My 5 yr old stepson (6 in March) LOVES his nails painted he’ll do mine (we got cousdy of my 2 sks) I’ll do his he loves doing his makeup with his 3 older sisters who r 13 9 and 5. He puts on hair bows with them even plays dress up. He tells me all time he’s pretty. My response is yes ur very pretty boy. He loves it. His father supports him as well and calls him special 
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Anyone would think it was the husbands nails being painted 
tell him to get over himself.
Your little boy needs to be taught that expressing himself is ok. Xx
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I hope you woke up and apologized to your son and then painted his nails again. It’s just nail polish! Your husband and bio dad need to get over it 
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Why would the teacher feel this was ok?
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Why is it wrong for him to like having his nails painted?
Would it be so bad if they turned out to identify as a girl anyway?
What if they just like how it looks?
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Don’t cave to your husband. Grow a set of balls and talk back when you disagree.
Both my boys get their nails done (they are 4 & 6) by me and grandma! It’s fun for them - my MIL even bought the quick dry stuff so they don’t have to wait too long to go back to playing. This is a masculine insecurity issue - and it belongs solely to your husband. His problem, not yours or your son’s.
My son is 4 years old and autistic. He loves the colors of my nail polish. I’ve got the colors of the rainbow even white, black, silver, and glitter. He loves the colors on my nails so he wants it too. I also have a stepson who wanted to copy me and dye his hair blue but when his bio mom saw. She yelled at him kn the middle of our neighborhood. My stepson hasn’t dyed his hair since. The kids who self express and have supportive parents will be confident and comfortable in their skin vs kids who get shamed wont. Let him be expressivexand get out of that toxic relationship.
Honestly do it anyways my son is only 3 and couldn’t be anymore more boyish. Trucks, dirt, being the knight in shining armour for his sister but sometimes he slaps on a dress and plays princess with them too. When I paint the girls nail of he asks I’ll do his too. It use to piss my husband off but I told him straight up too bad and he’s gotten use to it. He still laughs and says sooonnnnn but he no longer gets mad. It’s the way boys were raised back in the day. In the end of the day it’s not your husband’s or your ex’s body, your son has the right to do what he wishes as long as it’s not hurting anyone or himself. My husband is actually the one who took this picture lol
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Screw them both!
And yes you made a mistake by removing it. We all make mistakes and you can make up for it. Love him, take him to pick things out. Wether its nail polish lip stick or a monster truck shirt. If he feels suffocated now, he’ll feel trapped forever
There is no way I’d be taking that nail polish off. If that were my hubby he would be given the option to get over it or leave. Never stifle your children’s needs for a grown man’s insecurities.
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Tell your husband to grow up.
There are some thigs you have to compromise on in a marriage. Your child’s happiness is NOT one of them.
Don’t crush his dreams or tell him he can’t like what he can’t like. As someone who grew up with that (not badly but, somewhat), who is married to someone who also grew up with that (badly… very badly), it is incredibly damaging, to be told you can only like certain things because you have a penis or because you have a vagina.
Sex does not dictate what we can like, what we can do, what we can be. Don’t let your husband teach him that toxic mentality.
Let him paint your nails it doesn’t have to be his that get painted.
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I have 4 boys and 1 girl. I can’t tell you how many times they have let there sister do makeup, nails and hair. Is it a desire for my boys No. But its them making there sister happy. Its also super funny and they have an amazing bond because of it
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I feel they’re human beings, no matter the age. Their wants and needs need to be respected and so does their say at what goes into and onto their bodies. My son wanted his ear pierced at 6 and I told him to wait 1 more year and really think about it. Well, a year passed and he still wanted it done, so we had it done. His body, his choice. My son also got his nails painted at my mom’s house, along with my step dad and my mom and his sister. They would have spa nights. And that was ok. My son is 25 now, he’s straight and he’s all man, and he’s a great and humble and smart man who treats his girlfriend very well. I couldn’t be more proud. And he tells me it’s because of the way I raised him. I gave him the freedom to express himself at a young age and pretty much always gave the choices and taught the consequences. So, you see, him wanting his nails painted is giving him a freedom of choice and there’s nothing wrong with that. The step dad and bio dad aren’t giving him freedom of choice and thats damaging. He will grow up in fear of what other people think of him. I know because that happened to me. I never had those kinds of choices when I was little so I was always in fear of being myself when I was older.
