This is where you either give an ultimatum, leave, or hope an accident happens
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A guy is allowed to change his mind without getting hunted with pitch forks, if it was a guy pressuring and having a fit over wanting a kid with a woman that has changed her mind later on in the relationship there would be carnage.
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You only have ONE life. If the idea of not having another kid is something you canāt get over, then leave.
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Well is that a deal breaker for you? I mean you guys have 4 kids between you. Maybe he didnāt originally lie but changed his mind after realizing the weight of a mortgage, paying for a wedding etc etc?? It sounds like your mind is made up either way. Maybe time to reevaluate and consider annulment.
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Sounds like he did something he regrets and said what you wanted to hear to get you to take him back. He was trying to distract you from whatever it is he did wrong
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Divorce his assss 
I mean 6 years ago we also werenāt in a pandemic. Maybe he really did change his mind.
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Leave the right man will match everything your willing to give
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Have you actually talked to him and asked him why he has changed his mind there could actually be a good logical reasonā¦you have 4 children between you and things are so expensive nowadays maybe he is thinking about things financiallyā¦ talk to him 
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Yāall have 4 kids already. Itās not like you donāt have kids. How do you know he lied to you?? A LOT has changed in this world in the last 5 months. Personally, I think people are downright nuts to bring kids into the world we live in now - ESPECIALLY since this whole Ukraine thing has gone down. We literally are staring down the barrel of nuclear war and youāre wondering why he lied to you?? He didnāt lie to you. Heās the one that is sane and reasonable here. You should appreciate that he is actually being HONEST with you instead of just giving you what you want, being miserable, and then leaving you. Does he love you and the FOUR kids you have already?? Is he good to you guys? Does he protect and provide?? Be content, woman. Open your eyes. smh
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I want more kids but I am so scared to bring another child into this hell of a world rn 
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Been here. Got the divorce papers to show for it as I couldnāt let it go.
I remarried and had my only child at 40.
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I wouldnt want to being another one in this world. But if its something you really want and you cant be happy with outā¦ then either find a way to get pregnant with him or leave and find someone who wants what you want
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Get an annulment of your marriage and then find someone who does want a child.
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If you canāt get past it (and Iām not implying you should or shouldnāt) then you need to leave.
If itās a non negotiable for you in the one life that you get, itās over.
If you think with time and without resentment you can get over it, then stay.
Unfortunately it is that straightforward.
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Well you tell him you do and if he doesnāt then itās time for a divorce however kind of sounds like heās a yoyo on it and canāt make up his mind. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him.
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He lied and manipulated you 100% he told you what you wanted to hear to keep you. You deserve to have another child if thatās your wish dint let anyone tell you different. Now you have to decide if you can get past his lie and let go of another baby or divorce him. In the end he shouldnāt have a baby he donāt want and you shouldnāt have to settle either. This is on him and his choice to lie.
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If you want children find a good man and have more children. Life is way too short to not be happy. There is someone else out there waiting for you and your child.
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If thatās something you really want then that would be a sign to leave for me
I mean you guys have 4 combined, maybe focus attention von the ones you have. I would be pissed but then you need to do your pros and consā¦and if that was the thing that is the breakerā¦ annulment
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youāre both married and together u have 4 kidsā¦ is that not enough? i know he manipulated u, and said the thigns u wanted to hear, but. either leave him. or be happy with the family yaāll have now. a husband and 4 kids.
and if ur marrying a man with children then u are marrying int othose kids lives too, theyāre now your kids
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This is one I feel is sort of complicated. Maybe he lied to you. Maybe he lied to himself. Maybe he meant it then, but with everything going on in the world changed his mind again.
If heās good to you and good to your daughter.
If this is the only issue, then I would consider having a real discussion with him and really listening to what he has to say about it all before you call it quits.
Itās likely heās approaching the baby subject from a logical standpoint rather than an emotional one.
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He manipulate you. I would divorce him and move on. Thatās really shitty he knew you wanted more and lied to get you in this position. Thereās no reason to try and talk about it or change his mind
Your in control of birth control. Accidents happen. Just saying.
