Yall I just need to vent !!! My husband is a great dad plays with the kids and spends so much time with them and helps clean around the house MOST the time… but for fathers day my kids got him a new game and I feel like ever since then he has stopped really helping clean. … he is a stay at home dad and I’ve been out of work since December because I was injured at work and needed two surgeries… anyway this morning he fixed our kitchen sink and loaded the dishwasher while I cleaned out front room and dinning room with a child on my hip … well my mother and neice were coming over so I asked him to put on smell good wax and empty the trash can in our guest bathroom … then I asked if he would sweep because I picked up everything off the floor and tell me why this man literally only put on the smell good wax and sweeped for two seconds then complained he didn’t wanna do it so I had to take over 
then I go into the bathroom and the trash is still full … I feel like he is taking advantage of me being home and just expects me to do everything which would be fine if my one year old didn’t want me to hold them every second of everyday and I literally have 1 good arm … ugh just needed to vent
A lot of missing details but I’m going to take a shot and say that this is probably a both ways issue. Seen it and experienced it where people will not pick up after themselves for an extended time but DEMAND that someone else “help” them clean up on short notice. Then when the other person gets frustrated they pretend like it’s all them being unhelpful.
Sounds like my ex. On the rare occasions I would stay home sick from work, he would ask why I didn’t get anything done around the house. Hello
You get mad and tell him that he needs to be a better partner. It’s not helping you! Doing house chores is not just your responsibility. So it’s not helping YOU, it’s being a decent partner and doing his share.
This sounds like one of those little relationship speed bumps you laugh about with your bestie over coffee, are your children safe and healthy and is your home free of abuse or dysfunction? thats more worthy of writing in about
Your setting yourself up for major trouble keeping a kid on the hip. 1 it could cause attachment disorder when you go back to work or do something with out them.
And if you got a kid hanging on you after 2 surgeries your gluten for punishment… Don’t worry about the man forgetting the trash can it’s not a big deal. I’d rather he empty or load the dishwasher. All you had to do was bend pver pick it up and take it to dump it.
Pick your battles, from the most imperfect mama of 6.
Life isn’t easy but pick your battles, you choose to hold that baby on the hip instead of teaching them to play independantly.
I would say be thankful that he helps most of the time as you say instead of him sitting on his butt all day and treating you as a maid
You sound upset bc he isn’t doing it all while you do barely anything.
I only wish that was my nightmare😆
Hmmm …. it’s time for a discussion over shared responsibilities in the home and a reminder that you had surgery on your arm and therefore cannot sweep as well as he can. Good grief. That one is obvious. If that does not work hide the game in the trash.
Sounds to me like he’s doing quite a bit. Maybe you’re the lazy one that doesn’t wanna do anything just because you have a kid on the hip…
Sounds like he’s being doing it all those years while being a stay at home dad so now it’s your turn but you don’t want to so you’re mad now
Stay at home dad= Another child.
He’s not a good dad if he treats you like that. Also that isn’t fine, you aren’t a maid
I dunno, you sound like you want to just sit around while you make no money 
It literally sounds like he did just as much as you did if not more. It sounds like your lazy and using holding your kid as an excuse when neither of you are working.
First stop holding baby all the time and second if both are home both should do it. It’s your fault you holding baby all the time