My husband gets mad at my depression: Advice?

Anytime I’m sad or depressed, my husband gets annoyed and upset with me. What can I do to have a better relationship with him? I woke up in a great mood this morning and was talking quite a bit about my plans for the day and just random things. My husband said he wanted some time with me, not talking. That kind of made me sad because it happens a lot lately. I went to my room and just wanted to be alone. About 30 mins later, he decided he was ready to talk, but I was still sad and didn’t want to anymore. I told him this, and he told me I was annoying. I have Bipolar type 2 and am trying to go off of my meds to have another baby, but we’ve been struggling. I get triggered into depression easily when I’m off my meds. I started crying, and he started raising his voice at me, saying I don’t make any sense. Then he said he left because he had already made plans to go something even though it wasn’t very important. Am I wrong to be upset that he left me at home crying?

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I wouldn’t have a baby with him.

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I think sometimes my husband gets that way too… I think they don’t understand why we this way and they don’t know how to help

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Get rid of him. He’s mad bc you have a chemical imbalance. That’s not normal. Do not have a baby with him.

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You’re not wrong to be upset. You can’t help being depressed nor being bipolar. If he can’t handle it that’s on him.

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You absolutely should not be trying to have a baby with that guy if he reacts to your disorder this way. That’s disgusting!

My husband emotionally abused me and cheated on me during mine. I’d leave. Though not all men do this, tbh.

This has nothing to do with nails. Personal topics should not be discussed publicly. :100::100::100: People joined this page for nails not to hear about your drama.

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Don’t have a baby with him. If he’s not understanding now, he definitely won’t be if you have PPD and that can be dangerous for you and baby.

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Somone who cared and understood your condition wouldn’t do that. Counseling for both so maybe he understands. If he won’t go…leave

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Sounds like you need a new man. I say this from experience, if he doesn’t understand your mental illness now and has never tried then he never will. I’m now with somebody that tries to understand my illness and help me thru it. And definitely doesn’t sound like another baby is needed. He either needs to find ways to understand and help or get out.

I thought this page was for nails… not yalls toxic relationships lmao

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Being around someone with BP isn’t easy…I’m not judging I just know what it’s like and for someone who doesn’t have it…it is fuckin annoying because your moods change like the weather. He probably doesn’t know if he’s Arthur or fuckin Martha sometimes. You need to take your meds…you know this🤷🏾‍♀️ hate if you want I’m just BEING REAL

My advice is to take him to your counseling appointment if you go and have you and your counselor educate him what your diagnosis means. I’d encourage him to go to a support group for spouses of mental health suffers. Not only is it hard on you it’s also hard on the love ones. Most of the time they just don’t understand and need educated about what it is and means. Your counselor can help both of you come up with a action plan when your cycling and what you can do and he can do during it. Your feelings are validated but so is his. If he can’t or won’t do it then you need to figure out what’s best for you and your mental state. It’s a hard process but it can lead to a better reaction of both are in the same page. Good luck!!!

I’m sorry your going thru this, your health is most important and getting that under control should be your first priority, put having a baby on hold as its not going to help you guys in any way. Try couples counseling and individual counseling .keep a journal to help Express feelings and just write each time your stressed till you see a change in the writing. Communication is key and I think you both need to work on that together so you can tell when the other needs time to be alone .

Maybe you should get with the other person that is pregnant and see if you can adopt her baby.

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If he isnt going to show concern for your condition, nor try doing his own research to understand why you sometimes do what you do, then he is certainly not the type to have children with. What if your future child(ren) end up having mental illness? Do you really want a partner that’s not willing to learn about it and better handle it?

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He sounds like a dick. He sounds like he needs the bipolar medicine not you. I don’t think you’re bipolar you’re just dealing with someone who could give 2 shits about your feelings. I would DEFINITELY not recommend even thinking about another child with this man until y’all can sit down and discuss these issues bc frankly, I would’ve been gone a long time ago. Everything in this post triggers me and makes me wonder why women deal with shit like this. No offense to you I just rather be single than to deal with someone like this or being unhappy.

I would not try to have another baby until y’all get y’all’s relationship together. Don’t bring a baby into that drama.

