I am confused. Currently, eight weeks along and my husband is so rude to me. He has four kids of his own, and when we met, I was 28 weeks with my youngest. He treated me like a queen when I was pregnant with my last child, but this time around, he is just awful. If I fell asleep with the latest baby, he would let me sleep and care for my older two. Now, if I dozed off, he wakes me up, usually rudely. When I tell him that I am not feeling well and need help with our 18 months old, he gets upset. Often calls me lazy or makes side comments. Before we were married, he was amazing. Then we get married, and itās a whole new man. I wanted to wait to have a baby as our last one is only 18 months, but he would get so upset and fight with me every time I would go to the doc for my birth control. I just donāt understand. Any advice? I donāt want to continue going in this way, but I donāt want to give up on the family we have committed too. Help!I am confused. Currently, eight weeks along and my husband is so rude to me. He has four kids of his own, and when we met, I was 28 weeks with my youngest. He treated me like a queen when I was pregnant with my last child, but this time around, he is just awful. If I fell asleep with the last baby, he would let me sleep and care for my older two. Now, if I dozed off, he wakes me up, usually rudely. When I tell him that I am not feeling well and need help with our 18 months old, he gets upset. Often calls me lazy or makes side comments. Before we were married, he was amazing. Then we get married, and itās a whole new man. I wanted to wait to have a baby as our last one is only 18 months, but he would get so upset and fight with me every time I would go to the doc for my birth control. I just donāt understand. Any advice? I donāt want to continue going in this way, but I donāt want to give up on the family we have committed too. Help!
Have you tried asking him and what was his response?
Try sitting down or if you can go on a date and talk to him about it
Well thatās your 18 month old, not his. Sooooā¦
Sounds like your both confusedā¦ you should LITRELLY tell him straight how things have been and get your answers from him right there and then from himā¦ i donāt know if its goin to be hard to hear or relievingā¦ but either way, you have to make the right choice from thereā¦ for you and your kids
If the current pregnancy wasnāt planned, maybe he isnāt happy about it. Not an excuse for his nasty behavior but maybe thatās why. Definitely talk to him.
Sounds to me like heās overwhelmed with now even more responsibility being heaped on. Did he want another baby? Did he not, and you did, so you went with what you decided to do? Cause, I know that isnāt really kool to do to someone.
Sounds like an asshole. Iām pregnant with my third and it was unexpected. Total nightmare. The guy is an abusive asshole and we live 50 miles apart. Some days I wish Iād never wake.
We dont know. You need to ask him.
So there are 5 kids in the house? He may just need your help. He could wake you up nicer, but heās probably stressed and needs help too.
A men liked that dont sleep with me no more
He needs a swift kick in the ass that jerk!
Heās sounds selfish, rude and mean!!
He wonāt change!!
Take care of You and Your Kids!!
Screw him!!
So this pregnancy is baby #8? Holy crap. And he was kind with 7 children then became a jerk after marriage? 
Talk to him! Then ask him if he will go to couples counseling. If not then you go for counseling alone. Whatever is going on wonāt get fixed if you donāt talk to him first
This behaviour sets off alarm bells, for me. It seems, Now youāre married and pregnant to him, he feels you canāt / wonāt leave - as though he has you permanently tethered to him, through your unborn child.
Iām not sure Iām the best person to give advice, but if that rings true, seek help asap.
Hormones? Red flags already? U can do bad all by yourselfā¦ Good luck jus b careful n get out before it gets worse or to late 
What is it 2nd martiage
Maybe hes having an affair. Hes acting like a complete jerk!!!
Iām kinda gathering that youāre a stay at home mom. Iām guessing he works, heās prob just tiredā¦ Nap when your kid is napping, or just power throughā¦ but you definitely do have to do your part. Not saying he doesnāt have responsibility to help watch your children together, but sometimes love is about making yourself uncomfortable to help out someone you love. It should be mutual, you know?
He is now feeling trapped instead of blessing. Donāt ever expect the sperm donor to feel the same way as before or as you do now.