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Then why did you take the nail polish off? If you believe in self expression? Fuck what any man has go say about what my kids like and don’t like. Regardless of if he’s the father or not. Kids need to be kids and should choose what they want and don’t want on there bodies. Screw what any man or women has to say about a boy wearing nail polish, or putting on a dress. Girls can fully wear dinosaurs in boy colors. But boys can’t wear what Girls usually wear.
I have a little boy hes 5, and he has 3 older sisters. He loves joining in their makeovers and having his nails painted, his dad doesnt particually like it as such but doesnt stop it. Doesnt mean anything, its just my kids bonding and all enjoying something together. Shouldnt make them feel like its wrong
Let your son paint his nails if he wants 
Your husband and his dad can both get over themselves.
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Have a day today of painting nails let him paint yours or your toes and spend the day loving eachother 
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Me personally would have told the husband he’s a kid who cares. My youngest son loves getting his nails painted because his sister gets to have hers painted…they’re 6. The 1st time I did it my husband wasn’t thrilled, I told him he’s a kid and doesn’t want to feel left out. I refused to take it off and I’ve continued to do both. But honestly if the husbands going to act like that he needs to go…
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Not the same but my kids used to paint thier fathers toe nails because they wanted too he allowed it because of them. So in my opinion I think he should allow your son do to what makes him happy. I don’t have any sons but I have daughters who absolutely loves boy things. So in his opinion would it not be ok for my daughter to play with trucks? I have a tomboy and a girly girl I allow them to express themselves.
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I think addressing the husband’s behavior is the real solution to your problem. Why is it go for him to suppress your child’s interest because of his own personal issues? He needs to grow up and be a man and a father to that child is he wants to have the dad card in my opinion.
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My son watches me paint my girls’ nails and then he wants his done too.
So I let him pick any color he wants and we paint just his big toes. I will paint his fingernails with clear “a boy color” or a clear blue color.
He’s happy with it and no one really sees his toes so they can’t judge or make fun of him.
He’s 5. It’s not about the nail polish he just wants me to spend time with him like I do the girls. Monkey see. Monkey do.
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My son is 8 and has always loved to have his time with mommy and sissy’s to get his nails painted. My husband has even sat down with him and painted his nails, it’s really not a big deal.
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My son is 8. He is the middle child between sisters. He has had his nails painted several times. He has been talked into pretty pretty Princess board games and dress up. My girls play laser tag and fortnite with him as well. I see no problem. My husband doesn’t have an issue with it. If the kids asked he would probably let them paint his too honestly. Paint on your fingernail doesn’t make you less of a man.
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I would have explained why the dad felt the way he did and explain to my son that there are other ways to express his love of color and paint. Like painting on paper or canvas. He can express himself without it being girly. I totally disagree with letting kids do whatever they want without any type of guidance. He obviously loved the color and wanted for you to love it, not the act of painting his nails. “Paint me a picture using your favorite colors and mine and I’ll be able to keep that for ever and look at it often…”
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He’s a child and is playing. He has an older sister who I’m sure is allowed to do these things, and he saw other children at daycare having fun getting their nails painted. This is a harmless activity, it means nothing about his gender identity or sexuality. He wanted to be part of the fun and was excited to share it with you as well.
I would have a conversation with your husband about this especially as your child was sad and confused about what was happening.
If he is also showing signs of not wanting to be a boy/expressing that he is not a boy, you should consider putting him in counseling to find out what is going on, if he has gender dysphoria or something else. Outside of that there is nothing here to address. Forbidding boys from participating in activities like this give them false ideas about what it means to be a boy or girl and perpetuates problematic attitudes about gender.
Ultimately this is your child and it is up to you to defend him in situations where you feel his stepfather is being unreasonable.
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Well the “older” generation of males still are in the mindset of girls do this and boys do this. They’re in you’re typical gender role mindsets. My 9 year olds painted their nails when they were younger but with clear nail polish because their bio dad was an ass about it 
but to them it was still fun even though it was clear. My boys grew up following suit of your typical gender roles though it was not by force from me… my now husband would take your husbands stance too. Guys are supposed to be “manly” is his point of view. you need to ask him WHY it’s an issue and saying it’s a girl thing is not an “issue” it’s a point of view. So he doesn’t want him made fun of? That’s an acceptable issue to me. To be concerned about his safety/mental health because of bullies… that’s an acceptable reason to not be fond of the idea in my mind. But just because he thinks it’s too girly isn’t a good reason.