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Leave him and find someone that does have the same future in mind. Not wanting kids is a big deal breaker for me and I will leave anyone who tells me they donāt want kids
Sounds like he planned on deceiving you or hoped youād change your mind. Not cool. Leave
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Get a divorce. The lying manipulative mf heās disgusting
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I think her 1 and his 3 are enough kids.
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so why dont you just fall pregnant??? ā¦you already have 4 kids togetherā¦why ask him for another? ā¦just stop letting a man decide if you can have a last childā¦just squeeze one in.Then its too late he cant do anything and termination is not an option! ā¦otherwise you will be bitter about this for years to come.
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if that is a deal breaker for you then walk away
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I told my husband a baby or a motorcycle. He said get the motorcycle and I did! I am still happy with my Harley.
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If she wants another kid thatās her choice and he manipulated her so they definitely need to sit down and have a little heart to heart talk with each other
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I feel you, my husband keeps moving the bar on another baby. 
Thatās bs and manipulating
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A lie is a lie. If he is gonna lie to u abt wanting another baby then he will lie and manipulate u abt other stuff. If he isnt on the same page as u move on yes it may hurt but u have to do what is best for u and ur child
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Annul it. He misrepresented what he was willing to do. Kids are a deal breaker. Your wanting them is valid. His not wanting more is valid. But he had NO RIGHT to lie to you about it.
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I agree with Christy Harpole.
Sounds like you just need to leave. You want a kid,he doesnt. If thats whats most important to you,then leave.
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It sounds like he deliberately trapped you into marriage because he wanted you. He knew he didnāt want the same things you did. Sounds very manipulative as well. So many red flags already. Do the smartest thing you can do and get a divorce and move on. You deserve another baby, you deserve a blossoming marriage, you deserve to have a partner who wants the same things out of life that you do.
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If you can do an annulment based on that I would. Sounds like he trapped you. Not sure I could trust him now personally. I think what he did what conniving and manipulative. If you think you can trust him and can live without having another baby you are gonna have to find a way to get past it.
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I actually can understand his point
He may have reasons for not wanting more kids
that the OP hasnāt mentioned to those of us sitting on the sidelines
Please donāt listen to the ājust get pregnantā advice
As 2 wrongs donāt make a right
Between the 2 of you, you already have 4 kids. Itās possible heās thinking another baby would add more responsibility than what heās ready for right now.
I do know one thing: if you donāt both agree, itās a bad idea to push it.
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Maybe heās just nervous. Maybe he doesnāt feel like you guys are financially stable enough for another child. Have you ever asked him why he doesnāt want another kid?
WOW these fan questions are sounding more and more alike just add a child here or there minus one or 3 but husband still spinning lies of wanting a child then whalah magic sike I gotta now weāre marriedā:sneezing_face:
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Thatās when you say you kept your end now he needs to keep his.Baby or Divorce.If he sticks to not wanting another baby you got to decide if your willing to not have another.If itās something you canāt get over than divorcing is best because neither one of you guys want to live with regret or blame the other for your lifes not feeling complete.
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He defrauded you in order to marry you, thatās grounds for an annulment. Thatās no small thing. I think what he did is gross and vile. I couldnāt be with someone who could so easily do that to me, or anyone. I would have the marriage annulled and just never look back.
