I also have bipolar type 2 as well as PTSD and depression anxiety, I have learned that not taking my medication is not an option for me even though I would like to have another baby I am not stable enough to carry a baby not have my medication, and for the sake of my husband and my son I choose to better/ help my self to be able to help everyone else out as well, I can’t stress this enough, COMMUNICATION is 
even though I really don’t want to talk about my problems or feelings I force my self to because what good comes out of not voicing your feelings never good things, if I’m gonna have bad depression day or my anxiety gets the best of me I tell my husband and he drops what he’s doing and cuddles me because that all he can really do he will ask if I want to talk about and if I say no he won’t push and I eventually come to him to talk!
I really don’t think it’s the right time to have a baby just yet, but that is just my opinion, don’t mean to sound disrespectful. you need to focus on yourself first!! As hard as it is suffering with depression and bipolar, it is also hard for the people who you live with not knowing what mood your going to be in or treading on egg shells because they don’t want to upset you. It’s a two way situation to be honest, you both need to understand each other and support each other. We all need space sometimes to clear our heads, the worst thing you can do is think negatively about a certain situation because it only leads to resentment. I have suffered with depression for many years now and it’s just exhausting mentally and physically. I don’t suffer with bipolar, so I couldn’t even begin to understand how you feel. It is ok not to be ok or feel down as long as you keep talking about it, it will make it easier for people to understand. The only person who can help you is you!! Don’t let your partners actions make you feel any worse, try looking at things in a different way, like in this situation , just think to yourself it’s best that he went out because you weren’t in the right frame of mind to talk. Let all your upset and stress out and then talk when you are both ready. A bit of understanding on both sides will go a long way but the main thing is to focus on yourself!! Then everything else will fall into place.
Go back on your meds and get a divorce
You def shouldnt be having another kid if ur struggling while off ur meds ask ur doctor abt ones tht are safe while pregnant figure tht shit out first or figure out how to cope without meds before even trying for another kids bc im sure the kids u already have are suffering bc of it and the baby will suffer too as for ur husband if he acting like this rn imagine what hes gonna be like when on top of being off ur meds ur also pregnant or postpartum. Unsupported spouses make shit worse go to couples therapy fix ur relationship get on ur meds or find something else tht works Then worry abt another baby. Ur not wrong for being hurt or upset abt his reaction and lack of support and understanding hes an ass if he cant handle u without ur meds what makes u think he can handle a baby and if u cant handle things without ur meds what makes u think u can handle another kid either
Leave him. Take care of yourself.
He gets mad because he feels inadequate.
Im guessing.
He seems to be making it about himself. And not wanting to understand you. From what im reading
You need to ditch his ass.
Ur husband is a POS…I would get rid of the MF like now !!!
No your not but I think you should rethink having a baby until you are mentally ready for another child. Not based on what he wants or how you may be feeling at the time because feelings do change. Plus sometimes being pregnant or after the birth can bring on depression. This would be a great time to figure out what you like or don’t like. You’ll be surprised what you may find out about yourself. Also try to find something that would help you not to get in a funk. If you can get in one you can get out of one. Try singing your favorite song, dancing or coloring. Anything to change your mind set.
It honestly sounds like he may not fully understand what you have going on with your mental illness. You are in no way to feel shameful and yes, you are well in your rights to feel annoyed if you were left in an emotional state. All I can suggest from also suffering with mental illness from a young age is, no matter if you are on meds or off meds, you can only take each moment as they come and each day as they come. You could take him with you maybe to your Doctors and maybe get the doctor to speak about the mental illness you have and explain it’s not just all in your head, it’s in your head and in your reality everyday. You shouldn’t be brought down because he doesn’t understand.
Gurl, divorce. Like yes we can’t lightly advise people to divorce, but your husband is kind of an ass. There’s nothing wrong with the way you reacted, it’s your emotions and you don’t need anyone to invalidate or validate how you felt. No more babies. Do not use the birth of a human to “keep” your marriage or make things better. We need to stop normalizing the birth of children will stabilize a marriage, it’s not. There is someone out there for you and it is not your right now husband
I’m wondering if he’s not your reason for depression?
is this a trick question…why would you want a baby with someone like that…
Please don’t have another baby with this guy… 
When did this become an advice page?!