Buy him some canvas to paint
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No the step dad is right painting nails is only for girls same with the make up.
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They are both dicks. If you don’t stand against this behaviour who will
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I didn’t see it mentioned but where is the comments about the SCHOOLS painting fingernails? If I want my son’s nails painted thats me, schools have no place doing it
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Educating his step-dad and father is key! They are stuck in toxic masculinity. A great film you could share with the dads is ‘The Mask You Live In’, it taught us a lot and gave us some great reminder in raising two boys. You are right and self-expression in any form (including nails!) is great.
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nothing wrong with it my grandsons love their nails painted when they were younger also played with dolls n pushchairs doesnt make them any less boys. my son in law also lets my granddaughter painted his nails colour his hair (wash out) and make him up washes off they have fun together tell partner to back off
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What is the big deal, never have I seen on a bottle of nail polish “ girls only” . I would have left it on
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My five year old son has autism and loves to have his nails painted, he likes to copy his sister. I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s all part of experimenting and finding out who they are. I say let kids be kids they are only young once 
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It will make him a better father he will let his girls paint his nails and he will paint their nails for them!
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My 5 year old loves his nails painted. His daddy don’t like it but I do it anyways my 8 year old says mean things like hes a girl or finger nail paint is for girls and so my 5 year old get sad and wants the polish off but I tell them both boys can wear nail polish too, it doesn’t make him a girl. He’s gone to school with them painted and nobody says anything about it and doesn’t make fun or say mean things to him.
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This is really sad and you honestly should tell your husband to shut his pie hole. Don’t break that boys sprit
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Nothing wrong with having them painted. It’s just pretty colors and hes a little guy. No big deal
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Ok, so I have a daughter, when my daughter where’s dry nail polish strips, she peels them off! She likes them because I wear them, but she peels them off, because it’s not her! She prefers, toys favored for boys and wants to be a mechanic! We encourage her to be who she is, and support her! She’s 4! And if we had a boy, we would support him too! You never know, who your kids are going to be! We choose to support our child and not make them be something they are not! I’ve bought my daughter “boy” clothes because she wanted them! Also lightening McQueen sneakers, in the “boys” section! And all of her toys are cars we can take apart and put back together! We should let our kids grow up, knowing them at we support them and the choices they make! My biggest argument here, is your son hurting anyone by simply wearing nail polish? I know my daughter isn’t hurting anyone because she prefers tearing apart and putting together cars rather than, playing with dolls and wearing nail polish!
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My 3 year old boy over here with his pink piano, pink stuffed animals, always wanting his hair in a hair tie, and wants blush on when his sister does her make up 
My son also has a play kitchen and a play cleaning set. Let kids be kids.
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1st off I would have a conversation with ur husband louding shouting about the nails most likely is what upset ur son. He sees ur husband angry at him for the nails when it really isnt a big deal. Now to u if u let him Express himself for years Y are u taking it away from him grow a pair and let ur baby express himself. My hubby is against any and all “girl things” for my son and I told him it isnt hurting anyone leave my son alone and let him express what he likes. ( hubby was upset my son played with a barbie doll of all things) U have to stand up for ur son please dont take away letting him find himself
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This is a giant red flag…
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Your husband is an asshole for being a homophobe in front of a child. Get rid of him and keep the kid.
sounds like your husband has a lot of toxic masculinity and homo/transphobia to work through
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My step son loves his nails painted. I have 3 girls and he wants to do everything they do. We let him and his mom always gets mad and tells him it’s for girls. We tried telling her that it’s ok, doesn’t harm him and he just wants to feel included but she doesn’t care.
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When my middle son asked to have his nails painted like mine… the only thing I did was agree! I did warn him that there are people in the world like your husband that might say something to him and asked if he still wanted it. He wore it proudly and occasionally still does.
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I guess if that’s what he wants I love them so it’s cool
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You should have stood up for your son a bit more mama. I know you felt like you were backed into a corner but, you have to be his voice. Children don’t think like the way your husband thinks. He just sees that it’s cool colors he can wear. I would definitely be having a conversation with your husband if I was you. This is really sad. 
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I wouldn’t have taken the polish off. Typically it is used by girls, yes that’s true. But it’s not only for girls. I would talk to your husband and let him know how sad your son was & how upset it made you. As well as the fact that you have always let him express himself how he chooses & that isn’t going to stop just because of him becoming the step-dad. Boys are always taught to “be men” (don’t cry, emotions are for girls, you can’t play with anything pink) - alot of times I think “tough guy dads” think their son might turn out to be gay if they do feminine things but that’s just not how that works. What he’s going to teach him is to that step-dad won’t be a safe place to land when he starts needing advice/help with real world things as he gets older.
