I love you. Ever. And I live with him lol. 
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Maybe he’s busy w family and just ready to hang up? But anyways if that’s the only problem you have with that man.be great ful
Completely not okay in my relationship idk bout yours
Y’all are married. That’s literally all that needs to be said. His family just cannot not approve of you. You are his wife. They don’t have to like you but they do have to acknowledge that you are his wife and he needs to set them straight if he feels he can’t even say I love you in front of them. Put your foot down before it becomes more than just not being able to say I love you in front of them
None sense sensitivity is worthless . Your husband loves you always ,you know the teasing in the family oh!!! I love you tooooo he was maybe trying to avoid that “keep on living loving him because he is same way with you 
My DAD and HUSBAND when they’re at work…
MEN. 
I will literally call them back and politely inform them that they FORGOT something…I only had to do it like twice.
I got a laugh and get my “I love yous” now.
Maybe he doesn’t say it around his family because he doesn’t want to start a fight. Since you said they don’t like you.
Right or wrong. If you know he loves you and he says it directly to you then … Do you need him to say it to you in front of his family?
I’m sure it would be nice if he would put on his big boy britches and tells his family that he loves you regardless if they like or approve of you or not.
Only you can decide how much that bothers you and if it’s a deal breaker in your relationship. You need to let him know that it really bothers you and how much. 
I’m kind of like that and I love my husband and my family loves him too. My husband and his family are more of a I love you and hugs after every conversation and interaction and my family just isn’t so I remember feeling weird expressing things like that that felt private to me around them and still do, although I say it now no matter who I’m around but strangely enough it was an adjustment and depending on his family dynamic expressions like that might be uncomfortable. He could also be avoiding them commenting on his expressions of love so they don’t have to talk about you.
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haha mine too, he even calls me just by my first name whenever his parents are around. He is Japanese and it’s odd to be sweet in their culture, but I am pretty sure he loves me, no need for any validation🥰
You’re a married adult so you should act like it. Have a discussion with your husband about your feelings and why he doesn’t say he loves you around his family
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Some men dont like showing a lot of emotion for several reasons. He might feel that way around family but what matters is the behavior only you see and if he means it.
Just have a heart to heart chances are it’s nothing and you’re hurting yourself for no reason. We are all oblivious sometimes especially with something as simple as three words as meaningful as they are. If it’s something bigger, then talk some more but don’t stress yourself a bunch beforehand
I’m sure they just say rude shit when he says it. So to avoid any negativity, he dowsnt say it around them. You know he loves you.
I think you should just talk to him. Too many have been burned by men so they are quick to think the worst but only you and him really know each other.
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Maybe they start in and get digs in on him when he shows any emotions… Only way you will know is when you casually ask him and accept his answer.
Well the clear answer is to bring it up. My bf was like this forever. No pda infront of family or friends really. We spoke and he got some counceling bc he expressed that his parents and sister didn’t really say I love you in their home growing up and he goes to therapy now and has changed so much. You’re going to get an array of answers here but the only right answer is to bring it up and form your own opinion) decision from there.
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Clearly he vents to someone in the family…perhaps they are trying to convince him to leave you…or he’s trying not to argue with them.
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Well. I’d never marry someone who have a family that didn’t like me. But, since you feel like this. Only answers you’ll need is when you have that conversation about this.
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Sounds odd. Ask him. If he gets defensive, then its def something more than just being afraid to show affection…
Well since they don’t like you thats probably why he doesn’t say it
I agree with all the above comments. Its fucked up though
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I have to agree with the above comments. He has to be talking to someone in the family and they must be trying to convince him to leave you.
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I would just ask him.
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If spouse doesn’t say I love you that’s a sign that you need to move on with your life cut cord let him go
Are you sure he’s with his family? If he loves you it shouldn’t matter where he is or who he is with. Why doesn’t his family like or approve of you? I feel we need a bit more to this. Talk with him and express your feelings.
just ask him why and see what he says