Stay OK your meds lol
I’m stuck on the fact that you want to have another baby with this a**hole instead of leaving him. You shouldn’t just be upset that he left the house. You should be upset because your husband treats you like garbage KNOWING that you have mental issues that you can’t control. 
Never choose a man over your child…NEVER…and if you were unsure of children then why didn’t you protect yourself before conception? It is a little late now to be having this conversation. You have a human being in your body that is vulnerable, helpless, and dependent on you to give him or her life. How could you possibly even think about terminating someone else’s life so yours remains unaffected? All babies who are murdered through abortion will have the chance on their mothers judgement day to ask them why they did not give them the chance to live…stop and think about that. Now get rid of that man who would even suggest such a disgusting, diabolical thing to a sweet innocent baby.
Divorce shouldn’t be an option… you made vows for better or worse through sickness and health… maybe when you have a chance try to bring up that day and the vows and commitment you made to one another… mental illness is REAL you are brave for sharing your story however if HIS behaviors trigger you… i would discuss with your dr ways to cope. You are entitled to your feelings and what u described seems like he’s dismissive toward you at times… in those times if you dont already do this… get a journal a write down everything and every emotion you are feeling in that moment… how he makes you feel when he does things like that and you can choose to share wiyh him or keep it to yourself but get the thoughts out on paper so they dont stay dominant in your mind… also seems like your husband may need counseling with learning how to cope when your not 100% and try to meet u halfway… you deserve happiness and a life or torment is not it…
Time to Take out the trash baby. 
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You might feel better when it’s all said and done. That takes a huge toll on your mental health, more than you realize.
Find a good therapist.
Please please please don’t have another baby with this man. This isn’t not the kind of father you want for your kids, if he can have support for you when your upset how is he going to with kids? Just yell at them like he does you?
You need to do some SERIOUS thinking, and get BACK on your meds.
Didn’t you read at the beginning about her husband and it says “Advice”
Way I see it, its your fault he left you crying. You wanted to talk and he wanted to spend time with you. You both wanted something but because you didnt get the talk that you wanted, you got upset. When he calmed down enough to talk to you you didnt want to so obviously it in turn upset him too because you said you wanted to talk but decided not to because you were upset at his mention of wanting time with you!!! Bipolar or not, empathy goes both ways. How do you expect someone to care aboit what you want if you dont care about what they want. You obviously realized it had been happening and instead of spending time with him you decide to dwell on it and get sad over it? Keep taking your meds. I wouldve quite frankly left too.
Throw him away and get a new one.
Ad hard as it is for you… i’m for sure it’s hard on him also. He has to over compensate for your feelings at all times.
No one acknowledges him feelings. It is very difficult. I’m sure he has been very understanding. But he is just a person too. Maybe he is having a hard time.
You have to think how he must be feeling. That’s a whole lot to have to carry on his shoulders also.
You want him to feel and see your perceptive. Slide his shoes on for a test walk. It is very hard to live with and in mental illness
Think your husband needs to take some responsibility… You need his support not his anger
I had to leave my husband to get his ass to change
I would go though some counselling for the both of you. Then maybe he can understand where you come from and you can understand what he comes from. Maybe help.
You need a DIVORCE!!!
Just going off depression meds on your own is not a good idea at all this alone will cause all kinds of problems ESP depression doesn’t sound like you two need to bring another child Into the Mix if he’s not supporting you now do you really think he will when you are pregnant you know what needs to be done you just want people to validate that your choice is right. Follow your heart you know what needs to be done your worth more than that
I would say throw the whole man away but that isn’t no “whole man” baby girl. It may be painful…but you need to get away from him. Whether it be permanently or just a break to get him to appreciate you more but you need to step back and focus on you. He clearly has some things he needs to better about himself. Sometimes it takes the other person stepping away for them to make those changes. If he doesn’t make those changes then he never truly cared anyway and you deserve better.