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Thatās a deal breaker and not fair since you discussed it prior to marriage. He knew your stance and you knew his (well you thought you did) and After 5 months I would seek counseling asap and if he isnāt able to come to terms about his lies to get you to marry him then unfortunately if I were you I would leave again, and this time for good. Itās heartbreaking and sad but thatās definitely grounds for an annulment/divorce. Also think if he lied about this what else would he lie about later. Itās better to hurt and walk away now then to later have regrets. And a child will definitely leave you with a emptiness if that was your desire. He had a chance to be upfront with you before marriage and let you both part your ways but he didnāt. Not ok
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Omg im shocked 2 hw many ppl r sayin have 1 anyway thats bad i would love another bby he as twins i have a gal n we have a boy 2gether im on the pill he doesnt want any more bt says if it happens it happens bt i wouldnt dream of trappin him in2 havin 1 sorry its just wrong
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Wowwwww. Heās garbage tbh
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Go to a sperm bank ā¦ itās not cheating he promised you a baby ā¦ so go have a baby
leave em ! if mine does that to me I would I already told him that
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Iām so sorry you possibly just wasted all that time only to be so disappointed 
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He manipulated you to get want he wanted he figured once you married him you wonāt leave him after he tells you he lied you will end up resenting him and eventually leave so save your self the misery and leave him now do not try to force him to have another child he will resent you and the child my first husband originally told me he wanted a child and every year he put it off we ended up getting divorced I had a child a few years later and to this day he wishes he was my childās father he has no children and never will either does his brother so there family ends with them
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OUCH!! But what it comes down to R U Happy? IS he A Good Dad to the kids that are here? AND DO U REALLY LOVE HIM? IF those are ALL yes then Question whether it really matters and R U sure U need a baby too?? Search DEEP and I would of never asked the internet for adviceš Best of Luck and Best of Wishes to U and all the children U already haveā¤ļø
PSā¦Lots of hater first reaction advice on the comments ITS WHATS WRONG WITH R SOCIETYā¦We Just Throw it away and ask for more PLEASE THINK FOR YOURSELF again Best of Luck 
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Something happened ā¦ go find outā¦ heās sending you a message
Where is his ACTUAL WIFE? You āMarriedā someone elseās HUSBAND.
Where is YOUR HUSBAND? You were already MARRIED.
Boo Hoo.
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He may not have lied instead changed his mind about it and I mean can you blame him weddings are expensive even for the most simple ones and you guys already have a bunch of kids maybe its just not in his plans for a reason
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If having another child is that important to you just leave him just because you married him doesnāt mean that youāre stuck with him when he clearly broke a promise.
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He pulled a bait n switch. He prob thought u would be okay with it after u went thru all the hoops. Thatās worse than some of the stuff we hear on here. That trust wonāt be restored and u wonāt stop wanting that baby.
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Your marriage is a lie , and what else is he or will he lie about next . Is that the life you want for you and your daughter . Tell him how you feel and that you are not happy and get yourself away from him.
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Well I believe you can get a divorce with false pretenses or something like that
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Iām proud of u for taking his feelings into considerations. Lots of women donāt. If they wanna get pregnant they will find a way. Also Iām so sorry he lied to u. Truly the longer u wait to have more children the more it seems like a chore so I understand. Have u guys tried couples therapy? Iām sure the therapist can get u the answers u need if ur partner is willing and open
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Thatās emotional abuse. He used your dream of having a child together & also used the whole ā Get married, but a house have a child shitā for his own selfish gain. You deserve better and deep down you know that you do!! So please do both yourself and your little girl a favour and get out no.
Divorce. Simple as thsy
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So what are you going to do, hopefully not have a child when he has made it clear he doesnāt want anymore. If another child is that important to you then move on.
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He didnāt lie to you, you chose to give him an ultimatum, after he had expressed uncertainty you chose to move forward anyways, changing your mind isnāt lying, I think you should just move on, you canāt force him to want more children
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Thatās not a little lie. Thatās a life changing, make it or break it lie. You have to decide if you can forgive him and not have another child or realize if he lied about that and manipulated you for so long, there is no future for yāall.
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Iām always horrified when women are treated this way and still call the person their husbandā¦ Girlā¦ You should have been divorced or never married that POS to begin with
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That is grounds for divorce
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But honestly he told you the first time so I would have never gave him another chance knowing that you want more you will resent him later and if he does give in he will resent that and itās just a mess waiting to happen
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This post makes no sense.
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I donāt think he lied to you I think he told you exactly how he was feeling at the time and now his feelings have changed.
I would be sitting down with my partner and talking to him calmly instead of feeling lied to and betrayed because he has the right to have his own emotions too and for them to change depending on what happens in life
Find out whatās going on and why he doesnāt want anymore kids and maybe itās just a simple thing about giving things time or coming to terms with the situation that there is already 4 children in his life.
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Seems to me maybe he just changed his mind. We all have the right to want something one day and not want it the next. And have you asked why his wants have changed? Maybe itās not a lie meant to hurt you but instead heās being honest with you and just no longer wants anymore kids. Communication is key. Sit and have a heart to heart convo instead of assuming it was a lie. Itās also only been 5 months since got married, did he say he never ever wants another baby?
