This is such a fake article omg lol so, a seven year old explained to his mother that he painted his nails because he thought that she would like the color? I call bullshit. Typical leftist bullshit. If a seven year old boy painted his finger nails it is because he saw or was around someone that was doing it, most likely an adult. Removing the paint from a sever year olds nails is not terrible at all. Fucking leftists lol telling a small boy that girls paint their nails and that boys shouldnt is not harmful at all.
Pray ur son isnât gay bc he sure as hell wont feel comfortable telling you guys⌠My son is 13 he came out this yearâŚhe was always intrested in girl toysâŚeazy bake oven etcâŚi allowed him to have it thinking nothing of itâŚothers said i was teaching him to be gayâŚmind u he was a lil boyâŚi said no im teaching him to be a good human beingâŚaround age 4 i knew he was gay n my fiance who is now passed told me noooo its just bc he been w you as a single momâŚn tried to force manly things on him . âŚlong story short soon as my fiance passed not even a year later he came to me n lmk hes gayâŚhe felt uncomfortable telling my fiance⌠Thats how kids end up killing themselves bc their too scared to come outâŚYOU CANâT MAKE SOMEONE GAY
He a kid let him be himself kids change all the time
I donât exactly blame the fathers because thatâs how they were raised, it was pounded into them almost like programming from an extremely young age. The world is changing which is great but itâs not easy to reverse that programming. You need to start with conversations. Try to make him understand that this is a very toxic mindset. For starters NOTHING can change anyoneâs sexuality. Either your son is or is not gay so painting his nails is not going to âmake him gayâ. At that age boys like pretty things to, they also like to be included and letâs face it girls get to do a lot more of things like that then boys do, play dress up, get nails painted, play in makeup etc. of course the little boys want to be included and again it isnât going to âmake them gayâ. Girls like to be included to but typical âboyâ activities nobody blinks and eye when they join in because âthatâs my girl!â âRaising them right!â Etc. Itâs sad that girls can be included in âboyâ activities but boys canât be included. My son a few times when he was around that age got his make up done and nails painted when I did his sisters. My husband didnât say crap, his mom did the same for him as a child. My husband is obviously straight and my son is 13 now and I asked if he wanted to play in makeup with his sisters and I a few months back and he was like âuh no, that ainât meâ so again it obviously did not alter his sexuality. I bring that up a lot because this is the secret fear they are not saying when they get upset about these things. And lastly even if he is gay, SO WHAT! Not letting him paint his nails isnât going to change that. Are they going to not love him or disown him if he is? If so throw them both away and if not then they need to stop freaking out over distant possibilities that canât be effected or changed in any way. Let the boy be and let him have his pretties.
Stand up for your sonâs interest. At the end of the day YOUâRE his mother so what you say goes. Both of my boys (9 and 4) paint their nails, color their hair, and play with makeup. Itâs a form of art and a way to express themselves. Iâd tell both of them to stfu.
I dye my kids hair. And paint their nails. Why? Because they see mom do it. And it looks fun. And it is!!! Iâve had the daycare say something. Because I used to just paint my oldest toes when he was little. But with my second son he likes both hands and feet done. And itâs because he sees me doing his younger sisters nails. I donât see an issue with it. They are to young to fully understand why adults are such judgy close minded assholes.
I think that as soon as we make children feel bad about non conformity, it starts the chain of them treating their peers the same way, and what this world needs is to change. Live and let live, but breed kindness always!
Wait, youâve been married 4months and youâre already letting this dude break your sons spirit? Yeah if you canât stand up for your flesh and blood then youâre just as useless as your husband.