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I think you need to talk to your husband. How he acted was out of line. Who cares if his nails were painted??? My 5 year old son LOVES painting his nails and we let him. His fav color Is purple. Let’s kids be kids.
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Throw the whole husband away. You definitely should have stood up for him in that situation. I remember all the times my parents stood up for me and I’m sure he will too. Teach your husband to let YOUR children express themselves how they want or your son will come out confused and ashamed for something that is totally normal.
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I will never understand this. They are kids. Let them be kids. As if little boys dont play with their sisters dolls/babys. Or girls done play with trucks/ cars or in the dirt. I swear sometimes is the adults who need to grow tf up. Your husband needs to chill out, and realize his behavior will forever affect that child and not always in a positive way 
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I agree with your husband its nice that you let him express himself but on the other hand at school he is gonna bullied kids can be cruel sometimes as parents we have to make decisions thats best for our kids good luck
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Stop painting your sons nails 
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Stand up to your husband, support your son and let your him have his nails painted if he wants. If your husband doesn’t like it, let him know where the door is
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you should never your husband to dictate what your son does and does not like. Clearly his opinion and beliefs differ from your own. But that’s not the Issue. For me it’s the fact you chose to allow the feelings of your husband override your own and those of your son. Always go with Your gut and your feelings when it comes down to it.
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I prefer that my son doesn’t paint his nails. Nothing to do with it being for “girls”. He is already so sensitive that the thought of him being picked on because his nails are painted hurts my heart. We’ve had talks about people being mean and ignoring it but I’d just rather not put any more stress on him. When he understands things a little more when he is older he can do as he wishes.
Loooong ago my friend said: “pick the hill you want to die on!”
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Rockstars have been painting their nails for years
Tell your husband and his dad to take a hike
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Tell him get over himself! My husband is 380 and 6’5" and paints his nails and my daughters and sons nails if they want it! He does it to make our kids smile and they love it!
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You let his step dad dictate what was going to happen?
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It’s paint. It’s literally painting. Why allow girls and not boys? It’s just a “social norm” that it’s for girls. It also used to be a “norm” that women were exchanged as property.
It doesn’t mean anything but even if it -did- suggest homosexuality, that isn’t a negative thing and we need to stop treating it as such. I think most kids, boys or girls, would enjoy the nail polish if the boys weren’t taught it’s “girly” and that girl things are bad for them to enjoy.
My son can play with nail polish and make up if he wants to. It’s fine if he is gay but It doesn’t mean that he is gay. Super masculine beer-chugging jocks can be gay, too.
As far as advice - let your son express himself and maybe find some research on how some of these gender norms came to be, their purpose, and how some things really have nothing to do with biological sex and sexuality and everything to do with a socially constructed gender role.
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Pushing social masculinity… Follow your mama heart, let him paint his nails.
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Put that polish back on him and stand up for him!!! Don’t let dad or step-dad bully you or him
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Maybe this is why I’m not a good wife. I would have told my husband to fuck off. Just me? 
Tell both men to get over it my husband will paint his nails and toe nails with our 4 1/2 yr old daughter and we have another lil girl on the way on the way and she will be no different
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My husband is the same way … he doesn’t make a big deal out of it but will roll his eyes . My 6 year old boys love their nails painted . … doesn’t happen too often but sometimes they ask for it and my daughter does it … shes the only girl and always wanted a sister so when she gets to do that she gets excited ! Lol men suck … they need to get over themselves
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Since you’re asking for advice here, I personally would not paint my sons nails
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My husband would be pist too! Quite frankly, I have one boy and three girls and he needs to know the difference. Makeup and nail polish is unacceptable for boys. Period. I don’t want my son being a sissy, he needs to grow up and be a strong MAN
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It did break his spirit. Kick that man’s ass. Absolutely not.
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If you think it’s okay, let him do it. My son is 10 and I let him paint his middle finger black, idk why he does it but it makes him happy . It drives his dad crazy.( I tell him to get over it), my son being happy is more important.
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Thought we’d learned by now how damaging it is to kids’ well being to stifle their self expression… who is he hurting ?
