I don’t have any friends to ask for advice from, and I’m not close enough to my family. I don’t know what to do about my husband and his relationship with our wee boy. Maybe it’s normal, but I come from an abusive background, so I don’t really know. Our son is three and in the throws of being a teenager, and coping with the recent arrival of our daughter. His behavior can be trying, but my husband’s response seems ott, he screams in our wee boy’s face and storms off in a huff, then he wonders why our son acts like he doesn’t like him. I have enough to deal with without my husband having temper tantrums too. He keeps threatening my son with leaving. Other times, he’s great with him. Any attempt to talk does not go down well.
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That is called verbal abuse. Your husband needs a chill pill.
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Leave his abusive butt and end the cycle!
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You have to find the medium, the three need to sit down and have a convo. Parents get upset and make mistakes but also kids can be mouthy too. I think if it’s this bad you need to stop what your doing have partner take over and you deal with your son. Also partner shouldn’t be threatening child to leave, I’d pack our shit and go but that’s me 🤷
If he can’t figure out how to parent without yelling and is threatening your son saying “if you don’t behave i will leave” then you might consider preparing to leave and raise your son alone… it’s one thing to yell because you don’t know any better, but if you have tried to talk with him and teach him how to discipline without yelling to no avail, I would be slightly worried
Um tell him to stop or fucking leave him. What kind of grown ass man screams in a 3 year olds face. Unacceptable.
As someone already said, he is verbally abusing your son. Often verbal abuse turns into physical abuse. You need to nip this right away.
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Your husband is acting like a spoiled brat. Your son is 3 and his life has changed significantly since the new baby came. When the baby cries she gets immediate attention. He is trying the same thing. Your husband is not 3 and needs to grow up and improve his parenting skills or get the hell out.
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I’m sure you love him so you are going to have to love him enough to suggest anger management & parenting classes. Think about the long term effects on your son. Childhood trauma is where most alcoholics & addicts & criminals real problem stems from.
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The screaming and threatening to leave a child for being a child is absolutely damaging and abusive of him. I would really pour my heart out to him and let him know, first of all, that he’s loved and supported by you as his wife, but that it breaks your heart to see him lape his temper and you want to help. Heal this together. If he won’t, it unfortunately falls on you to protect your son from him. I wish you the best of luck 
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Let me tell you…it doesnt change and will make you resent him
Sounds like your husband is dealing with his own issues. Maybe anger issues? Or just being overwhelmed with the challenge of now having to deal with a rambunctious toddler and a new baby as well. Regardless, it is not okay to scream in the child’s face. That’s only teaching your child that that is how he should handle something that upsets him. I would probably have a talk about what’s really going on with your husband’s mental health, and then go from there to work on the relationship between father and son.
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I would ask him to leave until he gets help. You’re allowing this to happen. End it for your kids. What will happen when he loses all control of his anger? If he’ll scream and threaten a 3 year old, he’s capable of worse.
Show your son you are there to protect him!
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Kick him in the emotional nuts and tell him to man up.
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Video this behavior. When he sees it hes gonna be mad but he can’t unsee it.
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Try to video it and show him.
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If he were to go to the Elementary School and watch how they handle things. Those people could tame crocodile.
If he keeps threatening that he will leave, maybe your son keeps acting out, hoping he’ll leave 
Time for an ultimatum, momma. Either he fixes it, or he’s out.
Constantly screaming in a child’s face can cause a lot of damage for your son emotionally down the line.
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Before I had children, I took a few psychology classes and child developmental classes to better handle my children. It taught me what was normal and what wasn’t. I myself came from an abusive familiy (both parents) so I too didn’t know what was normal and what expect. I would highly recommend it to all parents In Helping their children grow up healthily mentally and physically. Your husband is showing abuse however he himself might not know it bc he see everyone else doing it or it’s also g.j ow he grew up. Its normal to him but I’ll let you know now, it’s not on, it will get worse and that’s abuse.
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Omg what a dick out the door with him why are you allowing this your his mother.Hes not much of a man if he’s threatening a 3 year old that he’s leaving
Maybe your son does want him to leave. Let him go
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Leave. He’s verbally abusing your kid. Fuck him.
Such hypocrites in this group.
If a woman does it, she just needs a break. If a man does it, hes verbally abusive. Ugh 
Ever cross your mind that maybe hes stressed out and overwhelmed? Maybe he needs a break?
I have a 1 and 2 year old. Having a toddler and a newborn is STRESSFUL. It’s a HUGE adjustment and its frustrating. I have yet to meet a single mother that hasn’t yelled at their kids.
Men need breaks too. I mean, my husband works 12 hour days and comes home to 3 bitchy ladies and I cant be mad at him for needing an outlet
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Is the child his or a step child
If he cant talk to the boy without yelling tell him to just walk away
He damaging your son already, you don’t want him growing up thinking that was normal.
I second some type of counseling. Parenting is hard and it will only get harder. See if your hubs is open to it and approach the subject with love and concern not anger and resentment. Praying for you and your family in these difficult times. Hang in there.
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What is doing is wrong.you need to tell your huband that kid is still a baby.and he needs to grow up.you dont need another child
Look into the triple p parenting class.
Talk to your husband about his frustration and how he is setting the example for his son. Your husband is the role model.
Never tell yiur husband off infront of the child. But do call him away. Reassure him that your child’s behaviour is normal and if hubby wants improved behaviour then hubby needs to demonstrate it. Also look up emotional and behavioural milestones for your three year old and share them with hubby… sounds like his expectations are too high for a 3 year old.
Acknowledge to hubby that this is a stressful time and that together as parents you can improve your sons behaviour.
Also start a reward chart
I am so sorry for you and the babies as I have been in your shoes. If your husband drinks or uses drugs he must stop. If he cannot straightened out run w your kids. Your son’s soul is already broken. I hope u have somewhere to go. God Bless
Husband needs some anger management sessions. If he continues to scream at the boy how will it turn out when the boy is a teenager and the young adult?
Screaming at a child is abuse , husband needs to grow up,
Please no matter what you defend your son, talk to your husband and let him know that you don’t like his actitud, no violence please🙏
He needs anger management!
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No it’s not right to scream at kids ,U need to stop him n tell him talking is more effective