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I get mad at my spouse like this too. I also have bi polar type 2 and sometimes its hard for me not to. But there is help for us. If he loved you that much he will get the help he needs in order to help you! Being depressed isn’t good while pg so maybe you guys should get some counseling. Thats what my spouse and i are doing. Just a suggestion.

Throw the buggar out.

Leave his ass. Do NOT get off your meds and have a child with him. I’m speaking from experience. He’s not good for your mental health and will only push you into a deeper depression. He can’t understand your illness because he’s egotistical bad only concerned with his own needs and not yours. You shouldn’t be with a man that thinks it’s okay to yell at you. You don’t need that nor deserve it. He left you there crying because he simply doesn’t care about you and your well being. When people show you who they are, believe them the FIRST time.

My suggestion is to divorce him and find a man who will be more sympathetic towards your situation. The way he is acting is bordering mental abuse and it’s NOT okay. Also… do NOT have a baby with this man. He is not worthy.

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So bringing this up on a nail page is a strong cry for help in probably a manic state. Hence why the inappropriatness. I would call your psychiatrist and discuss with him or her and have a session or two or more with your partner about this.

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He sounds like a narcissist

Would try counseling to maybe get him to understand you better if he’s not able to listen to you. If he will agree to it. You’re not crazy. :heart:

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Don’t bring a baby into that situation. Babies don’t make bad circumstances better, they make them worse.

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If your looking for relationship advice on Facebook from people who do not know your full story the relationship is probably doomed anyway.

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:running_man: like hell b4 he have you looking old and wrinkle

Would you like to be apart of my mom group?

I see a lot of post on here that has nothing to do with nails. Why is it a issue now?

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You need someone who is more supportive. I see your up and down at the moment. Wait until your mood stabilizes, continue on your meds for now. Once your in a good place and balanced, decide on the future of you marriage. Either your husband supports your or he has to go. You will be an amazing mum in the future but hold off on babies right now until you get to a more stable place.

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I feel like you deserve better

The ones who are complaining about this being a nails page. You would never know what a person is going through maybe this was her closest thing to getting a hold of someone or just to get advice. Y’all dont have to be Karen’s.

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Sounds to me like this relationship is already over

Sounds like he may be the source of your depression. I remember my ex had me believing the health of our relationship was my responsibility. Leaving you at home was a gift, no one diminishes those they love. Enjoy the peace and use the time to learn about who you are and why he chooses to ignore that beautiful person! Just a thought, respectfully maybe he is not the one to raise children with healthy self love.

Wishes for strength and joy in your life.

It’s hard to live with someone that has mental health issues. You need to seek a professional and realize that this is very hard on him too. I’ve dated someone with mental health issues and I bailed. Sorry not sorry. I can’t handle it and I’m not about to baby a grown ass man. I can’t deal w the constant babying and overlooking and catering to the other person. It’s exhausting. The world doesn’t revolve around you and the last thing you need is another baby to put even more strain on your relationship.

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Maybe he needs a reality check have a doctor explain to him what is going on and how be there for you. But my opinion drop him if he truly cared about you he would do his damndest to be there for you. Sorry your going through this. God bless you

You shouldn’t go off your meds. And sometimes people don’t wanna be bombarded in the morning with conversation. If you are having problems in your marriage why would you be trying to have another baby. It’s a set up for disaster. Get back on your meds and leave him alone with your morning rambling. I’d be mad as fuck too. Then when he was like ok I’m awake now. What’s up, you were sulking about it. That’s annoying in it’s self.

Whomever this is needs to get emotionally in a better place before ever bringing a kid into it…don’t bring a baby into an unstable, unhealthy environment. And the page is about nails not advice on relationships just saying🤦 last question was about getting pregnant when she knew the guy didn’t wanna have a kid🤔really??

Dude I would put him in his place real quick!!! Fuck that!! U need to leave his sorry ass not have a baby with him… things will just get worse!

Whoever wrote this, you can message me if you need someone to talk to. I have gone through the same thing. I’m hoping I can give you some advice that might help.