Where are you meeting these fragile ass men, farmers only? Apologize to your son and stand up for him. Nobody can tell me shit about my sonâs painted nails because it makes him happy and itâs harmless, period
I def ainât going to be painting my 7 year old boys nails⌠lmao just asking to get drilled at school
âNot popular opinion- but thatâs okey just adding two cents to be taken or left " scroll"- Iâm a mom of four 3 girls and 1 boy, history in childcare and development -just answering the question-
Well- he is a little boy. Honestly your husband and the bio father are not bad for disagreeing . ( they might not have said it as a woman to women friend might have and that can feel itâs creating disunity (when itâs a difference in opinion)- non the less he was honest and I am glad you respected him over a 7 year old child that is learning ( or even the teacher that did it). Boundries are important, if we all went off expressng ourself in every way we wanted to (wouldnât that be dangerous?) what if someone wanted to on the far far end express themself in a way that hurts others- youâd say no and also (here) you might say " but he is not hurting anyone" maybe not but if you teach that all self expression is a good thing and he should be allowed too (what if he decides later " especially during the the trying teenage years " he wants to express himself in the form that are harmful to even just himself, he may feel entitled to do so. I believe the enemy is trying to confuse our children and some adults are encouraging it as okey because they are deceived, prideful or confused themselves. The enemy would love for you to disconnect with your husband and have it hurt you so much that you cry all night over nail polish (perhaps thereâs a bigger thing bothering you that you can make time to talk to your husband about- maybe listen to why he is not okey with it and share why it wasnât a big deal to you ( or was?) seems if youâre calling your ex seeing if you can get someone on your side " to share back with your spouse know" maybe deep down there was other stuff that you just didnât feel heard or respected over that needs addressed (been there, no judgment)- you may even learn something about you in this that ends up being a good thing. When it comes to clothing for girls such as dresses, or items like makeup or beauty enhancing products Iâd me cautious to not allow it. With that being said he should enjoy things that make him feel good about himself items
In colors he likes ( at that age he could just simply like everything in that color doesnât mean he should have " everything in that color" he might enjoy spending more time on his self ( lotion, hair gel, body spray (even pretend shaving is fun) cause it really seems like he maybe just at a follower age- seeing his step sister liking Those things- he maybe just trying to fit in with things she likes (he is younger and it me not uncommon for younger boys to just go with the flow (people please or learn to like what others like if it means the relationship is stronger- in the future though, he will most likely be the head of his home and possibly be financial provider- his family and children will need that masculine strength to feel safe and also that gentleness to be kind " wearing makeup dont teach you compassion or how to be emotionally understanding ( women where created to naturally have that and love deeper) - and honestly makeup- it teaches vanity over anything else, until youâre mature enough to know thereâs more to you then that) Iâd encourage things that both genders can be good at without the confusion for the siblings to bond doing together (there will be times she will prolly talk him into girlie things like Barbie/doll playing- thatâs fine- I even was able to sucker my older brother into playing dolls with me every once in awhile) Cooking-playing outside- playing board games or even electronic can be suggested to them as more appropriate if they havenât bartered " you play this with me/ and Iâll play that with you ". My kids cry over things that are taken from them sometimes to- doesnât mean they wonât get over it or that it should be made into something itâs not. By you respecting your husband and giving yourself time to just be upset was prolly a really good thing- but pick your battles " fight them side by side not at eachother. Bless you- totally understand it sometime just feels worse than it is. Praying God continues to bless your blended Family so it can shine with love.
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No comment on the nails because itâs irrelevant to the core issue; NEVER let someone that isnât your childâs parent change how you parent.
You are that childâs biological mother and his defender in the situation regarding the stepparent. Your husband is not the father and has zero say about how your child is raised. Even worse, made you feel remorse for how you chose to parent. Stop worrying about the nails; worry about how being around your spouse makes your son and you feel. It sounds toxic if you feel stifled and emotionally unable to express and connect with him.
To be fair, I would say the same thing if the situation with the nails was reversed. Like I said, its really irrelevant here and the real problem is the relationship with your spouse.
I wish there was a puking reaction for the majority of comments on this thread. Shameful.
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Leave the whole husband. He is garbage, imo
too many people want to be lemmings!
Kick the husband to the fucking curb, fuck him it is your child.
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Pardon my French but FUCK ur husband n his DAD⌠Would they rather him express himself n feel loved n accepted or hide it n have a huge complexâŚmaybe your son is gay?? I knew since 3 or 4 my son was n always allowed him to express himself however he chose as long as it was age appropriateâŚhes 13 now n this past year came out as gayâŚa momâs intuition is NEVER wrongâŚwhether u feel as though heâs gay or not itâs YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO STAND UP FOR HIM N LET THE 2 SO CALLED DADS GET OVER IT OR DONâT BE A PART OF HIS LIFE N MESS HIS HEAD UPâŚgood luck
Heâs not his father he has no say and needs to shut the fuck up and quit being a homophobic jerk 
Get rid of that man.
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My bigger question would be how did you, this little boyâs mother, end up marrying, not one, but two macho idiots who have such sticks up their asses?? Their narrow view of gender screams TROUBLE ahead!
Sis, youâve got to stop letting these doofus Neanderthals dictate your sonâs creative outlets! Take your kid and RUN - at the very least to a therapist or talk to a school counselor via Zoom - but DO SOMETHING!! This is not going to end well for your sonâŚ