Did anyone elses husband stop being intimate with them the second they started showing in pregnancy? he says its because he is scared he is going to hurt the baby but he literally had 0 issues until he noticed i was starting to grow a belly…i am feeling so insecure now…
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband refuses to be intimate now that I am showing: Advice?
A lot of men do that. Especially if it’s their first baby. Give it time.
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no, mine still wants it from me an I’m almost due too lol, I really hope your husband gives his head a shake an gives you the intimacy you need.
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tell him you have needs that must be fulfilled by his husbandly duty
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No. I’m glad too. That would have been very disappointing.
Me and mrs shagged through all three pregnancies right up to the last trimester it never bothered me to see her pregnant belly
My fiance(now deceased)was like that toward the end
He was terrified of hurting the baby somehow haha
I find it extremely sweet!
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Let him have his own feelings and go get a toy.
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He can’t hurt that baby if you in the right positions! Tell him you’ll let him know if you are pained in any way!
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Totally normal. Eventually he will need some lol and you’ll get it. I feel that way sometimes but right now I’m the one that doesn’t want it much since I’m almost due and I feel huge!!! And I feel all this extra weight. Just give him time. Maybe handle your needs yourself if anything 
Don’t show him the belly. Rub and excitement him other ways.
Show him an image of how far along you are in an app. Baby doesn’t get poked or feel him at all. Any pain you experience is twisting or stretching.
Hehehehe if he ain’t said. Then he is educated on it. But 90% day it. Take him to your next doctors appointment and tip the doctor to touch on the subject and educate him
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The first couple times mine was scared as i got further into pregnancy lol… but after awhile we did it… right til i was almost due
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Take him to the doctor with you and ask questions so he can hear from a medical point of view. As well as respect his feelings. If this was a post in reverse these comments would be slammed quickly.
Men have feelings and worries too and despite popular belief they aren’t all ready to bang constantly.
I think he sounds sweet. I doubt he’s turned off by your belly. It’s probably fear.
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Men like that are weak. My husband was so in love with the fact that I was bringing his kids into the world that he worshipped my pregnant body. He also stared down hells highway 3 times as I gave birth and the man still eats it like he’s starving. Sex is the best way to induce labor so he’d better buckle up.
Some men truly think n feel they can harm the baby I wouldn’t take it personally I agree with having him go to the dr appt n have the dr let him know it’s ok n he won’t harm the baby
All men, like women, are different! So he can genuinely be afraid to hurt baby. After all, a gyno can stick a finger in you and feel babies head. You will feel insecure on n off thru pregnancy… but you aren’t pregnant for long so just hang in there. I’ve done it 4 times… it’s hard but it gets better 
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Take him with you to your midwife appointment and ask about safe sex positions for the baby as you are scared (don’t put him down) of hurting Bubs.
Your midwife will be happy to give you safe ways to be intimate.
From my knowledge though. Most guys are afraid of hurting you and the baby during pregnancy. It’s not about wanting to be intimate or anything they just don’t know how well protected those babies are.
As a man with 5 children, I can say t never stopped me. My wife and I were intimate through out the pregnancy.
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I’m 3 days from delivery and my husband has been like that since shorty after I started showing. He’s not turned off by me at all just always scared he’s going to hurt me or the baby. He is very concerned the entire time we’re doing anything and picky about what position it’s being done in. Like no pressure on me or my stomach at all the entire time.
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It’s common… get out of your own head. No need to feel insecure
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He can’t hurt the baby. Tell him to go with you to the Dr and y’all can discuss it. He can even do some research on the internet about it. Talk to him also about how you are feeling. You need to share with each other how you feel. Communication is a key to a strong relationship. Don’t feel embarrassed or insecure to talk to him. God bless and congratulations 
It’s normal. In their mind, they feel like they are poking the top of their childs head with their pee pee and that makes them uncomfortable which is understandable
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Try not to take it personally hun. I’ve heard many different reasons on why I guy would be hesitant to … With a pregnant woman. Some of them are they’re scared they’ll hurt the baby, they don’t like being kicked by the baby because its a mood killer, or my personal favorite is a friend’s husband said he was scared of getting squirted by her milk 
. My advice is talk to your hubby and tell him you are feeling unwanted. Chances are its unintentional on his part. Also embrace the belly mama. Find something you feel sexy and confident in and your man wont be able to resist. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing women’s bodies can do
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Don’t feel insecure it’s natural, am sure he will be alright after baby is born…
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A lot of men are like that.