I have bipolar depression 2 as well. Successfully had two children on lamictal 100 mg twice a day. Do your research. I had doctors not like it but the resources they told me didn’t fit my situation. A lactation consultant showed me a website and any effects on the baby was for people taking like 800 mg a day. Ill try to find the website.

A wise man once said before diagnosing yourself with depression check to make sure you are not surrounded by assholes sounds as if your husband is a huge part of the problem with your moods. Love yourself first don’t put all of your self worth into him and his behavior towards you that is off putting

Remember your vows? Better, worse, SICKNESS, and health??? This is in violation of those vows. Do you really want to be stuck with and procreate with someone who doesn’t respect those vows?? Think about it. This is a form of gaslighting. Look it up. Now that being said, you must remember that he’s your husband, not your doctor or therapist. Don’t try to use him as such. Otherwise YOU’RE damaging the relationship too. I wish you luck. :heart:

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I would sit him down and ask him what did he marry you for? You both took a vow “in sickness and in health” and your mental health absolutely meets that requirement. If you were diagnosed with cancer, and on your worst day of chemo would he call you annoying and leave the house? Mental health disorders aren’t easy for either partner to handle, but you still took vows to take care of each other. Maybe take him to one of your sessions so he can see physically how real it is. Maybe he has a lot going on too but doesn’t know how to process it so he runs away because he’s scared of saying or doing something that might hurt you. But neither option is healthy for you, so I think seeking professional help is the best route.

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Perhaps counselling so you can talk to each other with someone who can give directions on how to repair the breakdown. It sounds like your both struggling :heart:

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m also bipolar and experience this exact issue. I’m also empathic and understand why he’s frustrated. The communication just needs a little work from both of you. I like to remember why I fell in love in the beginning❤ it’s a good place to start. Take care

He needs to sapport you not run away week nigga man up boy do same reading about it us just dnt understand it took my partner nely 9 years to click on wat was happening stay strong pop me a pm if you ever need a talk

Okay so he thinks your annoying when you’re in a good mood but becomes upset when you’re in a bad mood… hunny you’re not crazy and I think alot of your source of depression is him. He ligit took your weakness and used it against you something control freaks are good at he knows what would trigger you into being upset the rest of the day. He didn’t want you out and doing your thing he wanted to go out and do him knowing you’re sitting at home and not finding someone better. His insecurities are causing your insanity (you’re not really insane but he’s driving you there if you get what I mean) I went through this for years… I still have to deal with it because we had kids together I say drop the husband not the meds

What does this have to do with nails??? :woman_facepalming::roll_eyes::unamused:

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Get rid of the man. Simple :100:

Are you sure you are suffering so much from depression or is his maltreatment of you causing your sadness. Huge difference.

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I suggest a marriage counselor

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So I guess everyones advice now a days is either a smart remark, divorce or he’s cheating. Apparently this lady is crying out for help cause she is asking a nail page for advice. Instead of getting any descent advice she has been mocked, told not to have a child, or to just get a divorce. :roll_eyes: no wonder the divorce rate is so high because nobody feels like putting any effort in. My advice would be to talk to your husband, explain to him how it makes you feel even to the point of possibly wanting to seperate. That his actions and words are pushing you away. Tell him he needs to change this and you would even be willing to do some type of counseling together. If all that fails, and he refuses, then yes, I would not bring another baby into that type of relationship and would leave. Your partner should be loving, understanding and willing to work things out.

No your not wrong :pray: please reconsider having another child with this person & very seriously getting our of this marriage for your own mental health…he probably knew about this when he married you now upset by it… If he truly loved you he wouldn’t respond that way :heart::broken_heart: I’m very sorry honey but that’s straight up

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Do you have a therapist? And if you dont,you should and bring him with you to some appts so he can learn more about the condition and how he can help. If he refuses to do that, then he is not the one for you and definitely not going to be the father I sure you want for your children!

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Not break up and find someone that’ll be more sympathetic to your mental illnesses… ppl need to stop playing the victim card … everyone isn’t going to coddle you every second of the day… you need to make yourself happy, find your own happiness.

How about some kindness and less judgment sheesh. Hope everything gets better love .