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Ya have 4, geez can you afford them?
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That would be a deal breaker for me and sucks that he waited til you married him. This is not Chinese VS pizza compromise. This is like life decisions.
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3rd time around should be sign of what you donāt want from him. Leave him
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Im not sure why anyone would defend him and say āhe just changed his mindā. No. They broke up because she told him she wanted kids and it was a deal breaker for her and him. They ended it. He came back claiming he had a change of heart and that after she married him heād have more children with her. So they married and THEN he told her once again he doesnāt want anymore children. Knowing this was a deal breaker for her to begin with before marriage. He manipulated her and love bombed her to get her to stay with him. Its wrong. I see so many women on this page gaslighting and playing ācool wifeā on here its so weird to me and cringy. This is a huge red flag. Kund of controlling too. He totally manipulated her to get what he wanted in the moment. Its grounds for divorce. This is a life decision he said he wantedā¦she was willing to end it in the first place (rightfully so) because of different life goals. You donāt get to " change your mind " back once again and play victim. This is the definition of somebody who is deliberately wasting your time. He knew she only married him with the idea that they had the same future plans. Went through with it and then told her no. Im sorry this happened to you You need to make a decision because this behavior is a red flag. 
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He sounds damaged, has he ever said why he doesnāt want anymore kids? Cause perhaps he has some feelings deep down that he is not revealing. I mean, who would not want a baby with their partnerā¦ My husband and I have a 6 year old son together and I am now expecting baby number 2, he has always wanted to have another baby but I on the other hand didnāt want to because I went through so much with my son, and it was things that a man would never understand, cause they donāt carry that baby. But by the grace and will of our almighty I am having baby number 2 and we are both over joyed and excited about this gift from God. 
Please speak to ur husband and stop feeling betrayed. If u do not sit down and communicate, why are u together? Why did u get married?
Sometimes people change their mind itās normal maybe he realized heās happy with the children he has now and doesnāt want another expense children are not something you have just because itās a big responsibility he didnāt lie to you he just changed his mind. If this is something you are truly upset over talk to him and explain how you feel hopefully you two can come to a agreement and understand each other only 5 months thatās something you will have to work on
He has 3 kids alreadyā¦paying at least $900 a month in child support and heath care as well for these other kidsā¦he doesnāt want any more kids because he has no moneyā¦and if he has more kids with you ā¦ heāll never have any money if you divorce him . He didnāt lie to youā¦he tricked youā¦
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Plenty of men would probably give you a child and be a support
Sounds terrible and I really think itās terrible & time for you to let him go.
My husband was the same.
I didnāt get my second baby that I wanted.
Leaveā¦he manipulated you and thought that if yāall were married it would be to hard to leaveā¦you wonāt ever get over not having more kids if I really want themā¦if he canāt step up to his promises then find someone that wants the same
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Did he lie ,or is he scared or did he change his mind
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Get rid of him and find someone else.
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Just go off the pill, let the magic happen and say itās a surprise baby. He canāt turn it down then 
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If his not giving you what you need in life, leave him and find someone who will.
Give him the choice and make it clear.
You will never regret the kids you have
But you will regret the ones you didnāt 
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I would leave. He tricked. Lied. And manipulated you. Not good at all. Girl how many other things has he lied to you about ?
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total bs. I wouldnāt trust him one bit on anything.
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I would leave and be done with him.
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go and find a good man who would love a baby together
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I mean if he āchanged his mindāonce again Iād play the same game. Just come off the pill on the sly. Have yourself a baby. There maybe issues with that planā¦ but depends on how bad you want the baby! Personally Iād take the baby over a man any day! Men are replaceable. Babies are life!
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Be gone. He gaslit you. Plain anf simple
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Pretty sure you can get a divorce with some kinda fault or whatever that you guys married under false pretenses or however you need to word it
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This was right under your post on my timeline.
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My ex husband did this to me-I got the marriage annulled! Based on him lying to me to get me to marry him!! We were married a year and I was still granted the annulment!
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