Until you mentioned he was the one who wanted another child, I would have said heās probably just stressing with the whole situation, because thatās a lot of kids. But considering he wanted the pregnancy, the behaviour regarding birth control and the behaviour change once youāre now pregnant and ālocked downā, it sounds a lot like controlling behaviour. Iād be wondering what kind of relationship he has with his other 4 kids, that would be a bit of a giveaway.
If you cannot get contraceptives then have ligations ask your doctor about it.
I would runā¦ and keep runningā¦ why would you stay with someone regardless of pregnancy and marriage who treats you like crap? Love yourself enough to walk away and build a better lifeā¦ There is no reason for the rudeness or meannessā¦ that is not love. that is not how you treat someone you loveā¦
Youre pregnant not disabled right? Could he be nicer about waking you? Probably, but it sounds like you have a tribe of kids running around the house and most people would need help with that. And if heās taking are if the kids while youāre napping my guess is one of the 5, 6 or 7 of them did something to aggravate him, after a long or crappy day at work and he now needs help. If youāre not happy in this situation there are tons of options available to you. Talk to him about it and see if he can be nicer, youāre only 8 weeks you could have an abortion and not add another into the mix, or leave him, take your child(ren) with you and give this one up for adoption. You choose which one works best for you and your family.
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Not all men understand how draining early pregnancy can be, you donāt ālookā pregnant yet but your body is working overtime. You stated he came into the last pregnancy quite late in the game when it was obvious that you needed help, 8 weeks itās not so obvious (even then each woman is different and his ex may have had tons of energy at 8 weeks) so he may not realize how exhausted you really areā¦talk to himā¦communication is everything in a marriage.
You need to put your foot down, and stand up for yourself! NO man, should feel that he is allowed to treat his wife, mate or otherwise with disrespect, like he is doing.
If he thinks so little of you, then maybe itās time to reassess your partnership.
Iād sit and chat with him about this. First thing that came to my thoughts was heās aloud to be grumpy on days too. Not saying to call names or being rude is nice. Heās under a lot of stress just with kids alone and knowing heās got another to provide has probably just put his mind in a battle. Of oh shit a bigger family.
When someone forgets their manners with me my line is Iām sorry you feel that way and then I carry on. Donāt allow him to treat you that way but donāt go to war either dear.
Why do ppl choose to run instead of work? A marriage is a job and sometimes there are harder days then some.
You wake up and say, Iām going to either choose to love or hate.
Iām not saying to put up with abuse but why not work some situations out first. This is a man with how many kids? Not saying his behavior is at ALL acceptable but Iām sure she has made mistakes or even anyone in this group.
Stay prayed up and stopping running.
I saw something like this with my husband. I think some men get an anxiety related attitude thinking about the responsibility of being a father and every thing that being a father entails.If Iām understanding this correctly, the baby you were carrying when yaāll got together wasnāt his, is this right? If it wasnāt, that explains alot given my ātheoryā. Iām certainly not making excuses for him acting like a jackass, but maybe sitting down and using the āIā strategy might help. You know what Iām talking about. When you talk to him dont use the words like āyou make me feelā¦ā or āwhat you are doing is making me feel badā like that. Start and stay with the verbiage like āI think me being pregnant is unsettling for youā or āI need to understand why you are unhappy. What Have I done? Tell me so I can make it betterā Do you see what I mean? Men cannot handle being in the position of wrongdoing
, it puts them in a defensive position. No one wants to be attacked. If you are just totally over it, hey do whatever feels right to you. If your trying to save the relationship, you might want to try my suggestion. Good luck and congrats! Being pregnant was always a super high for me. I loved the feeling of an actual human life growing inside me.
Leave him if idont feelsafe
Heās the typical abusive asshole. Leave him. Point blank he is now showing you his true colors.
If you can talk to him and see whatās going on. Maybe something is bothering him and you both are too tired to say anything.? Or maybe itās his work who knows? Sometimes guys hide things until they canāt hide it anymore. But he has no right to call you lazy that upsets me. You need to talk to him one on one
Sounds like gas lighting a total head game . Council for help ,pronto