My husband has been spending all of our money at the casino and I am tired of him being like this…is there a way i can contact the casino and have him banned? He will not listen to anything else and is taking money this family could be using for things we need…I am at my wits end and really need advice on how to handle this because talking to him has done noithing but make him mad…I am thinking maybe i need to leave?
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100% calling the casino could work, they have lots of policies in place, but I’d highly consider an exit strategy as a Plan B. Gamblers will only bring you down with them.
Leave him … he needs to make a decision you or gambling …
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Calling could work, but that would be like you being his mommy. He’s a grown ass man that needs to face consequences. I would consider maybe walking away. 
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How is he accessing this money? Is he the only breadwinner? Can you get him to agree to deposit the money in an account with only your name and you give him an allowance to spend?
Call Gambler’s Anonymous and see what they recommend, and if there’s a group for family members of the addicted. Talk to him and let him know the damage he’s doing to his family and himself and see if you can convince him to go to the 12-step meetings.
Sadly, I’d put as many assets in your name only, but if it’s his earned money it may be tough to get him to agree to that. You may want to begin divorce proceedings before racks up any more debt and you lose your home.
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Calling the casino doesn’t solve his habit. He’ll blow it elsewhere or act up. Call a lawyer and find out what you can do to protect any assets or finances if you decide to divorce or seperate temporarily. That would absolutely be my first call. My second call would be to a support service where you can ask for advice on getting through to your hubby if you want to try that before proceeding with a separation or divorce. I’m sorry this sounds harsh, but kids come first, take the steps to protect everything to be prepared, but hope for the best he will get the help he needs.
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I work at a casino, and calling won’t do any good. We can’t discuss any information about any of our guests with anyone except themselves. There is a ban policy, but that may vary from casino to casino. The casino can choose to ban you, generally if you are a regular problem or go against the guidelines. A few examples…Cheating: Engaging in any form of cheating, whether in games or on machines. Being overly disruptive, aggressive, or violating the casino’s code of conduct. Harassment of the employees. Excessive profanity, loitering. Destruction of property. There is a self ban where I work and you can choose how long (6 months, 12 months, permanent) and you can unban yourself with this.
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If you’re on the bank account then take out money for bills plus extra and just leave him a certain amount in there.
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It’s an addiction best to just leave. Before he takes you down with him.
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Call the casino and have him banned? Are you serious? Do you think you’re his mother? The casino will laugh at you. He is an adult he can do what he wants when he wants. If you aren’t happy leave
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It’s an Addiction. Your going to have to put your foot down, who cares if he gets mad. Open up another account just your name and start transferring what you need for the bills and household spending. Be prepared to be on your own.
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Take it out before he does.
It’s time for him to decide- you or the gambling. You need to put your foot down and don’t back down. Get some money saved and be ready to hit the road or make him leave. You can’t make him quit until he admits that he has a problem.
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You need to leave. He won’t change until he wants to. If you work open a separate account for your wages. In your name only.
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I’m sorry to say but you need to divorce him because that’s an addiction and as long as addicts have an enabler they never see a problem or reason to stop. His addiction will eventually cost both of you everything because the only overdose with money spending addiction is bankruptcy.
You might be able to manage this issue if you earn enough money to pay all the bills without his help and you keep separate bank accounts. But, that’s up to you if you want to live like that. You might as well be single if it’s going to be that way.
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You could get him banned but he can and will find another location. It’s best to leave. I bet you’ve threatened to leave numerous times if he didn’t stop and he didn’t listen so this time you need to follow thru with that threat and leave. And people who are addicted to casinos usually need to hit rock bottom to stop tbh. Just leave
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Make sure he understands what he is about to lose ( you) and exactly what’s it’s going to take to WIN you back. No negotiation.
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That’s 100% financial abuse. You need to leave. Unfortunately he will NOT change unless you do leave. My grandmother spent her entire life cleaning up my grandfather’s gambling messes. He did horrible things to her and didn’t care if his own wife and children struggled as long as he could gamble. Your life will be much better by leaving. Also that may be the kick in the pants he needs and he will get help. If he doesn’t get help which I highly doubt he ever really will, divorce him. Then he has to financially contribute via child support and you don’t have to worry what he does with the rest of his money. He can self destruct as much as he wants at that point.
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You need to get a legal separation to split up the finances
The casino will not banned him .
Open a separate account and transfer the money before he spends it .
Gambling is a addiction and can cost you more than your marriage, if he doesn’t want to get help you should start looking for a divorce , put like a stop or something that prevents him from getting the money or sell anything you guys have , so you can get whatever you are entitled to before he loses it to gambling
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As a X wife of an addict, I want you to know there is NO way for you to control his actions and no matter what you do it will not stop until HE makes the choice. You can only control you. If you aren’t ready for separation or divorce, then you need to separate money if you can. The less access he has to funds that are allocated for the bills the better. But be warned when there is a will there is a way, and they WILL find it. I am deeply sorry you are having to deal with this.
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He has an addiction. Nothing will help him change unless he wants to. You may have to draw boundaries and that may include leaving.
He’s an addict. He can change if he chooses to. At this point, he hasn’t hit rock bottom to change. You cannot control his actions, all you can do is control your reaction to his actions. If you’ve had enough, you may have to leave. That may force him to hit rock bottom!
Yes. You can, but it’s not going to help, if he isn’t willing to stop the habit.
I lost my home and property to a gambling spouse and his gambling.
He needs addiction recovery help.
Although, that is a personal choice.
Something that you can do for yourself and your kids is AlAnon. It’s for the family of addicts.
He has a gambling addiction and needs help. Addicts won’t just quit until they hit rock bottom and usually that means they’ve lost their homes, their jobs, their cars, and their families.
Take him off the bank account (or open a new one only in your name).
You can try to get the casino to ban him but they’re making money off him so they don’t really care.
Talk to a family friend or someone you trust about what is going on and see if they can help.
If he is the bill payer, check on ALL debts to make sure he isn’t behind on anything. You could be facing eviction or foreclosure. Contact Gambler’s Anonymous. They can guide you with resources. Good luck to you.
Open a separated account.
Put your half of the money into another bank so he can’t touch it