Why do men think that thier 
is that long 
In all seriousness there’s nothing more beautiful than a pregnant women own that
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Sometimes it’s genuinely an anxiety thing for some guys, dont take it personally. Respect his wishes and find other ways to be physically or emotionally intimate like cuddling or simply spending time together.
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Yes, my hubby was afraid he was going to hurt our baby even though I told him he couldn’t.
Some guys are like that your body is changing drastically and he may be worried about the baby , personally I think a woman carrying my child is the sexiest thing in the world
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my hubby was always all over me when i got my bump i swear 
have him talk with your OB and try to get him to realize it’s not possible to do any harm to the baby.
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Your husband knowing your pregnant but not really seeing anything change to him seeing you body growing yalls baby may possibly have made it very real to him that there is a baby in there lol. Take him with you to your dr appointments and ask specific questions about his insecurities of being intimate right now. But remember just because he will hear it from the doctor, he still may not be intimate in that area. Try not to be insecure about it. Talk to him and see if that helps as well. In my opinion though, I think he is just being over protective of his wife and unborn baby. He doesn’t want to cause either of yall harm! Goodluck soon to be momma!
I would be horrified if I found out my mother was participating in that sort of thing while I was in her womb. Next level disgusting. 9 months isn’t that long just take a chill pill.
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Hurt him back. Tell him it’s too small to cause any harm
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google it and show him that he won’t hurt the baby. If you look in the pictures section it might show a diagram. 
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Tell him there’s multiple ’ safe ’ positions for the deed. It’s very common. Don’t get down an out momma !
It’s not a you problem. My husband was the same. It’s a scared thing to them. It hurts your heart but it’s just part of it sometimes. You are beautiful. Period.
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As a man I can say this was very difficult for me as well. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to be intimate (the exact opposite was true) but that I was terrified I was going to hurt the baby or my wife.
It took a lot of communication to work through that.
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Mine was scared of hurting the baby also, I feel like that’s a common fear with guys. I had to get my OB to reassure him that sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy.
My oldests dad said “i told you when we started dating, no fat chicks.” I gained 100lbs with my first. I was 101lbs when i started, 200lbs when i went into labor. As soon as i gained tge first 15 he started sleeping on the couch. We split when she was 4 months old. My husband on the other hand, couldn’t keep his hands off me when i was pregnat with both of our kids. We’ve been together 9 years now.
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My husband was fine till the Dr told us the baby was head down 
he was like I can’t he’s right there
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Just flip around so he doesn’t see the bump.
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Try a different position.
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Absolutely lost my shit lol but seriously 
For men, it’s not really real until they can see it. Even if they know good and well that you’re pregnant, it doesn’t seem like it’s really happening until they can see the bump. And even then it won’t fully click that it’s going to be a real baby until it’s out and in the world.
My man told me that before seeing our daughter it just seemed like it was my body, not a baby separate from me. When she was born was when it all became real to him and I saw him cry for the first time since knowing him.
It’s not you! It’s just different for them because they aren’t feeling everything we are. Its very normal for guys to think they’re going to hurt the baby from sex. My daughters father thought he would and I had to literally ask the doctor about it right in front of him before he’d believe me lol
It’s his issue really …that’s an excuse…I was so much horner when I was pregnant…and guess what more guy think that as well so tell him that…I got hit on …on a daily being pregnant…I remember my ex wouldn’t even let me go to family video alone…I was always hit on
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Doggy style is the best …or on top …but I love the top
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Yes. We stopped once I was showing and to be honest we both decided that. I think we did it twice through the entire pregnancy. He was too conscious I was pregnant and so was I. I found it difficult to focus on it when I could feel my bump dancing about as always. If it’s something he’s not comfortable with then that’s fine
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I’m on the fence with this one because with my current pregnancy I was told not to for a while for reasons pertaining to my pregnancy so it is understandable to be worried about hurting you or baby. However, my first child’s father absolutely used “I don’t wanna hurt the baby” as an excuse not to because he really just wanted to sleep with anyone OTHER than me.