Good luck💕
He should have made sure u were feeling better before he left, I would b highly upset being left in that condition. My bf gets upset with me cuz of my depression too,he acts like I’m like that on purpose,like I enjoy feeling bad about myself n being sad. He doesn’t get it n makes me feel worse. I think that maybe having another kid wouldn’t b the best idea of ur already struggling n trigger easily off ur meds. I hope he will start being more supportive of ur mental health 
Definitely stay on your meds. And leave your asshole of a partner. Dont have your kids around that and I bet your 100% happier. Dont ever settle for someone who doesnt appreciate you for you.
He sounds like a narc. I would not be with someone who made me feel my health and feelings don’t matter.
I think this is a hard one, cause sometimes I just want to sit there in silence. I don’t want to sit and talk all the time. He probably left you alone cause that’s what you had requested to begin with xx
Any man that loves you would try to be Understanding of your mental illness. Maybe a baby isn’t what you need right now.
Seek counseling for both of you
You’re in an abusive relationship. That’s not love. He should be supportive of your mental health, not creating an unhealthy environment for you.
Go to a counselor. They are paid to listen and won’t tell a soul how you feel. You can tell him about your husband and he can give you advice.
Talk with your doctor!!! I also have BP2 and manic depression, both got very severe when I was pregnant and my doctor was able to find medication that was safe for my son and beneficial to my mental health. I highly recommend staying on your medication and speaking with your physician. All your emotions are valid but so are his…
My first husband told me I was nuts and crazy. My second husband supports me every way that he is able too. Some people don’t understand the illness. It is a hard one to figure out. Maybe you and him could try couples counseling and see where that may lead you. Or a counselor for yourself.
The only thing can do to make your relationship better is get rid of that husband. Mental illness isn’t something you can turn on/off bc he’s annoyed.
Honestly. Dont go off your meds. Right now is not an ideal time for you to be trying for another if he doesnt understand or try to be understanding of your BPD.
I understand his request, and his attempt to reach out and his annoyance at your turn of ranges.
You can be upset, but what is it you’re actually upset with? His misunderstanding? His annoyance? Address what the actual issue is, and maybe instead of starting the conversation about how he upset you, ask him if hes upset and if theres a way you two can communicate through it together
He sounds a little Narcissistic with the mind games… maybe he contributes massively to your mental health without you even realising 
that’s what Narcissists do 
You’re in a manic episode… You’re aware of your issues, you’re aware of your extreme highs and lows w/o your medication, but you want your husband to coddle you everytime you’re sad… You were upset and wanted to be alone… he comes to talk and you push him away…Then HES ready to talk and he’s not having it so you have Another episode…Make sure you’re not more susceptible to episodes JUST to get his attention and coddling when it is that “you” want it… My only suggestion is couples counseling to help him better understand what you’re going through.
i’m concerned about you going off your meds to have another baby. it sounds like both of you need therapy.
Get back on your meds and back on birth control. Work on your relationship and see how that goes before you bring a (another?) baby into it. But honestly, I would throw the whole man out and worry about yourself.
I was hospitalized for my depression. My then husband told me that if I ever got depressed again he would leave me. What a gem he was! PS. I ended up leaving him
It is sad what you’re going through. If it were you in his position how do you think you should really feel? Maybe its not a good time to bring a baby into a situation like that at this time. I think the two of you should consider counseling if both of you really want this relationship to work out. Otherwise everyone involved will probably suffer one way or another.
No you’re not wrong. Join mommy Facebook groups for support and definitely talk to your ob about this. I used CBD to get off my meds in early pregnancy. You can do it! But your husband needs to be super supportive
Get a counselor that both you can talk to, and keep in mind NOT all counselors are good…you both need to be comfortable with the person.
I’d NOT do much with what you hear on here…we aren’t there and …your husband sounds insensitive if not mean in this post…that could be true, could not. Also would you appreciate him posting his side of this story of FB and then using a bunch of strangers, anonymous uninformed opinions to “deal with you/the situation”?
Good luck.
Leave his ass find a new hubby
My husband had the absolute worst panic and anxiety disorder mixed with depression when we first met. It was BAD… multiple suicide attempts, crazy violent panic attacks, he was literally scared to go outside and did not go ANYWHERE. And it was so hard for me to understand because I am his complete opposite. BUT!! A great relationship can come of it. I helped him get off all meds but one (he’s taking the bare minimum now) helped him get back outside, get back to living because I could not let him live that way. No one deserves that kind of life. You need unconditional love and support and it sounds like you are not getting it. As hard as it may be to leave, I think in the long run it might be best. Don’t let him keep you sick. You deserve better.
