I been a stay at home mom for 7 months already and my husband pays all the bills and never once has he thrown it in my face. But if the time ever comes I will just talk to him openly and express my feelings.
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Stephanie Moses I love this comment.
And totally agree.
You paid the bills for 6 years (well done, super strong of you) but hubby now gets to do it, it’s possible that he felt ashamed about it the last 6 years, give him a great big thank you and praise him for it a little. He could just be over proud that he is achieving it.
Strongs Mamma.
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You tell him to put his big boy pants on and do the chore or you will trade him - Men not all but some will do anything to get out of a job they do not like. Ask him if he wants to trade duties and if he says no then tell him to shut up and do his job
You tell him that you did it for 6 years and didnt do that time him. Tell him to show you respect or get out.
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Let him know that it’s his house as well and it’s to be expected that he pays half of all bills like a grown up
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Tell him you’d like to switch it up. He pays what you’d normally pay and you pay the bills but seeing as he surely can’t see the gravity of what you actually do for the household he should take over all your normal duties as well, kids, household chores, animal care, everything. Maybe he might not complain so much after living in your shoes for a while.
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I would sit him down and have that conversation. Especially if you never threw it in his face he definitely should not be throwing it in yours. 6yrs vs 3 months is not impressive. If a conversation about his behavior doesn’t work and he can’t pull it together and act right then go.
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My husband used to pay the bills , then my son paid the bills now I have pay the bills there both gone😪
Time to sit down and talk with him so there’s an understanding for both of yous
To do some compromising!!!
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Tell him you’re going to make him responsible for child support and alimony. So he’ll have that plus his own GD bills to pay in his own separate household. Let him chew on that for a while. You did your part now it’s time for him to take is on.
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Lol bye bye 
there’s no more men unfortunately they all turned into bitches and want to be taken care of and want to be rewarded when they put in or what they call help smh I lost faith in the whole family thing it’s take care of yourself or no one is gonna handle it for you it’s a fact of life now its sad
Wave him goodbye is you feel like it otherwise, send him walking and to not look back.
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I really really dont understand this. My fiance and i have OUR money. Its not his or mine its ours. We share our money and we both pay bills. It doesnt matter whos money pays what. If you paid them alone for 6 years then its his turn. You probably work harder than him on any given day anyway.
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Question: “Are you better off with him or without him???”
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Slide him out the DOOR
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Say let’s play a game 6 years vs. 3 months of paying bills I think I win. See how he takes it then.
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Kick him the fuck out… and he should be doing way more than he is … dont let this slide … or u will only have urself to blame for him Continuing to be a complete arsehole …
It’s time to kick his ass to the curb sis. You’re just as important as him. You may not be pitching in financially, but you are keeping the house clean, taking care of the kiddos, etc. In my eyes, you’re doing a lot if not more than he has ever done in 6 years or so. 3 months ain’t shit
Just To be honest that’s a mans job is to provide for his family my wife stays at home with our baby girl and Iv took care of them all this time i don’t complain about it my wife works her ass off at home taking care of a toddler keeping the house clean and all the laundry done she contributes just as much as I do my money is her money if he can’t do what he was meant to do he is not much of a man
Time to go! Until he learns there shouldn’t be a tick for tack . It ain’t right. That’s what A HUSBAND SHOULD BE DOING LET ALONE ALL that you do should be appreciated and acknowledged. He is sorry for throwing anything in your face. Not right. And it shouldn’t be that way.
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Leave his ass
Apparently you can do it alone so f him if he can’t be a good partner
You will be better off with out him point blank. You are doing everything anyway! Make him pay child support and alimony! Love is Priceless!
I don’t understand why it’s yours and his when it should be a team effort! Whoever is paying the bills whoever is doing everything thing else you’re supposed to be a team!! I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t see us as such……
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Send him an invoice for everything you do around the house. Child care. Cleaning. Cooking, washing clothes, a trip to the store. EVERYTHING.
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Give home the same respect he gives you. Next time he throws it in your face throw the 6 years back at him. When he’s butt hurt over it tell him you don’t like to shit throw in your face so how does he like it. Give him the same energy he gives you… As far as is it time to go… That’s a call only you can make. Can you live with his actions.
Wave by by if he refuses to stand up for his family.and he can pay.child spport.which will help you…
I’d write up a invoce for all the things I do and give it to him
You have an excess of patience.
Why are you with him if you have done it all on your own? What does he contribute then? I say you are lucky that you were able to carry that many people. I say get yourself out of your situation where he has to pay the bills and then let him know that he can go pay his bills somewhere else because you gots you and he is just taking up space.
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Every time he brings it up run down the list of what you’ve done. If he remains stuck on stupid I would leave
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It is his place to pay the bills he lives there too right or does he want to be a free loader
i mean idk if id leave over it…id have some conversations and if it becomes more of an issue or worse then tell him he has a choice. its only fair if youre doing everything else. hes gonna be paying your bills and his own if he doesnt get it together
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Ask him if he wants a gold star for doing what he’s supposed to do.
He sounds selfish & ungrateful. So sorry.
You should have left 8 years ago 
Tell him to screw off
Before You Go, Try Switching Places With Him,You Do His, And Have Him Do Yours !
How would you feel if you found out he only had 3 months to live?
If he was on his own he would have to pay the Bill’s very month time to go
If you feel like it’s time to go JET. Just remember you have children and at least you have a little help. Doing everything on your own is a SOB trust me.
I think irs very disrespectful to you and kids. If he is living with the household then I believe equal responsibility even if that means one earns more. Ie one pays bills and other does the shopping cleaning but not to make it a competitive thing it’s about compromise
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Ignore the maama man, you fortunate, to have him only a pay bills for 3 months for him to be talking about it now. He should be paying the bills half and half or the whole. You spoil him and now he is complaining because that is what he is use to, old habits are hard to break. So you of to ignore him until he is off his tantrum or start paying back the bills for peace of mind. Plain and simple.
Tell him to grow a pair of balls man up to the Bill’s and choirs around the house or show him the door… I paid all my Bill’s for 20years first 2 months of my now ex only paid 2 months of Bill’s to witch he only handed over £150 for a 1k monthly household bills… I packed his bags sent him packing… piss take.
That’s not a husband that’s a BITCH