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My partner was the same so I respected his decision, he lasted about 2 weeks
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Seeing is believing and yes they do fear they will hurt the baby. Having sex can also bring on labour for some maybe he read this somewhere.
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Let him know that if it’s not hurting YOU then he’s definitely not hurting the baby. I’ve had four and nothing ever hurt any of our kids. I feel like this is a thing a lot of men deal with. Tell him there’s no way he’ll hit the baby or hurt it any other way unless he’s being super rough.
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He does know how anatomy works right? Like he legit can’t hurt the baby unless he somehow magically opens your cervix and breaks the record for worlds largest dong
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I think that’s a pretty normal reaction for a lot of men to have, they genuinely don’t want to hurt you or the baby. I’m sure if you google it together he’ll figure out that it’s perfectly okay
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take him to dr.appt with u and have dr tell him having.sex.doesn hurt.the baby. we did this with our first lol but…about a 2.or 3 weeks before i was due to with all my.kiddos he didn wanna have sex cause he was afraid.of my.water breaking on him or the bed and for w.e reason that freaked him out lol
My partner was the same. He didn’t think he’d hurt him, but he was uncomfortable with it. So I didn’t push the issue. Not going to make him do something he’s not on board with.
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Nope… I’m at my due date today, and we’ve done the deed almost every day… you need a better baby daddy 
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A lot of men are like that. There’s nothing wrong with it and u may not be able to make him change. One of my exes was like that. He was afraid somehow he may hurt the baby.
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My husband was like that with our first. I honestly took him to an appointment and point blank asked if it was safe. Doctor obviously said it was totally fine. He still took some time to come around, but eventually, he decided he’d rather not wait it out for months.
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Some guys are like that must be scared he might hurt baby maybe have a chat or when you see midwife take him along and ask questions about sex in pregnancy that wY he will be at ease.
It’s pretty normal. He might even know he can’t hurt the baby but it makes him uncomfortable or nervous anyway. And as far as him being ok until you start showing, it might not be real until he can see the bump. Also normal. A lot of women feel the same way, even though they have symptoms and stuff, it doesn’t register as real until they start showing. See if there’s anything you can do to ease his mind. If he still doesn’t want it, get some toys and do you until he’s fine mentally again 
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I wouldn’t think about it that way. He didn’t care before you showed because he couldn’t see baby. Now he can and it’s probably all he thinks about, and throws him off. I don’t think he means any disrespect or anything towards you
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Now take him to the next appointment you have and have the nice doctor educate him.
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Mine was like that when I was farther along… because the baby moved he could see it and feel it so it creeped him out…
This is not uncommon at all . Have your dr explain to him that he won’t hurt you . But , he may not Change
This is super common !
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Unfortunately men have irrational thoughts when it comes to their unborn babies safety and this is one of them, my hubs was never like this but I know plenty of situations with friends and family.
Make him go to the next appointment with you and have the doctor explain
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Oh good grief. He can’t hurt the baby. Take him with you to an ob appointment and have the doctor explain it to him.
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Some men end up like that. Don’t beat yourself up over it.
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Take him to the Dr with you. Ask the Dr to show him that it’s fine. Some men just really don’t get it and then they fact shocked when it takes an emotional toll. Especially on a pregnant woman. After talking too your Dr and google, if he still won’t, therapy.
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Lol he is not going to hurt the baby
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It was opposite for us, I wouldn’t. I think it’s more common than you realize.