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Hold on im confused I thought this was a page about nails not relationship advice??? Your in the wrong group for all that sweetie

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I suggest going to the right page and then posting something like this because this page is about fingernails not relationships

Get a new husband, something is wrong with the one you have

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Fuck him if you want to talk then talk ain’t that some shit !!

I think He’s the reason…

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I would think twice about having another baby

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Hes gotta be all the way in. I have the same diagnosis and my hibby can spot my plummets before i even notice them coming

Been there honey he doesnt understand and isnt trying to we ended our relationship its hard but everyone cant handle the diagnoses good luck but make sure u r good b4 u can make some else good lesson learned

You need a man who supports you in every aspect of your relationship that includes your mental health, if he can’t support you hows he going to support you with a baby.

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Maybe he needs more education on the disorder. I hope things get better :heart:

Sounds like your husband causes your depression! Throw the whole man out! :woman_facepalming:t2:

First don’t go off your meds. As for your husband, put yourself in his shoes. Its not easy trying to understand a bipolar person. My husband was diagnosed with bipolar after 16 years of marriage. It was pure hell. After he was diagnosed and they finally found a med that worked it got easier. I really hope you go to therapy, it worked wonders in our case. My husband passed with cancer last year right before our 43rd anniversary.

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I think you should get a dog because he’s to childish and needs a bullet and your in no place of mothering hun not alone of a child , and you need meds to control your issues you have, this needs to stay about nails and not about bipolar

He sounds like a dbag and doesn’t sound like he should be in a relationship if he’s treating ppl like this.

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I may have to delete this page. We as people go through things and I’m sorry about your situation but there are other groups for that. This is not about nails…

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You can not MAKE him happy. He needs to understand that your mental health is not about him.

Not very supportive, that’s not cool.

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I wouldn’t be trying to have another baby for awhile.
You need to be able to level off without your meds first.
Therapy would be a good idea for the both of you. You husband doesn’t understand depression and the type you have. Knowledge is power. I know. I have Bi Polar.
I know that I can’t go w/o my medication. When my moods switch from one to the other one real fast I am having an episode.
I take notes make sure I call the dr if they become to much.

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If your severely emotionally impacted when your off your med maybe you need to find a med you can take while prego … or wait til your more stable… Kids don’t deserve chaos. And yes KARENS I do know what I’m talking about because I am also bipo and cannot mis one dose without a severe backlash.

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Its a hard disease to cope with for both parties. Try not to adopt the sick role. Try therapy and a new medication. Its hard to feel bad for people 24/7 and its hard on someone when they have to be happy for someone else to be happy. I think you are depending on him for too much happiness :confused: all the best luck to you

I’d be leaving his ass

Have another baby??? Why???

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Absolutely not wrong at all. Whether he realizes that or not he is gaslighting you. I have personally been through this exact thing I pray that he can learn to understand you. Or that you can find the strength to leave him.

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Where’s the nails??? When did this become an advice page

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Ok #1 Do not have a baby at this time. Repeat Don’t have a baby ! # 2 you both need to GET!!! Help together ! So y’all can fix yourself. Best of luck.

my advice… get a new husband. an unsupportive spouse is useless

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My fiance and I both have mental illness and health issues. It does take patience and understanding. My ex hubby didn’t understand what I was going through and he didn’t have patience and belittled me and made me feel bad for being sick. I’m not going to tell someone to leave their partner but if 1 or both are miserable it’s not going to work

I’ve learned from experience there is literally NOTHING you can do. This is on him. You can’t make him see that this is beyond your control and you need support from him. My depression eventually put a crater size hole in my relationship and he wasnt capable of seeing that I wasnt intentionally pushing him away but just merely trying to survive day to day.

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I’ve unliked this page. There hasn’t Ben ANY nails of any kind in ages.

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You should really really think hard about trying to have a baby with you struggling mentally didn’t it effect you post delivery? Try and be understanding of what he is going thru coping with your depression a lot of people are very umsupportive if you struggle with mental health, but does he always stand by you ? He has feelings as well try and think of how you would feel always have the mental health issues popping up on the regular.

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I respect and truly understand everyones comments on this isnt nails and go to another page but simply, how sad is it that a human being is here clearly feeling herself at a breaking point and reached out just needing some kind of support that she is not getting from a very sad and obviously toxic relationship that she found the courage to speak about it before it pushed her any further in a place of bad mental health and the nails are what some are most worried about.
What in the world happened to us that made us act like that?

