I wouldn’t be in the back seat… it’s a no for me 
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Good Lord girl, get a grip. You call that friend and tell her she is not coming, thank you for offering but I want to be alone with the hubby right now. If she doesn’t like it too bad. Then when she doesn’t show up the day you leave for your trip, you can tell hubby you asked her not to come. If HE doesn’t like it too bad. While you’re on the road, grow some cahones!!!
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Is this said person now driving yall down there in their car ? Is that why they are now coming and you would be in the back ? Kuz otherwise why wouldnt said friend ride in the back isnt it your n your hubbs trip? Im.lost
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… in the back of the car…?
No.
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I wouldn’t go. No way… ill save the money and stress
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First of all you are right your husband should have consulted you first
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And you should speak to him about it and tell him how you feel
Let your husband know exactly how you feel and tell him he prefer all these other people weren’t coming he should have asked you first
You should call shotgun right now. Everyone knows the rules of shotgun and that the rules are inflexible.
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See, I’m the type of person that if you TELL me I’m going to do something, I’m going to prove to you that I’m NOT. There’s no way I’d be going on that trip now. He wants to spend that much time with this friend, he can do it alone. Sorry bout your luck bud. Choose your wife next time.
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Save yourself, go somewhere by yourself!!!
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Let them go and stay home alone and relax the whole time. Tell your husband he is turning a stress free trip into chaos for you. And you will not accept it. Period. He is your husband but he does not own you. You can stay home. If he really wants to make you happy. He will change the plans. You have every right to want alone time.
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I’d be damned if my hubby invited another person on my trip
Its either them or me
Does your husband fancy this person?
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What kind of husband takes it upon himself to invite friends without talking to his wife first. For me it would be the first & last time.
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You’re not I can understand sometimes I just want to spend time with just my husband we’re so caught up in everyday life and I haven’t been able to spend alone time with him in a while and when we do it’s usually at night and we have to be super quiet so we don’t wake up the household you’re not being a big baby I haven’t gone out since our four year old was born and I’ve been trying to plan a date night but then Covid happened and now we’re struggling to even find a babysitter so we’re just waiting it out again I was really upset to be honest tell your husband I want this to be just me and you this is for us tell your friend she’s not coming no hard feelings you just want time with your husband
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Why are you in the backseat?? I think the only time I have ever rode in the back seat was when our children were newborns.
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He’s wrong…
You’re not acting selfish or crazy. I’d stay home by myself and enjoy the peace since he ruined your get away.
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Sit in the front seat with your headphones on.
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I personally just wouldn’t go. Tell him that you feel disrespected and you didn’t agree to riding in the back so he could bring his buddy.
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He should have talked to you first not ao mich for “permission” per say but, in involves you both and thats just out of respect. And If hes bringing someone else with him, then i would express to him how you feel and if it doesnt change anything and you dont want to be smushed, dont go. 12 hours is a long time to be uncomfortable anywhere. Especially in a car.
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Um the other person would be sitting in the back! And I would definitely make my feelings known to the husband that it’s supposed to be just the two of you taking the trip.
Wait. Why tf would you be in the back seat?!? Oh hell no!
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Girl I would be so upset too if I were you. I would say I either sit up front there AND back or I’m not going at all. Put your foot down. I do not believe you are being a baby about it at all.
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- I would tell him how I feel
- If he didn’t like it and make it just us then
- I’m out
have fun with all of those other people
None of that shit would float with me and my husband would never be stupid enough to try it. If so, he would be mad as hell because I’m not going.
You are not being selfish at all . I think you should insist the “ other person “ not go. And in Alabama ( hope you enjoy our beautiful state ) , we believe in manners and southern hospitality. Therefore , if this other person does go , they should sit in the back seat ; not you . You are the wife and reside by your husband in the front seat . You husband can simply say there is not enough room for that other person to ride in the small car with you … and that’s the truth !
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I’m petty enough to where, I would not go lol
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u enjoy the backseat ride on ur way over there, stretch out, sleep, eat df out every stop and chill, but on the way back sit on the front seat and tell ur bff, my turn/shotgun and let him be stuck in d backseat with the 2 big women. then put ur headphones on and lean the seat backwards as far as u can. i bet he’ll run from u next time🤷🏻♀️
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On 1 hand if you needed this person in order to rent the car then it’s only right that they go with you. Their name is on the line.
On the other hand it’s really unfortunate that your husband doesn’t see you as a partner but rather as someone to control. If you don’t want to go don’t. Don’t let him tell you what you’re going to do. Sounds like you’re surrounded by controlling men. Your husband & friend. Don’t let them control you. Stay home. Do things you normally wouldn’t. Enjoy time alone or have friends over.