I wouldn’t have baby with this person. He don’t sound understanding. So if he is like he is now,i would leave.
I would not call that love.
You could also talk to your doctor about what women take when they’re pregnant for there depression
Leave you crying yes is ok but to say things about depression is not ok if he can’t be the rock in life handed move on. You deserve a man who will move mountains for you not break you
I’m concerned about you being off your medication as well and hope you consulted with your doctors first. Aside of that, I feel your husband may not be the right match for you or couples counseling should take place. He definitely should learn how to communicate with you in a healthy,respectful way. We all need understanding and patience from our spouse,especially with illnesses. If he refuses to seek help,things will get worse. It seems he needs counseling for his own mental illness. Imagine what he’d be like with your children.
New husband. I myself have depression but it’s very minor compared to my fiances. I learned what triggers him and how nurturing him mentally can change it around. If your partner cant understand the problem they wont try to fix it. I’ve seen for myself the mental damaged that’s been done to him by others who acted the way your husband does or even worse.
He’s gas lighting you!
He doesn’t understand depression so he can’t help you. Therapy and guidance regarding your meds will help. And then marriage counseling.
I can sympathize with both sides on this 1. yes I suffer from both and 2. my children do also. The reason for saying this is because when I’m dealing with my children who are grown I don’t know what to do for them it’s a helpless feeling and I get angry because I can’t do much for them, now you would think being Bi-polar 1&2 that I would know this right off but I have to step back and think about how I feel when I’m that way. If he has never dealt personally with mental illness then he may be frustrated because he doesn’t know “what to do” but you know as well as I do we are no good without our meds. Prayers for you both <3
Dont have another child if these problems are happening. They will worsen afterwards.
All I can say is you need support and it’s hard having anything like this when you’re not surrounded by love and understanding 
good luck and my God bless you
Y’all ladies are pretty negative 
. We are only reading a glimpse of her situation and she’s asking for help and validation. Telling someone to throw out their marriage because of this is absurd and we don’t know any of what’s going on.
MENTAL ILLNESS IS HARD FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED
Obviously mostly the person suffering from the illness but come on…
This is why I hate asking for advise or validation because some of y’all are going to make this poor mama feel worse. 
Maybe he needs a little counseling himself
He sounds like an narcissistic asshole. Get a divorce .
Please do not have a baby with him at this point. Your feelings are valid. Walking away to cool down is one thing, but demeaning you for your feelings is not okay.
When one person is sick, it takes a toll on everyone in the household… It’s hard on the sick person to cope and meet the other person’s expectations, and it’s hard on the caregiver/partner to always be strong and unselfish and understanding of everything…they have needs too. Where is the first baby when you’re depressed in your room and he leaves? Both of you need therapy and coping mechanisms, not another baby.
Sounds like a Narcassit.
Seek counseling asap.
Please do not have a baby with him.
Hes too abusive.
Get out, you’ll be happier.
Dont put up with any BS
Dont waste time trying to get him therapy, cant be helped.
Narcs only Love themselves.
Get a plan to move on.
Get a Career.
Google Sandra L. Brown
Safe relationships
Your Bipolor may go away once your out of this relationship.
Many Psychs misdiagnose
Narcassit abuse syndrome for Bipolor.
Maybe you’re just married to an asshole
Well i wouldn’t stop my medication this can cause more problems. I agree with counseling for both. But also I think your husband should try and go to the Dr.s with you so they can explain to him how this is not easy for you as well. Maybe someone out of your loop can talk with him. My number I advice is to seek God he is the only thing that saves me in every situation. Give your concerns to God and he will direct you. God bless you both!
Why would you want to have another baby with someone like that?
Your husband’s a bully. Be good to yourself. 
This is just a thought… I am not a morning person… When I get up of a morning I actually love being the only one up for at least an hour… I like to have my first coffee in quiet and wake up properly in this time and having to conversation with anyone is not to suit my idea of a start to the day. Happily then chat all day.
