So my daughter is 18 months old and since pretty much birth she would always fall asleep for my husband and never give any problems. Well my husband and I took a little break from eachother and I went to my moms house for a couple of weeks but recently came back home and now she’s giving my husband a hard time with going to sleep for him but when I am at work some nights I’ll come home and she will be asleep and she doesn’t give him a problem. Why when I am home does she go to bed for me instantly but gives him a problem? It’s making him upset that she prefers me over him when I’m home
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She might be afraid of him not being there again, but with you, you’re her constant so she feels safe… Its not that she prefers you, it’s that she needs to feel secure that he’ll be there… Have him give her lots of reassurance that daddy loves her… And try and have him not take it personally, it’s a small bump in the road.
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Don’t take these things personally. Children are sensitive and some times these things just happen. It’s perfectly normal for kids to swing between mum or dad at different stages. Honestly don’t over think it. Just keep to a routine where possible and understand that kids don’t always cooperate lol shes so young, it gets easier as they get older.
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Put on some soft music sing um rocker in a recliner all good for sleep
Is there tension between you and hubby she could be feeling that of him. If you’re not there maybe hubby isn’t so tense.
Maybe she’s sensing the changes or maybe she just wants mommy! No biggie. Don’t take it personal babies want what they want 
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They tend to flip flop a lot when they’re real little for no apparent reason. Tell him not to take it personally… it will probably switch at some point!
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I had always been the main (bed time especially) parent for my almost two year old son when I went into hospital for a few days in April to give birth after I came home he only wanted his dad( their dad is amazing so when I used the word main parent it wasn’t any sort of dig at him it’s just he lived in a different area and worked alot so I usually have them on my own for those reasons) it did hurt a little but I understood why and now he’s stuck to Me again lol x
Tell him to get over it ,she’s a baby she does what she wants
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You are her home. You are her safety. Her happiness and comfort.
Put her to bed together. - she needs to adjust to. Then just do one night every so often just dad then just you, so she gets used to it
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A few weeks is a long time for a baby. Her routine was changed and now she’s back home and has to re adjust. She’ll get back to being used to dad just give her some time.
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Kids change the favourite parent. It might change after a week or 2 or you might notice periods where she will follow you around and then ignore you and follow dad around.
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they’ll both get over it.
sounds like a lot of back & forth in a short time and it probably was a bit much for her. she’ll just needs to adjust again
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How long were u gone… mayb she gets bad vibes from him…
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Because she is afraid to go to sleep because daddy might disappear again.
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It is 100% NATURAL for baby to prefer mom to dad even into toddler hood 4-6 yrs old period. You can explain to him there will still be time for him to bond with her as well just give it time and patience.
He’ll get over it and so will she
Unfortunately she is this way because the routine got broken up…
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She’s not the problem. You two people issues are giving her problems that she doesn’t understand and cannot at her age understand. You need to see it from an innocent child eyes what she sees when parents are not getting along. Check yourself out and stop getting mad at her for your own faults. Figure your shit out without dragging her emotions into it. Seek therapy for her sake.
Did you breastfeed? She smells you when you’re in the house, even if you’re not in the same room. If you’re home when it’s his turn to put her to bed, just go outside for a bit or sit in the car until she’s down. After a while you won’t have to do this.
Welcome to having children.
It’s because of the lack of time and consistency from the break. He needs to be patient until she get comfortable again. She’ll adjust it will just take time. A few weeks is a long time for a baby.
Reassure dad it’s normal, took a long time for hubby to be able to put our oldest to bed when he was a baby especially if I was around. She’ll come around eventually as long as he keeps trying and is there for her.
Routine.
Set a routine and keep it
My husband and I put them to bed together, until I started back to work full time,he only had a problem The first week, my daughters made him call me at work, because they said I was the Boss and he wasn’t allowed to tell them what to do, I had to tell them different even though we always did it together till then
She probably got used the routine at your mom’s house. He shouldn’t take it personally. It’s adjustment for all.
It’s completely normal. My son is 4 now, but when things like this would happen, his father and I would just put him down together. It worked for us
My niece, all she ever wants his mommy. She never goes to her dad. It’s always mommy lol. Your baby is adjust. It will take time. Whose with the baby more you or him, if the baby with you more your baby will want you. My niece is with her mom way more than her dad is, with him working and what not. It just takes time to adjust.
Well you are mom, you scent and presence is all she ever knew. She went with you when yall took a break. And now he is mad because everything didn’t fall right back into place??
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Your husband needs to grow up! 18 month old baby cant explain why so how can he expect an adult to explain
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My daughter’s always been this way even though dad’s always been home and involved.
Since pretty much 6 months up until now at 2 she won’t go to sleep for dad, just one of those things. Kids go through stages of preferences all the time for no reason.
Shes a frigging baby like she knows how to give a parent “problems” 
some people…
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Is this serious, she’s a baby? 
it’s normal could be just a phase. My kids are 21,20, and 8 and they never ever wanted their father to put them to bed. Ever
See when you have kids you can’t just play break up and get back together that screws up a kid!