Go with your heart!!! Be alone if u need to!! U got this!!! Sometimes u have to set boundaries even with those who are blood 
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It’s whatever you want to do really, if you don’t want her in there, don’t have her in there…it needs to be a stress free environment for the baby and you…I will say though that it sounds like you really just don’t like your mom, the relationship sounds toxic. And that’s very sad, I hope you both will eventually sort out your problems, bc my mom is one of my best friends.
If yoy don’t want certain people, just let the nurses and doctor know, they’ll make sure that family member only goes in when you say so. Syay strong girl, it’s your chpice, not your mothers.
I know how you feel about your husband leaving! Im a army wife to. It can be really hard on deployments. But you are a strong woman. And you got this!!And you do whatever you feel is best for your little family. Keep your head up! Your not in the wrong for wanting it to be just you in the delivery room!!!
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Get over it.how do u think all women in the real wars did it.grow up.
I have been in the room to see my oldest daughters twins stillborn. Then when her next baby was born. Was in the room when second daughter’s son was born. Would have been in room for youngest daughter’s baby but she was an emergency c section. Was in the room for son’s daughter’s birth. I was asked and felt honored. I had all my babies born overseas as my husband was in military for twenty years and no one could be there except husband. It was a sacred occasion between the two of us and babies. But I did not ask to attend the other births, I was requested. To each their own and what is comfortable for all involved.
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You do you girlie!!! Your mom had her chance when she gave birth to do it her way. Don’t you dare let her trample all over your wishes!!! And I wouldn’t stay in a dirty dusty house either!! YOU and only you, while your mate is gone have the say over what’s best for you and your littles. Plz be brave, it’s ok to say NO!!!
You can tell the staff not to let no one in the room but you shouldn’t have put your grandmother out like that telling ppl how her house looks. You could have just said you can’t stay there. Maybe she couldn’t afford nothing or she’s got where she can’t clean like she used to. That was wrong
Can u ask to be induced a week early? So he can be there
What did you have the doctor deliver you early if the baby is healthy back way your husband will be there. That’s what my doctor was going to be there when my husband was headed overseas . If that’s not possible then do the best you can for yourself and for your baby
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Talk to your ob and delivery nurses they can help
You do not owe anyone to be in delivery room. You are a sting woman who can handle birth. Do what will make you comfortable. It makes for an easier delivery
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Sweetie it is ur choice and if u dont want her there then she doesn’t need to be there u can even tell the staff not to let her in the room. Dont EVER feel guilty!
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You have the right to say you do not want her there.
Let the hospital know who is allowed or not allowed and they will help make it happen
First thank you for your service his & yours
Your baby your way. Why not induction? Don’t tell anyone have the baby with your husband
You can be induced before your husband leaves. Your far enough along. Talk to your Dr and tell him/her your situation with your husband leaving
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Its your body and your baby. Whatever you want you should do and not feel guilty for one momment about it!.
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Sounds spoiled and selfish to me very control freakish do it your way of course but telling it like this on fb is not classy
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Tell the staff not to let her in at all
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Your mom has NO right to be in the delivery room with you. YOU are pregnant, not her. It sounds like you and your husband are still so much in love, and that’s really special. I agree with those saying to see if you can be induced before he leaves. As long as her lungs are developed, it’s fine. They do c-sections at 39 weeks. I’m sure this happens a lot with military families. It’s supposed to be a beautiful moment for you and your husband. See if you can get induced early. MAYBE let people know after your water breaks (or they break it) and your fully dilated that you’re in labor and push like hell!! You’ll have 5-7 hours to yourselves! If your mom asks what/how/why/when, tell her the truth. If she flips out, let her be mad and have her leave your room. You don’t need the extra drama, especially since your husband is leaving soon. You’re not being selfish. She is. And because she feels so entitled, all the more reason not to have here in the room. I can’t blame you for nor wanting to stay there. Sounds really disgusting!! You don’t want to take roaches back home with you! Remind her how much you love her, but put your foot down. Plus he can help you navigate any PPD afterwards. Let her have her tantrum. It’s not up to her and she needs to respect your wishes. If she decides not to come around because of your decision, then so be it. Cut the cord.
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Your not being selfish and if you want to be alone then you should id lwt your docs know that nobody is to be in there if thats your wishes
Make decisions on your own instead of asking strangers how about that 