All the best.
Is anyone else reading this??? This guy is clearly an A-hole. How does this op not see that?? Am I crazy?
Not sure he dosen’t need some meds or atleast some counseling…
Not many people can live with a bipolar person and men don’t understand that you can’t just turn it off and on at will… He probably thinks it’s just you being sensitive… get kids version pamphlets about Bipolar from you doctor and leave them around… maybe he will pick one up and learn a little… good luck hon!!!
First, all you negative people need to shut up. Second, try counseling for both of you. He needs to understand what you are going through and maybe hearing it from a professional will help him understand better.
He sounds like an ass. I’m sorry he treats you like this. Mine is very disrespectful towards me and anytime I mention it, he also gets angry and tells me I just like to play the victim. Boundaries are so important. It’s taking me a long time to set mine. But I will get there. You’re happiness does not depend on him! Be happy for you
You have every right to be upset! Your husband is supposed to be your support system, love you through sickness and in health.
He’s gaslighting you on purpose. My ex did the same thing. He would purposely upset me and then blame me for being upset. He went as far as leading his family to believe everything was always my fault. DIVORCE him if he keeps it up!
Why in the world would you want to have a baby with such an unsupportive man? I’d be afraid to do so.
To be honest, I’d bounce. I don’t believe in fixing people this apathetic to me, never would’ve gotten that far in a relationship with an attitude like that.
If you want to make it work, I’d say brutal honesty.
Tell him, “You’re not giving me what I need in this relationship emotionally.”
Tell him what you’ve told us.
Not a very supportive husband at all. No respect for you by the sounds of it. I think he’s the one who needs help!! Bully 
Whatever you do DONT HAVE ANOTHER BABY WITH HIM!!!
Im not surprised that you are depressed with that being your support system. You need counseling, he needs counseling and you both need marriage counseling. But Id put money on him refusing to go. Life is all about choices and you have two choices in this situation. Stay, bring a new baby into this abusive marriage in hopes that things will change (they wont) or gather all your strength and leave this abusive marriage in hopes that life will improve. (it will)
The choice is yours, choose wisely. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
I am so sorry about your depression. I deal with depression and anxiety myself. The only thing I can suggest is to see if he will go with you to a therapist so that he can learn to understand. Personally, I have to tell you that your husband sounds like a real ass. I don’t know if this is a good time to have a baby. God bless you.
Love yourself enough to heal before you bring a child into this relationship. Be Blessed 
How much of your depression is due to being married to such an asshole? I think it would be pretty hard not to be depressed around someone who intentionally makes you feel like shit.
Prayers for both of you
My ex always said what the hell you got to be depressed for…but refused to read up on it to learn about it… and also refused counselling for our marriage, just wanted a divorce.
If he’s acting like this I wouldn’t recommend bringing another child into it. Seek counseling, seek out help with the marriage and helping him to understand the issues you struggle with. If he refused to do any of those things well sadly there’s your answer.
He’s the one that’s wrong for not understanding you.
The struggle is real.
You’re not wrong. Unfortunately he just doesn’t understand and can’t sympathize. Maybe he would be willing to go to counseling with you. That could help him learn what you’re going through
How about helping this woman with her relationship instead of just shitting on her husband.
Bipolar is not easy to deal with for yourself, much less anyone else to have to deal with it with* you.
If he acts like that u don’t need to have that negative energy around u. Also speaking from experience, a baby doesn’t fix a bi-polar marriage. There are some meds u can take while pregnant. Check with ur Dr
Leave, or stay but don’t have a baby with him
I think both u and your husband need to go to counseling, u have your issues so does your husband and u can’t seem to come to a happy medium no matter what u do. You have decisions to make, only do what’s best.for u and bringing a baby into this well notba good idea. Use your gut instinct. Good luck my dear
This too shall pass. Be gentle with yourself. Thank you for reaching out. Maybe time for some counseling for the two of you?
Doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to raise kids in. My ex doesn’t understand mental illness and acted the same way. Staying in the relationship so long actually made it worse and harder to walk away from. Especially with children. Good luck and strength.