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I’m so that petty that I would tell them I was sitting up front.
I say get her privately and have a nice, cordial conversation with her. In a nice way, say what you told us. If she is a mature adult, she’ll understand.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned I don’t do anything I absolutely don’t want to do if it makes me feel uncomfortable so I would just let them take the trip without you
I wouldnt go. And neither is he.
If he wants the other person to go and you aren’t comfortable just don’t go. Stay home. You won’t have time away alone with hubby but you could have alone time with yourself.
“You’re coming with me” … umm no I’m not. There is now 3 extra people going on a trip meant for the 2 of you in the middle of COVID. If you don’t want to go, stay home. You are an adult and don’t need his permission to stay. Tell him: you decided to invite all of them on our getaway without my input so I decided to stay home and let you enjoy your trip with your guests. Have fun.
I’m sorry he tells you you’re going…no, no, no. He is not you’re father, he is you’re husband. He should accept how you feel and if he really wants you to go he will uninvite his friend.
As for the smaller vehicle and all of those people I wouldn’t go for that reason alone…he realizes that 5 people are going to be in this tiny vehicle for 12 hrs and a pandemic going on…that is a hard no from me.
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If the husband insists on bringing the friend even after you’ve explained your feelings on the matter then I’d stay home. I’d check myself into a nice hotel and enjoy room service. He can’t MAKE you do anything you don’t want to do and I don’t blame you for not wanting to go. Also who just invites themselves on someone else’s trip. That’s weird to me.
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I wouldn’t be going I would get wine put on the Netflixs and have a lovely staycation. If he can’t respect your feelings then do your own thing
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I wouldn’t go. If he made the decision to invite someone else to go along stay home. He can’t make you go. Maybe 12 hours with this other person on the road will smarten him up
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If he refuses to budge let them go alone & you take the time to spend pampering & enjoying yourself. You get a say in your life too. Tell him you flat refuse to go if this has to be the case because you know it won’t be enjoyable one bit! Love & hugs to you.
You are not being selfish wanting to have some one on one time with your husband. Sounds like he is the selfish one in wanting someone else to go with you. Sounds like your husband either doesn’t care about your feelings even though you have expressed them or he’s afraid to have that one on one time. I would put my foot down and tell him if the friend goes then you are staying home. If he cares enough, he’ll leave the friend behind.
A little confusing! If it’s only supposed to be you and your hubby and he invited a friend, who are the other 2 women you’d be stuck in the back with? Your hubby’s mom and sister? In that case its not “just the 2 of you” anyways!
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“you’re coming with me”. Ugh. That sounds like he’s not giving you a choice. Sorry, you do have a right to say NO! You have every right to be upset. Also have every right to do so. Tell the “friend “ sorry it’s just you and husband. Maybe next time. If she doesn’t want to be gracious about it STAY HOME.
Good luck.
it wasnt suppose to b a field trip… it was suppose to b just the two of u so i wd say we will reschedule our trip Yall hv a good time OR at least get a larger car! Back seat is too uncomfortable plus i find the conversation is entirely different if there is a group of people instead of one on one
I would tell husband its either me and him only like we planned, or its him and his groupies like he changed. Then i would have a nice quiet ti.e by myself while he was gone. I would pamper myself to the hilt. Teach his ass to change plans without talking it over first.
No way am I going, if I’m the wife, if friend goes. Period. Hubby shouldn’t have talked to friend on his own and, just as or more importantly, hubby doesn’t then get to issue an order that wife ride along. Oh nuh uh! He created the mess, he can fix it.
I would not go and stay home alone, eat out who is he to decide to invite others, if a woman could be an affair…you did say a man… I love being alone…
Why does your husband treat you like a child?? If my husband ever spoke to me like that we’d have major issues.
Def not selfish. That was supposed to be quality time spent together and now you don’t get that. I’d feel the same exact way.
Stay home sounds like your husband is a control freak too. You’re coming with me. No you have a choice.
I’d tell the husband and his friend to go and I would just stay home, I would refuse to go. He’s already ruined the trip by asking the friend to go, no point in going and being miserable
Why not just postpone the trip until you get the rental car situation taken care of, that way there is no need to include any third party person? If I was that excited to have a hubby and me get away, it would be worth a little extra time and effort to make it happen. That aside, you two need to find a better way to communicate. A marriage is a series of gental compromises that you both should be able to accomplish together. Good luck.