I would ask the men what they are afraid of ? If they are afraid of him being gay, will keeping him from painting his nails prevent that ?
" painting nails were for girls only"… says whom ? Wonder if he would point out to a 350 lb tattooed and bejeweled biker that " earrings are for women only" ?
For what it’s worth friend, this old grama is with you. I would support my son, and explain that some people don’t like anything “different” and he could be teased.
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I wonder if the dads realize that cosmetics were made for men in the first place. Same as heels… some one needs a history lesson
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I don’t see the big deal. He is 7 years old. And he clearly looks up to you. Let him paint his nails. It comes off. It’s not permanent. He was so excited to show you because he thought you would love it…
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Stop painting his nails
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When my son wanted to paint his toes like Mommy’s I said ok cool. Let’s pick a color. He chose blue. My husband decided he would do the same as he wanted to show him that we will always support him. My husband told him some people don’t like it when guys wear nail polish. My little boy said why, I said because they think a little paint on the nails is only for girls. Silly right. He said yeah, if girls can do whatever boys can do then boys can do whatever girls can do. I said exactly. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. If they don’t like it, tough.
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My son (3) asked me to paint his nails the other night and I was just going to do clear but his dad said no. Might I add we live in rural Missouri and his dad grew up being a “manly man” so I just didn’t do it. It wasn’t worth the fight and my son wasn’t upset or anything. But I think you should do whatever you feel is right for your child…he is your child…
Truly , don’t make a big deal about it and ask your husband to not make any comments . My oldest son played in my make up when he was little ( 3 or 4 ) and also enjoyed doing my make up when he was a little older . I never made an issue of it and he’s 32 now . Manliest of men I know as a 32 year old adult . Not one thing feminine about him . The lesser deal you make of this , the better off you’ll be !
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You need to tell both of them to get real and grow a pair, and if not, go and do one. At the age of 7 a kid is not even remotely sexually aware yet so to him it’s just something fun… and even if he does turn out to be gay when he does get old enough to become aware, then so what?! If these guys are too homophobic to accept the prospect of that then frankly they don’t deserve either to be a parent or to be with you. You need to stand up to them and let the poor kid have his fun - that’s precisely what childhood should be all about, after all. He will respect you far more in later life if you do. I can tell you, without going into detail, my father neglected my needs, put me into vulnerable situations and didn’t stick up for me when I needed him to when I was a kid - I used to hate him with a passion.
I have since dealt with and worked through my anger towards him but consequently I still nonetheless have practically no meaningful relationship with him to speak of. Nevermind what they say or think, your son is your precious flesh and blood… you absolutely MUST put your son FIRST. At ALL times, at ANY cost, consequences regardless. It pains me every day of my life that my dad let me down the way he did by not supporting me… don’t be like him. Cherish your son and enjoy growing your bond with him as he grows. 
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FUCK NO.
I don’t play that toxic bullshit.
That “man” would no longer be in my home if my sons spirit was crushed like that.
My son plays with monster trucks, shoots zombies and wears his sisters tutu. He LOVES nail polish.
Man this stuff gets me so heated.
guess what… your son can like pink… like nail polish… and still like manly things. WE WERE ALL TAUGHT that things are “for boys” or “for girls”
Our kids aren’t wrong for not understanding why the fuck it matters if they want to like what they like.
Y’all out here breaking your children because you want them to be “manly”.
But I guarantee if that dudes daughter loved working on cars with him HE WOULD LOVE IT.
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you shouldve stuck up for your son…some guys are idiots.for some reason they think a boy liking girly things will make them gay or something.you totally failed as his mom.youre supposed to defend him not bow down to your husband like a lil bitch😡my oldest son is 26 n my only daughter is 23 and he did everything with her growing up.makeovers.painting nails.fixing hair you name it he did it with his lil sister cuz he loves her.he told his friends once that he plays barbies with his sister and they teased him and he sed he didnt care what they thought because he loves his lil sister and hed do anything for her.they never teased him again.hes still the same today💕doing girly things DOESNT MAKE BOY GAY!!!