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My dr told us it would help lower bp and to go home n get busy. LoL. Yeah I’d go nutts, I have an extremly high libido when pregnant.
Yes my ex did and then later I found out he stopped being intimate with me and watched porn instead. It made me feel terrible about myself. He wasn’t afraid of hurting the baby though, I think he just wasn’t attracted to me pregnant. I’m currently almost 20 weeks pregnant and my husband has 0 issues. I truly think it just depends on the man. I don’t really have any advice, but I know how it feels and I’m sorry❤️
I’m sure it’s a trippy thing for them. Just explain that he will not hit the baby. Lol. I can guarantee it has nothing to do with your stomach getting bigger. It’s just finally hitting him because it’s physically showing now 
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My husband was extra intimate when I was pregnant. I didn’t want anything to do with it but he was still fine with it.
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Some guys like it and some are freaked out by it, I think. You shouldn’t take it personally, but he probably needs to figure it out or at least communicate with you, as you are growing his child.
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Oh my that did not stop my hu by. By the way it will not hurt the baby. Bay is is well protected my doctor actually advised us to have intercourse it releases stress. So it was an actual turn on for my hubby when I was pregnant and showing hugs. Unless Dr says different I would. But that’s my opinion. Hugs and congratulations
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Tell him you can’t tell from the back lol I never had this problem but I would say make it fun!!
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Yes a ton of men think this way and have this worry, its normal. Nothing to do with you at all. Just educate him on the matter, if he still isn’t ok with it then I’m sorry to say but support that. If it was the other way around we would expect that. Plus he is doing his job as a Daddy trying to protect the baby and keep it safe, he’s sweet even if uneducated on the matter lol.
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My boyfriend was like that with our first baby but now hes not with the second one
Lmaooooo, assure him that his penis is too small to poke the baby, and if he’s concerned about anything else he should feel free to do 100% of the housework while your on bedrest since your so fragile.
lol my bf was the same way… I think its cute and hilarious
lol dont feel bad dear, men arnt too bright when it comes to the womens anatomy. they think they are poking the babys face and shit… show him a diagram of a pregnant women and point out where his rod goes and where the tip stops in the vaginal cavity lol
as a man who was very hesitant to be intimate with my wife during either of her pregnancies, we legitimately are afraid that we are going to harm you or the baby. it’s not about attraction or anything like that. all it takes is a slip, and there could be some serious issues that we’re not willing to risk.
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It really can be like that! I can say with both pregnancies this happened in my marriage. When you’re not showing, everyone kind of knows the baby is too small to be squished or pushed on because there’s a lot of wiggle room, as your belly grows, so does baby. Don’t take it personally. I’d believe him. Maybe ask/suggest a position where you’re on top to avoid ‘squishing’. But really, I’m betting he’s being honest because it is definitely different once you start showing. 
don’t be so hard on yourself mama.
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Don’t worry. He’s being over protective lol. Mine never had that problem but I know of people who have. Don’t feel self conscious mama, he obviously thought you were beautiful enough to get you pregnant in the first place. Maybe take the lead, and show him from gynecologist point of view that its OK to have relations. Maybe certain positions would work better for his frame of mind. If not I think he’ll be back to that kitty sometime before your pregnancy is up lol. Good luck
It’s a man thing . They think there massive tool is hitting the bady. Do orher things
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Yep my son’s dad was the same but soon he couldn’t resit aha 
I swear men act like they can tap the baby on the forehead 
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It has nothing to do with you but the baby. Just ease him into it .
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Take him to the doctor with you on your next appointment. Let the doctor explain how safe it is.
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Your husband is weird lol pregnant belly is sexy
This is normal. Men are not always the brightest bulbs Just explain that you want it more because of hormones and make sure he knows he won’t hurt baby.
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This is all normal. Have him go with you to your appointment and bring sex up to the doctor. The doctor will reassure him. Best wishes because if that don’t work let him know after you have tye babt you’re holding out as long as he dis while you were pregnant!
Tell him not to worry because he’s not big enough to reach the baby. 
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