If it was a trip you both had planned for then he shouldnt have went behind your back and invited a friend. Even if it wasnt verbally said to just be the two of you, it was still insinuated and it is selfish of him to bring a tag along or third wheel. And the fact that he doesnt take your feelings into consideration and basically picks the friend over you is totally uncalled for especially how he TOLD you you were going. ridiculous
HE invited her best friend but she doesn’t enjoy being around the person even though it’s her best friend? Confusing post.
Your husband is being inconsiderate. You are not being selfish. Put your foot down FIRMLY and stay home if that’s what YOU need to do. Been there, done that with a controlling asshat. No more.
Having boundaries to protect your mental & emotional well-being is not selfish. 
You tell him to go and have fun. And you stay home get some wine or beer or whatever you drink. Order food in. Gets snacks in. Find a comfy place and chill. Put all this on his credit card and say. Bye Bye
I see zero reasons you should be in the back seat. Period. Besides that, I wouldn’t go if the other person was coming.
Complete BS tell everyone “I love you all but I need to get away with my husband sorry see ya in a few days” DO IT I learned along time ago you can only accommodate people at your expense for so long before you are miserable. If they take this personal F em seriously. It’s harsh but it’s time with your husband that you need not them. The 3 of them can go somewhere else.
Your not being selfish at all I would tell my husband that it’s the friend or me going his choice but one of us is NOT going to be going on this trip period.
I wouldn’t go. Your husband has no respect for you. By going, you are teaching him to continue disrespecting you. Tell him to go with the friend and enjoy his time together. Then have yourself a staycation.
Your mental health and your energy are more important than a trip. Stay home and have some alone time to recharge & renew yourself.
Idk seems like he wants you to go! So maybe he can either get a bigger vehicle or uninvite the friend. Or you don’t go. He can’t make u go. He can make it so you WANT to go… Yeah I’m with ya. #1 he didnt even ask you what you thought #2 he’s not considering you and what you have to go through.
Why are you sitting in the back seat and not your friend for one! You should just tell your husband NO, it will be too crowded especially on the way home!
You have every right to your feelings and they should be heard!
Don’t go, if your husband needs all these people, you really don’t count. So do you want to be the least person in his marriage?
Sounds like your husband is the issue and not the friend. If he doesn’t respect your opinion and can’t tell the friend no, maybe there is a bigger issue in your marriage. I wouldn’t go and do something for yourself, like call a counselor or divorce attorney. No excuse for his behavior!
Sounds like the friend is renting the car so in that case either don’t go or suck it up… not really much you can do besides that… I wouldn’t rent a car for a friend and then not go
Why would anyone want to make a trip to Alabama with the high COVID numbers in that state. Or make a trip anywhere with the pandemic in full force?
Is he having an affair with this friend? Or he’s an overgrown manchild. Who invites another person when they could be alone with their spouse? This doesn’t sound like a healthy marriage.
ask to borrow the car if the friend is so good to offer .if not other problems will come into play
Bring a book, bring a pillow, bring some snacks and some sodas,on the way back offer to drive part way that way then you won’t be stuck in the back, if you’re not willing to do that then stop whining
Did he borrow the car ? That could be the reason and why do you have to pick up the 2 woman?
I wouldn’t go. I would plan a getaway for myself and let your husband and friend go by themselves
Looks like he care more for his friend Dan he care about you
I wouldn’t go. He invited someone else they can go together.
I’d say fine- you wanted to bring the friend , I am not going! Let him throw the fit!
I’d stay home but I’m stubborn like that .
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I wouldn’t go not being mean just not what was planned no comprise
Stay home and let the drama take a vacation. You’ll have peace at home and the bf and BFF and mom and sister can go get away… from you.
tell hubby either friend stays home or he can go without you
I wouldn’t go. Plain and simple.
If you want me to come with you then friend will not be going. End of story.
this is not fair to you at all
So don’t go its up to you not him !!!
I would take a trip on ur own.
Do not go.
There are lots of red flags here.
LOTS.
I would spend the time not going by reevaluating your relationship.
I’d tell my husband either the friend goes or I go
You don’t have to go just because he says so…
I wouldn’t go that’s it that’s all
Don’t go at all. This isn’t about the friend it’s about what you say mattering.
Throw him in the bin.
Why would you sit in the back? No way you sit in the front dear its you and your husbands car. Uninvited guests always sit in the back.
No you’re not. I wouldn’t go but that’s me.
I wouldnt go. …
Don’t go. Lol. I wouldn’t.
big nope for me
id tell him find a new renral car or im not going. fuck that