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Dealing with the same thing with my 9 year old and husband who is not his bio dad, guess what my son even wears fake nails around the house, the press on ones so they don’t ruin his nails gluing them on and is not allowed to wear to them to school because no one boy or girl can wear them in the 3rd grade, my husband doesn’t support it and thinks its “weird” and he should be doing more “manly” things but my son will ALWAYS know his momma supports him in whatever he chooses in his life and he will always have a safe place with me. He has grandparents that are military and a man’s man that don’t agree and thinks he’s to soft and to much of a mommas boy but I always stand up for him, the world will try to tear him down and bully him for his choices so I am making sure to start early teaching him he will always have me in his corner and will always be accepted in my eyes. Support your son, I understand you may love your husband and its scary to think if you stand up for your son you may loose your husband but you are a mother and your job is to support and protect your child at all costs, prayers for strength for you, I know personally its not an easy road
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I agree you should have talked to your husband his “ step dad “ about the way you feel about it . Blowing it off didn’t help and now your son probably feels your the one who doesn’t agree with expressing himself . What I don’t agree with everyone saying is “ step dad has no say so , that’s not his dad “ like wtf !!! If you feel strongly that he has no say so in what happens with the kids , why in the hell would you choose to marry someone you don’t want saying his thoughts on raising the kids as well ?!?
Maybe sit down and talk with your husband . If your views are strongly different than yours in raising your kids TOGETHER , for the sake of your son you’ll know what needs to be done .
My boys get talked into polish. Makeup and dress up from time to time for their sisters and they deal with it. Whats the difference in a boy having fun as a child and a father playing dress up barbies and tea parties with their daughters? Let him be a child as long as he can because when he grows up it will be hard for him. This world will be hard for all adults. Tell your husband to shut up and deal with it. Kids come first biological or step.
It would be a heck NO from me!
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Painting your nails doesn’t turn you gay. Being actually gay turns you gay. People don’t seem to understand that.
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I saw a mother throw a fit at a daycare worker for painting her son’s nails. They were having a spa day and had painted all the children"s nails who wanted them painted. What adults need to understand is that children aren’t born with the ideal that “this is for girls” and “that is for boys” and they just want to be included in activities.
People need to stop overreacting to something as innocent as coloured nails.
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That teacher had no right painting his nails without permission first there is paper and crayons and other things to do u just don’t go painting some kids nails
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Not really your husbands choice… like you stated you talked to your ex and he room the same side but in the end…I think what YOU think & supporting your son is most important. Does he think it’s cool because it happened and he was playing? Or because he actually wants to wear lipstick and nail polish every day.
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I’m sorry…but since when is it a parents job to crush a child’s spirit?
It’s a rough position to be in, I empathize with that, but clearly these men in your life equate things associated with femininity as a straight relation to homophobia. Perhaps they should examine that part of themselves. As a parent, it doesn’t matter if my daughter likes girls, boys, or whatever, because as long as she is a good person, with values, and is happy, that’s all I care about. If these men can’t accept that this little guy is his own person, they shouldn’t be involved in a parenting role.
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My 4 year old will get his painted (he likes grey) my husband also doesn’t care as long as the kids are happy bc that’s all that matters. Your husband needs to back off and your son needs to know you have his back and will protect him. Your husband needs a good talking to about acceptance or he needs to kick bricks outa there
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Sad.
My ten year old son paints his nails. We’ve been to a nail salon and he’s had fake nails twice now. He gets compliments everywhere he goes. Not everyone is going to be okay with it. But I’m his mom. I accept him. That’s all that matters. And NO ONE WILL TAKE HIS NAIL-POLISH OFF BUT HIM!!! If your husband has a problem with it, he knows where the door is. Your son comes first.
For anyone saying painting their nails makes them gay…I literally laughed out loud. My son has been painting his nails for years, he loves pink, and cares about fashion. He’s also extremely girl crazy. He’s far from gay. My daughter who is almost 15 is gay. Full on lesbian. I guess painting her nails did that. LOL! Wow. Just wow.
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Your husband is a jackass.
Whatever makes him happy is what matters, who cares what other people think, especially during covid , everything is so limited and if this keeps him occupied and he’s having fun then beat it ! The step father should only be focused on this boys happiness. Even if he was gay in the future , who the hell cares , it’s not going to change who he is. This husband can screw off and get a sense of humor , it’s free.
Just because he’s a boy doesn’t mean he isn’t aloud to enjoy girl things! Painting nails, playing with dolls etc etc that doesn’t make a child gay! If my son wanted he’s nails painted you betcha I’d do them myself.
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Nail polish is polish for nails, finger nails, toe nails, girl nails, boy nails. My dad only let’s us paint his toes because we choose awful flashy colors. Paint on nails does not make a person less and I’m sorry then “men” in your life seems to think it will change anything other than the color of the nails
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