To the woman who posted this, his behavior is not only completely unsupportive but absolutely unloving and could potentially be causing you to grow further in your depression. I believe if you have tried to communicate your feelings or how his actions are making you feel and that is the response, you need to reevaluate if you should be with this person. From someone outside looking in he may continue to make you feel worse and no one deserves to live like that.

I hope you find some peace with the rest of your day and you find whats needed for you to do whats best for you.

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One of my friends who I love dearly used to have severe panic attacks. I did not understand her at all until I actually had one myself. I would get frustrated with her because she would freak out in the grocery store or have to stay home for no reason (no reason to me at the time) and I had no idea how to help her. Its very hard to understand mood disorders if you’ve never experienced it before. I was absolutely baffled by her bahvior. After I had a panic attack for the first time I was like wow now I get it. Im not justifying the husband’s behavior but I can see how it would make him feel unhappy for not being able to do anything to help (which isnt her fault either) but that doesnt necessarily mean there is a lack of love. Bad coping skills, lack of understanding, and maybe a bit of immaturity? Sure. But being the person going through an irrational mood change and not being able to do anything about it but let it pass is scary and just as frustrating. I can only imagine what the people around me feel when I go through that especially if its a long term thing. You ever get angry at someone you love? Said something that hurt their feelings? Its not right but it doesnt mean you dont care and youre a horrible toxic person thats all Im saying.

None of my ex’s knew what depression was like. None of them knew what to expect. The man I’m with now knows. Not only has he been through it but he reads new articles and stuff about it all the time. The more we know the more we understand which is better off for everyone. Sometimes meds don’t work. They don’t actually cure the problem, not that being bi polar or depressed is a problem, but they’re basically like a bandaid for mental health. Sometimes you just gotta recognize what’s causing the mood changes and the change in mindset and avoid that. If it’s a specific person (and this is really hard to say and do) just stay away from them. You gotta focus on you. You gotta understand everything you go through before you can even begin to explain it to someone else. Also if you’re taking the time to help someone else understand what you go through every day make sure they’re ready to listen and learn about it otherwise it’s like talking to a wall constantly.

As someone with anxiety PTSD & PPD you shouldn’t have kids with someone who can even understand the medical aspect about it. If he can’t handle you how is he gonna handle a newborn.

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Prayers and therapy is needed not another baby

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Probably a bit harsh but why would you want a baby with this man
If he can’t except your disabilities or atleast try to understand them then walk away from him
Do it now otherwise the longer you leave it the harder it will be
If you do want to try and he really does to then take him to a specialist appointment with you and get the doctor to tell him all about it and if he still doesn’t care or understand and start to be a bit more caring towards you then he is not worth the time of day
Your relationship probably won’t last through a pregnancy if he is like this now he is mentally abusing you to a point and it will get worse when your pregnant because you will be adding pregnancy hormones to the mix
He is not worth it Hun
Leave before it gets worse and find a man worthy of you and a child
Good luck xxx

He knows ur off your meds because of y’all wanting to have a bby so he should’ve supportive df. I’m sorry go bk on your meds and leave his ass.

I suggest talking to your dr about the meds part. As for your hubby… you really need to have a conversation with him. It’s not easy to understand somebody with a mood disorder. Please talk with your doctor about your meds tho. There are safe meds to be on while pregnant. I know this as I have bipolar and have 2 kids and was on meds with both pregnancies. But you need to have a supportive husband/partner in the relationship to make it work. Make sure you are mentally healthy prior to having a baby please tho because they will drain you and test you. Prayers girl.

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The way to happiness is to DUMP HIS ASS

You definitely should NOT be trying to have another baby if your relationship is like this already. Work things out first, if you can, THEN think about a baby.

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There’s a lot going on right now. Thinking out loud causes an unnecessary burden. Things that “need to be done” causes stress. If your coming off meds, you could be a little extra which would mean he may need a little more space. It’s not always about you. So be aware that it could be that and take it with a grain of salt that you may be a little extra sensitive.